"So, I typed a text to a girl I used to see/Sayin' that I chose this cutie pie with whom I wanna be...."

André 3000 made a choice of with whom he wanted to be in his opening verse of Int'l Players Anthem. How many of us are choosing what we want versus going with what is right in front of us, what is within reach, what is easy, or what appears to yield results with the least amount of effort or risk...to our egos? Rejection is REAL and it cuts like a knife. No judgments here for not wanting to deal with it. But during the events of this episode, I learn to face it head-on.

The ability to choose is a powerful asset to have in your dating/love and happiness toolkit. In this episode, I share why it is of the utmost importance that YOU choose at every stage of the dating experience, most importantly, the beginning; what happens when you don't; and a simple mindset shift that will help you leverage your past setbacks, failures, and pain to propel you forward through any challenge that comes your way. After all, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

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