If I Know I Can Only Control My Behavior, Why Do I Keep Trying to Control Everybody Else's?
In this episode, Kim interviews Choice Theory enthusiast, Sheryl Matwijkiw, from Australia. Most people realize the only person's behavior they can control is their own; that is painstakingly obvious. And yet, we spend most of our days trying to control the behaviors of others. No one is immune--we do this with our friends, co-workers, children, parents and spouses. This behavior typically has two unintended effects. First, it causes the person you are trying to change to double down and dig in deeper with the unwanted behavior and second, it drives a wedge between you and the other person. No one likes to be controlled, nor do they like to learn they are a disappointment. Kim and Sheryl talk about developing a mindset to help you avoid this dangerous behavior.