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Come to the giddy up segment.
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I'm thankful that you're here.
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And today I was a little bit moved by
something and you know, I'm sitting
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here in my stocking cap in my barn
with my little heater blown at my feet.
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It is below zero.
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So it's one of those cold days.
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The sun is shining and it's
beautiful, but it was one of those
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days where I wasn't really able to
get outside for, uh, Morning walk.
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And so I decided to drive to the
community center and do a workout
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class with some inspiring ladies.
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So that was really fun, but on my way
there, I was listening to a really popular
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podcast that I love, but it kind of got
me thinking and I was thinking about my.
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own journey.
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And you know that I am just saddling
up to the best time in my life, right?
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It's like 40 and beyond ladies.
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And as I was listening to
this, Fun podcast host.
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She was talking about people pleasing and
she's got like a remedy and I actually
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have her book, which I'm gonna love
reading about how to get over people
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pleasing and just move forward and get
your mindset right and you know how
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much I love self-coaching and how things
have evolved since I, you know, had my.
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You know, since they spotted that
stage one, um, breast cancer,
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uh, all good, all behind me, but
it changed my perspective a bit.
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And so before that, I too always kind
of dug into that mindset and I do
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believe it's so important and I believe
that it was a necessary first step.
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I had a great coach that helped me
learn about mindset and how to change
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it and how to self coach yourself.
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But what I'm learning as I go through
this journey, and I'm actually writing
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about it, and it's going to be, it's
going to take me a time, um, to get this
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all written because I'm learning as I
go, but this is what I've learned so far.
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The first step is learning about
your mindset and you can go back and
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listen to my episodes, but we talk
about becoming aware of how we feel.
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Go get your feelings wheel from LisaKosky.
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com if you need it.
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Being aware of it as a first step.
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Being aware of your feelings is huge.
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Then you go to, you know, what is
the thought behind how I'm feeling?
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And that thought is like a belief.
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So it's either like a story or
something you're telling yourself.
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This is how I was coached.
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And then I was coached
to change that belief.
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And then my actions would follow,
which can work in some instances.
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What I've found is it
can't work in all of them.
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And that's because we have
to do a little bit more work.
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I'm sorry.
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It's not that simple.
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I mean, it's simple in a way
that it can, this can improve
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your life just to do this.
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But as I dig deeper, I'm feeling even
better and learning so much more,
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and I just want to share it with you.
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So what I kind of discovered is as I'm
moving along my path here, I took a
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course and this is in the show notes and
I highly recommend it by JJ Flazains.
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She is so amazing.
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Um, I took her course on core wounds and
she also has a mindset piece, which is
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very similar to how I was self coach,
but she has a little bit different, um,
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look inside into it where she looks at,
um, The feeling that we have is probably
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the negative feeling that we have, or the
unwanted feeling is probably from a need
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that's not being met and she'll walk you
through that coaching, which is helpful
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too, but then what changed everything
for me, which was like the second step.
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was her core wounds course.
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And that's where you look at, you know,
how everybody's talking about like your
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childhood and I've talked about it, um, or
even like things from when you're a baby.
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And it's not even anything
intentional by your parents.
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You can have the most loving, awesome
parents, but there's still things
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that you can misperceive or, or, You
make up a story in your head because
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you're tiny and you're smart for then,
and you're learning how to survive.
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But when I did that course,
that stepped things up a bit.
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So I was able to really look at, Oh.
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This is where that thought's coming
from because you have to understand it.
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And I think you have to know
where it's coming from and able
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to enable you to address it.
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And I know you heard me talk on
the giddy up section before where
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I talked about Bruce Lipton.
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Lipton, I'll put his book in here too.
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And he talks about how to rewire your
brain or to really change your beliefs
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that are there that aren't serving you.
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Um, you need to be hypnotized and, you
know, we can't all hire a hypnotist.
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So one thing that he said
was to make a recording.
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So once you delve in, figure out what
your core wounds are and what the things
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are that are really setting you up to.
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You know, suffer a little
bit when you don't need to.
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We want to feel joy in life.
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When you learn what those really
are, then you can do a recording
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and it kind of affirms you.
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And if you put your little headphones
in and listen to it as you're falling
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asleep, like one of them is I am.
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Completely loved by God.
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You know how important God is
to me, my father in heaven.
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So I, you know, I say that and I believe
it and it makes me show up different.
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There are other ones where, um, you
know, I think one is I can't rescue
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anyone and I'm not responsible
for how other people feel.
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I mean, there's all kinds
of them that I've dug into.
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So step number two was
JJ Flazain's course.
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The next thing that I
stumbled upon was NLP.
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I'm not going to go into depth
on it now, but it's, I think it's
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neural linguistic programming.
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If you listen to Joe Rogan, when he talks
to Mel Gibson, he's got a little blurb
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where he talks about, Hey, I stopped
smoking from a book that used NLP.
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And this is how he described it.
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He said the book.
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Just like said the things that were
bad about, I think it said what was
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bad about smoking and then it said, and
chapter seven, what's good about smoking.
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And he said, you turn the page and it was
blank and somehow that rewired his brain.
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And so I became very interested in this
and thankfully, you know, Marie Simpson
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is my functional assessment expert.
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I will also have her affiliate
link in the show notes because
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I've been working with her as well.
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But I reached out to her and I said,
do you know anything about NLP?
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And she said, yes, I'm a practitioner.
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So I started working with Marie.
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And what I've found is that the core
wounds really got me there a lot, but
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working with Marie has even stepped it
up more and I'm ready to just really
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heal, but it has really, because of
the way she asked me questions, it
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has really prompted me to know what I.
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what the belief is and how understanding
how that belief really isn't true and
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really getting in and reprogramming it.
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Now I know this is not giving you
a heck of a lot of information, um,
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about exactly how NLP works, but
that's because I don't really know.
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I just know it's working for me, But
I am planning on going further and
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maybe even getting certified because I
can see where it would be another tool
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in my toolbox to help me help people.
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Because, you know, this podcast
is about sharing what we've
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learned and helping others.
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And a lot of times we, you know, have
to go through a hard time on our own.
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We can't always just go
by someone else's story.
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But those stories have helped me even if
it's sometimes just on a surface level.
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So that's what I was feeling like,
passionate about letting you know in
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this little giddy up segment today.
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So there'll be more to come on NLP
and I will, I promise you, I am going
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to keep walking you through this
journey with me as I learn and grow.
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I want you to too.
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I want to suffer less.
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I want to saddle up to the
best times of our lives.
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Take good care.
