Your true ego is not something to be ridding yourself of - it is something to appreciate. According to S. Freud his three part of the psyche apparatus included the true ego, the super-ego and the id. In some literature, the super-ego or ‘false ego’ has been confused with the more reasonable ‘true ego’ or authentic self. In this episode Dr Demartini discusses how you can awaken the true ego to set progressively greater goals, expand who you are, and have greater self-worth.

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You don't make mistakes in your own values.

You only think you made a mistake when you did an action that was inspiring to

you that went against the values of some authority.

Today's topic is on something that I think you'll

find more than fascinating.

Freud used the terms, ego,

id and super ego.

It was called the tripartite aspect of the psyche.

He broke the psyche down into these components.

This has led to much confusion of people throughout the

next decades to follow.

And there've been many interpretations of what these mean and what they

represent. And I've seen many pieces of literature,

particularly Eastern mysticism that has said we need to get rid of our ego and

the ego is bad and you know, you've got a big ego and, they've used these terms,

in my opinion, out of context.

And I I'd like to do my best to try to clarify what

these components meant.

Put it into a model that will make them very sensible and

show you how they overlap with the things that I've been presenting many times

on values. So if you've got your pen and paper or your note pad,

or somehow to take notes,

I'd be feeling you probably want to have these notes and use them,

interacting with other people. Now,

in order to do it justice,

it would be wise to start with the area of human values,

because that's really where this comes from.

No drive in human beings comes without looking at human values.

So, every human being has a set of priorities,

a set of values, things that are most to least important in their life.

And whatever is highest on an individual's values,

they are spontaneously inspired from within to pursue them

and fulfill them.

But whatever's low or lower on their values,

they tend to procrastinate, hesitate, and frustrate in the pursuit of them.

And they'll require extrinsic motivation to get them to do it,

a punishment if they don't do it,

a reward if they do is almost required for them to keep being reminded and

motivated to do it.

But you are intrinsically called and spontaneously active on the

things that are really important to you.

And because the things that are really important to you, you excel at,

you tend to expand, you tend to achieve.

This highest value is one of the most important things to identify in your

life and to structure your life around. Your identity revolves around it.

Where you learn most revolves around it,

what you have as a purpose revolves around it.

It's a crucial component of mastery. Now,

Freud,

if you were to superimpose Freud's language on top of the hierarchy of values

that each individual has,

the expression and fulfillment of your highest value is what he would call the

true ego. Ego just means I or self,

true self.

Now sometimes Eastern mystics wants you to think that you want to get rid of

your ego,

you want to get rid of your mind and you want to be just spiritual and this kind

of thing. But I dare you to fulfill that and pull it off.

I've seen mystics spend their whole life doing that,

and they still have a mind and they still have their ego.

And so that's delusional at best.

And misleading at most and very commonly sells to people that are new on the

journey. But your ego, true ego is just yourself.

It's your essential self.

Not just your existential volatile,

personas and masks that you wear during the day, but your essential self,

the true you when you're in tears of gratitude, you're authentic,

you're not judging,

you're embracing yourself and others and you're seeing things the

way they are, where there's nothing to fix or change, you're just,

you're in an awe state of thanks. That's your essential self.

So when you're living in alignment and congruent with what you value most,

because you're willing to embrace both pain and pleasure in it,

it's so important to you that it doesn't matter what the obstacles are,

you'll turn them into opportunities, you'll see it as feedback, not failure,

you have a more objective view and embrace both sides of life and see both

sides. And so in the area of your highest values,

this is what Freud was calling the true ego. So in my case, I'm dedicated,

I have a high value on teaching and learning as you probably guessed and as a

result of it,

when I'm teaching and I'm researching and I'm sharing what I discover,

and I'm inspired by that, and I get to do what I love to do every day doing it,

this is when I'm being true to myself, my true self, my true I,

my true ego.

And I don't think there's anybody that doesn't want to live that way. In fact,

because your values are unique and you have a hierarchy values that are

completely fingerprint specific,

when you are living in alignment and congruent with what those

highest values are,

you automatically make the biggest difference because

to conforming to other people, you're being unique to you.

And you're pursuing what's most meaningful, inspiring to you.

And this is where you're most disciplined, reliable, and focused,

and tend to achieve more and expand yourself.

And when you go and pursue that when you achieve more,

you tend to want achieve even more and you want to tackle more challenges and

you gain confidence and you wake up a leader and you emerge as an authentic

individual.

And this is the true ego and Freud was trying to get people to get in that

state. And there's nothing unwise about that.

And many people have confused because that's the area where we expand and

achieve more,

that was misconstrued by a puffing

yourself up and making yourself bigger than you are. That's not the true ego.

That's a false pride position confused with the true ego that Freud was

trying to reference. So if you're trying to get rid of your ego,

you're trying to get rid of your authentic self and that's kind of foolish.

So your real self is an expression.

Now you could get really esoteric and you could say, well,

if I'm in a deep meditation,

I'm in a transcendent state and I'm not even attached to a form and I can go

beyond that. I can go beyond my identification of the ego.

Well, that's maybe true for a moment,

but you're not going to spend your life there.

You're not going to get much done. You're just going to sit and meditate.

If you think that that's the way to live your life, well,

then go off to the mountains somewhere,

but that's not going to make you self-actualize and

wont give you fulfillment.

Your fulfillment will also come from making a contribution to people and

engaging, and interacting and reflecting and learning and many other things.

So I'm not in favor of escapism,

confused with spiritual paths.

I'm interested in helping you master your life and maximize your potential.

In all my programs, including the Breakthrough Experience,

which is my signature program, that's the primary aim.

The primary objective is to give you a strategy and permission, if you will,

to yourself, to live an authentic self,

the essential self and access your ground of being in your daily life and not

escape. Now that's the ego.

The ego is not something you need to get rid of. In fact,

you won't ever get rid of it.

And anybody who claims to have gotten rid of it is delusional.

You're not going to.,

You may get rid of your personas and your masks and facades and puffed up state,

but you're not going to get rid of your essential self,

and you have no reason to. Now there's also the id.

Now the id, Freud called the impulsive, instinctual,

reactive, kind of animal reactions.

And this is the immediate gratifying,

hedonic pursuing, addictive kind of personality.

And this is the kind of the ungoverned, uncontrolled, immediate gratifying part.

So when we're living, or attempting to live, in other people's values,

so let's say we walk in a mall and we meet somebody and we think, well,

they're smarter, they're more intelligent, they're more successful,

they have more money, they have more stable relationship,

they're more socially savvy, they're more physically fit,

they're more spiritually aware.

The moment we see them and compare ourselves to them

and minimize ourselves in comparison and kind of envy them and try to imitate

him. We'll inject their values into our life,

confuse ourself about what's really important.

I've been doing Value Determination process in the Breakthrough Experience and

online for many, many years, over 42 years I've been studying values,

and many people, if I ask them what their values are,

they'll tell you social idealisms that everybody expects of them,

instead of looking at what their life demonstrates.

So the moment you subordinate to other people,

and you're too humble to admit what you see in the people around you,

inside you,

and kind of minimize yourself and shrink instead of stand up and expand,

which is your true self,

what happens is when you inject those values,

you cloud the clarity of your own mission and purpose,

which is your highest value, which is your identity, your true identity,

and you automatically shrink. And that's why they call them shrinks,

going to the shrink.

You're going to somebody who's going to buy into your message and your illusion

of your shrunkness.

And what's interesting is that when you're not living by your highest values,

you're unfulfilled. And when you're unfulfilled,

you search for immediate gratification to compensate for that unfulfillment.

I've said for years in the Breakthrough Experience and help people in the

Breakthrough Experience transcend these states,

because what happens is they go through and they go into addictive, impulsive,

compulsive, immediate gratifying behavior, which is consumption,

which is fantasy seeking, which is overeating,

which is purchasing and consumption,

where they sacrifice their own identity to try to buy into other people's

identities to feel better about themselves and to stuff them fulfilled because

they're not fulfilled living by their highest values.

So they try to fulfill themselves out by consumption and eating and other

things.

And these addictive behaviors or dopamine fixes to make them feel temporarily

high, by sexuality or drugs or whatever, to escape, to get high,

because they're unfulfilled. And really when we're unfulfilled,

it's a feedback to us to let us know we're not in our true ego,

we're not allowing ourselves to pursue what's truly most important and highest

on our values. It's just a feedback. There's nothing that there's a weakness,

there's nothing wrong with us really. It's just our body doing its job,

whenever we're not living by our highest values,

we create symptoms and we become compulsive and unfulfilled and we want to

go live off other people's accomplishments.

We become worshipers instead of becoming the hero,

and we buy things and blow our wealth,

instead of building a brand around ourselves,

we live vicariously through other people's brands because we're minimizing

ourselves. And this immediate gratifying, impulsive,

instinctual to avoid discomfort and pain and impulse to get pleasure

quickly is the id. That's why you shrink in that area.

Because whenever you're living by lower values, you procrastinate, hesitate,

frustrate. You don't achieve. You doubt yourself. You even brain offload.

That's why you give power to everybody else,

and want their decisions to make decisions for you and that's why you become

part of the herd there. And this is where you shrink and lose your power,

at least temporarily, unless you listen to the symptoms and go back to priority.

So if you're not living your life by highest priority actions that wake up the

true ego, and filling your day with things that inspire you,

that you know your life revolves around,

you're going to end up beating yourself up. And you're designed to.

You're designed to self depreciate anytime you try to live by lower values.

So the moment you subordinate to other people, compare yourself to them,

minimize you, inject their values, try to live in their values,

scatter yourself from your own highest value which is where your true ego is,

you're going to wake up your id. And your id is the idiot,

the shrunken psyche,

iota means tiny and id means the smaller

aspect of our nature, you might say, the impulsive part of our nature,

and we let our amygdala run our life instead of our executive center.

When we live by our highest values the blood glucose and oxygen goes into the

executive center and our brain gets inspired vision, strategic planning,

executing of plans, self-governance and mastery.

But when we try to live in lower values because of comparison of the people,

because we judge instead of love, doing what we love we tend not to judge,

if we do what we judge, we tend not to love.

When we're going through and judging, compare ourselves,

trying to change others to be like us, which is futile,

or trying to change us to be like others, which is futile,

we wake up the id and we end up an idiot.

Because it's an idiot to try to think that we can make other people live in our

values or we can live in other people's values. We're not going to.

Every decision you make is based on what you believe will give you the greatest

advantage over disadvantage in the moment to your own values.

And if you don't know what your highest values are,

that's when you'll brain offload and you'll let other people make decisions for

you. And then you'll live with shoulds and ought to's,

and supposed to's and got to's and have to's, and musts and need to's,

which are imperative languages,

which means that there's people on the outside running you instead of you

running you. And that's where you're disempowered. That's when you can't,

I mean, in the Breakthrough Experience program,

which I've taught for 32 years almost,

I've asked people to write down what they want to dedicate their life to,

and be surprised how many people have difficulty having clarity about what they

want. And deep inside in their heart,

their true highest value and ego knows.

But all of the inculcation,

all the injected values of all the things cloud it and they're frightened,

and they're fearing rejection from all their authorities around them.

And they're holding themselves back and they saying, 'I don't know',

but the truth is you do know. Don't let any part of yourself,

don't let any other person,

individual around you think you don't know,

because the truth is you do.

I've been teaching the Breakthrough Experience and have people that come in

there every week and they say, 'I don't know what my mission is',

and I ask them a set of questions to make them look at what their life

demonstrates, what they really live, not their fantasies,

not what they think it should be, and it's very clear what they're committed to,

but what happens is they basically have this cloudiness only because of the

comparison.

We're not here to compare ourselves to others and put people on pedestals or

pits. We're here to compare our own daily actions to our own highest value.

So we can live authentically by our true essential self, our true ego.

So our id is the result of not living congruently with our highest value.

There's an old proverb that I stated for many times,

if you don't fill your day with high priority actions that inspire you,

that wake up your true, authentic self,

your day is going to fill up with low priority distractions because you're going

to brain offload and you're going to hesitate, procrastinate,

and you're going to end up with depreciating activities. That's the id.

And that's why the idiot, which means shrunken psyche, is the result.

You shrink yourself instead of shine, and we're not here to shrink.

We're here to shine. Now what's the superego?

Freud basically described the superego as the moralizing force inside us that

kind of whispers to us.

And I'm gonna have a little difference than what Freud implied,

because I think he missed something in this.

But I'll elaborate on what he said and then I'll explain why I'm going to alter

that. When you're a child, when you're zero to one years old,

you can poo, you can pee, you can bite, you can scratch, you can throw things,

you can scream at the top of the lungs, you can not have sleep,

you can do just about anything and your mom or dad most likely will love you no

matter what. So you get about a year of unconditional love.

But the second you stand up, so just remember this, when you're really young,

don't stand up. I'm joking.

When you stand up and start scampering around the room and falling over and

scamper around and start pulling on things and start causing disruption around

the house, all of a sudden,

because mom or dad have difficulty controlling that, cause you can get around

now, not just crawling. Your parents,

particularly your mom first will say, 'no, no, no, no, no stop stop.

Yes, yes,

yes.' And she will start to project her values onto you and

give the values according to her cause she's ruler of the house.

And all of a sudden she'll give the rules. Now,

maybe when dad gets home,

there may be a new set of rules that's on top of that or maybe adjacent to that,

but whatever it is,

there's a set of rules that come home and all of a sudden mothers and fathers

become the first moralizing, rule making,

hypocritical construction that now goes on the child.

So until the child's one,

it can get away with just about anything and you don't really make a big deal

out of it. But once it gets one,

it stands up and starts scampering around and starts tearing things up and

exploring things and making messes, you start putting as a parent, right,

wrong, stop, go, et cetera. Once the child,

because the child's dependent on you gets this jolt that says no and

it has a natural impulse with its id to want to go and explore pleasure over

pain, and ease over difficulty,

the parents now put in a moralizing process when they say no

and yes. And so now the child, because it fears loss of the parent,

now inculcates that,

that's the first subordination to an outer authority that occurs.

That's the beginning of the superego.

The superego is the internal moralization where the child has an impulse and it

also has a true ego and it has an impulse to go for pleasure.

It has an ego to embrace both things reasonably and to live authentically.

And then it has a moralizing process that's a first stage of socialization

that now says, 'thou shalt not do this, and thou shall do this,

this is the rules of the house', so in order for the child to live in the house,

because it doesn't really have a,

probably by one it doesn't have an entrepreneurial position,

doesn't have its own company yet, It now incorporates that,

and it has an internal conflict between mom and dad, or at least mom initially,

and its own impulses and its own highest values.

And so sometimes it lives by its highest values,

sometimes it wants to be impulsive and now it's got this moralizing parent,

that's telling them what it is.

And the parents sometimes project onto the child,

what they think needs to be done for the child. But about 80% of the time,

the things that they're projecting on the child is not necessarily reasonable or

rational,

it's to protect the parents from having to face their previous wounds of what

they are subconsciously storing in their own mind that they feel ashamed about

or guilt about or frightened of. So they go and put the rules on there,

basically to stop the child from doing the things that remind them of things

that they feel guilty about or been hurt by, wounded by.

And they project their wounds and their guilts onto the child without even

realizing they doing under the quote of moral development and sometimes moral

hypocrisies.

Because sometimes the parent doesn't even do what it's telling the child to do.

And sometimes the parent,

a different parent does something different and it confuses the child and of

course the child then leverages one parent against the other in order to get its

own ego or its own impulses of the id to be expressed.

So there's a three-way dynamic going on. The id wants immediate gratification.

The ego wants to fulfill something deeply meaningful.

And the moralization is the, now the moralizer that says now,

thou shalt not do this. So from the first year or so, mommy becomes important.

Maybe up to two and three daddy starts coming in.

From that point on then comes preachers or rabbis or gurus or

whatever,

and churches and synagogues and temples and things sometimes get that in there.

And by the time they're four or five, they start getting it from schools.

And now the teachers and the rabbis and gurus or whatever,

they all become now moralizers and they project their values onto it.

So the child's now trying to find its own identity,

its true nature amongst its own impulses and its

moralizing constructions.

And any time it feels a conflict between the things that it's supposed to do

according to the authorities and what it would love to do,

the unfulfillment and the frustration makes it go into its id even more.

So now it just wants immediate gratification to

conflict. Whenever we feel we're not able to fulfill our highest values,

we go into immediate gratification.

And so what happens is then it goes onto preachers teachers, school teachers,

and through elementary school it's school teachers predominantly and social

groups, mom and dad, they still have the rule,

until you can stand on your own two feet and be completely independent,

they got the rules.

So you have to figure out how to leverage one of the parents against the other

parents.

You have to figure out how to lie in order to not get caught doing what you

really want to do or your impulses.

And this moralizing process shows up in you,

about whoever you given authority to.

So if you depend on your mommy or you depend on your daddy,

or you look up to your teacher, whoever you put above you and depend on,

will inculcate into your psyche and show up as 'I should do this',

'I should have done this', 'I'm supposed to do this', 'I have to do this',

'I gotta do this', 'I must do this', 'I need to do this', 'I ought to do this',

'I have to do this'.

All of those imperative languages that you hear in your head are not you,

the true ego, the true essential self speaking.

It is the injected values of some outer authority,

could be mom all the way up to some school teacher et cetera.

When you get to 13 to maybe 18 it now becomes social cliques,

groups that you associate with and maybe a teacher, you may get a job,

it may be a boss. And then you graduate from that and you go on to college,

it may be professors or it may be bosses that you work for.

And your parents may fade a bit, or you may keep it in there.

Bowen says that many times people never get past the parent's stage of moral

development.

And Kohlberg says that that immediate gratification or the inculcation

of the individual authorities of mothers, fathers, preachers, teachers,

some people never get beyond that.

And they get trapped trying to please their parents all their life,

or they get trapped trying to please little societies

sacrificing life to try to fit in for fear of rejection in society.

And this is the stages of moral development. And what happens,

these are all layers of the superego coming in.

Eventually you get to a point where you go on and you start your own company and

don't work for somebody else. And now your boss doesn't become your authority.

Your teacher doesn't become your authority.

Your parents may not even become your authority. 'Oh, I'll think about it,

mom and dad, I may consider that'.

And you be start to become more of an authority,

but now the people that run your industry,

the people that oversee your companies,

the people that are in local governments and mid governements and you know,

whole national governments or global rules,

they now are who you subordinate to.

So you're working your way up a social ladder of people you subordinate to.

If you open up a franchise,

the teacher now invites you to school and you get to set the rules.

You get to tell people what you do. The teacher listens to you.

If you get to grow your business nationally,

then the mayor wants you to come and visit him.

The governor wants to say hi and take a picture with you.

And the people that make the rules now want to listen to you and you get to

influence the rules.

And so all of a sudden you're gradually liberating yourself from subordinating

to the super egos of all the people you've injected values from.

And eventually you're rising up and starting to get what Kholberg calls

transcendence. But eventually you get to a global franchise,

let's say you have a company that's global and now the presidents want to meet

you and now you're a celebrity in the world. Now you're setting the rules.

People want to follow what you're doing instead of you having to follow

everybody else's. Eventually you reached a point of transcendence.

If you get there, most people don't. But if you did,

in the Breakthrough Experience program that's exactly what I teach people to do,

how to transcend the outer influences of these moral

constructs, which are hypocrisies in many case because the people even,

who put those on you, aren't even living them half the time as MacIntyre shows.

And so what happens is you're going in and you're basically trying to live by

something that nobody lives by,

thinking you're going to get some sort of points by being acknowledged,

and then you realize that the spectrum of values across the world and you can't

please everybody,

and you eventually get to a point maybe by your mid forties or whatever you go,

'I have an identity crisis. What the hell do I really want in life?

I'm halfway through the game now.' And hopefully you emerge. If not,

you're stuck and your superego rules you and you have this internal conflict and

this masochism between the superego that basically tells you how you should be

and you block the expression of your own original thinking and you fit

into what Becker would call the collective heroism and become part of the

collective herd. Because you're afraid of being rejected.

You can't make decisions on your own because of the internal conflict and the

cloudiness and you're trapped. And there's no reason you have to be. So

what I'm going to summarize is this,

the super ego is the internalization of some outer authorities values that

you've injected into your life,

which creates entropic disorder in your life and conflict inside you

between what you truly would love to do,

which is your essential self and your true ego, and now

this moralizing process. And what's interesting is,

and this is where people have gotten stray,

whenever you abide by the things that the injected value, the authority

of the injected values came from,

let's say you look up to somebody and now you now live in that value for the day

you feel proud and that proud is the false ego.

And then when you don't do it, you feel shamed.

And so what happens is you create these bipolar nature of pride and shame,

trying to subordinate and sacrifice your true identity,

your true ego for the false ego of being a good person and getting acknowledged

by people who've got a different set of values than you.

And you live maybe feeling proud and putting on a facade,

but you have an internal conflict because the true you is not able to come to

the surface, you're afraid now.

You've been so acknowledged for being a good person in this society that you've

lost yourself. You lost your soul if you will. Having the courage,

you know, you can walk on coals, you can go and jump bungee jumps,

you can do you know, rope climbs,

you can do all kinds of gimmicks out thereto metaphorize

courage. But the real courage in life,

as I teach in the Breakthrough Experience is being able to walk the path of your

authentic self. That's what the Breakthrough's about,

that's what all my programs are about.

Everything I'm doing on these weekly programs is for that.

So as long as you're subordinating to outer authority and comparing yourself to

others and putting them on pedestals and minimizing yourself and injecting their

values,

you're going to have an internal conflict between your true highest value and

your true ego and the expression of a spontaneous inspired life,

where you delegate lower priority things that devalue you and get on with the

things that you are inspired by that make the biggest difference that make more

meaning out of your life.

You're going to have the inculcation of these values from outer authorities and

be trapped with an internal conflict.

And as a compensation for that to escape the conflict,

you go to the id and you go and you try to get immediate gratification.

And 99% of the population in economics are consumers of other

people's brands to make them temporarily feel better about themselves because of

this. They do the same thing.

That's why very few people become the gold medalist or the great Nobel prize

winners of the great leaders in business or spiritual leaders or whatever,

because they haven't got the courage to be themselves.

They're worried about fitting in instead of standing out.

But the willingness to walk the path of the unborrowed visionary in the pursuit

of an authentic expression of your own identity and make the difference.

How are you going to make a difference fitting in?

You're going to make a different standing out.

That is what the Breakthrough Experience is about.

That's what all my programs are about.

To give you the tools and science of how to do that.

And it's not really that difficult once you're aware of what's going on in your

psyche. Your words inside you speak, whenever you hear yourself saying,

'I should', 'I ought to', 'I supposed to', 'I got to', 'I have to', 'I must',

that is not you. You don't should yourself.

You don't make mistake in your own values.

You only think you made a mistake when you did an action that was inspiring to

you that went against the values of some authority and then you beat yourself up

with shame because now you're giving power to their decisions instead of your

own. And you offloaded decision-making. And you only project 'should',

'ought to' onto other people when you're projecting an expectation on them to

live in your values, which they can't. So ultimately there's no mistakes.

There's only perceived mistakes when you're trying to live in other people's

values you'll think you're making mistakes.

When you're trying to get others to live in your values,

you'll think they make mistakes.

But ultimately everybody made a decision based on what they felt was most

important at that time to their values.

So the superego is in a sense the dictator

inside your head, coming from whoever you've given power to as an authority.

In the Breakthrough Experience what I do is I have a science called the

Demartini Method and we go in there and level the playing field and own the

traits of people that we've got above us,

so we realize that there's nothing missing in us.

We don't have to minimize ourselves and see that they have something we don't.

We find out where we have what they have in our own form.

This is what's the challenge. As Einstein said,

if you're a cat expecting to swim like a fish,

you're going to beat yourself up because you don't have the equipment to do the

fish swimming. And if you're a fish expecting to climb a tree,

you're going to beat yourself up. And this is what people do.

They compare themselves to others, expect to live in those people's values,

beat themselves up, they think they have limited beliefs,

they think they're sabotaging, they think they're not disciplined,

they think they keep sabotaging or something of this nature,

they don't have what it takes, they can't stay focused.

It's because they're trying to be somebody they're not.

You don't need to be motivated to be you. You don't need to be reminded.

The true you is sitting inside surfacing,

intuitively wanting to express itself and express your genius.

But the moment we compare ourselves to others,

instead of compare our daily actions to our own highest values, we cloud it,

we shroud it, and we give power away. And any area of our life we don't empower,

somebody's going to overpower.

And the reason they overpower us is to frustrate us enough,

to give ourselves permission to be authentic.

So the id is trying to live by lower values as a result of the

escape of the suppression that we give ourselves when we try to live in other

people's values.

The true ego is living authentically according to what iss really our value,

highest value, which we spontaneously want to express.

So if you go on my website and go to the value determination process,

and look at the top value questions to help you determine what's really

important to you and start structuring your life on that,

come to the Breakthrough Experience.

Let me show you exactly how to do that so you can learn to delegate lower

priority things and get on doing something deeply meaningful to you,

that's inspiring, that's unique, that makes the difference.

And there's no reason why you have to live in this mediocrity.

You can do something extraordinary, whatever that may be,

whether it raising a family or going doing something social causes or a business

or wealth or health or spiritual pursuits,

whatever it is that's truly highest on your value you deserve to live.

And there's no reason why you can't. So your ego is your highest value.

Your id is trying to live by lower values because of the inculcation of outer

authorities and the superego is those injections from outer authorities that you

gave power to. So I just wanted to go over those three things,

because I think that they are good reminders of how to live it.

And if for some reason you want to know what your values are,

please go to my website, dr.demartini.com and take advantage of that.

Please take advantage of these webinars that we do every week that gives you

just a little stimulus every week to think and expand and to utilize.

Join me at the Breakthrough Experience.

I want to be able to take what I know and share it with you.

Cause I know it works for thousands of people. I know it will work for you.

It's just a matter of applying it. And you sometimes if you get it,

the doorbell goes on and all of a sudden a light goes on and you see it.

Now you can take action, teach you how to prioritize and delegate,

and also take advantage of our, our Dr. Demartini show,

the podcast that we do.

We have a program that's called Clarify Your Goals to Maximize Your Achievement.

And what we're going to do is show you how to maximize goals that are congruent

with what you value most.

So you can wake up your true ego and not let the super egos distract you and get

caught, puffing yourself up. Whenever we're proud and cocky and self-righteous,

we tend to project our values onto others and its utility.

And then any time we beat ourselves up and minimize ourselves,

cause we're not living in other people's values we think,

we're going to end up going for impulses and instincts and disempower ourself.

I want to show you how to set real goals in real time that give real results

that allow you to live authentically in an inspired way.

There's absolutely nothing stopping you from doing that,

except a little education. That education could go a long way.

Within a tiny seed, lies a mighty oak. And these ideas you know,

it's time for those ideas in your mind. So please take advantage of that.

Take advantage of our weekly programs we're doing.

This one coming up on goals and definitely come to the Breakthrough Experience.

That's where I can actually take you through it and make you go through the

process and learn how to master your life so things on the outside don't run the

vision and the mission on the inside. So until next week, this is Dr. Demartini.

Thank you for joining me. Thank you for taking some notes, applying it.

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what they want to get in life, we get what we want to get in life,

and there's no reason why not to create a catalytic ripple effect by helping

people. So thank you for being here with me today.

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