You've wondered it. Maybe more than you care to admit. Maybe it's more of a subconscious whisper, but it's there nonetheless. When all around you are messages of fear and marketing ploys, even the strongest of Christian parents are second-guessing their methods. Listen to this peace-giving interview with author of Entrusted with a Child's Heart, Betsy Corning. She's a mom of three grown children, grandmother to ten grandkids, and has counseled countless overwhelmed and discouraged moms to find hope, peace, and direction in their parenting.

Scriptures Referenced:

Philippians 4:8

Colossians 2:8

Philippians 4:4-8

Titus 2

1 Corinthians 14:33

Resource Mentioned: Get the Word Out

This is the Again podcast brought to

you by Entrusted Ministries, , and

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I'm your host, Stephanie Hickox.

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Today I'm gonna ask a really

scary question that I know

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many of us are thinking.

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Am I messing up my kids?

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Every time I turn around, it

seems like someone is telling me

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how I should be doing something

different, better, or how I need to

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buy their product to do it right.

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It takes a lot of discernment to sort

through all of these messages, and

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sometimes I don't even realize how it's

affecting me, but as I asked my Aunt

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Betsy, Betsy Corning, author and founder

of Entrusted Ministries to sit down with

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me and explain why we can have peace

in the midst of all of this chaos of

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culture, I asked her to reassure us

that we're not completely blowing it.

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Her answer was so peace giving

that I'm gonna have it on

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repeat and I hope you do too.

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This is one you really need to hear.

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Mama.

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They're the joyful agains our children.

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Shout on the swings, the exhausting

agains of cooking and laundry and

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the difficult agains of discipline.

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So much of what we do

as mothers is on repeat.

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So what if we woke up with clarity,

knowing which agains we were called to.

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And went to bed believing we are

faithful in what matters most.

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We believe God's word is

the key to untangle from the

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confusion and overwhelm we feel.

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Let's look up together to embrace a

motherhood full of freedom and joy.

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Stephanie: Recently we were together

and you said something that I really

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walked away and I just had to ponder.

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You said, moms are so worried today.

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They're so afraid they're going to

mess up their kids, but they need

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to know that it's going to be okay.

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And that's one of the greatest

blessings I've received from taking

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Entrusted and from just being able to

soak in your wisdom over the years.

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I think you present the truth of

scripture in such a hopeful way, the

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way God wants us to see it, that we

can have hope and peace even when we

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don't know the result, because we're

trusting in a good sovereign God.

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I will admit that even as I press into

the Lord consistently growing up and

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being this first generation to be

inundated with continual bad news, often

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devastating news all day long, even though

I really have pretty firm boundaries

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for myself about what I take in, I think

even being surrounded by others that are

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constantly taking in the bad information

or constantly receiving these updates,

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we're continually being fed how we can

do better as moms, what new studies are

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saying about what we've already done wrong

and how we're gonna mess up our kids if

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we don't buy, read and do this, and this.

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How can we counter this

onslaught of discouragement

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and doom and parent with hope?

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In a world that really is telling

us we are messing up our children if

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we don't do exactly what they say.

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Betsy: Yes, it's interesting,

this generation does have

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an information overload.

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And so what that's creating in

the minds and hearts of mothers

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and fathers can be overwhelming.

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So one thing we wanna do is limit our

input and definitely match it up against.

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The word of God.

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And so much of our hearts can be calmed

and comforted by the word of God.

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When I was, oh, maybe third or

fourth grade after school, I would

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watch this show with one of my

neighborhood friends called Get Smart.

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And it had a, the enemy the nemesis

of control, which was Get smart's.

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Agency was chaos.

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And I think that was very fitting

even way back there in the sixties,

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that chaos is the enemy of organized,

thought, rational reasonable thinking.

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And the Lord wouldn't have us go there.

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He wouldn't have our minds be

filled with things that are.

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Battling and we need to be dwelling,

as it says in Philippians , dwell on

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the things that are good and right,

and excellent and pure and lovely and

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all of these things, but we don't.

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We get pulled in by things

that are chaotic and that

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is the scheme of the devil.

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That is his number one ploy.

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He is a liar from the beginning.

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He's an accuser.

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He's gonna try to make you think

that you're an absolute failure.

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And I'm gonna say that I know that I

failed my kids at certain times of their

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lives, but I wasn't doing it at the

time thinking I'm gonna do this to fail.

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You we're always doing our best, and

it's really hurtful to a parent to

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think that their child would say.

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You failed me by doing this, you know,

because at the time we're always trying

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to do our very best with our kids.

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At least I hope that would

be our goal and our motive.

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But chaos is the instrument of Satan, and

he will do whatever he can to confuse us.

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It is the number one way that he

works in the ideology of people

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to make things seem uncertain.

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Now, so many kids today are

uncertain about who they are.

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It's all of this thing of chaos.

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And, it's really not just feeding on the

minds of parents, but on children too.

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And it's devastating.

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So what do we wanna do?

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We wanna dwell on the

things that are right.

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We wanna limit our input of

listening to counterfeits, and

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we wanna be able to identify.

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Is this a counterfeit or not?

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Well, we might say, I'm not sure

if it's a counterfeit and we can

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get some good advice, or we can

just stay away from certain things.

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Stay away from certain things that

are poisoned that make us think wrong.

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. So we can go to one of these verses

that we even memorized from Entrusted.

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It's one of my faves.

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It's Colossians two eight.

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It says, see to it that no one takes

you captive through philosophy and

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empty deception according to the

tradition of men, according to the

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elementary principles of this world,

rather than according to Christ,

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Christ gives us everything we need to

raise our kids, and we can get pulled

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in so many different directions and

so many different thought patterns.

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But our thought patterns are going back to

Philippians four starting with verse four.

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Rejoice in the Lord always.

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Again, I say rejoice.

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Let your gentle spirit

be known to all men.

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The Lord is near.

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The Lord is near.

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Be anxious for nothing but

in everything with prayer and

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supplication with thanksgiving.

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Let your requests be made known

to God the peace of God, which

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surpasses all understanding.

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All comprehension shall guard your

hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

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And going on in verse eight.

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Finally, brethren, whatever is true.

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Whatever's honorable, whatever is right,

whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,

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whatever is of good repute, if there

is any excellence, and if anything

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worthy of praise, dwell on these things.

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The things that you've learned and

received, and heard and seen in me.

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Practice these things and the

God of peace will be with you.

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I love that because I know a couple

of times in my life when I was a young

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mother, when I was so overwhelmed with

anxiety about something and I laid in

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my bed and I prayed these verses and I

prayed, be anxious for nothing but in

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everything by prayer and supplication

with thanksgiving, let my request be

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made known to God and the peace of God.

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Will overwhelm, which

surpasses all comprehension.

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She'll guard my heart, all my emotion and

my mind, all my thoughts in Christ Jesus.

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Sometimes we just have to abandon all

those things and just go back to prayer

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and really concentrating on God and say,

I just submitted all to you, all this

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chaos in my heart and in my thoughts.

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I give it to you because you tell me

you are near, you are always near me.

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And you hear, this is my prayer to

settle my heart, settle my mind,

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and lead me in the right path.

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And he does.

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I love the thought that he's near.

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We could write these verses

down that say the Lord is near

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'cause they're super precious.

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So that's another way

that I would say to do it.

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But one thing I will say for sure,

and I mentioned it a little bit ago.

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As an older mother, I will say you will

do things that you wish you didn't do, but

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you don't know it at the time you think

you're doing the best that you can do.

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Somebody once asked me at a q and A

for Entrusted, do you have any regrets

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about how you raised your children?

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And I was younger then and, I said, no.

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I said, because they

were in their twenties.

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I remember thinking they weren't ready.

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They weren't ready.

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I still needed to teach them so

many things because I didn't feel

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like this was solidified in their

life and all those things that I

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was in a little bit of a panic.

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Now, I was a little bit older mom and

I had seen that in their twenties.

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Wow.

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Would you believe it?

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They continue to grow without me.

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Without me, right there.

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And why?

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Because the Holy Spirit

was sanctifying them.

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And that was a big lesson for me.

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The Holy Spirit continues to

sanctify them while I'm not,

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daily present in their lives.

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And thank goodness, thank goodness

that's how it's supposed to be.

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We are supposed to be letting go

and they are supposed to be learning

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how to live under the authority of

God's word and eventually leave and

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cleave to their new husband or wife.

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Well, anyway, that's what I was thinking.

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At that age, I was seeing that

sanctification continue on in my young

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adult children, and I was so grateful.

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But now that I'm older, I hear of certain.

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Things in their lives.

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And I think, I wish I could have,

responded differently so that

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you didn't go through that hurt.

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And I don't know, I think the Lord

is working on me because the Lord

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uses all of those things still to

sanctify us and to sanctify them and

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all the things that we go through.

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We can't really assess, , blame

to another person because it's

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the Lord that is allowing things

and he's testing our faith.

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And sometimes he can use the

mistakes of our parents to be a

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sanctifying influence in our lives.

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And he does.

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He miraculously works out all

these things , for those who are

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called according to his purposes.

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So if we're diligent to be

called according to his purposes.

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He's gonna work out those past hurts

for our good and for his glory.

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Because the person that can live

through certain hurts and say glory

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be to God, those are the person that

lives with peace in their heart,

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despite the chaos in the world.

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And I think we recognize the chaos.

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Definitely.

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We recognize the chaos.

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The chaos is just so much more in

our faces because of technology

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and information overload.

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But when I was a young mother and we

didn't have the internet, we still

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had parents who were afraid to bring

children into the world because

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they thought the world was an awful

place, even back when I was young.

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Obviously now it's snowballed

because things that you didn't

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maybe know about were happening.

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It's just we are so aware of

everything that's happening.

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We're so aware of human trafficking

and maybe it was happening, but

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I don't think it was happening at

the scale that it's happening now.

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I think evil is just rampant and out

of control, and that's how it will be.

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But that isn't supposed to grab

us by the ankles and pull us down.

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We are supposed to always be

looking up, not looking down.

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The Lord says, look up.

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Why?

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Why does he always say, look up?

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Because he's returning

and we're looking for him.

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We're not supposed to be looking down

at the world and all the chaos and

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confusion and awfulness around us.

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We do what we can do to help and

serve, but our eyes are to be up

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focused on him who's returning,

and to that we can be rejoicing

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As the verse says, rejoice always.

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Again, I say rejoice again.

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I say rejoice.

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The the Lord is near.

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The Lord is returning soon, and

you can have peace in your heart.

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You can overcome confusion

and chaos in your heart and

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in your mind, in your thoughts

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Stephanie: I feel, , convicted

and encouraged as you speak,

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and right as you began and you

were talking about the enemy.

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I thought about the tree that we were

commanded to not eat from the tree

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of the knowledge of good and evil.

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And I do think.

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That is such a temptation.

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If I just knew more, if I

understood more, I could set my

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kids or my family up for success.

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And so often we have these great

intentions of learning more, but

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then they conflict or they distract

from the things that we need to know

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and understand the most, which is

the character of God and his word.

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We were talking right before this

about breathing and how the structure

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of children's teeth and jaws

that's a real hot topic right now.

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And just that one thing I think,

wow, that's something I could focus

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on in my children all day long.

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I could look over at the position, oh

my goodness, they're mouth breathing

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again, or when I look at them.

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As they're sleeping in their beds.

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And I come in just for that last

prayer of the day and I put my hand

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on their leg, and I thank God for

these children but there are times

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where I walk in and I am like, oh

no, they're mouth breathing again.

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It starts this train

of worry in your brain.

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But really that is such a sweet

moment that I can have with the Lord,

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praying for deep, eternal things.

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Sometimes knowledge has been the

greatest enemy of peace in my parenting.

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And obviously we're certainly not calling

us to bury our heads in the sand but

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you began with that information overload

that we are absolutely inundated with

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knowledge to the point where we can't

possibly apply everything that we know.

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And I think we're being tempted to

throw off all sorts of wise boundaries.

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It doesn't really matter if that vitamin

is the perfect solution, because if

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you can't afford it, then the Lord

isn't calling you to act upon it.

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There's all of these wise boundaries

in God's word, I think about Mary and

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she was faithful with one thing, and

the Lord commended her faith for that.

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And we can get so distracted

and pulled so many directions in

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what we think is a good pursuit.

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And it might be a pursuit of

good, but one thing is better.

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And that battle, certainly can

be multiplied in motherhood because

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all of a sudden you care so deeply

about so many different people.

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But it really is an

opportunity to stay steadfast

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Betsy: there's so many different

directions that this could go in.

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It could go in, like you were

saying, the health choices

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that we make for our children.

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And obviously we do wanna

be informed about those.

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And there it goes into major choices

that we make for our children.

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They're educational choices.

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They're just, you know, what they

read, what they watch, what they

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listen to, what they see, everything.

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It's.

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These are all important and it

comes down very much to wisdom.

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And the Bible tells us that the fear

of God is the beginning of wisdom

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and we can get wisdom from the Bible.

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That's what wisdom really is.

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And if we were to come up

with a definition for wisdom?

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I think my husband says it is the

ability to apply the most God-honoring

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solution to any given situation.

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So how can we honor God with any solution

if it's not found through his word?

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Now, obviously we're not gonna find

mouth breathing in the Bible, but

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we're going to find so many basic

concepts and principles in the Bible.

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All that wisdom comes from God.

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And God says, if you think you

don't have it, then ask me for it.

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Get close to me because God created

us to have that relationship with him.

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Get close to him 'cause

he's already near you.

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So tune into him and tune out

a lot of these other messages.

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And we might say, it doesn't really talk

about mouth breathing, but God can give

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you direction on what is a good choice.

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And he can give you wisdom and discernment

about these things that are out in the

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world about the things that are confusing.

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It says He will direct our paths.

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When we lean on him, when we acknowledge

him, when we are grateful to him

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for all that he's given us in his

providence, he directs our paths.

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He helps us make that wise

God honoring decision.

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That's the path that we wanna take.

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If we say, Lord, help me make the best

God-honoring choice in this situation

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and pray for it, and your heart is

to do that with your husband, I'm

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sure that he will direct you in that.

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And if you find out you've made

mistakes that foolish impulsive mistakes

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somewhere along life with your kids.

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Be forgiving.

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Be forgiving of each other, I think

you'll be more understanding now,

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being a parent yourself when you grow

up and you see, I wish I would've

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done this a little different.

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I, I wish I would've made them eat their

vegetables, or I wish I would've not

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been so pushy with the, I don't know.

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We can go the spectrum to the

opposite end so easily on anything.

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So help us to be wise parents and

help us to focus on the Lord and

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direct our kids to want wisdom also.

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Stephanie: it makes me think about

Titus two, and I know that you talk

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about that so much in Entrusted that we

need to be looking to the older women,

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god's design for the intergenerational

body of Christ to thrive.

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And so often now if we're looking to

our phones or we're looking to Google

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for all of these solutions, then we're

really limiting the impact that the Lord

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wanted us to receive in discipleship,

that we can be looking to older women to

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say, wow, I'm getting lost in the weeds

here, but tell me, when you look back

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at raising your children, what are the

things that really mattered you speak

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such words of hope and perspective.

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We need that.

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We need to just not always be looking

at people in the same stage as us, which

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is commonly what these influencers are.

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And they might have something very

valid to say, but if that's really the

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majority of where we're going then we

do need to be cautioned about that.

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Betsy: Yes.

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And it's interesting because the

Bible says older women teach the

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younger women, teach them what?

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Teach 'em to love their husbands

and to love their children.

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It doesn't say.

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Smarter women.

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It doesn't say more powerful women.

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It doesn't say more

what it just says older.

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Why would it say older?

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Why would that be the word?

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Because they have that experience and

perspective going through saying, yes,

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I made some mistakes and it did impact

my kids , but I did the best I could

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with the Lord's help, I've tried to make

the wisest choices, but when I didn't

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we learned how to forgive each other.

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And the Lord has always been with us.

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And we see the Lord's faithfulness

in life, which is so important.

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We see the Lord's faithfulness to us.

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The other thing I wanna say

is teach the younger women.

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I get so much out of being with

younger women and there's such a.

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Privilege of being with younger women too.

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And I learn so much from them.

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They keep me up to date with

so many things, like what's

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the latest, this and that.

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And did you know that there's paper

out there made of stone, somebody had

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a tablet and it's looks like paper,

but it's stone and it's waterproof.

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And I just ordered some.

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And I think, how would I know this if

I wasn't with these younger women that

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keep me in tune with what's going on?

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And and plus they are so quick

and bright and knowledgeable and

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I really love being with them.

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So it's not just a one

way street by any means.

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It's valuable for the older women

to be with the younger women too.

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And I really love it.

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Stephanie: I think of the times

that I have sought an older woman.

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I can think of every coffee date and a

key takeaway I went in and this mom has a

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really impulsive child, but she's 15 years

down the road and I need to talk to her.

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I need to gain wisdom and the

help that that brought me or.

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know, This mom has a husband with

a chronic illness and I really

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need to receive encouragement

from her for my situation.

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There have just been different times

and I walk away feeling so ministered

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to, and often when I seek people

in my generation, I'm so grateful.

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It's kind of like the in the trenches

mentality oh, you're dealing with that

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too, and you feel an understanding.

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But I think that there's a greater

peace and problem solving overall

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when I do seek someone who's farther

down the road, uh, experientially

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than I am in a situation.

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Betsy: Because they've

been through it, right?

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And they've seen the faithfulness

of God, and I love that.

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And another verse that we had in

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For God is not a God of

confusion but of peace.

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As in all the churches of the saint, God

is not a God of confusion, but of peace.

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And if we're confused, if we feel we

live in a world of chaos and we just

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don't know who we are what decisions

to make, just know that God is a God

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of peace and he can calm your mind,

your thoughts and your emotions.

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When we just pray to him and ask

for that guidance, that wise,

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guidance that he alone can give.

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If we've encouraged you with

anything over the life of this

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podcast, I hope you've seen that.

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We wanna be the moms that

we were created to be.

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We have to seek the Lord first

and foremost, and we're doing

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Before you go, I want to pray this

benediction over you from Second

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Thessalonians one 11 through 12.

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We're rooting for you to this end.

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We always pray for you that our God

may make you worthy of his calling and

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may fulfill every resolve for good.

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And every work of faith by his power

so that the name of our Lord Jesus

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may be glorified in you and you

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our God and the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Amen.

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Until we meet again.