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2:39 - Porn-Proofing our Families with Kristen Jenson
Episode 3919th June 2018 • The Family Culture Movement • Jodi Chaffee
00:00:00 01:15:01

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Kristen A. Jenson is the author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of read-aloud books including the best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds. She is the founder of ProtectYoungMinds.org, a website dedicated to helping parents empower their kids to resist and reject pornography. Kristen is a popular guest on radio and TV broadcasts as well as podcasts and webinars. She is a leader in the Safeguard Alliance of the National Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation and has testified before the Washington State Senate Law and Justice Committee on the public health crisis of pornography. Kristen continues to be a strong voice for protecting children from all forms of sexual exploitation. Kristen is the mother of two daughters, and a son who is waiting for her in heaven. Her latest honor is becoming a grandma! She lives with her husband and sassy chocolate Schnoodle puppy in the beautiful state of Washington. Kristen earned a B.A. in English Literature and an M.A. in Organizational Communication.

This is a difficult topic to discuss, but I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to talk about. Kristen tells us that porn is predatory. Kids do not have to look for it, it is looking for them. It will find them. The discussion needs to be centered around what our kids can do when porn finds them. Kristen offers several resources on her site to help parents with this topic, with media literacy, and creating a plan to help our families navigate this over-sexualized culture. Help children understand three things:

  1. what pornography is
  2. teach our children that pornography is dangerous
  3. have a plan for what to do when they see pornography

Learn why filters are good for our devices, but more than that, we need to help our children develop internal filters. We need to be the ones talking to our children about pornography and sex so that we become the authority. They don't want to be the ones who don't understand when their peers refer to these things, so they are going to seek out this information. Parents need to be the authority and give their children permission to talk to them about these things. Protect Young Minds has amazing resources to help parents learn how to become their child's mentor to talk through difficult topics, and talk out big emotions. Parents can become the safety for kids who need to understand, and navigate their development into adulthood. As Kristen says, put on our big girl/big boy pants and talk about this stuff.

Note: around timestamp 30:55 is a trigger story. I left it to illustrate why children need to know all human anatomy, not just their own, and they need to know proper names of the body parts. This story illustrates why this is so important.    

Resources:

Robyn Fivush, "Do you know" study

Bobo the Clown aggression experiment

"Switch: How to change when change is hard" by Chip and Dan Heath

"The Power of Habit: Why we do what we do in life and business" by Charles Duhigg

Covenant Eyes, accountability software

Circle with Disney - Parental Controls and Filters for your Family’s Connected Devices

PROTECT YOUNG MINDS LINKS: 20 Questions to create your family stories Why we don't depend on digital filters alone Tech Etiquette for the Digital Family - Free Download Family media standards - Free Download Digital citizenship 8 Books to Help you talk about sex Emotional Care Tags

Find Kristen and Protect Young Minds Website: www.ProtectYoungMinds.org Twitter: @ProtectYM Facebook: ProtectYM Instagram: @ProtectYoungMinds

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