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WOOP GOAL SETTING PART3/4
Episode 5020th June 2022 • The Daily Podcast with Jonathan Doyle • Jonathan Doyle
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It's easy to create goals but what do we do when we encounter major obstacles? In PART 3 of our four-part exploration of Dr. Gabrielle Oetingen's WOOP goal setting methodology we explore how to clearly prepare for the obstacles and challenges that will come our way on the journey.

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Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you.

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Once again, welcome back to the daily podcast.

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Great to have the pleasure of your company.

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We are about to do.

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Day three of the four-part woop goal setting master class.

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Now, if you have been listening to the other two episodes so far, you're

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going to notice a big difference today.

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Of course, you will notice that the audio quality over the last few episodes.

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Probably about the last three or four has been somewhere south of a Bismal.

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We recorded them.

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Uh, in the studio using, uh, you know, we, we were recording video at the same time

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and we'd been splitting out the audio.

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And, uh, we had everything set up correctly and the mikes

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went working the right way.

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So you'll notice if you've been listening the last couple of days,

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the audio was, uh, was terrible.

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I do apologize.

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So we're back today.

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On my favorite microphone, regular listeners know I've got

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a thing for good microphones.

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I'm back on the shore.

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Running through a persona studio, 68 pre-amp everyone goes, we did not.

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Listening.

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To hear about your microphone choices, but the good news is hopefully

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this audio quality is heaps better.

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And it's a more full podcast version.

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Uh, I've made the decision that I'll keep putting all the content

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out on YouTube, but I'm going to do dedicated podcast versions now.

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It's an easier platform for me to work with.

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I just tend to go a bit deeper on the podcast version.

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So I hope today's going to be really useful for you.

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Okay.

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Let's do a quick review.

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We're on day three day one in this woop goal setting master class from Dr.

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Gabrielle engine.

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Who simply somebody that has thought deeply about goals, um, goal efficacy.

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And choosing systems, you know, goals sitting that actually

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help us and don't hinder us.

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So it's easy enough.

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Isn't it to identify when there are things in life we want to change, but my gosh, it

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can be hard sometimes to really execute.

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I'm always interested in that question.

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Why is it that sometimes we just don't execute.

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Quite the way we want to.

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So on day one of the master class, we started with the w of the whoop.

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Uh, acronym.

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The w standing of course, for wish for the identification of what we want to

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change, what we want to have in our lives, what we want to remove from our lives.

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But for most of us, it will be.

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Uh, an articulation of something that's important to us, something that we

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want to improve or add into our lives.

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The second day we looked at the outcome.

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So I've got the w is wish the first O is outcome, which is a crucial

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step because it helps us realize that it's rarely, the actual wish itself.

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That's truly what we desire.

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The wish is often a kind of.

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What's the word, I guess like an icon or a representation of a deeper value

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underneath that we're trying to pursue.

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So today or yesterday, we talked about outcome being clear on whether

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whatever that wish is, what is the underlying driving force behind it?

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When you achieve the X in your life, what will it give you when you experience more

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freedom, more peace, more connection, more intimacy, more joy, more excitement.

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Because all of those things, you know, For the people who

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go and buy a brand new Ferrari.

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Their wish wasn't to have a bunch of metal and electronic and mechanical componentry

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arranged in a particular format.

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You know, that's ultimately what a Ferrari is, isn't it?

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It's, it's, it's metal, it's electrical engineering, it's mechanical engineering.

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All these things put together in a particular form.

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Nobody has a wish that says that's what I want.

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I want, I want all these components arranged in a particular way.

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As they drive out of the showroom and they're heading down the freeway.

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There's a feeling attached to it all.

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Isn't there.

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All of a sudden there's a feeling I'm driving my brand new Ferrari.

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What is that?

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It's it might be a feeling of, um, of achievement or attainment or, or.

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You know, or blessing or, you know, joy who knows if it's going

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to be different for everybody.

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Right.

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And this Ferrari is just one example.

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It could be anything.

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But always remember that behind what it is you're chasing is a much

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deeper motivation, some experience, some human emotion or psychological

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state that we're pursuing.

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So the second part which we did yesterday was really getting clear.

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On what those underlying drivers are for you, because you want to

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be really in touch with those.

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You want to honor them.

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You want to recognize them.

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You want to leverage them and use them as a kind of fuel.

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Okay.

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So we are on to day three, which is the second.

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Oh.

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In the woop methodology WW.

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Oh, the second I was all the second.

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Oh, when the third day.

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Is obstacles.

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Obstacles obstacles obstacles.

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You look at the famous book from Ryan holiday, where he

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said the obstacle is the way.

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A couple of thoughts first.

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Well, Dr.

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And realized is that people are good.

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At articulating the wish people can even get good at articulating the

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underlying drivers and motivations.

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But she realized that in most goal setting methodologies and in the way

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that most people go about goal setting, The problem is that we pay very little

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attention to thinking about the potential obstacles that will come our way.

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So we get excited about goals.

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We get motivated, we get going and write them down.

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We.

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We start to put some effort into them.

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And then all of a sudden, a whole bunch of things start to go wrong

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and we get problems and setbacks and difficulties and delays.

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And at that point, it can be very hard for a lot of people to continue.

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A lot of people sort of give up and think, well, you know, this

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is too hard or often we don't even articulate that to ourselves.

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We don't even tell ourselves we're quitting.

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We just kind of slowly stopped trying.

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And then the goal drifts away and more time passes and

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life just goes on the same.

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So the third Owen, our masterclass this third day.

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Input is really around taking the time to recognize all of the potential

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obstacles that are going to come your way.

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When you begin to pursue something meaningful, you want to lose 10 kilos,

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then you can easily identify the wish you can easily identify the outcome.

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When I lose that 10 kilos, I'll feel happy.

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I'll feel beautiful.

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I'll feel handsome.

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I'll feel athletic, whatever it is, we can find the outcomes.

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But very little of, very, sort of very infrequently do we also

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go well, when I start this.

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You know, I'm going to be going to business lunches, or I'm going to be

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seeing my family every weekend and we always eat all this amazing stuff.

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So we don't recognize the potential obstacles they're going to come.

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And then we don't develop a response plan or response pattern of how

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we're actually going to deal with those things when they come up.

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So, what I want to do with you today is I want to ask you to

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think about what is your wish.

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Identify the driving outcomes underneath it.

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And then let's begin to think about what are all the potential obstacles

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that are going to come your way.

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And this sounds like work.

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Doesn't it.

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Then.

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Often in the journey of personal development and success, people

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just find it hard to do this work.

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It's actually easier to kind of go man, blah, blah.

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I can write the goal.

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I can write a couple outcomes, but you know, This stuff, you

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know, maybe things will happen.

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Maybe they won't, or I really need to do this.

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Well, the research makes it pretty clear that we do.

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That we do need to identify all the possible things that can go wrong and

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that are going to stretch us and test us when we pursue anything meaningful.

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So the first thing is to identify the obstacles.

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The other thing to realize always about obstacles.

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And this is what I think Ryan holiday was getting at in his book.

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The obstacle is the way.

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Is that.

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When obstacles come into our lives, we often resist them.

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Don't worry.

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I mean, we don't want them.

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There's something that we don't want in our life.

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We don't want obstacles.

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We don't want problems.

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But they come.

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And what I want to suggest to you as I have for many, many years is.

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The obstacles we face tend to force us to quit or to blame.

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Ought to be a victim.

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Or they force us to grow and to change.

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Uh, they force us to grow and to change.

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So one of the great things about personal development and goal setting

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is not just that we bring into our lives, things that are meaningful for

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us, but that it also forces us to grow.

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I mean goals by their very nature have to force us to grow because if

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they didn't, they wouldn't be goals.

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We would have everything we want right now, and we wouldn't really

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want to pursue anything else.

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But that's not a human experience is that we all.

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Experience things encounter things that we would love to have in our lives,

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but these obstacles force you to grow.

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Yes, but they're not pleasant.

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Yes.

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We don't want them, but they will force you to become

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creative, adaptive, resilient.

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To be tougher physically, mentally, spiritually.

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So.

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Please take some time today.

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If you haven't done it already, as we work through this process.

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Identify your wish.

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What is it that you want?

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Identify the outcome.

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What are the deeper experiences behind the wish that you're really trying to pursue?

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And then third, I want you to get that journal or go for walking

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at least think about, okay.

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If I'm going to try for X.

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What are all the reasonable obstacles they're going to come my way?

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How can I mitigate them?

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It's basically, what is it?

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Risk management, you know, like, um, uh, risk planning.

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What are we, there's all sorts of different fancy names and job titles.

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These days for organizations that have to.

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Do all this kind of scenario planning, risk planning, risk management.

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What if this happens?

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What if that happens?

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What is the stock market crashes?

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You know, locusts, eat our crops, who knows fill in the blank.

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Right.

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There's always going to be obstacles, but it doesn't mean that we can't think about

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them in advance and be prepared for them.

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So my friend, what are the obstacles you are going to face?

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What are the specific obstacles that you are going to face?

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When you begin to pursue these meaningful wishes, dreams, and goals in your

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life, write them down, get, you know, write them down and say, okay, yep.

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I want to do this, but then this is likely to happen.

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If this happens, then I'm going to try do this.

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If this thing happens, then I'm going to make a decision to do this.

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And this is the kind of effort, energy.

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You know, focus that is required to really move yourself forward.

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All right.

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That's all I wanted to cover today.

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So what have we got?

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Wish we've got outcomes.

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We've got obstacles tomorrow.

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We're going to talk about the P the final step in our four stage masterclass.

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This is not super complex.

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This is relatively straightforward stuff.

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We just got to be reminded of it.

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We've got to do it regularly.

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It's the old saying, you know, like, you know, we, we brush

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our teeth every day, right?

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We don't brush our teeth once and say, well, I'm glad that's done.

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I don't have to do it again.

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We don't have a shower once or a bath and say, well, I'll

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never have to do that again.

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There are some things we need to do every day.

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And with our goal setting, with our wish chasing with our dream

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building, we often need to do these kinds of steps over and over again.

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What do I want, why do I want it?

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What's going to stop me.

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Let's get clear on these things.

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Cause this kind of consciousness, this kind of awareness of the

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mechanisms that drive our success.

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Or a huge part of the puzzle that are gonna move us forward.

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So friends, that's it for me?

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Go and check out those show notes, please make sure you subscribe.

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Get free access to my book, bridging the gap, book me to speak, whatever else I

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can do to help move you guys forward.

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Go check out those show notes.

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My name's Jonathan Doyle tomorrow.

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We're going to do the final step and I'm going to be speaking with you tomorrow.

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