“A lot of parental guilt comes from the expectations parents place on themselves. When they can’t meet them, they assume they have failed — even when they are doing their best.” - Mark

In this episode, June speaks with Mark Lim, Director and Trauma‑Informed Counsellor at The Social Factor, about the powerful weight of parental guilt. He reflects on how guilt grows from unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves, whether physical, financial, or emotional.

Fathers and mothers may experience guilt differently, but the core fear is the same: not being enough. Through honest anecdotes, Mark shows how guilt surfaces in everyday moments, choosing work over a child’s needs, losing patience, or blaming ourselves for our children’s mistakes. Left unaddressed, guilt can become heavy and even inherited across generations. Healing begins with connection before correction, self‑compassion, and relational repair.

When guilt shows up, pause, reconnect with your child, and extend the same grace to yourself that you hope to teach them.

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Life can be overwhelming. Having a listening ear can bring relief, help you feel supported, and improve relationships. Make an appointment with a counsellor today. Fees apply. Find out more www.family.org.sg/counselling.

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