94. When a Group Chat Goes in Circles — And You Leave Feeling Like You’re the Problem

Episode 94 • 31st March 2026 • ADHD Mums • Jane McFadden

If you’ve ever left a group chat

replaying everything you said…

and everything you didn’t…

and somehow landed on

‘that felt off… was that me?’

this episode is for you.

Because this isn’t just about group chats.

Or school committees.

Or awkward conversations that go nowhere.

It’s about what happens when everyone in the room

is solving a different problem…

and no one realises it.

In this episode, we unpack the kind of interaction that looks normal on the surface — calm, polite, ‘reasonable’ — but leaves you carrying it for hours (or days). The replaying, the second-guessing, the quiet shift into ‘I must have handled that wrong.’

And why that feeling doesn’t mean what you think it means.

🧠 What We Cover in This Episode:

Why some conversations go in circles and never actually resolve
What’s really happening when everyone sounds ‘right’ but nothing lands
How different brains track completely different things in the same conversation
Why tension builds even when no one is being openly confrontational
The moment a conversation stops being about the topic — and becomes about identity
Why you leave interactions with a version of yourself you didn’t walk in with
How group chats split into side conversations (and why that regulates people)
The hidden role of fairness, meaning, effort, and threat in communication
Why your brain keeps replaying it later — even when it’s ‘over’
What it actually means when something feels ‘off’ (and why that matters)

💭 This episode is for you if: