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Don't Skip This Part! You are your business!
Episode 412th June 2023 • It's Personal • Carrie Koh
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This may seem obvious, but when we’re working to make an impact with our business, the ripple effect extends far beyond our imagination. Think about Oprah or Beyonce. Their businesses are so aligned with who they are that the reach of their influence is gigantic.

When you tap into that knowledge that your business is you, and you get to do things the way that you want, freedom is created. You get to uncover….What are you made of? What does that mean for your business?

In this episode, I’ll help you:

  • Identify and rewire your thoughts 
  • Stop the cycle of self-sabotage
  • Show up with your own vibrant energy 

It’s time to stop comparing and hiding from the fact that there’s no one out there like you. Own it!

Everyone has authority. Your authority matters! www.monetizeyourauthority.com

My new Find Your Entrepreneural Doppelganger quiz is inside our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/profitablehappyceo

IG: https://www.instagram.com/carrie_e_koh/

Music credit: Like We Do It by Grace Mesa

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Carrie Koh:

Hey, truth seekers, I feel like this episode's gonna be a little

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bit of a p s, a little bit of a public service announcement for all of us,

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quite frankly, because one of the things that is so important when we're looking

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at the impact that we want to create, obviously that impact goes well beyond.

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Us.

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It's, it's that ripple effect.

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It's that, that ripple that extends beyond our imagination.

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But in order to create that ripple, our business has to start with us.

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We are our business, and this is something that, number one, some people away.

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And number two, when they embrace it, they realize what a gift that is.

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And that's where we're gonna dive into today because let's just normalize

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this a little bit because let's look at the entrepreneurs that so many of us.

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admire.

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So I just created this quiz called Find Your Entrepreneurial Doppelganger.

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And it's super fun.

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It's inside profitable, happy c e o if you wanna check it out.

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But when I was doing this, I was really looking at all of these

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amazing women that I look up to and their's strengths and their skillsets

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and, what created their success.

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And it was really, Their uniqueness that they brought to the business, who

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they were is what built their brands.

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And so let's look at Oprah.

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I mean, you know Oprah, who does not love Oprah.

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If you don't love Oprah, I'm just saying this may not be the place for

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you, but Oprah is someone we all can just admire in terms of the massive,

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massive empire that she has built.

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And we love her because she's Oprah, she's vulnerable.

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She's just like us, even though she's a gajillionaire, right?

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But the name of her business is Harpo Productions.

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None of us think of Harpo Productions when we think about Oprah.

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Oprah is Oprah because Oprah is her business.

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Right?

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Let's think about another one.

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How about Ariana Huffington?

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She's the founder of Thrive Global, the Huffington Post.

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Amazing, amazing business owner, and we know her.

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For her passion for rest and rejuvenation and, and the work

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she's done around sleep and how she created a movement around that.

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She is known based on her personal experiences, and that's what informed the

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movement and the impact that she created.

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Let me give you another one.

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Do you know who the faces behind Parkwood Entertainment?

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Neither did I, but it is Queen B Beyonce.

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Oh God, Beyonce again, who does not love Beyonce.

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I cannot.

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She is just like the biggest inspiration.

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But what's interesting about Beyonce is when you look at

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her being her business, right?

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I mean, she's a, she's a performer, so obviously, you know, she is the face of

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her, of her business, but she's highly, highly private and I will never forget.

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I used to watch Oprah, the Oprah show, like literally every day I'd record it.

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I'd come home from work, I'd hop on my elliptical, and I would watch Oprah.

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And I remember when Oprah interviewed Beyonce and Beyonce

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had just started dating Jay-Z.

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And she was so private about it and everybody just wanted to know, right?

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And she's like, Nope, this is part of my life that I'm not gonna share.

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Right.

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And then of course, we all get even more curious.

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But what I love about Beyonce is she is her business and

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everything's on her terms, right?

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She shocks and delights us with all of her, surprise album drops.

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And the way she does it is so aligned with who she is.

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And that's the cool thing you guys about creating a business and about

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creating impact is that when we believe that you are your business, then.

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The cool thing is think about the kind of person you are, right?

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Aren't you the kind of person who keeps going?

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Aren't you the kind of person who goes for what she wants?

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Doesn't ask permission, aren't you the kind of person who gets

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visible even when it's scary?

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So when we realize this, it's like, oh yeah, I am the kind

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of person who can rely on me.

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And let's be honest, there are way too many women out there

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who blame themselves and wonder, you know, what's wrong with me?

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Everyone else is doing the thing and it's just not happening for me.

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And so, you know this, you are, your business concept can go both ways, right?

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When we forget the kind of person we are.

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Then we can get into a spiral, but when we can tap into the fact that you are

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your business and what are you made of, then we can create that impact

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that we've been trying to create.

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So I had a client recently join my, client attraction program, clarity

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to Clients, and every Friday I have everyone share their wins.

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We are always sharing our wins.

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We share it before every coaching call, like it's a super important Part to

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rewire our brain to receive that success.

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And so she was in the group, she was in there for like a week and she's

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like, God, what is wrong with me?

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How come these people have such great wins?

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And, and I haven't been able to do that.

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You know, she'd done all the cookie cutter strategies, the challenges,

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the workshops, you know, she'd read the book, she put herself out

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there, and she was in this cycle.

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She'd get motivated and she'd have these amazing ideas and she'd put 'em

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out there, and then she'd get crickets.

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And then she'd be disappointed and then she'd hide, and then she'd retreat,

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and then she'd take a break and then she'd have to start all over again.

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And you know, she was really relying on this external validation, which

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is comments and likes and people sharing your stuff to ensure

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that she was heard in scene.

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But when we are our business, we don't rely on our audience.

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To make us feel hurt or sane, to make us feel like we belong.

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We know that inherently we are safe to be us, that we do belong.

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And so, you know, when we uncovered her self sabotaging patterns,

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which by the way, I wanna make a point about self sabotage because

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we all have those patterns.

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And really when it boils down to this one definition, When we create

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strategies out of suffering, that is the definition of self-sabotage,

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because when we're in a state of nothing's working, what's wrong with me?

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Okay, I'm gonna push, push, push.

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I'm just gonna do the thing.

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I'm going to do this formula that some coach gave me, and then we

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get the same results, creating something out of suffering.

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Is more suffering.

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And so when we can end our self sabotage by really neutralizing these negative,

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distressing emotions and choosing our state and creating strategies

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from a place of elevation, suddenly our self sabotage patterns go away.

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And so that's what I did with this client.

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And so suddenly, you know, she saw that if I'm my business, How can I create

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the simplicity that I'm dying for?

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How can I create the competency that I know I need?

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How can I take ownership for my emotional management?

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And you know, when you look at those three things and you own that,

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you are your business, just ask yourself, okay, I'm my business.

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How do I want to make this simple?

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Can I have one signature offer?

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Can I just focus on one audience?

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Can I just focus on one platform instead of trying to be all over the internet?

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I'm telling you when we own our business and that we are the face of the

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business, we get to do whatever we want.

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And most of my clients want to simplify.

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And so ask yourself, okay, I'm my business.

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How do I want this to look?

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How simple can I make it right?

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And where's that one piece of Competency that I want?

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This client in particular really had a hard time with sales and she, you know,

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thought sales was icky and was just like, Ugh, I don't know, I feel so pushy.

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And so we really worked on aligning her offer with the results that she had.

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So she really felt it in her bones and she learned the advocacy.

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Based selling methods that I teach inside of Clarity to clients so that

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it's really the definition of sales is service when we come from a place of

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advocacy and permission-based sales.

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And once she mastered that, she started closing clients.

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And once she realized those triggers that would put her into that tailspin,

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into this, like, what is wrong with me?

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Then she was able to, have that emotional management that she had

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been, didn't know she was looking for, quite frankly, but is what helped

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her create more momentum, helped her create faster and better results.

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So, I tell you this story about this client, because I know a

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lot of you relate to this, right?

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A lot of us, you know, have been out there comparing and despairing and, and listen.

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All of that

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is just a symptom of us not owning the fact that we are our business.

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Our priorities are unique, our lifestyle's unique, our perspectives,

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our training, our experience.

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There is no one out there like you with the offer that you have,

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with the mission that you have.

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So when you own that, you are your business.

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You get to tap into that.

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Oprah, Beyonce, Ariana Energy.

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create that impact that you were put on this world to create.

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