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Speaker:hello there boyfriend how are you this fine day
Speaker:I'm really good
Speaker:is it working
Speaker:yes excellent
Speaker:let's not touch shit
Speaker:I'm afraid to ask but I have a great question
Speaker:I don't even know what I was gonna say
Speaker:I'm so disturbed right now
Speaker:we're back it's afraid to ask
Speaker:I got a question for you Doctor Erica oh
Speaker:let me have it so oh
Speaker:every question we've had so far
Speaker:it was very hot
Speaker:I thought you said that wasn't trying to be
Speaker:it really threw me
Speaker:I like perked up
Speaker:I was like playing on my phone
Speaker:I was like oh
Speaker:medical stuff
Speaker:let's go I wasn't well
Speaker:now you're like
Speaker:let me have it
Speaker:I didn't mean it like that
Speaker:you took it that way
Speaker:so every question when we started this podcast
Speaker:I said to you
Speaker:we're gonna ask questions from people
Speaker:I'm gonna put out a tweet or on Instagram
Speaker:I'm gonna say
Speaker:what are your questions for my girlfriend
Speaker:Doctor Erica
Speaker:we'd love to answer them
Speaker:any question you've ever been afraid to ask
Speaker:since then we've done many episodes
Speaker:and every single question has been
Speaker:from a friend of mine
Speaker:there's no shortage of questions you know
Speaker:my friend asked me what to ask you what he goes
Speaker:how do I know I'm good and better
Speaker:not how do I know if I'm good or bad in bed what
Speaker:why does your friend want your girlfriend to answer
Speaker:that because you're a doctor
Speaker:not just because
Speaker:well how am I
Speaker:I'm not a in bed sex person
Speaker:wait you're right yeah
Speaker:he asked if you would haha
Speaker:no I don't even
Speaker:I mean sometimes when I
Speaker:back in the day
Speaker:I would like to admit something to you
Speaker:I feel like I'm not horrible in bed
Speaker:but I feel like there was a time
Speaker:especially when we're younger
Speaker:like I remember a time where
Speaker:I remember a time where the girl wouldn't even come
Speaker:and by that I mean show up
Speaker:like I was just all alone
Speaker:but I remember a time not even realizing that
Speaker:pleasuring a girl
Speaker:of course pleasuring a girl
Speaker:but I never
Speaker:it's you know
Speaker:it's for you
Speaker:women are complicated Erica
Speaker:no and guys hurry and especially when they're
Speaker:we've been over this
Speaker:is that offensive yes
Speaker:what's offensive
Speaker:that I said women are not complicated but
Speaker:sexually why sexually men would you let me just
Speaker:would you agree sexually men are simple
Speaker:would you agree that a man is
Speaker:it's a simple situation
Speaker:like sometimes I'll be at a
Speaker:I've gone to a sex store before and they go oh
Speaker:for for his pleasure
Speaker:like oh special sexy cream
Speaker:you can rub it on her
Speaker:and I'm like
Speaker:just touch my peanut
Speaker:you don't I don't need that special 20 dollar ointment
Speaker:maybe it's because men in general
Speaker:don't spend enough effort or energy or care
Speaker:to make sex pleasurable for their partner
Speaker:what would make you think they would
Speaker:they would need to spend an extra time
Speaker:because women are
Speaker:because they're selfish
Speaker:and they expect just to get off themselves
Speaker:no I'm not saying it's not worth the time
Speaker:I'm so I don't want to come like
Speaker:I'm just saying that it might take more time
Speaker:like you're saying men won't take the time
Speaker:women don't have to take the time
Speaker:I'm not I'm not saying this is a bad or good thing
Speaker:with a woman
Speaker:you just touch the penis it's over
Speaker:a man should in fact
Speaker:it's not over
Speaker:a man should in fact take the time
Speaker:but I'm saying it's a little more complicated
Speaker:right I think it's an associate degree verse
Speaker:like an NBA it's
Speaker:it's gonna take a little
Speaker:you have to you have to be invested
Speaker:women's anatomy hasn't changed
Speaker:seems like it that one thing moves around
Speaker:you know what I'm
Speaker:I don't even wanna
Speaker:I'm you're actually pissing me off
Speaker:oh I'm sorry
Speaker:I'm sorry you pissed my dog off too
Speaker:she's also female but do you
Speaker:I think we should
Speaker:I don't think we're disagreeing
Speaker:I think that every woman deserves to be
Speaker:I think every woman
Speaker:deserves to be satisfied in the bedroom
Speaker:I think some guys don't know what they're doing
Speaker:and they're not trying to be assholes
Speaker:I think some of them are self serving
Speaker:and it excited to get off themselves and don't care to
Speaker:then reciprocate for their partner
Speaker:and that's what I find infuriating
Speaker:I agree with that too
Speaker:I think some are
Speaker:some aren't though
Speaker:I think some guys just don't know yes
Speaker:this is a generalization
Speaker:but what I don't like is how many times I have heard
Speaker:women are so complicated or oh
Speaker:I couldn't get girl off cause she was so hard
Speaker:and how about you don't know what the fuck you're doing
Speaker:yeah and I have proof of that okay yeah
Speaker:they're honestly you
Speaker:you ready for this yeah okay
Speaker:so there's a study by Indiana University
Speaker:Chapman University and Claremont Graduate University
Speaker:can I pause you for a second
Speaker:what I fucking believe you and I know you're right
Speaker:before the study
Speaker:so this is back in 2,017
Speaker:so they study the proportion of people
Speaker:who usually orgasm
Speaker:based on the partner they were with okay
Speaker:so heterosexual women right
Speaker:how often do you think they orgasmed with sex
Speaker:per percentage wise
Speaker:percentage wise
Speaker:I
Speaker:I would have to say 100 if it's with me oh
Speaker:you mean in general
Speaker:oh my god in general well
Speaker:that's another problem I would say a okay
Speaker:I would say a third 30 33.3% 65%
Speaker:which is actually I believe yeah
Speaker:per event or in general with his partner
Speaker:that seems high to me yeah
Speaker:agree agree agree
Speaker:but this is what's interesting
Speaker:what was the percentage of lesbian
Speaker:people who reported orgasming with sex
Speaker:186 not even 86
Speaker:21% increase
Speaker:I'm angry at the 14% of women that were like
Speaker:I know how to do this and I'm not just not gonna
Speaker:the lesbian that doesn't let have her partner orgasm
Speaker:oh my gosh you're mad at the other woman
Speaker:not the man
Speaker:that's interesting
Speaker:who couldn't do it 21% even
Speaker:but she knows
Speaker:I'm just saying like
Speaker:I'm just saying in the case of the guy
Speaker:we don't know if he knows what he's doing
Speaker:he might be an asshole
Speaker:he might just not be well versed in the 21% discrepancy
Speaker:with a male partner versus a female partner yeah
Speaker:do you think they also interviewed bisexual women
Speaker:nice and part of this well
Speaker:part of the argument was that
Speaker:I don't know you threw me with
Speaker:I don't know why I made that noise
Speaker:so bisexual means just to be clear
Speaker:this is somebody who bisexual
Speaker:this is someone that pays for sex
Speaker:no it's a BI
Speaker:I'm a it's a person that's with
Speaker:a bisexual woman would be with a man or a woman
Speaker:that fascinates me
Speaker:you wish how hard it would be
Speaker:to have to look at everyone's asses they walked by
Speaker:so bisexual women were 66% close to heterosexual women
Speaker:bisexual men 88% wow gay men
Speaker:hundred and ten 89%
Speaker:interesting
Speaker:here you go ready
Speaker:the proportion of people who usually orgasms from sex
Speaker:heterosexual male
Speaker:now remember
Speaker:heterosexual female was 65% right
Speaker:what percentage of heterosexual males
Speaker:reported orgasming every time of sex
Speaker:this is high to be high 90s 95% 95 30% difference
Speaker:it's not fair
Speaker:I don't want not just is it not fair
Speaker:it's something that we need to talk about okay
Speaker:it's problematic
Speaker:I would like to apologize
Speaker:it's also expected that women are difficult
Speaker:they're complicated
Speaker:it's harder to have them achieve orgasm
Speaker:if you have a partner who really cares
Speaker:and we actually a Simon
Speaker:Society a standard where like both genders matter
Speaker:there wouldn't be a 30% discrepancy
Speaker:I'll bet I have something that's not in your study
Speaker:that's true
Speaker:I'll bet if we went one night stand
Speaker:I would say heterosexual
Speaker:man orgasming close to 100% of the time
Speaker:heterosexual woman were so low
Speaker:because the guy has nothing
Speaker:he doesn't know if he's ever gonna see her again
Speaker:so he's just like
Speaker:you know what
Speaker:Andy doesn't know her body
Speaker:so he's like yeah
Speaker:but relationship
Speaker:I feel like higher chance cause he's trying to
Speaker:cause he's gonna see her see her again
Speaker:but he he would wanna learn and and satisfy her yes
Speaker:well actually that ties into the study too
Speaker:they found a very strong correlation with the
Speaker:higher instances of oral sex
Speaker:or the higher instances of reported orgasms
Speaker:and more satisfying sex as far as
Speaker:a clear pattern
Speaker:but there was only one
Speaker:demographic where oral sex did not change
Speaker:their rate of orgasming
Speaker:women heterosexual men
Speaker:so the guys still they're like hey
Speaker:whatever you I'm in it's gonna happen
Speaker:that makes perfect sense to me
Speaker:you know what I used to think
Speaker:and I'm just saying I'm ignorant
Speaker:when I said women were complicated
Speaker:uh I didn't mean that as a as an insult in any way
Speaker:I meant like it might be harder for a guy to
Speaker:he should learn what to do
Speaker:but it might be harder
Speaker:I'll be honest with you
Speaker:I thought that having sex with a woman
Speaker:just regular old it's going in there
Speaker:it's coming out of there
Speaker:here comes again
Speaker:that she loved that and that might be good enough what
Speaker:just regular sex in there out there
Speaker:I thought that a girl might go like
Speaker:I loved that
Speaker:you don't think so
Speaker:my friend yeah yeah
Speaker:who's older than me
Speaker:he goes always
Speaker:I had sex with her for so long last night and I said
Speaker:what do you get
Speaker:he goes with he goes
Speaker:everyone's kind of bragging about his night of sex
Speaker:because we had sex all night and I go
Speaker:what are you fucking doing all night
Speaker:there should be
Speaker:that'd be like saying I watched a movie for seven hours
Speaker:isn't there an end
Speaker:yeah let's end this thing
Speaker:I I'm like a 5K girl myself
Speaker:not really in it for the Marathon
Speaker:I love that
Speaker:I love that
Speaker:I don't need to be having sex and I reach over
Speaker:I grab a Gatorade
Speaker:no from some guy uh uh
Speaker:5K it's longer is not always better nope
Speaker:when it comes to now
Speaker:you know what though
Speaker:don't guys talk about sex with other guys like
Speaker:how would that have just now come up for the first time
Speaker:I think that's interesting
Speaker:well that he thought this was like a stamina thing
Speaker:like a bragging right
Speaker:when really it's kind of like a hmm
Speaker:maybe it didn't
Speaker:you didn't do what you should have done
Speaker:I was I was gonna say this something before I met you
Speaker:I don't think I was very good in bed
Speaker:and I think what
Speaker:what I think what I was
Speaker:what might have been perceived as sometimes selfish
Speaker:but I think that came from a lack of communication
Speaker:or uh I didn't have sex a lot though
Speaker:that was part of it too
Speaker:there's not a lot of sex
Speaker:hold on hold on
Speaker:what I'm so perplexed by this entire thing
Speaker:how did I suddenly make you good in bed
Speaker:communication
Speaker:who said your
Speaker:oh fuck hmm
Speaker:I'll just I'll edit out those noises I just made
Speaker:this is a very subjective statement
Speaker:you personally did not feel
Speaker:good as a sexual partner until me
Speaker:why is that
Speaker:because I compliment you
Speaker:or because you genuinely didn't
Speaker:what are you using as your metric
Speaker:she would boo afterwards oh no she
Speaker:she would um
Speaker:my my sex was a lot like my comedy shows nobody came
Speaker:nobody came no
Speaker:in all honesty
Speaker:nobody's coming
Speaker:that's funny
Speaker:in all honesty
Speaker:it was a combination of what you just said
Speaker:I never got
Speaker:I'll be honest with you
Speaker:when I was in my big
Speaker:when I was married
Speaker:I never got
Speaker:I don't think I got a lot of positive reinforcement
Speaker:okay I don't think I got a lot of like
Speaker:wow you got that TV show
Speaker:you're doing great
Speaker:even that stuff
Speaker:everything felt like
Speaker:I feel like I didn't get a lot of support
Speaker:and then it was also
Speaker:yes I don't remember ever talking about how it went sex
Speaker:I don't remember ever going like
Speaker:that was good or that was
Speaker:you and I have had discussions early on
Speaker:where we were both like
Speaker:we got to work on this
Speaker:this needs a little bit of work
Speaker:right I've never had bad sex with you though
Speaker:that's why it surprised me
Speaker:I didn't feel like you
Speaker:like we're like most improved
Speaker:yeah not I was never bad
Speaker:but I feel like the level of communication
Speaker:yeah that you have makes me
Speaker:I was like oh jeez
Speaker:then that makes it so much better
Speaker:and so that's why I was bad
Speaker:and then also just
Speaker:I guess just not whatever
Speaker:not doing a lot
Speaker:but that's all
Speaker:so you're saying
Speaker:I think women should
Speaker:it should happen every time for them right
Speaker:it should should that that percentage should go higher
Speaker:yeah do you think a lot of guys are like
Speaker:we don't have that kind of time
Speaker:like it's is it cause it takes longer
Speaker:sometimes it takes quite a while for a man to achieve
Speaker:orgasm true
Speaker:doesn't even seem like an achievement to me
Speaker:I appreciate that verbiage
Speaker:I feel like it's so easy
Speaker:you're right
Speaker:sometimes it does take a little while
Speaker:good point yeah
Speaker:you're right
Speaker:and so I'm just trying to say
Speaker:what are we learning from this
Speaker:we're learning that guys have to be less selfish
Speaker:yeah that's what I would say
Speaker:this is a generalization
Speaker:this does not go for everyone
Speaker:but in my experience in women's health
Speaker:and what I hear day in and day out is
Speaker:I have guilt that I don't have sex with my partner
Speaker:I am not that's strong of a sex drive of a woman
Speaker:there's something wrong with me
Speaker:and then I asked him
Speaker:why don't you wanna have sex
Speaker:like do you masturbate yeah
Speaker:why don't you wanna have sex
Speaker:what doesn't feel good
Speaker:or it hurts
Speaker:or he doesn't do anything that feels good
Speaker:I've dry he never stimulates me to where I want to have
Speaker:penetrative sex
Speaker:well that what the fuck
Speaker:then no wonder you don't have a sex drive
Speaker:sex isn't good
Speaker:your partner is not meeting your needs
Speaker:that's problematic
Speaker:yeah so yeah
Speaker:when I hear that a lot
Speaker:and truthfully
Speaker:I hear it every day almost
Speaker:if I really talk about
Speaker:if I have a female coming in about sexual complaints
Speaker:yeah it's usually that
Speaker:the guilt that they have
Speaker:that they don't wanna have sex
Speaker:not the sex sucks
Speaker:I think that's very interesting
Speaker:I've never had a patient
Speaker:a male patient come in and say
Speaker:I feel really guilty
Speaker:that I don't want to have sex with my wife enough
Speaker:they will say that
Speaker:but when I follow up that they don't want to yeah
Speaker:they're not uh
Speaker:they don't have a strong libido
Speaker:yeah I do the same exact questions
Speaker:well what is
Speaker:how is your sex life
Speaker:how do you feel
Speaker:how are your orgasms
Speaker:are you having a difficult time with erection
Speaker:ejaculation or both
Speaker:I've never heard him
Speaker:heard a man once say
Speaker:well the sex with my wife is bad
Speaker:she doesn't fulfill me like I like
Speaker:she doesn't do things to me that feel good
Speaker:so it hurts
Speaker:it actually hurts me
Speaker:so I don't wanna have sex
Speaker:or it doesn't arouse me
Speaker:I don't think I'm saying anything
Speaker:controversial by saying you're very attractive
Speaker:and sometimes when I see you at work
Speaker:and I see you dressed up in your doctor scrubs
Speaker:it's even more so
Speaker:have you ever had a guy come in and say
Speaker:I can't get an erection
Speaker:and then you're like
Speaker:what is that yeah
Speaker:right in which you have
Speaker:really yeah
Speaker:like a man got in it
Speaker:cause I was saying it not even as a joke
Speaker:like it's not that your penis doesn't work
Speaker:it's where your mind's at
Speaker:yes well that's actually
Speaker:something that I do have um
Speaker:it is a difficult conversation
Speaker:it's very hard for a male patient
Speaker:to open up to me more than my female patients about sex
Speaker:you know what else is really hard
Speaker:my dick gross
Speaker:so I do talk to them about
Speaker:um ah sorry
Speaker:when a guy says
Speaker:I cannot achieve or
Speaker:maintain an erection achieve
Speaker:I get it now medically
Speaker:achieve is mean
Speaker:we get it up there like I put
Speaker:I put up a tent correct
Speaker:maintain is like hey
Speaker:if there's a
Speaker:can it stay up all night
Speaker:yeah okay or have
Speaker:successful ejaculation right
Speaker:cause there's three different steps that
Speaker:men struggle with
Speaker:not always all of them
Speaker:get it up keep it up
Speaker:finish it up right
Speaker:so then I ask them well
Speaker:what happens when you masturbate
Speaker:can you masturbate
Speaker:yeah and they go
Speaker:yeah of course
Speaker:and it's never dawned on them
Speaker:but that's proud that the
Speaker:that's the very thing
Speaker:it's the very thing that's messing it up
Speaker:so when I do have a patient
Speaker:and you have to be very
Speaker:very specific about this
Speaker:if you have a patient who has a hard time achieving
Speaker:sorry that's the word
Speaker:that's just what we use as doctors
Speaker:I like it if you have a patient
Speaker:who has a difficult time getting an erection
Speaker:yep and they say
Speaker:I can't ever get an erection
Speaker:then we look at systemic problems
Speaker:complications with diabetes
Speaker:coronary artery
Speaker:or other peripheral vascular disease
Speaker:I should say um
Speaker:problems with hyper and hypotension okay
Speaker:you have to look at a systemic work up of why right
Speaker:perhaps they have some type of peripheral
Speaker:neuropathic ailment
Speaker:maybe their porn is not good enough
Speaker:I'm just kind of chiming in
Speaker:that's the other thing though
Speaker:if they can have an erection
Speaker:with themselves
Speaker:they can have an orgasm
Speaker:but with their partner they can't
Speaker:we know it's a
Speaker:relationship thing
Speaker:and a lot of them look at me like
Speaker:oh holy shit
Speaker:I never thought of that
Speaker:and that's when you have to work on it
Speaker:and a lot of times
Speaker:patients it
Speaker:it just comes down to um
Speaker:usually major depressive disorder
Speaker:generalized anxiety disorder
Speaker:do I go here
Speaker:some Viagra
Speaker:or do I sell it
Speaker:cause the Viagra
Speaker:seems like we're not getting to the root of this thing
Speaker:no you have to treat the actual underlying
Speaker:problem and not just give them a band aid
Speaker:hmm right cause there's probably a larger issue at hand
Speaker:yeah that's tough though
Speaker:but then you two try to foster a better
Speaker:relationship
Speaker:and then it's really cool to have a patient
Speaker:come back and be like
Speaker:oh my God my sex life is amazing
Speaker:does that happen
Speaker:yeah well that's good
Speaker:what do they go to therapy
Speaker:they try to
Speaker:maybe they quit the porn
Speaker:well we either fix the underlying etiology
Speaker:which is great
Speaker:because it can sometimes be a life saving
Speaker:measure if they have uncontrolled diabetes
Speaker:and didn't even know about it
Speaker:so that's two birds
Speaker:one stone or we do
Speaker:I work on uh
Speaker:counseling or marriage
Speaker:therapy or something to help in that department
Speaker:and it's really
Speaker:cool to see people come on the other side
Speaker:happy successful
Speaker:and have great sex lives problems
Speaker:we don't talk about it
Speaker:yeah men in
Speaker:particular are very embarrassed
Speaker:to share with me that
Speaker:they have a hard time with that
Speaker:I'm imagine
Speaker:they are yeah
Speaker:I would rather see a me
Speaker:I think I'd rather see a male doctor
Speaker:I don't see anybody
Speaker:I don't want to talk about
Speaker:anybody yeah
Speaker:because then your partner
Speaker:would wonder
Speaker:was it them
Speaker:do you do you have people say
Speaker:I have a question for a friend
Speaker:but they can't really
Speaker:because you can't prescribe
Speaker:medicine for said friend
Speaker:and so um do
Speaker:you have the questions
Speaker:all the time
Speaker:and I also get a lot of the
Speaker:I'm coming in for a cough
Speaker:and then my secretary
Speaker:rooms that are
Speaker:get some ready
Speaker:and then my Ma grabs them
Speaker:and they also say yep
Speaker:I still have that call
Speaker:and I prep the chart
Speaker:and I'm ready to like
Speaker:do an X ray
Speaker:or get primary function test or
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:do some type of sorometry
Speaker:right to check their lung function
Speaker:and then they're like
Speaker:oh it's not my lungs
Speaker:it's my dick
Speaker:oh yeah yeah
Speaker:and it's difficult
Speaker:because I prep the whole thing
Speaker:I get ready
Speaker:and then I have
Speaker:one minute left
Speaker:because I've already gotten everything
Speaker:ready to treat
Speaker:a lung condition
Speaker:and work up
Speaker:and look in their history for what I need to do
Speaker:and it has nothing to do with that
Speaker:you may not know this
Speaker:as a doctor
Speaker:I understand that frustration that you have
Speaker:I'll bet those appointments
Speaker:might even take a longer
Speaker:cause you prep
Speaker:for something different
Speaker:as a man a general rule is
Speaker:you wanna tell as few people as possible
Speaker:that your dick doesn't work
Speaker:yeah but not
Speaker:with a doctor's office
Speaker:you have to be trans
Speaker:but you don't wanna tell
Speaker:the lady at the front
Speaker:you tell the guy in the way
Speaker:you're sitting in the waiting room
Speaker:and they come out and go
Speaker:hey whoever
Speaker:Jim whose dick
Speaker:doesn't work
Speaker:come on back
Speaker:I'll give you one first
Speaker:bring your limp dick
Speaker:Jim and your jacket
Speaker:I'll give you a free pass there
Speaker:but that's also gives me how much appointment
Speaker:time I have to set aside for each patient
Speaker:so if they lie from the beginning and say something
Speaker:I might only give them 10 minutes
Speaker:when they really need a half an hour
Speaker:yeah how long you give her
Speaker:my dick don't work
Speaker:how much time am I getting
Speaker:well it really depends on the path of physiology
Speaker:everybody's different
Speaker:and that's the tricky part
Speaker:how do you fix that
Speaker:how do you I just told you
Speaker:you don't you don't touch it though do you
Speaker:no you just ask
Speaker:I'm a professional
Speaker:I'm not to be
Speaker:I know you know way more than me
Speaker:but I feel like touching it might fix it Jamie
Speaker:I'm just saying we could control over those variables
Speaker:if you touch it and it works
Speaker:we got we got underlying problems
Speaker:I'm a poor certified physician
Speaker:there's no touchy
Speaker:touchy yeah
Speaker:well there is
Speaker:what do you mean
Speaker:when's the last time you touched a penis
Speaker:that wasn't mine
Speaker:honestly yes
Speaker:it's been a while
Speaker:okay what about Vagina oh 2 days ago wow
Speaker:okay what no
Speaker:cause you're mainly it's more women stuff yeah
Speaker:I do women stuff
Speaker:oh thank God
Speaker:uh no I mean thousands
Speaker:mm hmm thousands
Speaker:mm men probably fewer than
Speaker:fewer than a couple hundred probably
Speaker:okay with residency and everything wow
Speaker:well I did a whole month of urology
Speaker:I mean that's all you did right
Speaker:but now maybe one male genital exam every couple months
Speaker:okay I do a lot more rectal exams than general exams
Speaker:wow you ever see a
Speaker:you ever see you ever see like a
Speaker:a vagina and you just want to go like
Speaker:fuck this job yeah yes
Speaker:yeah some people well
Speaker:you have to also remember
Speaker:I'm not always doing just screening exams right
Speaker:and not everyone showers
Speaker:yes I was just thinking about that
Speaker:how sometimes people don't shower
Speaker:they'll come see me at the end of the day and it's
Speaker:it's unfortunate so yes
Speaker:it's a difficult job and I have to treat it with tact
Speaker:if someone has a 9 to 5
Speaker:like to see that vagina before 9
Speaker:if you know what I'm saying
Speaker:I will say this
Speaker:I'm a human
Speaker:and my nose is not immune to horrendous odors or
Speaker:violent car crash scenes in my office
Speaker:and unfortunately
Speaker:do you think that I like the fact that people shave now
Speaker:and that's a trend
Speaker:yeah back in the day
Speaker:people didn't shave
Speaker:that had to be a lot more cause you're talking about
Speaker:it's like wearing a winter coat and working all day
Speaker:you know what I'm saying
Speaker:there's some warmth in there
Speaker:I also think pornography used to have
Speaker:they used to be like the
Speaker:the big bush
Speaker:which I'm I'm glad we kind of got out of that fit
Speaker:I always felt like pornography
Speaker:when there's like a big bush
Speaker:it's like when you
Speaker:have you ever gone to the zoo with your
Speaker:with your friends and um
Speaker:all the animals are hiding behind rocks
Speaker:oh my God and you go
Speaker:where's the polar bear
Speaker:and they always find that rock and you go
Speaker:maybe you shouldn't put a polar bear sized rock
Speaker:in the polar bear exhibit
Speaker:do you know what a Merkin is
Speaker:type in no I'm a
Speaker:I'm an American type it in
Speaker:m U R K I N
Speaker:it sounds like what a Donald Trump supporter
Speaker:calls themselves oh boy
Speaker:I'm gonna wait for this then
Speaker:m U R K I N
Speaker:I think so or maybe it's m E R and I'm googling it yeah
Speaker:yeah or I'm guessing uh
Speaker:Merkin Merkin Merkin
Speaker:Son of a bitch
Speaker:what did you make me
Speaker:this is now in my internet history
Speaker:I'm looking at a picture of yeah
Speaker:I'm looking at a picture of what looks like
Speaker:let me guess
Speaker:it's an old man holding a case right
Speaker:it's like a black and white or a sepia
Speaker:brown and white one no
Speaker:let me hit images
Speaker:I see a triangular yeah
Speaker:fur I don't see a man with a case
Speaker:are you suggesting that
Speaker:there's a man that used to sell these door to door
Speaker:he's got a case like watches
Speaker:okay because these are essentially pubic
Speaker:they're two pays wigs
Speaker:they're two pays for a vulva son of a bitch
Speaker:they found that it was more elegant
Speaker:more attractive
Speaker:and also concealed
Speaker:in a fashion that maybe even normal people care didn't
Speaker:this is incredible
Speaker:this was back
Speaker:this is a while ago
Speaker:I want to say over
Speaker:over a century ago
Speaker:I don't know if it gives you the date on there
Speaker:can I tell you what it says on Wikipedia
Speaker:hmm so um Merkin uh
Speaker:is a woman's pubic wig worn for nude stage appearances
Speaker:and by women originally after shaving
Speaker:their pubic hair to eliminate lice yes
Speaker:or for other reasons
Speaker:I know some of those reasons
Speaker:and now often used for a fashion reason
Speaker:I'm trying to find
Speaker:when these were popular
Speaker:oh geez 16 17 yeah
Speaker:I was gonna say it was a long time ago it was um
Speaker:a lot of it
Speaker:if it had to do with prostitution
Speaker:yeah and eliminating
Speaker:hair to eliminate lice was a very real thing
Speaker:but to start
Speaker:the woman to be attractive
Speaker:they didn't find shaving attractive
Speaker:because that was almost like
Speaker:you were getting rid of the bad stuff back then
Speaker:so gotcha the lice
Speaker:so they use this as a concealment
Speaker:and found it to be attractive
Speaker:now on the contrary
Speaker:I actually do prefer
Speaker:and it's it's to each their own
Speaker:but for cleanliness reasons
Speaker:I think that some type of grooming is his helpful
Speaker:for patients
Speaker:whenever I'm with a girl and um
Speaker:oh God and she's like uh yeah
Speaker:I like to grow it
Speaker:I like to grow it
Speaker:I really go I saw lice
Speaker:there's a nice guy we better
Speaker:you know how to get
Speaker:get rid of those
Speaker:sorry um
Speaker:wow it would work
Speaker:these others like I happen to have a razor right here
Speaker:my lice prevention kit that I brought with me
Speaker:if you want me to
Speaker:um this happened in the uh 1450s
Speaker:I told you it was a long time ago
Speaker:I said over a century
Speaker:I guess I was off
Speaker:you're so disappointed in me right now well
Speaker:so I think the important thing is hygiene
Speaker:and back then people like never took showers yeah
Speaker:they freaking had you know
Speaker:that's why guys had like
Speaker:this little crew chief handkerchief thingies and why
Speaker:pockets for to blow their nose
Speaker:so like an often times yeah
Speaker:but also they would sent it with Cologne and perfume
Speaker:and walking past when women would have them as well
Speaker:they would hold it to their noses
Speaker:so they didn't smell the people walking past really
Speaker:it was a common belief that you had normal
Speaker:essential oils in your body that were protective
Speaker:for immunological reasons
Speaker:and also for warding off any pathogens
Speaker:viruses the plague
Speaker:scary stuff
Speaker:and if you wash off that
Speaker:you're washing off your health
Speaker:so people very rarely bathed
Speaker:and they would have a scented garment
Speaker:to actually not have to smell the other person
Speaker:can you imagine having sex with someone who like
Speaker:smell so bad
Speaker:you had to have like
Speaker:a fucking handkerchief with Cologne on it
Speaker:cause they oh
Speaker:were stinky
Speaker:I'll still do it
Speaker:but that is disgusting no
Speaker:no I'm surprised that we just didn't like
Speaker:fall off the face of the earth
Speaker:yeah yeah yeah
Speaker:this um it also says
Speaker:the Merkin was sometimes used
Speaker:this is just absolutely horrible
Speaker:the Merkin was sometimes used by sex workers
Speaker:who would wear the Merkin to cover up
Speaker:signs of a disease
Speaker:such as syphilis
Speaker:oh yeah cause you figure
Speaker:can you imagine that
Speaker:that's why whenever I'm with
Speaker:a sex worker and they have pubic hair
Speaker:I tug on it oh my God
Speaker:I give it a tug
Speaker:is this attached
Speaker:I was with a sex worker once
Speaker:stop her pubic hair
Speaker:there was a receipt stable to it I go hey
Speaker:that's not real
Speaker:there's a tag on there
Speaker:you got what are you trying to hide
Speaker:is syphilis one of those
Speaker:uh oh my God
Speaker:is it curable
Speaker:is syphilis curable
Speaker:yes is it mm hmm
Speaker:actually with a very common um
Speaker:antibiotic um
Speaker:a form of penicillin can actually help treat that
Speaker:the problem is there's um
Speaker:four stages of syphilis
Speaker:hopefully she can get like a rash
Speaker:you know the first stage is the best
Speaker:getting it right Jamie
Speaker:coming up on the next episode of afraid to ask
Speaker:what is the dirtiest part of a hotel room
Speaker:including all the items
Speaker:oh I know this
Speaker:I know this
Speaker:I watched the segment on it
Speaker:I think I do
Speaker:you have the answers
Speaker:I mean I think I know it
Speaker:without looking out
Speaker:you have like a top
Speaker:like three or four
Speaker:I'm gonna look it up
Speaker:but we did this I know it
Speaker:I know it I know it
Speaker:you know what
Speaker:the no wash movement started with what hair
Speaker:hair oh what part of your body that washing hair
Speaker:so not clothes but hair well okay
Speaker:so I have thoughts on that though
Speaker:because a lot of people overwash their hair
Speaker:yeah so there actually is like a sweet spot
Speaker:you know that is yeah
Speaker:sometimes it's hard to find a sweet spot on the line
Speaker:sometimes
