I want to talk about how important it is to go after what you believe your life story is supposed to be. It's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day and forget about our long-term goals, but we need to remember why we started in the first place. We need to keep pushing towards our dreams, even if we face obstacles along the way. Each season of life and motherhood brings new challenges and opportunities, and it's up to you to find the beauty in each one. Embrace the journey and learn from your experiences.

What you'll hear in this episode:

[1:20] How important it is to go after what you believe your life story is supposed to be.

[3:35] It’s your job to always be working on what’s next for you.

[5:30] Your job right now is to just be busy living the way you believe you should be living.

[7:30] Your job isn’t to live life perfectly, your job is to live life the way that you need to in this season.

[9:10] Your lifetime job is to find beauty in each season.

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Kelsey Smith 0:10

Welcome to mama has goals, your weekly reminder that you shouldn't have to sacrifice your dreams to take on the role of mom. I'm Kelsey Smith, mom of two boys, wife, an entrepreneur who's passionate about helping other moms current and aspiring to reimagine mom life. I'm bringing you the resources, support and relatability to debunk that limiting belief that you may have about your ability to achieve your goals while raising a human. We're covering everything from mom guilt, marriage, relationships, careers, finances, mental health, physical health, you name it, your life doesn't have to fully shift once you become a mom, you can have it all. And we'll show you how.

Kelsey Smith 1:14

Was having a squirrel moment the other day where I ended up and down some hole in the Instagram real world. And I found this couple that is like in the circus together somewhere in Dubai or something like that. And they do like acrobats and really cool crazy things. And I was just loving her page and what she was sharing. And it made me just think about how important it is to go after what you believe your life story is supposed to be. Because I can only imagine that she has had people in her life that have been like, you're going to join the circus, and you're going to marry this guy from the circus and what's your life going to be. And while I hope that no one has questioned that journey for her, I can imagine that that has likely happened a time or two. And it reminded me how important it is that our job for our lives for our identity is for you to figure out what story you want to write for yourself, it's not your job to do it for anyone else. It's not your job to do it for anything else. It is your job to never stop living and figuring out who you are meant to be. And the life you should live your journey, what you're supposed to do. The story that you're supposed to leave behind can only be figured out lived and actually lived out by you. You're the only one. And you have to listen to that intuition inside of you. You have to get really curious figuring out what your possibilities are. And there is no right answer. And it doesn't have to look like a circus performer. It doesn't have to look like a giant big business owner, it could be as being home spending time with your family. That is such important work. You staying home and being present. It could be showing up in other people's lives as a teacher, as a leader, as an executor, and implementer it could be filling a void in any other way that you have in your own life, someone else's vision or anything else. But the only right answer is that you keep trying till you go, this is my thing. And it could be your thing for now, it might not be your thing forever. You may get started, you may be doing these things. And you may be like, You know what, that was really cool for that season. And it's led me to where I'm going next. But it's your job to always be working on what is next for you with guidance and advice when you want it looking for a solution and answers. And you know, they say success leaves clues. So following in the footsteps of maybe someone that's doing something similar to what you may be interested in. But at the end of the day, you have to be content with what is right for you. There's no right answer. There's no one way to approach life. I don't know how many different ways to say that. But there are things that are on your heart. Or you may be feeling super happy and content. If that's the case, then I am so happy for you and you are doing so amazing. So be is so excited about where you're at. And when things start to creep in. If you're like man, am I doing enough that person is doing that over there? Am I really down the right path? You're the only person that can answer that question. You're the only person that knows if you're doing what you're supposed to be doing. But your job the the idea of living is to keep living to keep considering what the opportunities are to keep considering what is right for you. And during the same, you know, scroll hole is some people call it and I like to adopt is I saw this other woman that was like over 100 years old in the gym, and she was talking about how she loves to just go to the gym each day, it's her place to really connect with herself prioritize her health, I am sure that she may have received different opinions, she may be, you know, perceive different things that she should be doing differently. But the fact is, she is now over 100 years old, and she knows what feels good for her. And did that look different? Probably 50 years ago, probably it probably looked different. I don't know her, I don't know for sure. But you may look different in 50 years, you may look different in five years, 10 years, one year. But your job right now is to just be busy living in whatever way you believe you should be living right now. So I think back to some of the choices that I've made in my past, and what I do things differently. Now if I knew I would be here. And so let me give you an example, right now in pursuing entrepreneurship and building out this business. And if I had known that I was going to be doing this now, I 18, I may have made different decisions, I may have looked for different mentorship, I may have pursued different jobs. I had a business degree. So while that's relatable, I could have taken that same time learning tech and more entrepreneurship business. Rather than getting my degree, I could have used that money to go towards a business rather than my degree. But I don't know that I would go back and do it differently. Because in that season, that was exactly what I needed for the version of my life that I could see in that time. So my job at that point in time was to show up the way that I needed to for the life that I visioned at that point in time, which I did. And so part of that looked like survival. Part of that looked like getting a degree. Part of that looked like figuring out who I wanted to be. And I don't know that I could be where I am today. If I didn't take the path the way that I did. Now, yeah, you can look back and say, Well, if I knew I was going to be doing this, it would have been easier would have saved me time, money, effort, whatever it is, if I had done it differently, that's probably the case in multiple scenarios in your life. You know, we talked about parenting here, there's many things in parenting that you can go back and say, Yeah, I probably would have done that differently. But if you didn't do it the way that you did, you wouldn't have learned. And you wouldn't have had that experience to maybe do it differently next time. So this doesn't mean that you're always going to make the best perfect right choice for your life in the overall big picture. So your job isn't to live life perfectly. Your job is to live life full out the way that you need to in this season for where you believe that you're going. And do it unapologetically it with confidence to the best of your ability. Because I know it's easy to say, Oh, just be confident and show up for your life the way you want to. But you have to check in with yourself create, maybe it's a net of friendship and network a people to lift you up and support you. Maybe it's a system of getting outside reading, listening to podcasts to know that you are capable, worthy and going to succeed. But it's up to you to define that success. So you may fail, you may look back and be like, Man, I really wish I had done that differently, worked with a different partner for my goals, went to a different job, maybe showed up a different way for that project that I was working on. And maybe I wish I spent more time with my kids. Maybe I wish that I had pursued my career more rather than stayed home with my kids. There's no right answer. But it's your job to get really focused on each season, saying, This is where I'm at, this is what I'm doing, I'm confident to the best of my ability in this season. And I'm going to enjoy this. And I'm going to pursue this and I'm gonna go full out in this in this season, and see where it leads me. And know whether I'm performing in the circus, or I'm waking up and hanging out with my kids every day. That's your journey, and be so proud and so excited about your journey. Because at the end of the day, as far as most of us know, we only get one full journey. So how you live that out in each season in each way. Let it be fun, let it be light. Let it be a beautiful story that's unfolding even when there's hard days because beautiful doesn't always mean just super positive 100% of the time. Beautiful means finding the beauty in each situation. So, again, your life job is to never stop living and to figure out who you are meant to be in the life that you should live and what it looks like and eat Chapter in each season. So I can't wait to hear if that means you're stepping into a new role. If you're pursuing a business, if you're becoming that Pinterest Mom, if you're staying home and hanging out with your kids, if you're joining the circus, or anything in between, but you can do whatever you want to do. And I don't know when we stop remembering that it might take support resources time. But at the end of the day, there's very little that you can't do in some form in some way, or be a part of what you want to do in some form in some way. So you might not be the Acrobat in the circus. If for some reason your body in time and whatnot doesn't allow for that. But maybe you can be a part of a circus in a different way. Sending you so much love. Always good to chat with you. We'll talk soon.

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