The cessation of communication from our loved ones can evoke feelings of abandonment and confusion. This episode delves deeply into the reasons why such a silence may occur, asserting that it is not indicative of their departure or abandonment. Instead, it is often a reflection of our own evolution and acceptance in the grieving process. I emphasize that rather than viewing this lack of communication as a loss, it may signify a transition towards a healthier understanding of our relationship with those who have passed. Through this exploration, we aim to provide clarity and comfort, reminding listeners that their loved ones remain connected, albeit in a different manner than before.

Communication with departed loved ones often ceases, leading the bereaved to question the reasons behind this abrupt silence. Throughout this episode of 'Pillars of Grief', we explore the multifaceted nature of such experiences, emphasizing that the cessation of contact is not indicative of abandonment. Rather, it is essential to understand that the dynamics of these spiritual connections can evolve. As individuals navigate their grief, they may find themselves moving towards acceptance, which in turn alters their reliance on constant communication with those who have passed. It is imperative to recognize that loved ones do not abandon the bereaved; instead, they encourage personal growth and healing by stepping back, allowing the living to embrace life anew. This discussion sheds light on the nuances of grief, emphasizing the importance of understanding the emotional journey that accompanies the loss of communication with loved ones in the spirit realm.

Takeaways:

• Communication from loved ones may diminish not due to their absence, but rather your emotional evolution and acceptance of their presence in the spirit world.
• The cessation of messages from departed loved ones can signify a healthy transition in your grief journey, allowing for personal growth and acceptance.
• It is vital to recognize that loved ones do not abandon us; instead, they may refrain from constant communication to encourage our own development and healing.
• Grief is a complex process, and understanding that loved ones wish for us to live fully can aid in reconciling feelings of abandonment or loss.
• The misconception that loved ones have moved on to a different level can lead to feelings of isolation; they remain connected but may wish not to be used as a crutch in our grief.
• Accepting that communication may fluctuate is essential; it reflects our own journey through grief and the evolving relationship we maintain with those we have lost.

Links referenced in this episode:

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Hello, my friends.

Welcome back to Pillars of Grief.

And this is the second installment on my series that I'm doing all about the afterlife and all the questions that you want to know, you want to learn about, and questions that I get asked about the time.

So when we come back, we're going to dive into that question.

So make sure you stay with us and also stay with us to the end, because I'm going to be making a little announcement about my group, as long as I don't forget to do do that, because sometimes they do.

But join me in a moment when we're going to dive into the next question, which I'm sure is on your mind and many, many other people.

God bless.

Grief is a natural part of life, and we all experience it at some point, by becoming aware of our emotions in the process of grief, we can begin to accept and move through our pain.

Acceptance doesn't mean that we forget or stop feeling the loss, but it allows us to come to terms with it.

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Okay, guys, welcome back to Pillars of Grief.

So here's the thing.

I get asked this question all the time, and it's, why do my loved ones stop communicating with me?

Why have they.

I used to have communication.

I got communication regularly.

I heard from my mother, my father, or, you know, my sister, brother, whatever, whoever, even your friend.

And it's often quite disconcerting because you kind of feel a bit abandoned.

You feel like, well, I feel lost again.

Or maybe they've gone.

And I have so many people that come to me and they'll say, well, you know, is it because they've gone on to another level?

Is there different levels in the spirit world then?

Yeah, there is different levels in the spirit world, but it's not as clean and clear as we would think, right?

Because the minute we think about our loved ones communicating and you have to think about this, it's not that they've gone on.

They haven't gone on to a different level.

A lot of people will say, and some other mediums will say, yeah, they've gone on a different level.

They're not communicating the way, or.

They'Ve.

Kind of evolved in the spirit world, and therefore they're at A higher vibration.

And they can't.

I've heard all that.

They can't communicate with me.

It's a load of rubbish.

Or it's that they have gone on to a job, they're doing another job in the spirit world and they don't have time.

And the problem is that then that does actually create some kind of trigger in you, and it makes you feel that you're abandoned again and it makes that grief maybe kind of rear its head.

Not that I've always said we can't heal through grief.

Grief is something that we have to integrate.

So let me just answer this question.

When you experienced signs from your loved ones, right, Or I'm pulling my chair over here, I'll have a wee lean on this.

When you've experienced your loved ones coming through, you've experienced many messages.

You've maybe even dreamt about them, right?

And then all of a sudden it stops.

Now, I did a video on this a long, long time ago.

But I want to kind of go into it a little bit more.

And again, I'll go into deeper in the course that I have in my community.

But here's what I want to tell you.

They haven't gone, right?

They haven't gone.

They haven't disappeared, and they haven't gone on to the different levels in the spirit world either, that you can't communicate with them anymore.

And it's not that they've gone on and they've got a new job in the spirit world and then they don't have time for you anymore.

Because imagine, imagine feeling like.

Imagine, like, thinking, well, you know, my mother's too busy and she don't come through.

She don't bother about me anymore.

It kind of can cause a little bit of, you know, a bit of a psychological imbalance, a mental health issue there when you think about it, right?

So I don't want you to think about that.

Guys, what I'll tell you is this.

The reason that they're not communicating as much is not because they have evolved.

It's actually because you've evolved, right?

And also there could be another reason potentially, and it might be your level of grief that you're experiencing.

So if you think about it, if you're so used to communicating, I know people that are communicating with their loved ones regularly, and then it becomes a bit of a crutch, right?

It becomes they feel that they can't live in the world because they have to be in constant communication with their loved one.

That is not a good thing.

That's not you evolving, that's not you moving on.

And it doesn't mean that if you move on that you forget about them.

But you have come to rely on that communication.

Know on the other side that it's not healthy for you not to live your life.

It's not healthy for you to just keep holding on and trying to communicate, you know, constantly.

Because you're not going through your journey the way that you should be.

And so the other reason is that you have evolved and you're happy and you know they're alive and you know that they're on the other side.

And there's an element of peace inside you.

And so because there's that element of peace inside you and that acceptance, you've become aware of their presence.

You become aware of the signs running about you.

You become aware of may be them dreams.

And so you're happy.

You know that they're still alive.

You know that they're in the spirit world, in the heavenly realms.

And you know they're not trapped, as a lot of other people will say, they're trapped in between this realm and that realm or they're trapped on this level of the spirit world.

That's just a lot of rubbish, right?

It's not that they're trapped and it's not really.

It's for your benefit.

They don't want you holding on to them as a crutch.

They don't want you to constantly have to feel that you're always gonna be in touch with them because that's not healthy for you.

That doesn't mean that you get to a point of acceptance and go through your journey.

And like I said, on the other side of the coin is that yeah, you have accepted them, right?

You've accepted that they're there and you know they're alive and so you're happy.

So they don't have to come through as much as what they did before because you've come a place of acceptance.

Like I don't hear from my dad every single day and now I don't hear from my friend Sheila or my mother in law because I know they're alive, I know they're there.

I've accepted it, my wife has accepted it.

But every now and again, yes, we do hear from them.

It doesn't stop them coming to you.

It just gets to the point where you have become aware that they're still alive and that they're moving on in their life because there's an element, and I've talked about this before as well, and certainly in my other videos, there's an element of selfishness and grief because it's all about.

Well, they've left me.

It's all about my loss and my this and me and me.

And me and me.

And we tend to forget about our loved ones on the other side are trying to live their life on the other side.

Cause they've got a life on the other side.

They want to learn things, they want to develop.

It's not that they're going on to different levels, ladies and gentlemen.

They're not doing that.

And then getting more and more distant from you.

It's only one or two things.

Things.

And that's what I said.

It's either that they don't want you to utilize them as a crutch so that you cannot move through your grief and integrate it, or two, that you've come to that acceptance that they are in the spirit world, they are happy, and that you can live your life here and they can live their life there and you can still communicate.

That's really important to understand, ladies and gentlemen.

So don't think about that.

They're going on and I'm being abandoned again.

That's not true.

And they're not moving on to different realms.

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Of course there is.

There's lower levels, there's higher levels.

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It goes back to, you know, in the Bible, Jesus said, there's many mansions in my Father's house.

Which kind of is indicative of the different levels within the spirit realms, vibrational levels, if you like.

Then there's a lot of people out there that have these theories and conspiracy theories that they don't cross over.

There's a false light, they go to the false light.

They get trapped between these, or they get almost.

I've heard this as well, that they get kidnapped by aliens, other spirit beings.

I mean, really, it's just ridiculous.

It doesn't do you any Good.

And it doesn't do you any good for your grieving process either.

But to recognize that you.

You don't need them, right?

In order for you, they want you to live.

They're still connected to you.

They'll still send you signs.

And the other thing is that if you're not dreaming about them as much again, it's either that you've come to an acceptance that you're going through.

It might even mean that they're not.

Let's say it was a relationship.

Let's say it was a husband or a wife or a girlfriend, boyfriend.

Then they've crossed over, and they may have that not disconnection, but they may have not been communicating you as much because they know maybe there's another relationship about to come into your life.

Maybe that's part of this process.

And so they don't want, you know, they want you to continue on.

They've maybe orchestrated you connecting with someone else, whether it's a love relationship, whether it's just a friend relationship, whether it's a relationship that's been orchestrated in the spirit world to help you move through things, that doesn't matter.

The fact is they're seeing this.

They know what's going to happen.

And so it's maybe been orchestrated that side.

So they tend to then don't connect with you as much because they don't want you to have a negative outcome.

They don't want you have a negative feeling about it or to feel any element of guilt or shame or anything like that.

So you have to come to a point where you get.

You become happy in your life, that you know that they're still there and that you can communicate with them, but they don't necessarily have to be at your beck and call.

And that's why I say this.

We have a selfishness in our grief.

Even losing, you know, family members that Joe and I had lost this year, we've tripped ourselves into that.

You know, we're angry that they left us.

We're angry that mom left us.

We're angry that Sheila left us and our friends and that have crossed over.

And that's kind of the anger down to us.

It's how we feel.

Everybody sit down.

Now.

You want to see me coming down?

If you're listening on the podcast, you won't see this, but I'm just putting my.

You see in the background, if you're watching.

That's me and the Queen mother in the background.

Anyway.

Okay, now I go down here.

So I don't want you to get yourself in a bit of a. Tis was right thinking that they're not communicating for any other reason.

And there's so many people you've got to think about.

There's so many people.

I know.

I knew a woman many, many years ago who had affected communication with her husband but couldn't move on because she was continually trying to connect with her husband.

Continually, constantly trying to connect.

And she wasn't moving on in her life.

And she couldn't.

She couldn't really let go.

Now, that's not healthy for your mental health.

That's not a good thing, right?

Because you can't live your life.

It was getting to the point where she wouldn't go to a restaurant, she wouldn't go out, she wouldn't go for the weekend because she wanted to do communication.

She was meditating all the time.

She was trying to connect.

She was even utilizing a Ouija board.

That's not healthy, really, and it's not healthy.

So let me just reiterate this point.

Your loved ones will know how you are mentally.

They'll feel the energy that you've come to a point of acceptance.

And they don't need to be there.

They don't have to be that crutch for you.

And so there's no need for them to be constantly in connection with you because they'll be in connection with you when it means something or when they feel that you're ready to accept it.

And they'll maybe just send you a little sign around you or you'll dream about them maybe down the road.

And as I've said many, many times, I haven't once dreamt in my father.

Not once.

Right.

So don't be upset.

In fact, thinking that you're not even that you don't dream about your loved one because there's so many other ways you get signs.

And I've got to the point I don't always hear from my dad because I've got to the point I know he's alive, I know he's busy.

I know he's learning things.

I know he's developing.

I don't have to hear from him constantly.

But it's nice every now and again that I get to hear him.

And I also recognize that if I was continually trying to connect, it means that I'm not integrating my grief journey.

I'm not integrating it.

I'm not accepting it and moving through it and learning from it.

Because remember, I've said many, many times, grief can be your greatest teacher or your greatest Nemesis.

It's really down to you, right?

It's really down to how you go through this.

So, you know, there you go, ladies and gentlemen, this is really what it boils down to, is that your loved ones have another vibration.

They haven't gone on to another layer within the spirit world and left you abandoned that you felt they were before.

It's just that they know.

They don't want you to just utilize them as a crutch and not go through your journey and not learn from it.

They want you to live your life.

They want you to go and meet new people.

They want you to come.

Because life is the greatest gift that we are given.

Don't spoil it.

Experiences in this world are the greatest things that we can have.

Even the negative and frustrating things, what we all go through, it's not about politics.

It's not about material things.

It's about the experiences of learning to live in a beautiful world, in a world that has so much more benefit than we see anything that's negative.

Don't get me wrong.

Yes, there's bad in the world.

There's bad in the spirit world, there's good in the spirit world, there's good in this world.

You know, we only know these things because the polar opposites, because we get to experience them.

Experience is a fundamental importance to our existence and even our experience of grief and the learning, the lessons that we can have going through.

So if you're a person that's constantly trying to connect with your loved ones and then you're getting upset because they're not responding to you with your expectation, then ask yourself the question, am I being selfish in my grief?

Am I not allowing them to live their life?

Are you to the point where you can't experience the rest your life because you feel you're being judged or you feel that the connection's not all the time, that's not good.

Or is it great that you feel that, okay, I want to experience life, and you know, they're there and you can still connect with them when you want.

You can still send a thought out.

Just don't have that expectation that one, I have to have a dream or I have to have a sign.

I have to be in communication with them all the time.

And also remember that there's people out there that think they're in communication all the time, and they're not.

They're actually creating the communication in their own mind.

They don't have any signs, they don't have any evidence, but that's because there's something there that they're needing.

They're needing that connection.

They can't let go, they can't learn from their grief.

And so that can be another issue.

It can be a mental health problem, it can be a mental health issue, it can be a catalyst even to psychosis.

So there you go, guys.

Your loved ones don't just stop communicating because they've left you and gone on in you and better things.

They want you to experience life and they don't want you to use them as a crutch.

And that's a simple explanation for it.

And even if they are evolving, which they will do on the other side, it doesn't stop them communicating with you and it doesn't stop them visiting you, it doesn't stop them seeing you.

But you don't have to use them as a crutch.

You need to come to the place of acceptance that they're still alive, that they're over there, they're learning, they're growing, they're developing.

And that the fact that they're not communicating with you as much maybe means that you're learning, you're developing, and that's a good thing.

Ladies and gentlemen, if you've got any questions, then please reach out to me.

Thank you for joining me today.

Again, it's just a quick one.

This is, you know, seriously, question number two.

Why do my loved ones stop connecting with me or stop communicating with me?

They don't.

It's really down to you.

Right, so I was going to say mention towards the end, here it is, getting the holiday season.

I'm going to keep this going, but I'm going to have a little celebration if you like, a little remembrance service, something small within my community, if you're a member of the community.

I'm going to be announcing this over the holiday season where we're going to get together, we're going to say some prayers, we're going to share some memories, we're going to light candles and we're going to remember our loved ones.

This is not for mediums, it's not for people who are on a grief journey, who want to learn.

You can come in.

If you're part of the community, you're already going to get an invite.

If you're not part of my community, then connect with me.

Go onto my website, jobbrokers.com grief group, put in the application form, come and join the community.

And then over the holiday season, we're going to have a couple of little services, little prayers, little get together.

I want to remember my father, I want to remember my mother in law, I want to remember Sheila.

So this is not about me teaching her in.

It's about us getting together, our loved ones and maybe even sharing some stories.

Maybe even if you want to come forward and say something or put some kind of memory through, then that's what we're going to do.

This is my invitation to you guys, so I'll be doing another question answer another question very soon.

So if you've got any questions about this question, then do ask that.

Just remember they haven't gone on, they haven't abandoned you.

They just don't want you to rely on them.

They want you to experience life and go through it.

And again, let me reiterate if you're already aware and embracing the lessons in your giving journey because they don't need to.

They know that you're happy.

They don't need to communicate with you, but it won't stop them sending you signs and watching over you.

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