With the right tools and mindset, you can find clarity and confidence in your decision-making process. I know making a decision can be scary, but trying and doing can be even more exhilarating. You have the power to take charge of your career and create the life you deserve. I'm sharing how you can set weekly goals and make small but meaningful changes that can help you reach your desired outcome.

Finding balance is key to success, and we'll explore ways to slow down in some areas and speed up in others. By trusting your intuition and embracing your strengths, you can achieve success on your own terms!

What you'll hear in this episode:

[1:20] Knowing when you may need to quit your job or when you may need to work.

[3:45] What are you reading? What are you listening to?

[5:30] Making a decision vs. trying and doing.

[7:00] Write down what you want to change this week.

[12:40] Where can you slow down or speed up? Where can you trust yourself?

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Kelsey Smith 0:10

Welcome to mama has goals, your weekly reminder that you shouldn't have to sacrifice your dreams to take on the role of mom. I'm Kelsey Smith, mom of two boys, wife, an entrepreneur who's passionate about helping other moms current and aspiring to reimagine mom life. I'm bringing you the resources, support and relatability to debunk that limiting belief that you may have about your ability to achieve your goals while raising a human. We're covering everything from mom guilt, marriage, relationships, careers, finances, mental health, physical health, you name it, your life doesn't have to fully shift once you become a mom, you can have it all. And we'll show you how.

Kelsey Smith 1:14

Let's talk about self trust, and confidence. And knowing this is a theme that we are talking a lot about. We're talking about a lot lately. But the way that I saw it show up most recently in our community was knowing when you may need to quit your job, or when you may need to go back to work, right? So you may not be working. And so this applies to different areas. But I was recently talking to a mom that was like, I just need to be home with my kids in this season. I need to stay home and not be working. And now financially, that may not be a choice for everyone. But there are ways to make things better in every situation, I believe. So is finding out how that works for you. But let's say that it's an option to quit your job and to stay home with your kids. Now there is we talked about this all time, there's no right answer, right. So you may show up into this situation. And you may be like, I need to stay home with my kids, I need to be present. That's what you need in that season. Now, let's say for someone else, they're like, I need to go back to work, I need to have a way to use my brain differently. I

Kelsey Smith 2:26

need to get around other adults, I need to fulfill myself in this different way. What this comes back to is knowing what you need, and trusting yourself to do whatever that is whether it's to slow down to speed up. But what I see way too much of is people sitting in the indecision in wasting time. I remember one of my bosses said to me, he was like, let's try it, let's fail. And let's fail fast. And let's move forward. And it was one of the first times I had heard that saying and now I hear all the time. But truly what that means is like don't waste time, like make a decision, fulfill that decision, see it out, stand behind it and then get going. And I think this is really important in our lives, because you are wasting time figuring out how you want to spend your time where if you really just said, okay, you know, I think I'm gonna try going back to work, then you try it out. Almost everything is fixable. Almost everything you're able to say oops, I'm going to try that differently next time. But it's up to you to figure out to say, Okay, in this season, I need to slow down in this season, I need to take more care of my sleep in this season, I need to get more present with my mind, my body, my soul, I need to go for walks, I need to meditate, I need to do yoga, I need to be more in with myself in my surroundings. I was listening to a podcast episode the other day, and the host was asked, What are you reading? What are you listening to, and she was like nothing. And this is a multi millionaire business owner. And she's like, I'm not listening to anything right now I'm in this season, I need to just not have other information coming in. Now that happens. And that's her trust. And that's her decision that she's slowing down in that way and possibly to speed up in another way. Right. So just because we slow down in one area doesn't mean that we don't speed up in another. It's your way of figuring out where you need to speed up and where you need to slow down. Now in another season, you may need to learn and learn fast. I've been in this season for a little bit where I need to absorb as much as I can as quickly as I can to take action on it. And I'm now getting to that season where I need to be a little bit more strategic with what it is that I'm consuming. And so I would be in a different place than that podcast guests that I was talking about. And so I would say nope, I'm consuming this and that and this is what I'm working on. Now the middle, which is where I'm transitioning to is I'm consuming this very intentionally and I'm actually fully absorbing it right because if you're absorbing So much so quickly, you may not actually be digesting it. So it's giving yourself the ability to find that in between. Now, this isn't just with like podcasts and books and information, it can be how you're showing up with your family, like, are you spending a ton of time with your family, and you maybe need to find some time for yourself, or are you spending not a ton of time with your family, and you need to find a portion of time that can be really present and really intentional with your family. And this could be friends, family extended, it could be even just acquaintances, or whoever that you want to put into your life. But it really comes back to making a decision going trying and doing because we spend way too much time deciding the action that we're going to take rather than taking the action and seeing how it fits into our life. So we talked about this in self development, we talked about this time that you spend with your family. I think this also comes to like schedule routine, and just like how your household operates. So something that my husband and I are always doing is figuring out how to make our household operate more efficiently and make sure that we're communicating and that we're on the same page. And one of the ways that I do that is I call a Sunday setup. And so we sit down and we talk about what do we want the week to look like? What does the week already look like? What have we committed to what, who's in charge of what what does that look like? And I have a couple different versions of this. There's one version that is in our free phone app that you can access from your App Store, download it, and you'll see the Sunday setup in there. But I am always evolving. So this evolves a little bit often do we do different versions of it? Whether it's digital, it's paper, I'm putting it on the fridge? It's on our phones and computer? Are we having daily goals, weekly goals? What does that look like? And one thing that I just recommend is rather than being like, Okay, do I have the perfect Sunday setup? Do I have the perfect form? What does that look like, is just pick something and take action. It could be a bulleted, you know, post it, or it could be a really intense spreadsheet, whatever really feels good for you, but something to take action and go in quickly. So when you think about last week, and you think about how last week unfolded for you think about some of the things that went really well think about some of the things that didn't go well, that you would like to do differently. And so let's say that something didn't go well with food planning, or the way that your house, excuse me, or the way that your house looked. Or maybe it was a conversation with you and your partner or a friend. Maybe you needed more time for yourself, maybe you needed more quality time as a family, whatever it is that you would like to go better this week. Write that down. And then think about okay, what is one step that I could take this week for that to go better? What do you need? Where can you trust yourself? And where can you take action? Whether it's slowing down or speeding up? Because action isn't always speeding up? So that is really the theme of this is seeing where do I slow down? Where do I speed up? Where do I need to make a decision? Where do I have choice? And how can I go? Right? So I don't want to overcomplicate it, it's really that simple. It's really that easy. I'm gonna give you a little bit more tangible takeaway of what that looks like for me this week. So again, I have this Sunday setup form that I follow. And I follow a version of that is often as I can. And typically it's every week. And this week, what that looked like was putting together a Word document that had four columns. And the first column on the left was the date. The second column was our schedule day by day. So it started with what time we woke up, what time we had breakfast, what our morning routine look like, and just kind of penciled it out. Now, it doesn't mean that that goes perfectly every time. But that's our ideal situation. Then it goes into my meetings or on the calendar if my husband has any meetings that we know of going into the week for each of us that they're already on there. Yes, things change, meetings get moved, but we know where we're going into that week. Then we have who's in charge of pickup dinner, that type of stuff all laid out, then I color coordinated each time line item if it was one person's responsibility, so doesn't mean that it has to be typical roles, but ours happened to be blue for my husband and pink for me. And then on the third column, I have meals, chores and tasks. So that's separated by my husband and by me and then am pm and since I work from home, I throw a couple midday tasks in there too. And that keeps me on track with like, what are my goals? So like in the morning, one thing we're implementing this week is that I, every morning my husband is bringing in a load of laundry that I started the night before. And I am trying to fold it first thing in the morning laundry is one of my biggest stressors. So I'm trying to knock it out. First thing in the morning, get a laundry load done before my kids are even out of bed, hopefully, and get that done with. Now, if you've been listening, you know that I typically stay up late. So now getting up earlier in the morning to get this done is a goal. And I'm transitioning, but I'm not allowing myself to not take action until it's perfect. Right taking action now before it's perfect. So allowing myself to have some goals first thing in the morning. So folding laundry is one of those to get it out of the way, first thing, and then I feel accomplished and like I've already got like my most annoying task done for the day. Then the fourth column is what our weekly goals are. So while I have daily priorities for my business and our family and how we show up, and I used to lay those out onto this printout, I actually right now in this season, am simplifying it to just like a roll up for my husband and I on one piece of paper about what are our weekly goals as individuals so that we know, hey, this is what Kelsey needs support in this week. This is what she's working on. And he can have that in the back of his head. And seem I can have that for him. And then what I did is I gave us each a daily score. So we don't necessarily like have to go into depth about like how was today we do talk about those things, because we talk a lot. But I wanted to have a way to truly measure like, Hey, how did today go. So I put a line that says daily score one to five. And we're each in charge at the end of the day of putting our own little number there. And then at the end of the week, I can go back when we're planning for the next week and be like, Wow, we had a lot of twos last week, what happened? What was going on? Or we had a lot of fours and fives last week, last week was a good week, why can we repeat. So I'll slow down and just say that one more time, what I did is I created a Google document. There is a version of this in the free mama haskel's Phone app that you can download. But this week, what I did was simplify it I did the date, my daily schedule, on one sheet of paper, color coordinated by who then our chores and tasks by member of the household. And I separated them by am and pm. So like if I'm expecting something done in the morning by end of day, then my husband knows, hey, I'm expecting this done first thing in the morning. And then also what our weekly goals are in a score for the day. So I'll put a link to the app and this page in the show notes. But it doesn't have to look exactly like this. I just know that it can be helpful to have a framework sometimes. But your job is really just to come back to what is it that you need? Where can you trust yourself? And where can you slow down or speed up and just make the decision in Go. So this framework is an example of that. For me, yours could be something totally different. But allow yourself to make a decision in whatever you've been sitting on. Whatever you need to do and take action this week. All right, I'm sending you so much love. I would love to know what your biggest takeaway of this episode was. So please share your stories and tell me what you're taking action on where you're slowing down or where you're speeding up, tag me on wherever you're active or send me a message on Instagram or in the phone app. And I'd love to know what you're taking action on and how you want to be held accountable and take it again taking action also means slowing down. All right, sending you love

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