How to Get Clear on Your Intention

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Hey, everyone, I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a

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leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping

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you find out who you are authentically as a leader, own

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it, and go out and make an impact in your life and the

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lives of others. This world needs your leadership, your

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gifts, your unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders

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don't wait. They create. I know firsthand that life is going to

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throw us curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness,

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our ideas and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe

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in yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion

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for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated, and

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most important in action towards your unique impact in this

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world.

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So let's jump in. Hey, there, everyone, be May 8, may 8, Happy

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May Happy May 8. This is Coach Kelly, welcome to episode

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159 159. Of let's be honest, before we start pretending, and

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we are going to continue with the tool called intentions so

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that as you are taking the lead in your life, you are creating

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more of the results that you want. And last week, we talked

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about what intention is, and using the three Ds to create the

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magic, that intention is. And the three Ds are deciding,

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declaring, and then doing that's the action piece. And I'm

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curious how that's working for you. Or I'm curious, also, if

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you thought about that, and like where you've seen that occur in

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your life. So today, we're gonna go ahead and we're going to

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continue on with intention. In fact, we're going to do this all

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month because it is such a magical tool that I think is a

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game changer that I think it warrants like a mini series. So

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that's what we're going to be doing. And today what we're

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going to do is we're going to talk about how do you get clear

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on what your intention is? Because you'll see where we next

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week, talk about intention and results. And looking at results,

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not just when they happen the way we want them to, but also

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when they don't. What's going to be helpful today is how do you

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get clear, because when we manifest a result that we didn't

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want, and we've been going for it going for it going for it, we

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can we can kind of give up a little bit, we can lose our gas,

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because we're like, see, it doesn't work. What I'm going to

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suggest is that it does work. And that is simply telling you

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you weren't quite clear, you weren't quite clear yet. Okay.

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As I always say, don't give up your outcomes and goals are

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worth it. And so are you. So don't give up. Because part of

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this whole thing called intention is requiring you to

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think and be an action like we talked about last week. But it

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also requires you to be really clear on what your intention is.

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And that in itself, could be an entire mini series. And maybe I

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will do that actually a little bit down the road. But for

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today, I'm going to give you some really cool highlights on

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what that is. Now, something I was thinking about, as I was

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recording these episodes, a lot of you joined me on the take the

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lead in your life workshops that we had last quarter. And that is

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where I am taking different episodes and putting them

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together to create a bundle of workshops so that not only are

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you listening to this, you can now take it from concept into

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action in your life. So the next set of take the lead in your

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life workshops are going to be on intention. And we're going to

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dive a little bit deeper. And it's going to be amazing, you're

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going to be able to use it in real time. And that's coming

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second quarter. So watch this space, watch the show notes.

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Watch the website for when those are happening and of course I

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will come in and share with you when they are happening. Okay.

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So they will be coming second quarter. So that means they're

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coming soon because we're in the second quarter. So I believe the

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first one is going to happen in June. All right. You heard it

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here first. Okay, so let's talk about intention and getting

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clear on intention. I remember years ago working with a mentor,

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and she would often tell me, you got to get clear on your

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intention. Get clear on your intention. Get clear, you're not

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clear and I was like I'll say Like, I'm clear, I feel like I'm

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clear, but it's not working. And it never occurred to me to say

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like, how do you get clear on your intention? Like I keep

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hearing get clear on your intention, but I have no idea

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how to do it. Well, I didn't ask, but I won't, I went on to a

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further training. And suddenly, I remember sitting in this room

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and working with another mentor. And we were having a discussion

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on intention, and like diving deeper in it. And I remember

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sort of looking around the room at the different charts that

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were up on the wall. And it came to me. And I was like, Oh, this

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is how you get clear on intention. Because there's four,

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I can't remember what they called it. If it was pillars, I

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don't remember. But to me, they're like the four components

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of intention. And I'm going to share them with you right now,

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without any further ado, because this, my friends is how you get

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clear on intention. First and foremost, you've got to have a

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vision for something or an outcome, something that you

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want, could be a goal, I put them in these three categories.

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It's a vision, it's an outcome, it's a goal, always something

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that you want. It's something that you want, period, something

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that you want to generate, could be more finances, better

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relationships, better health, whatever better is for you,

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you've got to define it, you've got to get really clear on what

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better is. Same thing with the word more, you have to define

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it, you have to be really clear because they big goals or vague

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outcomes or vague vision creates what a vague a vague vision goal

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or outcome. Okay? So you got to get really specific, that's

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Component number one. Number one, what do I want very

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specifically, drill it down, get as specific as you can even

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imagine, the more specific you are, the more apt you are to

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generate it. Okay, period done. Also, I'm going to add in this

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caveat, you, it's got to be something that you can measure,

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because what we measure grows, okay, what we're paying

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attention to what we measure what we nurture, will grow.

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Okay, write that down, put it on a post it, stick it wherever you

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can see that because it's really trip. All right. Second

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component, you have to know your purpose in it. That is why, and

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I've done plenty of episodes on this. So you're here with me,

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you know, you know, we this is it, that I know what you want.

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Gotta know why you want it. Okay. So purpose. Why do I want

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this? Like, why, really? And I would ask that, why, really? Why

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now? Why really? Why now? Why is this important to me? Hey, those

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are three adjuncts that I like to add to it versus simply why?

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Why do I want it? Like? Why really? Why now? And why is this

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important to me? takes it to a whole different level, a whole

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different level. Okay. The third component is energy. What is the

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energy that I am going to bring to this? What's the energy that

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I'm going to bring to this? Also? What is the energy

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required to have this happen? Again, we've talked about this

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before. So I'm highlighting these because it goes hand in

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hand with this series. What's the energy that's required to

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have this happen? What's the energy I'm going to bring to

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this, okay? And there is a saying by Abraham Hicks that

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says, energy flows, where my attention goes, energy flows,

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where my attention goes. So what does that mean? That means what

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am I focused on? So when you think of that, that third

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component called energy? What am I focused on? What is what am I

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going to what am I going to focus on it goes with intention,

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where's my intention going to be? Hey, which means you got to

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go all in. You've got to have some things in play all the

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time. Action, okay. Small steps, big steps, medium steps, steps

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that are moving you forward. Period, pay out your your

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outcome, what you want your purpose why you want it, that is

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the thought that is the thinking part. Now, the second two

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components are moving into that action part. Energy, what's the

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energy I'm bringing? Let you know me, I'm gonna say let's go.

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That's the kind of energy like let's go let's go. Right. That's

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the kind of energy and where does my attention got to be?

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Well, I can declare this thing and then if I don't go focus on

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it, there's nothing going to happen. I promise you. Okay. So

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think about that. Think about that, because that's going to go

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into your action piece. And then that fourth component is

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commitment. Commitment. You will no, you can't, you know, it's

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easy for us to say I'm committed to, I'm going to use the example

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that I've been using that I've been using, that I've been in

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using that I've been using in the series. And that is the

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weight loss to get to the first knee surgery. Okay, I could say

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I'm committed to losing 15 pounds. But that doesn't

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necessarily mean I'm committed. And I'll tell you how you know,

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you're committed, because it's going to show up in your action.

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And it's going to show up over time. Okay, which, therefore,

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you want to have a time element in there. So like, you heard me

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say, I will lose 15 pounds by surgery date. Okay. And you knew

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that I was committed, because the action I was taking was

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different. Okay, some of it was the same, and just reviewing

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what was working and not working in it and making some

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adjustments. So some of them were small bits, some of them

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were bold, and massive, okay, bold and massive. I had a belief

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that I couldn't really move my body that much because of the

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pain. Well, guess what I could, I had to challenge that belief,

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and challenge it to the point without hurting myself further,

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but really challenge the belief and allow myself to surprise

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myself, okay. So allow yourself to surprise yourself. Commitment

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shows up in action. And over time, that's the only way you

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know, you're committed. Otherwise, you're still in the

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idea of something. All right. And so, at the end, what I could

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actually say is, I was committed to losing 12 pounds, I needed to

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lose seven, I declared 15. And my commitment was 12. How do I

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know? Because results don't lie. They don't lie. What that result

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is is what you were committed to now. I was thrilled, I was

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thrilled. I was like, what? And I said it out loud to anyone who

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would listen, no, I lost 12 pounds, I was so happy. Because

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like I shared with you, there was a time where I was like, oh,

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shoot, I gotta lose seven pounds. Oh, there was a time

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where it would have been like, no problem. It's fine. And this

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is not that time, although I got to surprise myself and lose even

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more than the 12. Okay, so those are the four components, you

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have to know what you have to think about that and get really

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clear and really specific. You have to know why, hey, and why

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really, why now and why this is important. That's the thinking

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process. That's the thinking process. And then you've got to

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move it to the action piece, the doing piece, right? Remember the

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three Ds, you've got to decide, you've got to declare and then

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you've got to do and so in these four components that are helping

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you get really, really clear on your intention, knowing what it

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is, knowing why, what's the energy required? And where's my

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focus going to be energy and focus go hand in hand, where's

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my focus going to be? And then what is my commitment? What is

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my commitment, I am willing to do whatever it takes within

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legal that is legal to have this happen. And then allow yourself

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to surprise yourself. I was not mad at 12. I was thrilled,

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because I was well over the seven, which was actually my

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intention. That was actually my intention. How do I know? It was

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on the scale? The results don't lie. Okay. And it worked. It

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worked. I'm telling you, it's magic. And how I know this works

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is because I put myself into the experiment with every belief

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that it would, okay. Now, next week, when we get back together,

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we're going to look at intention and results. And we're going to

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look at when it works. And when it doesn't work. Okay. I'm going

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to suggest that we don't get down on ourselves when it

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doesn't work, because there is so much in it that we can

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leverage. All right. So that's how you get clear on your

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intention. And you can build on the tool of intention with the

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3ds. With now even more clarity on answering the million dollar

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question, how do I get clear on my intention? So practice that

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this week. Again, I am going to bring these into workshops that

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you can take your real life and Workshop it with me. The first

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one will be coming in June, it's going to be spectacular, you're

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gonna want to sign up for these. And utilize these tools to help

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you generate more of what you want in your life. So remember,

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you have a choice to lead your life or follow your

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circumstances. Life is about knowing your passions, your

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purpose, your values, and really creating that impact that you

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want in your life and creating an impact in the life of others.

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And who emerges from that are in there people that are

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intentional, and authentic and vulnerable and courageous, and

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generating much more of the results they want. It never

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looks the way we think it's going to so you got to trust the

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more gets revealed as we move forward. So you can take those

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pauses, let go of worry and doubt and live fully the best

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version of you. Thank you for listening today. I know there

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was great value. I'm excited to continue on and talk about

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results and intention. And keep on keepin on. So have a great

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week ahead. And if it's not shaping up the way you want it

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to take the lead and create a fantastic one. I will talk with

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you all soon. Take care.

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Thanks for listening to another episode of Let's be honest

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before we start pretending for more resources on taking the

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lead in your life, head over to Kelly J mobic.com. And connect

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Thanks again for listening. And here's to you taking the lead in

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