Relationship w/ Our Fathers & Being Fathers In Midlife

Episode Summary

As fathers and sons, we inherit and carry powerful stories, unspoken expectations, and lasting lessons. In this thought-provoking episode, hosts Kevin Rogers and Joe DiRoma dive into the complex, often untold realities of fatherhood – both as sons reflecting on their fathers and as fathers guiding their own sons through life's biggest transitions.

Why You Should Listen

Kevin Rogers and Joe DiRoma, known for their depth and authenticity, use this platform to address real, unfiltered issues faced by men navigating midlife. Drawing from personal experience and inspiration from thought leaders like Dr. James Hollis, they explore relationships, legacy, and personal growth.

Why This Episode Matters

Midlife can bring a re-evaluation of what it means to be a father, son, and man. Through reflections on relationships with their own fathers, Kevin and Joe uncover insights that challenge men to rethink fatherhood, face their fears, and connect with their own sons in ways that truly matter. The discussion finds grounding in "The Middle Passage" by Dr. James Hollis, which explores the "first" and "second" adulthood and their impacts on our identity and family dynamics.

Key Quotes

“Men just don't give themselves permission to feel weak or vulnerable.” – Kevin

“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.” – Joe, quoting Carl Jung

“Our real job as fathers is to love, listen, and just be there.” – Kevin

Key Takeaways

Facing Mortality & Legacy: Men often wrestle with their legacy and self-worth in midlife, especially as they contemplate what they’ll leave behind for their children.
Healing Through Vulnerability: The strength of father-son relationships often lies in vulnerability. As sons, we may crave acknowledgment, but as fathers, opening up creates powerful bonds and fosters healing.
Reimagining Fatherhood: The role of a father evolves. At its core, being a good father means letting children learn, guiding them with love and patience, and knowing when to let them find their own way.
Supporting Generational Growth: By breaking cycles of inattentive parenting, men can create lasting, positive impacts on future generations, fostering a legacy of love, support, and responsibility.

Resources Mentioned

Book: The Middle Passage by Dr. James Hollis
Book: Swamplands of the Soul by James Hollis
Book: Modern Man in Search of a Soul by Carl Jung

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