Shownotes
From the outside, Erin looked “together.” Inside, she was running on fumes—grief, DV recovery, single motherhood, and years of crisis conditioning. In this unfiltered conversation, Erin walks us through the invisible side of survival mode: when your calendar is full, your smile is practiced, and your nervous system is shot. We get practical about the exit—mindset work that actually sticks, nervous system regulation you’ll use, and energetic boundaries that protect your peace without burning every bridge.
Highlights
- Survival mode as a silent takeover: high function, zero capacity
- “Peace feels unsafe” explained: why regulation must come before the big goals
- Mindset hygiene: feelings ≠ facts, and how to redirect in real time
- Boundaries without apology: protecting energy with family, work, and friends
- Grief + DV + single mom life: rebuilding when everything hits at once
- From badge to baseline: retiring “I’m resilient” as an identity
🎙️ What We Talk About
- Self-Awareness: spotting crisis conditioning and autopilot behaviors
- Reprogramming: thought audits, gratitude reps, and nervous system resets
- Reinvention: living by values, not velocity; building a peace-first plan
- Energy stewardship: answer later, say less, protect your mornings
- The “30-minute rule”: micro-planning your comeback in chaos
- Coaching vs meds vs both: Erin’s clinician POV on integrative care
🔑 Key Takeaways
“You can’t regulate a life you’re still rescuing.”
“Feelings aren’t facts—but they’re data. Use them.”
“Resilience is a skill, not an identity. Put it down.”
“Peace isn’t the absence of problems. It’s the presence of boundaries.”
💬 Connect with Erin
- Instagram/TikTok: @erinkaley
- Business: Reign Over Struggles (classes, masterclasses & events)
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