Grief can be so heavy. It can also make you believe so many things that are not true by creating intrusive thoughts, that we can often put on loop in our brains. Grief can create these lies that we start to believe and I see this so often- especially in my own story. I share my story and the thoughts that my grief tried getting me to believe and how to change them. We have to be intentional in the thoughts we have and knowing when we need to shift and reverse them.

You can find hope and joy again, even amidst grief, you can find pockets of joy or happiness. Grief and happiness can coexist. You can have more than 2 conflicting feelings at one time and that's OKAY. That makes you NORMAL lol. We can normalize that and realize that we are allowed to feel anyway we need too.

Focusing on the now and being present is what saved me in my worst grief. Focusing on how I could love my girls more and help them heal as well. Spending time outside in nature and really feeling with my senses the sun, the wind, the rain, breathing the air, listening the world around me.

Grief has a way of isolating us but we can fight that, we can change that and we normalize that and build a community around us.

Hope and joy are coming my sweet friends. It just might take a little time!

xx Vallen