Are you repeating patterns from your family without even realizing it?

In this powerful episode, we dive into generational patterns—the behaviors, beliefs, habits, and emotional cycles passed down through your family line. From addiction and anger to faith, generosity, and work ethic, we explore how these inherited traits shape your life... and how to break the negative ones and build a healthier legacy.

Whether you come from a deeply broken family or one that looks picture-perfect from the outside, every family passes on both negative and positive patterns. And the good news? With God's help, you can choose what continues—and what ends with you.

⏱️ Timestamps:

0:20 – What if your habits aren’t just yours?

01:21 – What are generational patterns (definition + examples)

02:04 – This isn’t about blaming your parents—it’s about freedom

02:33 – Adopted or unsure of your history? Here’s how to start

03:19 – Identifying and growing the positive patterns in your family

04:59 – Recognizing common negative family cycles

05:53 – How to break unhealthy generational patterns (practical + spiritual tools)

07:29 – Real-life story: breaking a legacy of criticism

08:22 – What it means to be a transitional generation

09:42 – Choose Life Challenge: Start changing your legacy today

✅ Key Takeaways:

• Generational patterns are passed down through families—both good and bad.
• You can honor your family while still breaking destructive cycles.
• If you’re adopted or disconnected from your history, you can still identify and heal patterns through prayer and reflection.
• Don’t overlook generational blessings—amplify and pass them on!
• Use prayer, confession, and intentional choices to break negative spiritual and behavioral patterns.
• You have the authority in Christ to say: “This ends with me.”

DISCLAIMER

I am a licensed professional counselor, however this podcast (and the info shared on my blogs and social media) is not therapy. It is for informational purposes only; this is not a professional therapy relationship; and it is not personal advice to your specific situation. If you wonder whether professional counseling may be helpful for you in this season of life, check out this article that outlines when you might need to seek the help of a professional counselor and how to find a good one: https://shelleyspence.com/how-to-find-a-christian-counselor

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🎧 Listen now to discover how to take inventory, choose life, and transform the legacy you leave behind—for yourself, your children, and generations to come.