How many goals have you declared and abandoned? The business revenue target. The dating goal. The fitness transformation you swore would happen this year.

You had the strategy. You took some action. You even told people about it. And yet somehow, you're still exactly where you were, wondering why nothing sticks, why momentum disappears, why it works for everyone else but not for you.

Here's what separates the goals you crush from the ones that end up in the graveyard: commitment. Not the comfortable kind where you do what feels easy. The kind where you close every back door and become whoever you need to be to make it happen.

This episode reveals why dabbling guarantees failure, what actually creates unstoppable momentum, and how to tell if you're truly committed or just lying to yourself about it.

IN THIS EPISODE

1. The difference between commitment and dabbling - and why taking action doesn't mean you're actually committed
2. Why "trying" is a lie you tell yourself: what Yoda knew about doing versus pretending
3. What closing the back doors means - and why your fear is exactly what you need to face
4. The one thing you're avoiding because it's uncomfortable - and why that's precisely the action that will move the needle
5. What Steve Harvey does daily that manifests his reality
6. The growth moment disguised as despair: what to do when you're crying on your bedroom floor convinced it's not working
7. How to set intentions that create momentum instead of getting hijacked by everyone else's demands
8. Why you can't do this alone - and what kind of support actually keeps you in committed action when it gets hard

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Hello and welcome to another episode and a whole new here.

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I'm sure that you all have

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Maybe you want to scale your business to

a whole new level of revenue or become

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a personal brand, make a bigger impact.

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Or maybe your goals are

more around your family.

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You want a better marriage

or you want to lose weight.

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There are so many things that we desire

to make this year the best yet, and

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how do we make sure that we actually

achieve these goals and it doesn't

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fall to the graveyard of all the goals

that we declared and never reached.

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So I want you to think about a goal

one that you thought was impossible.

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And yet, against all odds you made

it happen and I know that all of

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us has at least one of these goals.

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So think about what that goal is for

you and then compare that goal, that

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one thing that you said, "yes, I did it.

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It was hard.

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And I've done it!"

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With all the other goals that you declared

and then haven't followed through.

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So we can look at what is the

common thread that actually made you

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succeed when you just went all in.

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I think I'm giving it away little bit

because that common thread, that thing

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that made you achieve those big goals.

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'cause you really wanted it so much and

there really was no other option apart

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from making it happen was commitment.

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So, I'm handing it to our language queen.

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Now, Dawn, can you tell

us what commitment is?

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Dawn: Absolutely.

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commitment, especially coming from

a leadership standpoint, at the same

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time, in general, it means being

whoever you need to be and doing

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whatever it takes to make it happen.

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So absolutely nothing is going to

stand in your way from creating that

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goal for following through with

it, for ensuring that it happens.

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You wanna lose 20 pounds in a year,

you're gonna avoid the alcohol,

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you're gonna avoid the cake.

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You're gonna do everything

that is necessary, even when a

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friend gives you a hard time.

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Oh, it's just one slice.

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It's just one event.

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You're in your brain thinking that event

turns from one event to two events,

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to 10 events, to ultimately sabotaging

your goal of that 20 , weight loss.

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So, giorgia, I'm gonna throw this back

to you and ask you what is the difference

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between being in commitment, being

committed, and just trying or dabbling?

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Giorgia: Yeah, I think most of us,

I know that I was guilty of this.

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We think that because we are taking

some action that we are committed

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to making it happen, when actually

what we are doing is dabbling.

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So if you think about all the times,

that you declared something, you wanted

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something and you started going towards

it, and then you stopped because maybe

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it got too hard or someone fell sick or

something else happened that you were just

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in this pattern not stopping and starting,

starting and stopping and you get some

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success and then you just lose momentum.

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Or maybe, maybe you already had your

game plan, you Maybe you hired the coach,

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you took the course, you read the book,

and you know you have this framework,

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the strategy to reach your goal.

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And yet, if you're honest with yourself,

you only implement the parts of the

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strategy that feel comfortable to you.

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I see this a lot when I coach

entrepreneurs, especially those that

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are starting out when they're telling

me, I am posting all the social media,

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I'm doing all these reels, and I'm

like, are you actually going live?

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Are you actually starting sales

conversations because posting something

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gives the illusion of doing something

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without the connection bit that comes

from real conversations and live people

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see in how you speak, how you interact.

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It's really not going to work.

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And this can be the same with anything.

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Maybe you have a health goal and

you say, oh, I know that I'm not

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supposed to eat gluten or dairy and

what's the harm if I still sneak

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it in every now and then, right?

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So you think that you are doing

most of this, so it must be working.

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Actually, you're not doing the part

that is going to get the results.

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Or how many times are you thinking I'm

trying everything, i'm trying so hard?

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and while trying and we,

when missing episode on this.

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When we say trying,

like there is no trying.

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You either do or you don't.

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And I'm sure Dawn can go

much deeper into this.

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So can you take it from here?

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Dawn: Yeah, as Giorgia was saying, we

have a full episode on what trying really

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is, and just a really quick preface with

this, if you've ever seen the film Star

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Wars, you know Yoda says there is no try.

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You do or you do not.

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And even when somebody says, oh,

I'm trying to learn Italian, okay?

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For example, me, I'm trying to learn

Italian, or I'm trying to speak Italian.

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I am speaking Italian.

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I am learning Italian.

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It's just a question of how fast and

how well, and so if we shift that

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phrase from, I'm trying something

to, I'm in committed action, I am

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doing to the best of my capability,

then that intention is fortified.

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When we continue to say,

try, there is no intention.

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It's wishy-washy.

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You're on uneven ground.

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It's like a house being built on

sand versus being built on rock.

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That house that has a solid foundation

isn't going anywhere yet the house built

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on sand, you have a storm or you have the

water come in, the house is gonna be gone.

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So the biggest thing to take

into consideration is when we

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make a commitment, the intention

is there to follow through.

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And one of the things, and I think

we'll get to this at one point, is

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I wanna share that one of the most

powerful things we can do when we make

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a commitment to ourselves is to write

it down or to create a PowerPoint.

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Something that we get to see every single

day that says, I committed to this.

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And if you would like to even

go further with that is to say,

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why did you commit to this?

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I follow Steve Harvey.

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I don't know how many of

you follow Steve Harvey.

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He's quite a powerful manifester, and

he has said everything he has created

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in his life comes from two things, from

gratitude for everything he already has,

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and from writing down all the things he

still desires and all of that encompassed.

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He prays and he says, thank

you to God for what he has.

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And God, I would still like this.

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And when it becomes a reality, he adds

it to the, I'm grateful to side and

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continues to grow the side that hasn't

been achieved or the side that he wants.

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So writing down, being grateful and

really being in committed action is what

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is going to manifest something for you.

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Giorgia: And I wanna add to that, it's

just commitment to being the person who

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can make it happen, because that's the

missing link in taking committed action.

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when we talk about commitment being the

missing link, the thing that's actually

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going to support in achieving those

goals is closing all the back doors.

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It means whatever is required

of me in this moment, I get

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to be it and I get to do it.

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So I wanna give you an example 'cause I'm

sure you all know that I have an accent.

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And not everyone always understands me.

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Sometimes even I don't understand

myself and because I have this accent

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and when I was younger, I even had a

stutter and I still have it sometimes;

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it was really stopping me from

doing any form of public speaking.

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And I had the idea for my

first podcast for three or

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four years and I never did it.

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I had the strategy you can just

Google it, how to create a podcast and

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which microphone you need and which

tools you need and how to interview

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people like the strategy, the how.

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if you have access to Google or

chatGPT you have all the strategies.

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So that's not The missing piece.

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The missing piece for me was

I get to be comfortable with

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people not understanding me.

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I get to be comfortable knowing

that there are some people that are

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like, Hey, I don't like your voice.

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I don't like your accent.

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I don't get you.

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So that's rejection, right?

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And I have to be comfortable with

being vulnerable and open, because

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if I just preach to you, you're

not gonna listen to me anyway.

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So there comes a point when you go for

what you want, that you are going to face

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the things that make you uncomfortable.

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Your goal, if it is big enough,

and if it's not big enough, it's

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not your goal, it's not a vision.

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If it is big enough, is gonna force you to

face those things that you want to hide.

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It's at that point that you go,

okay, am I really committed to

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doing whatever it takes?

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And so being that vulnerable, being

that I don't give an F about what

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people think of my accent, I'm just

gonna do it because this is my vision.

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And that's what closing the back

doors is because as long as we leave

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the back door open, as long as we

think, okay, I will do it later when

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maybe one day my accent will change.

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Maybe I should take

some elocution lessons.

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maybe I'll do a podcast.

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I can just write a book.

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That's not commitment.

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That means you're still not ready to

face the thing that is actually going

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to support you in achieving your goals.

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Dawn: So one thing I hear you saying,

Giorgia, is that when we hesitate in

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creating something that genuinely we

want to create, we don't trust ourselves.

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And when we don't trust ourselves,

other people lose confidence in us

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as well as they lose trust in us.

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And a good example of this would be

is when for example, I'm a functional

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nutritionist and when I first started

out I thought, oh my gosh, there's

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so many people out there who knows

so much more than I do, who have

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so much more experience than me.

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I can't charge the same thing they are,

even though we have the same degree.

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Right?

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And so I was charging $75 a session.

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Which if you know anything about

functional nutrition or even functional

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medicine, the practitioner is spending

hours reviewing your documents, going

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through every scenario, that could be the

root cause of what you're experiencing.

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This isn't just the hour, hour and a

half that you spend with the clinician.

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It is also the time that they spend taking

care of what's underneath everything.

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And it is a very deep dive and I could

say I typically will spend four to

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six hours for an initial consultation

before I even meet with that patient.

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So I was charging $75 for this

guys, and I was not landing clients.

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And the reason was is they could tell by

my energy that I didn't believe in myself.

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I didn't trust myself to be able to

provide them with what they needed.

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Yeah.

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When I shifted that to

be, I'm not an imposter.

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I do know what I'm talking about.

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I do have the same level of knowledge

and capacity to support these

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people, and I increased my prices.

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I have rarely had someone say no.

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Because the big shift was that I no

longer was hesitating and I trusted

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myself and therefore I wasn't creating,

as you were saying, Giorgia earlier,

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a back door that allowed people to be

like, Hmm, let me think about this.

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No, it was, are you all in?

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I am the person to support you.

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And if I knew I couldn't support that

person for whatever their situation was,

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because we all have our specialties, I

would be honest with that person and say,

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look, I'm not the practitioner for you.

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Let me refer you to a colleague.

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And I think that also is an important

way that we build trust with other

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people and allow them to stick to the

commitment that they want for themselves.

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Giorgia: Absolutely.

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And what I hear you say is also when

things weren't working 'cause you

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were charging so little, instead

of quitting or trying other ways,

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you just went okay, this is the

thing that gets to change, even if

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it makes me uncomfortable doing it.

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Even if maybe you had that voice in

your head is like, why would they

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choose me if I charge this much?

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And yet you silenced that and like, no,

my commitment is to support these people.

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And if this is what gets so happen,

this is what gets to happen.

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So I wanna ask all of you that are

listening to this, you have your big

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goals and you have the strategy and you

know what it is that you are not doing

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because you don't feel comfortable doing

it 'cause you're afraid of doing it.

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So what is that one thing and who do you

get to be to actually take that step?

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Because until you take that step, you

are not committing, you are trying.

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And so you are still in dabbling

and there is no dabbler that

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builds a successful business.

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There is no dabbler

that loses their weight.

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There is no dabbler that builds

a successful relationship that

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only happens when you are really

committed to making it happen.

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So what gets to shift for you?

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Who do you get to be even

though it's uncomfortable?

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Dawn: Absolutely, and I think

one of the biggest takeaways

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for all of you would be is get

comfortable with being uncomfortable.

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Growth comes from that.

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And when we are committed to something

and our growth in any aspect,

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whether it's business, whether it's

relationships, whether it's personal,

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whether it's with our families, we

get to be uncomfortable because there

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are going to be moments that are truly

uncomfortable or that feel uncomfortable.

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And so when we have made that

commitment to ourselves, number

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one, we get to keep that commitment.

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And number two, we get to be

comfortable with being uncomfortable.

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Giorgia: Absolutely because the one thing

that I learned all these years of coaching

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building business group, and I'm sure you

can relate to this, is that when we feel

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like we have tried everything and nothing

is working, and we know deep down what

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is the action that we are not taking.

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That's not happening because

you are not meant to achieve

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the goal create that vision.

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That is literally your

next level of growth.

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That is literally the universe telling

you, you really want this thing.

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You get to become a

different version of you.

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So if in that moment when you feel

despair and there were times when

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I was just crying on my bedroom

floor, like, why is this so hard?

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Why is this hard for me?

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Why can't I just do it the easy

way that is comfortable to me?

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We all have those moments, and in

those moments you have the choice.

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You can choose to stay in your feelings

and say, okay, I'm just not meant for it.

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I'm gonna give up.

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Or you can choose to say, okay,

this is my next level of growth

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or do I really, really well?

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you can use what's not working as

feedback to support you in actually

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shifting your approach and say, okay

there really is no other alternatives.

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I've really tried everything else.

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I've already done everything else.

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I'm still where I am.

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How much do I want it?

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Am I really committed right

now to making it happen?

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And if the answer is yes, and

I know that it is gonna be yes,

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because you're listening to this.

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Don't do it alone.

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I didn't do this alone.

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I hired coaches to support me through

this process and in that process as well.

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I also built a community of friends

and coaches so that everyone in

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my life, including my partner,

when they see me struggling, when

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they see me avoiding that growth.

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Because it's scary, right?

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It's not like we are sitting

here think, oh yeah, okay,

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that's my next level of growth.

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It's uncomfortable.

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I'm just jumping in.

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We still have the emotions that you have.

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We still have fear.

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We still have anxiety we see need the

pep talk or kick in the butt sometimes.

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I built this community of people that

really supports me in getting out of my

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feelings and moving into committed action.

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So don't do it alone.

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Find your community or

hire your own coach.

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'cause when, in those moments, when

it gets hard, you need someone to be

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there with you and to see what you are

capable of, and you can see for yourself

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Dawn: to follow up with that, the other

reason I feel it's really important that

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we have coaches is because there are times

where we over commit and a coach can say,

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is this really going to be able to happen?

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Yes, you get to be what we call stretchy,

you get to get uncomfortable at the

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same time, one thing I coach people

on, if they say seven days a week,

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I'm gonna do this every single day.

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I am like, Hmm.

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What about when you go on vacation?

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What happens if there's

a family emergency?

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What if you have a death in the family?

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What if, something comes up that

prevents that seven day a week thing.

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Let's keep it stretchy and

obtainable, because if you miss

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that first seven days, you may be

like, oh man, I totally blew it.

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Now I'm done.

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I can't keep that commitment anymore.

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Yet, if you start out with four

or five days a week and you end

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up doing seven days a week, great.

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You are committed to ensuring that

this happens and creating a habit.

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And that every single day you do this.

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There are people who even when they go

on vacation, they don't give up exercise.

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Yet, they created a routine in their

lives that started out with three or

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four days a week and then increased

to that seven days a week to where

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every single day they don't miss it.

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Again, if they get sick though,

their body is saying Slow down and

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they're going to listen to slow down.

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At least I hope they do.

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Yes.

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So that is another reason it is

really important to have a coach or

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someone that is there to support you,

to keep you realistic and stretchy.

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Giorgia: Because if your brain

doesn't believe that you can achieve

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something, you can't outsmart your

brain, by making the first milestone

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smaller, then you can get a win.

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You get the momentum, and

you can build on that.

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So that's something that it's really

important otherwise just lose motivation.

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And I said before, that's why

having that support from someone

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else, that's not as emotionally

investored as you are, is invaluable.

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And we're also talking about setting

daily intentions, because when we go

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for a big goal, but a way to build the

list and whatever it is, what often

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happens, at least I know it happens

often to me, is I have this big vision,

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I know where I want to go, then on a

day-to-day basis, life tends to get

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in the way and you think, yeah, I'm

going to this study then you don't.

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Whereas when you start with the

clear intention, you say, okay,

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what is the most important thing?

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Like I like first thing in the morning

to say, okay, what is the priority today?

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What is the thing that going

to move the needle forward?

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And then the first 90 minutes

of the day, that's my focus, so

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that I know that that gets done.

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And that can only be done if you are

intentional about what's the step that

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I get to take today to move forward.

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And it's not always a big step.

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Sometimes it can even be a small step.

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It can be maybe today I want to

get more clients, maybe it's start

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five conversations with people.

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It doesn't have to be this huge thing.

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When you are intentional though, and

you are focusing on the action that

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moves the needle forward as opposed

to getting second busy work and

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everyone's demands and the household

chores and everything else, you always

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have this full momentum towards your

vision instead of actually being taken

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away by everything else around you.

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Dawn: A hundred percent.

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And I think that's one thing also

Giorgia to mention is when we have

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that intention each day and we're

like, okay, this is what gets to happen

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today to move the needle forward.

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When it can be first thing in the morning,

we know it's done, and then we can

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move forward with the rest of our day.

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So a lot of people are like, if I work out

first thing in the morning, I know it's

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done and I don't have to worry about it.

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If I postpone it, then maybe I'll

feel too tired after work, or maybe

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I'll have dinner and I won't feel

like exercising after eating dinner.

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And so you get to find the

balance that works best for you.

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Is it first thing in the morning?

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Is it at lunch?

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Is it in the evening?

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when do you find that your energy is

at its best, including in creativity,

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or where you feel that you are

able to be connected with people,

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especially if you're in a business

where you get to connect with others.

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And so finding that balance and that sweet

spot for you is really important as well.

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Giorgia: Absolutely.

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And it's about being intentional.

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When you have the intention to make

something happen, you will find a

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way to incorporate it in your day.

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And I don't believe that there is

a cookie cutter formula that works

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for everyone, just about, what do

I get to do today to move forward?

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And then building the rest

of your day around that bit.

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And the most important thing that I

want to leave you with is, as I said

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before, that next level of growth.

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true commitment, is being willing to

become the person that gets to have

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what you want, and that's what closing

the backdoors mean when you do that,

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there is no failure because you're just

gonna keep going until you get there.

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That is the hardest part, that literally

is the reason why most people fail and

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give up because they are not willing to

become a different version themselves.

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Because even though we all love the

idea of becoming more confident,

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more attractive, more outgoing, more

fun, more vulnerable, or whatever

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in reality is so confronting.

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It really is.

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And when you get through that with

the right support around you, you

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can really create anything in a much

shorter time than you thought possible

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Dawn: So our question to

leave you with today is.

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What are you committed to?

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What are you committed to

creating this year, this month,

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this week, or even just today?

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Set that intention and let us know.

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Giorgia: Let us know on Instagram.

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we have our handle below this

episode, so get in touch.

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Tell us what you're committed to

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support you getting there faster.