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4 diabetes beliefs that work against you
Episode 3 • 14th September 2021 • Healing in Hindsight® • Taylor Daniele™
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Negative thoughts and beliefs can impact your diabetes treatment 🤯

How you administer it. How you make choices. Even how you view diabetes. Often times these 4 common beliefs come from outside sources. When these thoughts run rampant they can cause extreme damage. 

In this weeks Hindsight thoughts podcast episode, I talk about how you can adjust negative beliefs to positive ones that don't cause extreme changes or sacrifice. I personally have experienced these particular 4. I've seen how they've hurt me and others in the community. 

My hope is that you'll be able to combat these beliefs that have nothing to do with yourself, diagnosis, or treatment.

KEY POINTS

  • FALSE: Being a diabetic means that you can't enjoy things. 
  • FALSE: Losing weight is the answer to everything. 
  • FALSE: Being on medication is a bad thing. 
  • FALSE: You caused your diabetes. 

 

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Taylor:

What's up, everybody.

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Welcome back to a, another episode of healing in hindsight, your no, BS

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source for thriving with diabetes.

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If you don't know me, I'm Taylor, Daniele.

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I am your host for today.

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I'm your host every time.

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So if you're new here, welcome.

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If you are returning, welcome back.

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Glad to have you guys here today is going to be, I think an interesting subject.

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That I've seen kind of pop up in our community.

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And I am really interested in deep diving into this because as you guys know, I'm

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really keen on, mental health, spiritual health, as well as our physical health.

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And so dealing with things that are mind to battles when it comes to, this

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condition can really make a difference in how you treat yourself and how

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you take care of yourself, especially how you take care of your diabetes.

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So I really want to talk about, four beliefs that tend to

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hold you back as a diabetic.

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Now, the reason why I wanted to bring this up is because the

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problem is that negative thoughts.

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Have an impact.

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They, affect how you treat yourself, they affect how on top of your medication

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regimen or insulin regimen that you're on.

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They have effect on how you interact with people your doctors or medical

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team, or your friends and family who were involved in your diabetes

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care, all, all those kinds of things.

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So if you have kind of these negative thoughts or belief systems going on

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within yourself, it really can have a huge effect on, your journey in general.

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So the thing that I, I think we should all think about is, what

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is it that works best for you?

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And how can you adjust.

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Those moments where you're just so in your head about everything and,

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try to turn it into, I don't even want to say like, it has to be just

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positive, but just neutralizing, at least the negative thought.

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So that way you can move forward and not to be stuck.

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And this kind of, rough cycle of thinking so negatively about what

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you're experiencing with your diabetes.

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And I think what this can help do is just really give you some tools to combat.

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some of these beliefs and, these are pretty common ones too, I've got my notes

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here and I feel like it is important to remember how much mindset matters because.

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What you think is kind of what you do and on how you action things.

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Even if you don't say them, a lot of people think that well,

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because I didn't express that thought it doesn't have an impact.

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And that's honestly not true because what you continue to repeat in your

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mind, you start to produce in action.

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And so that's why you see a lot of the mindset stuff, creep up everywhere because

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there's, there's, some validity to it.

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If you put your mind to something, you can make things happen.

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Something that's very true.

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In my opinion.

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if you think so differently, I'd love to hear from you.

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Let me know.

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But I do feel like how we carry ourselves in our head reflects

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how we carry ourselves outward as well and how we treat ourselves.

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So with that being said, let's dive into these beliefs and see what

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we can do to kind of change it.

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Let's do it.

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You're listening to healing in hindsight your no BS source

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for thriving with Diabetes.

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What's up guys, I'm Taylor, Daniele, and it's my goal to help millennial

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diabetics like myself live an amazing life without your diagnosis

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getting in the way I get it.

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I was diagnosed back in 2015, with type two diabetes, and it was really

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hard to find people around my age to understand how to travel, socialize,

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or even have meaningful relationships.

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But I feel like with a focus on mindset, perspective, and nutrition

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together, we can take back our health.

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Consider this the red table talk, but for diabetics minus the entanglements.

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So let's do it.

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All right.

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So four beliefs that are working against you as a diabetic.

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Now I know that a lot of this is going to sound like really?

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Woo, woo.

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And stuff like that.

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But I, I want you guys to kind of hang in there with me on this because.

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Mindset shifts truly make a difference.

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And, after working with a past coach that did a deep dive into cognitive, disorders

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and things like that, I gained so much insight on how much, not only do we think,

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but like how our thoughts and beliefs come to be and the different types of cognitive

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distortions that I didn't really realize.

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Happened.

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think we went through 10.

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And so to realize that there's so many things in our minds that we

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try to piece together because your mind doesn't know how to fully

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separate a lot of different things.

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So when something happens and you don't have all the context we fill

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in the blanks, I think I can speak for myself when I definitely start

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filling in the blanks whenever I can't make sense of something, whenever

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something has happened and I haven't got any context or response on it.

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And so I start to make up all these different stories in my mind of

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what the possibilities could be, because until we actually have

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facts in context, all we can do is.

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Allow our minds to, to fill things in for us.

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And sometimes what we fill in the blanks for is not exactly accurate.

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So, we try to perceive things in a way that hopefully is.

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As much of an undistorted lens as possible, but we all know.

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And I talked about this back in season three, that beliefs are, things that

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we've come to know to be true either by what we've experienced, what

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we've seen, someone else experience or kind of a combination of both.

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And so that means that if those views or those actions were

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distorted themselves, then we could have distorted beliefs as well.

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It's very easy to have beliefs that work against you.

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I, I definitely feel like part of our humanity is trying to find

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a way in a balance to walk and be in truth as much as possible.

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Because we have so much information hitting us from all points.

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Our senses are constantly active and I feel like that's something

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that I'm trying to think about more.

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When is there ever a point where your senses are off?

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I've actually been really interested in trying like those

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sensory deprivation chambers.

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But I'm a little nervous too, because if you think about it, like being

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completely cut off from your senses, and you're kind of just left with your

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thoughts, and trying to understand how you, how much the world impacts you when

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all of your senses are so activated.

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It's kind of one of those things that's like really interesting.

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So the first belief that I want to dive into is being diabetic

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means that you can't enjoy things and like just absolute false.

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And I see this belief, plague people so much, especially

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people who are newly diagnosed.

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It's understandable.

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You have just been told that you have a condition that is, impacted by what you

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eat and how you take care of your body.

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And for some it's requiring you to put something in your body that you can no

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longer produce, or take medication to help your body utilize what it's producing.

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And so, people feel like they aren't allowed to do anything anymore.

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I can't eat the things that I want to do.

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I can't travel, I can't do rigorous activities or be an athlete or, be a

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model or, all of these different things.

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And it's simply just not true.

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To be very clear.

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It's okay.

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To be upset about your diagnosis field, which you feel I will

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tell you right now, none of us.

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And I mean, none of us who have been diagnosed have asked for this

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and if we get a hand it off and send it on its Merry way, we would.

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So absolutely.

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It's okay to feel grief.

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It's okay.

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To, mourn your previous life essentially where these were

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things that weren't top of mind.

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So that's okay.

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Please know, you can still enjoy life.

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You can still do things.

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You just have to go about it a little bit differently.

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I know a couple people, especially for my millennial folks and, and

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under who are able to drink and things like that parties and socializing and

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going out where some of the things.

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I know, I thought okay, I'm just gonna have to start saying no

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to everything because I don't want people to have to worry.

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I don't want to have to think about my medication.

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I don't want to have to think about what happens if I pass out all these things.

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It's it's tough, but now I recognize that I just have to

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go about it a different way.

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And I, talk about this in season three, as well, about how you can navigate

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different environments while still managing your diagnosis, because you

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shouldn't hold yourself back simply because you have to go about it.

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So, obviously some of our beliefs come from our environment.

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We're constantly consuming whether we realize it or not.

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And we take in so much, the people that we interact with social media

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podcast videos, all of these things are shooting at us information.

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And each of those interactions can, be a source of belief or information to aid

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to our belief when it's presented to us.

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So.

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In some environments, it almost feels like they're being forced on us.

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And I think of, media I think of diet culture I think of, kind of the body

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shaming and, and trying to, to feel good about, the skin that you're in.

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There's so much around that that's just forced on us in a

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way that we're not asking for.

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There's no way for us to truly.

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I'm seeing all these advertisements and things, we can, we can adjust

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some settings or whatever, but everywhere you look, there's

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something being advertised to you.

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And so it is trying to think about, how can you adjust your consumption or

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minimize, the level of information that you're receiving so that you're not.

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You're not constantly thinking about the thing that you don't want to think about.

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So what I mean is, like everybody says that losing weight is the answer

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to everything, which is belief.

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Number two, that we got to get rid of yes, unhealthy habits can wreak

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havoc on your body diabetic or not.

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We are all aware that unhealthy habits can, be really hard on your body.

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And that side effect could be weight gain, but I don't think

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that focusing on a weight is the answer to everything will be better.

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When I had doctor did Al come on as an endocrinologist who works with diabetics

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all the time and is trying to push for medical practitioners to think about like

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health at every size, the haze movement.

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And he talked about.

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Behaviors.

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We have to address behaviors, not you need to lose weight because the problem with

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thinking losing weight is going to answer.

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All of my problems is you may start to create behaviors that are just

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as unhealthy as the idea that if you just drop all the weight, it all go.

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And diabulimia is a real thing, right?

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Eating disorders are a real thing amongst the community.

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And usually it's those who are heavier, who have a higher likelihood

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to start to experience these type of things, because we're constantly

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being told we need to lose.

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Now I've, I've probably talked about my endocrinology story.

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So many times last season, but in short, my endocrinologist told me

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drop 40 pounds, take this medication that also focuses on weight loss.

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And once we get the weight off, I think we can take you off medication

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and you won't be type two anymore.

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I don't think I'd ever consider myself to be cured of diabetes

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because it's always going to be.

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A possibility for me, in my opinion one, one misstep in how I eat or whatever,

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and I can completely flare things up.

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And he even said himself that, if I don't take care of myself, when I am off or

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reversed my diabetes, then it's going to come back bigger, better and worse.

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And it sent me in a tailspin.

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It, it made me feel like I was back in high school again, trying to prove

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and be skinny for no reason, even though now I don't think I'm meant

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to be, now do I have some body goals?

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Do I have an idea of how I would like to feel first and the visual things.

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I think that's normal.

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I think that's human to, okay.

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It'd be nice if when I wore pants my stomach didn't.

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My pants rolled down, or when I wear leggings that it didn't

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roll, roll down every 10 seconds.

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And more and more is being done to provide clothing that fits all body types.

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So it makes it even easier to feel good about.

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Okay.

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I got a little bit of a stomach and my, desire to shape up is just simply

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that it's just, I'd like to shape up.

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That's it?

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It's not a hard press, like I have got to lose weight, I've got to lose weight.

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I've got to fit this size.

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No, I just, I know how I want to look and it's definitely not skinny.

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It's just in shape and healthy.

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And the shape that I see in my mind is still a shape that a lot

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of the world would deem fat, which is but you know, I can't change

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everybody's perspective in one night.

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So again, Believe number two, losing weight, solves everything.

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It does not.

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Okay.

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Think about behaviors.

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Think about what actions am I taking that are helping manage

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my condition or our history.

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So if that behavior is, I, we'll sit at a desk all day long, hell I got to that.

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I sit at right.

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And I reached for snacks, typically salty snacks, because I'm bored because

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I'm focused so much on what I'm doing.

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And I know I need to eat at some point to, keep my blood sugar

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stable, but it's easier for me to reach for a small snack and.

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Little bits at a time throughout the day, versus just stopping what I'm doing,

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stepping away from the computer and having a meal, a nutritious well-balanced meal.

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So things like that are what you want to tackle.

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For awhile, Struggled to drink water.

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That was a behavior of staying hydrated was something that I needed to work in.

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So think about what behaviors, are, are helping your body or might be hindering.

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And just by making those small changes, you'd be surprised

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how much things can change.

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So one of my behaviors is I don't keep a lot of snacks junk food.

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There we go.

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I don't keep a lot of junk food.

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Do I ask so that I can snack on the ass, typically fruit but, or nuts, but

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I don't keep a lot of chips and cookies and all these other kinds of things that

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are usually over-processed in the house.

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Do I have them sometimes?

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Sure.

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But once I've eaten them, if I do a grocery run where I allow myself those

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types of things, I tell myself once it's gone, it's gone and, I wait, probably

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two or three rounds of groceries before I'll add it again, because I understand

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that when it's in the house, I might inhale it and by doing so now when I had

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those things into my kitchen, I actually don't eat them as quickly as I used to.

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So Oreos used to be something huge for me, and I could easily

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eat half a pack in one sitting.

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Excuse me and I could easily finish a whole pack at one point, but now

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I'm like three or four and I'm good.

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So it's all about, dealing with the behaviors that are leading to potentially

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weight gain, that are leading to your numbers kind of getting crazy.

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Don't look at it from me.

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I just need to lose weight.

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What are the behaviors that need to change that are not helpful to you?

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So I'm curious to know what's, what's a belief that you have, or have been

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told about, your diabetes that is.

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Something that you had to work through or, what's one belief about diabetes

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and weight that you've been told that you're still struggling with and trying

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to determine what's best for you.

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I'd love for you to know, let me know in the comments, if you're watching

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and if you're listening, feel free to let me know in the rating section of

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whatever platform you're listening to.

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I I'd love to know some of the things that you guys have been told or thought

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because I think it's a discussion that we need to have on how we.

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Debunked some of the, those, so moving on to belief, number three, mindset

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shifts are a constant practice, right?

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I look at life kind of like a game and, and yes, I do enjoy

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shows movies and especially anime that take place in a game world.

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I think they always have such a deep lesson to give in that, but

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I think of life as a game because you're constantly leveling up.

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In my opinion, you are constantly seeing things in a way that is different

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or that is so I see life as a game and I feel like in life you overcome

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certain obstacles, test trials.

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But it doesn't necessarily mean that it goes away.

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I feel like you're constantly leveling up.

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So you're going to be tested in new ways.

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You're going to have different variations of the same test.

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I don't want to call it an issue, but at the same test that shows up

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and it's up to you to tackle it in a way that takes you to the next level.

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So for example, I, I had a really hard time.

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Dealing with certain foods being around me.

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And so my answer to that was get it out of the house.

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And then I got to a point where it was not in my house, but in someone else's

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house, like for example, my partners and that new test was my willpower to.

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Either enjoy it, cause there's nothing wrong with it, but don't go overboard.

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And then, at work anybody know about the potlucks and, and the constant

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snacks that are in the break rooms.

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All the, all of that to me are just opportunities of leveling up.

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And so the influence of culture is very strong, right?

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And we have to work diligently to understand ourselves

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better than everybody else.

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Because when you look around, someone is trying to tell you

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what you should do, right?

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So we have to build up our own mental fortitude to be able to

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tackle these new levels of new challenges, for all my gamers up there.

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Especially with open world concept games where there's a never ending sea of

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different quests and challenges to do.

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But every time you complete them, you gain more levels, you gain more

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experience points, you get more access to cool stuff, it doesn't stop at okay.

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You beat the game and you're done like a lot of those type of games.

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Open-world games.

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There's just always something to do.

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And that's literally Until we, go home to glory.

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It's, it's constant, no matter what age you are, like you're always

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going to come up against something.

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So, I think when we, deal with this type of setting where there's always

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something coming at us, practicing mindset and mindfulness things is constant.

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Knowing what's best for you.

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Over time.

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It gets easier to ignore things that are trying to steer you

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away from, from your own path.

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So that leads to belief number three, and this one is big for me because

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I had to work very hard to change this, but being on medication, Isabel.

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And that is one belief that I feel needs to change quite a bit.

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When I first started this as a blog, my goal was to share when I was

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going through and share how I was going to come off my medication and

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be done with diabetes completely.

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I don't think that that's a bad thing, but my mindset at the time.

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Was not in the proper place for that.

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My mindset was that being on this medication is terrible for me

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because Metformin over time is, is gonna, it can ruin my kidneys.

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And it doesn't change that that is factual.

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However, I should not be ashamed to utilize this medication in the short

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term to get me to where I need to be.

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I don't think medication is bad.

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I see medication.

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And I've said this before in the past too.

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They're like training.

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When you don't just immediately hop on a bicycle and take off, right?

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You start with training wheels, you don't immediately go to a job and

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you're thrown right into the work.

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Now, obviously Astrix on that because for people in the startup world, sometimes

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you are, but you get what I'm going at.

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Somebody trained you, somebody, even if it's not the most put together program,

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somebody is going to show you the ropes.

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To let you get your feet wet and let you understand.

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And then once you get more proficient in it, then they let you fly off the handle.

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It's the same thing with medication.

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I'm grateful for a medication.

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Medication allows us to do a lot and yes, are there a lot of things and

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chemicals and all these kinds of things that's being introduced to our bodies.

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That's hard on us that causes side effects.

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True.

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But I think that's where we have to find the balance of it's okay to use.

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These training wheels to get me to a place where I can stabilize on myself.

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And I think that's where a lot of people get stuck when they're,

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so anti-medication sometimes is they don't see the opportunity.

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That's there.

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Like it's teaching your body how to do what it's supposed to do now.

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Obviously for my insulin dependent people, that's a little bit different.

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And technology has caught up to allow it to be a bit easier, like

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with pumps and things like that.

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But for my medication based folks myself, the medication that I

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take helps my body to dump excess.

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And it helps my body to use the insulin that I am over

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making basically this point.

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So that way it can get used to again, so I can get more sensitive

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again, so I can minimize the amount of sugar that's in my system.

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So that way, again, I can be sensitive to insulin that my body is making.

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So I don't think that we should treat medication as bad.

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I do also feel like medical professionals have to be careful

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when they present medication.

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I've heard so many people who have shared stories about they

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were threatened with insulin.

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And I don't think that that is okay.

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I think how we phrase things is huge.

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So to say, Hey, so here's where your numbers are kind of at.

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I think it will be helpful.

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If we started you on a low dose or whatever dose of insulin, just to

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get your body back in rhythm with it.

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And then we can start to bring you off when things start to stabilize versus,

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if we can't get these numbers down, we're going to have to put you on insulin.

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That sounds like a threat.

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That sounds like a punishment.

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That sounds oh, you're being a bad person.

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So now I'm going to have to make you do this.

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Which of course, people start go running for the Hills or they end up back into

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the stage of insane dieting and, weight loss and all of these things that

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throws our body completely out of whack.

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So we have to be mindful about it.

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How we say these types of things.

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So if there's a by chance, any medical practitioner, nurse,

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whomever, please be careful about how you say stuff to people, right?

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Unless you know them that deeply, unless I go in and say, Hey doc,

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tell it to me straight don't you, ain't got to be, the bedside manner.

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You can miss me with it, whatever bedside manner.

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Hey, I think it might be helpful to introduce this

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and then we can work to this.

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And then go from there.

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It's a lot less of a blow than feeling like I just went to my doctor's

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office, got scolded punished, and now I'm grounded to using this medication

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until I can get my shit together.

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I don't think that's cool.

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So, medication is meant to be helpful and yes, I think we can all agree

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that the ideal goal is for it to not be term, if we can help it, obviously

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there's some conditions that it can't.

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We shouldn't see medication as something that is evil or

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unhelpful or as a punishment.

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It's, it's a tool, it's a resource, just like anything else to support you and your

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body until you are able to bring yourself to a place to deal with it yourself.

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So the last belief that I really just like.

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Can't stand.

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And I really, especially for newly diagnosed people, I want you to know

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that this is a specialty for you because it it's, it's, it's tough.

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You did not cause your diabetes.

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That is one belief that is holding our community hostage in such a terrible way.

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It will just never forget a medical practitioner saying this

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in a clubhouse room of, okay.

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Let's be honest.

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Type two is simply a series of bad decisions that somebody made

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and that's why they're there.

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And it is not to say that lifestyle doesn't play.

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But genetics can also play a role.

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There's, there's, there's so many different things and we're learning more

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and more about all these different types.

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And, even with type one lotta like the late onset is such an

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interesting thing where people are going through their entire childhoods

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into adulthood and suddenly their beta cells are just like, I'm out.

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Your pancreas says I ain't got any more.

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And people are being misdiagnosis as type two.

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Sometimes, it is really disheartening to hear people, especially those who

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are non-diabetic and you really don't have a clue about what this is like to

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say to somebody that you caused your diabetes, simply because you were fat.

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So wouldn't that mean that every person that is overweight should be diabetic,

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but there's plenty that aren't right.

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There's plenty of people who you know, especially if you're using the

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BMI chart are considered overweight and aren't at risk for types.

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You aren't at risk for heart disease.

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Aren't at risk for a lot of things.

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There are people who are, or bigger than me who are way healthier.

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And I think that's something that we have to start to realize is that

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there's way too many variations of people to make the call.

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That diabetes is something that you bring on yourself.

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I, I, I can't get with that.

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So if you've ever been told that diabetes is your fault, if you've ever been told

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that you caused it, that you ate so much sugar, that this is now what happens.

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Please don't it makes me so passionate to hear that because so many men and women

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are, are mentally spiraling out of control because they're, being told that, they got

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it from being lazy and eating bad foods.

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And you don't care about yourself.

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That, that one, that one gets me.

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If anything, if someone were to say to me today, you caused your diabetes.

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The only thing that I would say is okay, if that's the case, I feel like

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the only reason I caused my diabetes is because I live in a culture that

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tells me that I'm not good enough if I'm not skinny, sometimes white, sorry.

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Y'all but if I'm not skinny, white, and constantly starving

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myself in order to be active.

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That's why it happened because I'm trying to keep up with too

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many standards that were never designed for me in the first place.

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And so my habits, my eating, my workout is all out of sync with my

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body and I've stressed at the hell out.

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And I've binge eat every time that I got off of a fat diet that didn't work.

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Like it spiraled me into that.

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So yeah.

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So yeah, indirectly the world has caused my diabetes, like that would

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be the only thing that I would say to that, because there's no way in

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hell that I would sit here and, and ask for this, and I really, I really,

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especially for my type twos, I really don't like that stigma that comes up.

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And even outside of being type two, there's so many different.

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So, if you hear diabetes, you should not assume that one type

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is better or worse than the other.

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It's a variation of it.

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We're dealing with it, we're working through it.

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We're living with it, have some compassion and be a little bit understanding that

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that's just not how you, how you roll up to somebody and say, so, please do

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not believe that because I let that hold me back for about two and a half.

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When I was diagnosed I don't want that to hold you back.

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So being diabetic does not mean that you can enjoy things false.

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You can, and there are plenty of diabetics who thrive and can do anything

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that other people can do, how you do it is just going to be a little bit

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different from others to losing weight is the answer to everything false.

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Diabetes can be diagnosed for plenty of other reasons, besides weight.

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So focus on behaviors, not weight gain.

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The ring being on medication is a bad thing.

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False.

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Your medication is your resource.

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Okay.

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Your medication is your training wheels.

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Your medication is there to support you to get you to a spot.

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If you're able to come off and if you're not, at least it's there to help you.

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I think that's better than not having anything and just kind of flailing and

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not knowing what your body is doing.

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So, it's there to help you optimize your body.

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So that way it can know what it feels like to be at its best.

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And then last.

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Then at least you cause your diabetes absolutely false.

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There are so many factors and there's so much, that's complex about

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diabetes, that to ever think that you caused it yourself is insane.

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So don't fall for the hype.

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Don't let anybody tell you that you're a bad person because of your diagnosis.

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It is simply not.

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So some things to think about are what are some negative thoughts or beliefs

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that you have around your diabetes?

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And I would challenge you to write them down and, and reframe them reframing

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them into something positive, right?

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Whether that's, saying I'm trying to think of an example.

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I'm a bad diabetic.

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If I eat it.

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I am capable of having a cookie and managing my diabetes accordingly,

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something to that effect.

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And there's, there's so many ways you can do it.

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But do that, write that down whenever you feel like those thoughts are creeping

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up, pull out a piece of paper, open up your laptop or whatever, and write

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out those, those thoughts, and then go back and reframe them into something.

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Positive or neutral.

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Cause I don't think that everything has to be like, yeah, go team go.

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Like sometimes it just needs to be a place of neutral understanding.

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But we want to keep, want to keep our heads out of that negative mindset.

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So another one my diabetes is because I'm fat and I eat too much.

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Reframe could be, my diabetes is complex, but by adjusting my behaviors,

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I can manage it in the way that best.

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The frame, everything.

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So that's all I got for today.

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But you know, head over to Instagram and let me know on the show post, cause I

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always do a post on every new episode.

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Let me know what beliefs you're letting go of or that you're reframing.

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I think it's best to.

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Think about and share the things that we are telling ourselves, because

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you'd be surprised of how many other people are thinking it too.

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And we can support each other in not believing those things and, cheering

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each other on to change our behaviors and do things that are positive for us.

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So let me know on the show post, or, you can leave me a comment

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if you're watching the news.

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Or if you are simply listening and you want to head over to apple

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podcast or pod chaser.com, you can leave me a message there as well.

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If you have the time and you don't necessarily want to let me

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know what are some of the beliefs that you're changing and you just

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want to leave a simple review?

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I would appreciate that very, very much.

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It helps the show.

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It helps ensure that I keep bringing up really nice stuff like this for you guys.

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So it would mean the world to me.

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If you could leave me a rating on how I'm doing, if anything that I'm

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talking about is resonating with you, or if you want to hear something

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else you won't hurt my feelings.

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If you give me.

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At all, because that lets me know how I can pivot and shift and

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provide information that's relevant to you, or that makes sense to you.

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Cause I'm just out here talking to my shit the best way I know it, but interaction

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from you guys helps me out a lot.

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So, thank you guys so much for stopping by again and listening to today's episode.

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I think beliefs are such an interesting thing to dive into and understand

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And, I think a big part of it is just community and being able to connect

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with other people and understand the things that they're going through

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and realize you are not alone.

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And there's plenty of us who are dealing with the same things

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and can support you in that.

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So, you guys know me, Taylor, Danielle, feel free to follow my

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personal Instagram if you like, I do more than just this podcast.

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So if you want to see all the things that I'm about.

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Head on over to Instagram, just Taylor, Danielle that's Danielle

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And then of course, follow the show.

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So you always know what's going on.

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So you can leave me those comments on what some beliefs that you're reframing.

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I'm on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, if you're watching.

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And then.

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You already know, you can listen to anywhere where you

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can find your favorite podcasts.

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So thank you guys so much for tuning in this round.

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For hindsight thoughts, it's still a thing.

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I know.

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I didn't say it at the beginning.

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All the solo episodes are hindsight thoughts.

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And I'm really excited for this week's guests because speaking of community and

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learning from others, we have the diabetes app coming on to the pod this week.

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So I'm really excited for you to get to sit down with one of their

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founders and learn more about how the app was created and be able to

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connect with others in the community.

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I am on the app myself.

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So it's a really cool space to just learn.

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See others and connect with others and realize that you have so many people

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who are rooting for you and that want to support you and can share their

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tips and insights and experiences as they navigate diabetes themselves.

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So be sure to tune in on Thursday, but until then I

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will catch you guys next time.

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