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Words of Wisdom 143 on emotional
resilience in relationships.
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Intensity in a relationship
is a sugar rush.
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It's short, fleeting, and unsatisfying.
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Intimacy is the meat and potatoes.
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Cultivate emotional resilience
to feast on deep connection.
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Conflict is the vegetables.
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The last thing you want,
but necessary to thrive.
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In order to improve your emotional
resilience, you must keep
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having vulnerable conversations.
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Two.
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To have a vulnerable conversation,
first identify something that
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is difficult to talk about.
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Then, share the topic, how you
feel, and the story you are
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attaching to your feelings.
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Here is a formula you can use.
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When X happened, I felt Y.
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The meaning I made was Z.
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3.
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Emotional sobriety means you stay grounded
and connected, feeling your emotions but
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not avoiding them or getting flooded.
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A drunk makes excuses so
they can keep on drinking.
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Don't be an emotional drunkard.
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Seek emotional sobriety.
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Choose the feeling you most commonly get
drunk on and surrender it to God, vowing
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to never again do so, and learn to rely
on God's power to keep you centered.
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If you don't commit to the narrow way,
to the goal of emotional sobriety,
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you'll certainly never get there.
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As it turns out, vulnerable conversations
are key to emotional sobriety.
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Four.
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Make a commitment today to
grow in emotional resilience.
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Invest in resilience, and it will
add up, having a compounding impact
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on your life and relationship.
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But it takes time.
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Refuse to take shortcuts.
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By cultivating emotional resilience,
you're not just improving your own
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emotional well being, but you're
also creating stronger, more
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fulfilling, and richer relationships.
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Prayer.
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Help me to be the boy with
five loaves and two fish.
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Help me to be a giver when I come
across need, to show up with all
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that I have, give what I can, and to
respond immediately to your guidance.
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Lead me in my next steps
and provide for me richly.
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Above all, may I feast
on your loving presence.
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I surrender everything
and everyone to you, Lord.
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Do with me and what you have
entrusted to me as you desire.
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Amen.
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Live wisely, Josh.
