Regardless of whatever may ever happen in your life, no matter what may happen, being able to unlock the potential in your heart means seeing things that may not be otherwise seen to the common curiosity about what may happen. Today’s episode explores what it means to connect with your belief in yourself, and what the highs & the lows can help to empower inside of you to become the best version of yourself. We can believe if we do one important thing to ensure that we gain clarity and confidence.

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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs

Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 165 of Speaking from the Heart.

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It's time to believe in yourself.

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It's time to show that no matter what

might be happening, unlocking your

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hidden potential in your heart means that

you're able to see things that oftentimes

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might not be seen by common curiosity.

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It's time to explore what is really

outside of your comfort zone and to

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show you what is really not only in

your way, but to unlock what might be.

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It's time to be able to step

forward and find your voice.

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Today's episode is not the same

as what we had just covered

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within the last several weeks.

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It's not what we had before when it came

to even understanding, even all the things

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that we got going on in our life, how we

can become better versions of ourself.

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Now, last month I did have

an episode called Believe in

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Yourself that aired October 1st.

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This time, we're going to believe in

ourselves in a completely different way.

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Now, if you did listen to that episode,

which was episode number 155, maybe

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you want to take a listen to it again.

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Maybe you might be visiting us for the

first time, and maybe you want to check

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that out, just so you have a context

for today's episode, but we talked about

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more so of how we can keep the faith on

some days over others, especially when

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it comes to manifesting that challenging

belief, that it might be holding us

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back, to create the best version, to be

able to understand that we can believe

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in ourselves, and I would have to say

that that episode really gave some

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context at the very end of how you can

create and manifest that existence no

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matter where you might be in your life.

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Today's episode is quite different.

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We really want to explore what it means to

connect with your belief in yourself, and

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what might be some of the highs and lows,

just in general for that matter, that can

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create, and even hold back, from becoming

the best version of ourself, but there's

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really one important thing that I will

talk about later on, that will help us to

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gain that clarity and confidence, but I'm

going to hold off on that because let's

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talk about what it means to even believe.

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I think that even for myself, we have

to explain why it's important to have a

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basic understanding of what believing is.

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Believing isn't necessarily worshipping.

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It's not the same thing

as accepting and trusting.

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It means that you're giving yourself

the confidence to say that, I want to

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believe that what you have to say, what

you are going to do, will come alive.

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That's why the word believe is not the

same as even putting the word trust

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in the same sentence, because those

are two different types of concepts.

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I'm sure that many of you might

be scratching your head saying,

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"Well, I've heard it said this way.

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Why isn't it the same?"

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I think that believing is actually

giving yourself permission.

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Trust in itself is an external

type of permission, in which you

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have to let somebody else in.

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You actually have to give them the credit

so that they are invited in, feeling like

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they can come out to say anything that

is on their minds, and I even had Dr.

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Lulu recently on this show, that really

talked about that concept of letting

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yourself be a radical thinker, but we're

not talking about being radical today.

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We're not even talking about understanding

what other people's perceptions are.

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We're really just talking about you.

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When's the last time that

you even sat back and thought

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about yourself in this way?

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Has it been a long time?

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Has it been since episode 155?

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Has it been something else that might

be prohibiting you from unlocking that

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potential that I know that you have,

but yet you have to acknowledge for

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yourself, and that's really the key.

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When we talk about belief,

we're talking about yourself.

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Sometimes when we are even

acknowledging that we have these sort

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of situations, what comes to mind?

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What we are able to do.

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What we are able not to do.

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Some of those aspects, some of those

things that are holding us hostage,

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can really throw us into the tiller.

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It makes us feel like we're being

grounded up, we are being questioned,

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challenged, even being viewed as somebody

that is completely different of how we

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should be perceiving even ourselves.

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Yeah.

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I know!

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Even ourselves can even

challenge ourselves!

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Now if that isn't meta, I don't

know what is, but even for me,

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I've had these meta discussions.

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I've had these types of

conversations with other people.

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It has even thrown me under the bus of

why it's so important to just think about,

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and just simplistically accept, that

you can believe in yourself, even if you

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had believed in yourself in the past.

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You see, belief isn't just

about what you might accept.

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It's about what's inside your heart

that you're willing to accept.

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Aha!

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Now we're getting to the real

depths of what this is all about.

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What is inside your heart that maybe you

haven't written down in such a long time?

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Maybe you haven't envisioned

what that looks like.

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Way back in episode 13, I

talked about the lighthouse.

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That lighthouse is what is so important

for me, that guiding principle,

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way back when I was struggling with

my suicide, when I was struggling

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with the thoughts of inadequacy.

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I did not believe in myself, ladies

and gentlemen, and that belief was

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tainted by all the different things that

were happening in my life internally.

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Sure, I've even mentioned on this show,

on a variety of different occasions

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after that, of how the external

pressures got the best of me, but that's

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not what this is always all about.

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We ultimately make a choice.

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That choice is what decides whether we are

really going to work on ourselves or not.

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If we really are afraid of

unlocking what is inside of our

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human being, our human condition,

then all of this is for nothing.

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Even as we get towards the end of this

year and we enter this very festive

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holiday season, you might be even saying

to yourself, "Can I pull this off?

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Can I make dinner for

Thanksgiving and Christmas?

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Do I have money in the bank account,

especially after being really

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traumatized, even unfortunately debt

ridden this year, because of the cost

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of everything going up to be able

to give my kids Christmas presents?

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To be able to feed everyone that

will be coming to the house?

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Do I have to take a loan from a bank?

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Will they even approve me to

be able to pay for all these

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things that I have on my plate?

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What am I going to do?"

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That last question is something that

I've always asked myself, even in

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the last 10 months, which has been

some of the most hardest moments of

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my life, trying to figure out what's

the best way to move forward, when

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I felt like nobody believed in me.

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Bonus episode number one of this

podcast really dived into why I have

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this kind of conversation today.

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That episode recorded a time in my life

in which I was really struck down by an

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unfortunate series of events by someone

that had really made me feel inadequate,

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but yet, at the same time, it was because

of something that happened externally.

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I let that get the best of me internally.

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I could have changed the narrative,

but I chose not to, and that led

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me into a spiral that I had been

dealing with, and even to this day,

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sometimes reels its ugly head, and

I have to keep on beating it down,

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knowing that it's no longer who I am.

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I think that we have to come to peace

sometimes when it comes to these types

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of situations, and peace looks like it's

different for so many different people.

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Peace in itself means that we actually

have to acknowledge that we have

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to have solemn quiet, and sometimes

that solemnness, that ability to sit

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in silence, to be able to actually

process what's happening around us,

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is something that I've really have

cherished over the last few years.

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It means actually stepping aside,

knowing that it's okay to feel

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the way that I do, but also at the

same time, I have to let myself go.

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I have to make myself feel

comfortable with all the things

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that are happening around me.

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It means that I have to feel like I am

in charge of what is ultimately going to

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happen, and sometimes being in charge is

something that really scares me to death.

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As I even run my own business and help

others become the best versions of

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themselves, me, an owner of a coaching

business that's really trying to figure

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out what's the best way to move forward,

can also struggle with this as well.

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Why would I be so open about it?

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I've talked about this on some of my

earlier episodes with some of my first

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several dozen guests about why it's so

important to keep pushing myself forward.

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How do they push themselves forward?

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I was really wrestling at that time what

it meant to have sheer confidence to

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really believe in myself again after all

these things that have transpired in my

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life, and trying to figure out where my

place is on this earth, but there was

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one thing that I wasn't considering that

today I want to share with you that might

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be helping you to overcome this limiting

belief that you have in yourself, which

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is, if there's nobody else that's standing

in your way, the only person that is left,

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that might be holding you up, is you.

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Yes.

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I'm talking about you, the person

listening to this, that might be

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holding this back from becoming,

being able to believe in yourself.

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To gain clarity and confidence, it means

that we actually have to love ourselves.

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We have to acknowledge that we have a

place on this earth, that we have gifts

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that we can give to others, that we are

able to share with no strings attached,

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that no matter what happens, regardless

of what any type of person might say or

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do, they have no power over what we have

as beating to our own drum, as even Dr.

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Lulu has said during

last month's interview.

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It's one thing to tell ourselves that

we are not going to be held back by

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other people, but it's a whole other

conversation when we say that we are the

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ones that are holding ourselves back,

and sure, you might be scratching your

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head and saying, "I don't feel that way."

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Do you really feel that way, or

are you not actually attuned to

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what you got going on in your life?

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Are you really digging deep, my

friends, into understanding why you

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feel this way, and why it continues to

keep on coming back every single time?

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Do you really believe that you feel that

way, or do you think that you haven't

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had a chance to explore it deeply?

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One of my future guests that I have on the

show, which I'm not going to tell you who

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it is, and when we get to that episode,

I think it's going to be enlightening.

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I think it has helped me to understand

that unlocking our hidden potential

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means that we have to live in a freedom

of self expression, loving ourselves,

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and finding the ways in which we can

do that objectively or subjectively.

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For me, I'm a very analytical person.

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I have to see the proof in the pudding.

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I have to see the numbers

thrown up on the board.

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I have to have that physical

manifestation, whether that's with an

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award, a trophy, a plaque, seeing it on

my dashboard on QuickBooks, or even seeing

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something else that tells me through a

validation of texting, or communication,

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or by some other means, to tell me that

I am worth it, that I am capable of

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being able to help others, to see what

their true value is, and that I am able

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to believe in myself, once and for all.

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It's weird because it's

like this pendulum.

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It goes back and forth.

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One day I feel great,

the other day I don't.

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It might be the energy that's in the air.

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It might be the atmosphere.

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It might be the seasons changing.

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It might be the stress that's coming in

our lives from a variety of different

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aspects, whether that's through our jobs.

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It's through our bosses.

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It might be the different physical

manifestations that we're having.

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It might be financial.

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It might be legal.

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It might be cultural, societal.

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It might be where we live.

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It might be where we go

to the grocery store.

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It might be with people that we

thought that we can care about,

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but we can't care about anymore.

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It might be because of an argument that we

really felt like we were winning, but then

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we lost because we took it too personally.

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Do you understand that all these things

that I've just rattled off for the last

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minute could be all the possible reasons

as to why you, the person listening

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to this, can't believe in themselves?

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You have to be curious about wanting

to change, and I can't teach you that.

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That's something that even on this

podcast, I really craved trying to figure

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out how to create this conversation

with you about being curious, but

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then I started to realize that in my

own life, when people told me that

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I needed to be curious, I refused.

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I was so set in my ways.

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I didn't want to hear anybody else's

bullshit, just like the bullshit

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that you might be thinking I'm

saying today, that I can't do this.

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I'm not worthy of doing this.

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I can't create this for anybody, but if

you want to keep standing in your way,

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that's your choice, but the curiosity

got the best of me one day a couple

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years ago, which ultimately allowed

me to rent an office in Carlisle,

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Pennsylvania, to work on what will

ultimately become Your Speaking Voice

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LLC, and then the byproduct that came

a year later, Speaking From The Heart.

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It became full circle for

me, ladies and gentlemen.

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I am starting to understand why I

need to believe in myself yet again,

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and now even when I hear myself in

episode 155 give me that final saying

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at the end, that final push it allowed

me to connect with myself in a way

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that I never connected with before.

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Me; and the me of the past will not

be the me of the present, or even the

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future, but for one infinitesimal moment,

I could believe that I had the power

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to change, and ladies and gentlemen,

that has been the purpose of why I

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always believe, even at the end of 2024,

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potential to unlock your heart to see

what might be otherwise not seen if

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you're willing to challenge yourself.

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This is your time.

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If this is your first time being

on this show, listening to this

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podcast, take a listen to all the

episodes that I've had so far.

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All 166 of them.

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This is not even counting today's episode.

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There is 166 episodes for your liking.

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You can resonate with all of them.

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You can resonate with some of them.

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You can resonate with none of them,

but that is your choice, but what I

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will challenge you in your choice of is

whether you want to be stuck in your mud,

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not willing to change, not willing to

believe in yourself again, because you

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don't see it in yourself, but yet, I see

it in you, just like I see it in myself.

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That's why I always seem to end these

shows talking about how I see it in you.

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You!

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The people that I might have never met

before in my life, I believe in you, so

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if you can empower yourself to become

the best version of yourself, you can

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gain the clarity and confidence, if

you're willing, to stop standing in

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your way today, and start challenging

those limiting beliefs, to believe in

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yourself yet again, because there will

be people that are ready for you to have

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that conversation, no matter how tough

it is, and yes, although it's external

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in nature, it's time that you face that

one ultimate person that has always been

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in your way, that has always said no,

that has never made you feel comfortable

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about what you're doing right now.

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You, and when you tackle

you, give me a call.

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I'm ready to help you become the best

version of yourself all over again.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 165 of Speaking From the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart, very soon.

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