Your host, Maureen Spielman, joins you today to talk about Developing Inner Trust. This is also the celebration of 6 months of the podcast! How can you develop inner trust? What voice or qualities take up most of your inner dialogue? Is it supportive or sabotaging? Is it possible to develop a new overriding voice? Maureen not only believes that it’s possible to transform the way we speak to ourselves and how we are with ourselves, she also provides examples of how you can become increasingly aware and how to find more space in your life for this commitment.

Episode Takeaways (what you’ll learn):

• What it means to develop inner trust
• Why cultivating a consciousness that is safe is so important
• How to carve out space in your day for your experiences
• Why developing an inner relationship of the highest order
• Nothing is more important than cultivating a shame free and judgment free zone within you

Mentioned Resources:

Shuka Selvakumar, Be Still My Heart

https://www.amazon.com/Be-Still-Heart-Shaku-Selvakumar

Suzi Lula/Soul Care Coaching

https://suzilula.com/

About the Host:

Maureen Spielman is the Founder of Mystical Sisterhood, a podcast dedicated to bringing more joy, healing and expansion to the world. She is a seasoned life coach who supports individuals through one-on-one coaching, groups and workshops.

Connect with Maureen:

● Check out her Instagram: @maureeenspielman

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● Email Maureen at hello@maureenspielman.com to inquire about coaching, podcasting & speaking engagements

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Hello mystical sisterhood listeners. This is

your host, Maureen Spielman. And I'll keep this brief. But I'm

coming to you today with a solo episode. And I'm talking about

developing inner trust. It's going to have just principles

and ideas, questions for you to take away and apply to your own

life and takeaways of How to Become more aware and develop

inner trust within you. And also thank you for being a listener

today is episode 30. And Mark six months of the show. I'm so

excited. You're here as always, and I'll see you in the episode.

Hey there, welcome to mystical sisterhood. This is your host,

Maureen Spielman. I started the show to highlight the

intuitives, healers and other courageous women that I've met

along my journey and continue to meet. Through amazing

interviews, I seek to ask insightful questions to uncover

ways in which you the listener can apply the wisdom and

knowledge to your own life. I believe that we're all in this

together. So sharing healing and joy, and bringing community

together is both my passion and purpose. If you'd like to learn

more about the mystical sisterhood community I'm

building, please visit www mystical sisterhood.com See you

in the episode.

Hi, welcome back to mystical sisterhood. This is Maureen

Spielman, your host and I'm solo today. I'm excited, because I'm

celebrating six months of the podcast. It started in January,

and today I am on episode 30. I wouldn't be here without you,

the listener first and foremost, and all of my guests, I probably

have interviewed around 25 guests. So far. I've been

excited about each and every interview. And I'm really

excited about what's to come. I decided today for the solo

episode, to talk about developing inner trust, or

honing it. If you've been on this path for a while, wherever

you are on your journey. Mystical sisterhood, and

bringing this to life has really been a journey of trusting

myself stepping into myself. And I really feel that it's an

expression at the soul level for me. And also in addition to the

world that was much needed. So I was looking for some inspiration

of where to start today. And probably like you, I have many,

many, many personal growth and spiritual books on my bookshelf.

In fact, it's a running joke that I can't stop buying them.

And people I know, close friends family, they can't either. So I

know I'm not alone in this. But a beautiful book came across my

path, probably over a year ago. And it may be one that you

haven't heard of. It's called Be still my heart. And it's by

Shaku Selvakumar and she is a dear sister in law have a friend

of mine, Xena, and sorry Selvakumar. So I was looking for

inspiration in this book of poetry, again called Be still my

heart. And I found a poem called the House of belonging, which I

thought was really applicable and apropos for today, the house

of belonging, she walked into the house of belonging,

oblivious of any wrongdoing, stepping into cluttered rooms,

hearing echoes from childhood wounds, memories from teenage

years, brave planets orbited without fear, so comfortable.

She was not shedding her skin, hugging a tightly she sat within

foreign seeking, you surely will find not always what you had in

mind. She searched today, in the house of love. The furniture was

swept away. She sat in the dark in the house of faith, with

nothing at hand, but the hope of grace. She picked up bricks in

the house of trust for a strong foundation instead of fear. She

made friends in the house of gray, every strand had something

to say. Or the journey inside, crosses terrain unknown, a

forked path, a blossoming tree, she waits to see, she stays to

see. So you can see at the end of this poem, it has touched my

heart. I love this house of belonging. And I believe that

that house of belonging exists within you within all of us. And

so today I wanted to do Talk about delving into a deeper

relationship to that inner home. So you may continue to develop

your inner trust, finding your own North Star, as they say,

being your own go to person for answering so many of life's

questions. And if you're like me, persistent questions come

again and again. And new ones keep coming all the time. So

we're human, and we can expect that. I always, it's because I

didn't know anything different. I used to think that that

Northstar, or that compass was outside of me, I'd find that

teacher or book that would be my guide, in my reference point.

And to some degree, I still do, or that that a loved one could

be the answer to my happiness. And, in fact, all of my

teachers, whether in the form of a true, you know, quote,

unquote, teacher, or my teachers within my family, or my friend

group, they are my guides, they are the ones that bring me back

to my answers. But I am at the center of the show, I love how,

you know, they often say that when we have recurring patterns

in our lives that frustrate us, or we seem like we can't get

away from or out of that we are always at the center of it. So

that to me, says that we have these answers within. They lead

my teachers and messengers lead me back to this inner home. For

most of my life, I didn't understand that the people on

the outside and the words in the books, we're not going to hold

those complete answers. So again, they contributed to me

finding it, but they weren't it. So I love the Choate, the

coaching path that I've chosen to do it I call it soul care

coaching, and of course, trained by Suzy Lulu spaced in spiritual

psychology. And the premise is, and this applies to all of us is

that you are whole and worthy as is, you have the answers within,

and that there is nothing to be fixed. As I sort of wrote this

out, as I was preparing, I thought, How beautiful is that?

Does it get more beautiful? Can you imagine being a little child

and being told these things, I'm laughing because I thought to

myself, that though I loved my parents dearly, I wished for a

do over, that do over of what it must have felt like to hear

those words when I was young. So I see coaching as a journey of

guiding you back to your truth, and developing an inner trust

that becomes very reliable over time. I believe that if we would

have been tended to in those ways, we would have developed

this really, I don't know, just intimate relationship with

ourselves. So that's what I'm interested in. Now, I really do

find that so many of these terms and concepts come at midlife.

And if it's true for me, I have to believe it's true for a lot

of us that it's a new language, new practices, new ways of being

that can lead us back to a really deep, intimate

relationship with ourselves, and a deep and intimate trust with

ourselves. Developing an inner relationship is one of the most

sacred things we can do in our lifetime. Getting to know

yourself so deeply that you can rely on yourself to give

compassion to yourself in difficult times, lean on

yourself to take pause and know that you will steer yourself in

the right direction. And to become really adept at

recognizing the signs coming to you, the universe around you,

the intelligence of your body and your emotions. So

essentially, you become your go to person, as experiences come

your way. If you're in a pattern of reaching out to another, when

you're when you're going through something, you will find that

investing in a relationship to yourself will not take away that

need completely because we are we are wired for connection and

to be with one another. But it will reduce in a sense that sort

of need or craving for an outer validation because what you do

is you begin to enter validate yourself. And developing inner

trust can feel like work. It's delving into new

ways and I believe taking personal responsibility for how

we're showing up for ourselves. So, although not clear at times,

I tend to look at getting to my truth, my answers as a discovery

process. And when I'm in that place, to come to myself with

curiosity, and a willingness just to look inside. So why

might your relationship to trusting yourself deeply, feel a

bit rocky or unsteady? Or even? Like, what is Maureen talking

about? And I believe it's because we were steered away, we

came into the world with that inner compass, that inner

knowing I like to think of it as an inner calibration. And just

because we are human, and we came up in whatever culture you

came up in, our parents greatly influenced us. And we often went

to what they wanted us to do our teachers, we know in school

systems, we behave in certain ways. And we lose that in

touchiness with ourselves, maybe someone in our life told us we

were wrong, or that wasn't accurate, or there was a better

way, and you began to believe it. So the news media,

magazines, teachers, specialists, you name it, I

invite you to look back at your life, you have been surrounded

by other people's voices, opinions and ways of doing

things. And again, places I entrust it to others, and

allowed them to impact how I felt about myself or what

decisions I made. And when I kind of pondered, where have I,

perhaps given away my trust? True, you know, when I was

younger, blindly, but I guess, I'm inviting us to be on a path

of discerning what is our truth? And can we trust it? So places I

know that I gave away my inner trust, were allowing someone to

determine what smart was for me. And then not trusting myself

that I actually had this intelligence inside, I had no

idea for most of my life. Allowing something on the

outside to determine how I needed to look or show up. What

size I needed to be any of those things, those messages came

through loud and clear. Gosh, if you're my generation, in

magazines, and television, and so this kind of trust coming

back to myself of what is in alignment with how I want to

feel, I think allowing others to take the two know the best

course of action for my children. That's where I love

the tie in of conscious parenting. And I think conscious

parenting is a really beautiful Avenue, and portal to find out

our truths. So consider that. If you've never considered

conscious parenting, I do find that most people who come to me

for conscious parenting, are working on relationship to self.

It because we know that then that spills over into not only

our self trust, but the Trust for our children as well. And I

guess in general, just allowing someone to determine my self

worth. So it's not that people in our lives are not

trustworthy. But we are being invited to remember that what we

know feel and how our experiences have guided us and

are guiding us and that tuning into what you feel is not to be

taken lightly at all. It should be the biggest part of decision

making in your life if you ask me. So going to yourself first,

before anything else. I wanted to say, how do you do this? How

do I do this? How have I learned to do this? And it's based on

the premise that in order to trust yourself, you need to feel

safe. So we know that this is true on the outside and the

outside. If we're in relationship with someone in

order to trust them, and have an abundant relationship, we need

to feel safe. And if someone on the outside is not treating you

well for any reason, you're not going to feel safe, you won't

trust them. This is an invitation then to take a look

inside that goes for inner work as well. What can undermine your

own feeling of safety and trust on the inside? So I think that

we all have an awareness how we can be hard on ourselves. But if

we begin to dial up our awareness a bit, it's going to

lead us to answers. So sometimes it is paying attention to how

people on our outside are hard on themselves. But being

judgmental of yourself. And this is sometimes that quiet internal

voice, or not saying things out loud, but being judgmental of

yourself in your mind, saying, You shouldn't have done that.

Either recently, or in the past a long time ago, we can create a

lot of judgments about how we have shown up and the things we

have or haven't done. Shaming yourself creates an unsafe

environment inside, you're not a good person, or something's

wrong with you, or there's something to be fixed or you're

defective, because of something you've done recently, or a long

time ago, again, I keep on saying like, being judgmental of

yourself, and being shameful inside. I keep on saying a long

time ago, because we can carry events from our past, and how we

acted and showed up in our psyche for a long time. We know

that they exist within ourselves, because we

experienced them. Or we may or may not know that, but they do.

But I know that I've had many act of loops on things that have

happened in the past. For me, it can be different for all of us,

particularly it was my teenage years. Because that was when I

was most out of alignment, I feel. I feel it through my life,

but most where it felt very volatile. And I think confusing

was my teenage years. So I my mind would go back and revisit

that all the time trying to figure it out. And this today, I

wasn't going to I do have some things to say about it in a bit.

But today was just really this premise of like, what does it

take to develop inner trust? So we're taking a look, we're

dialing up the awareness of where we're judgmental, and

where shame sneaks in. Often we're tipped off because we use

disparaging language. And that might even be, you know, your

body's not good enough, you're not smart enough. Why did you do

that? You're a bad parent, I don't know how it shows up in

your mind, we all have our voices. So that really creates

an unsafe internal environment, you can imagine if it were on

the outside, it would feel unsafe, and you're not going to

trust. So becoming aware of how you speak to yourself. It's

going to allow you to then make other choices, and trying to

think of what I'm saying their awareness is the beginning. If

you've been doing this work, the reminders are always good, don't

you think I remind myself every day. So building an inner trust

is a process and one that unfolds at the pace that is

right for you. At each moment, I'm reminding you that you're

supported in this universe, and you're being guided on the

outside and the inside. I'm hoping that today's podcast is

giving you some guidance from an external voice. And I want to

say something about the community at the end. But

surrounding ourselves. With conversations like this are what

leads us to developing the inner trust the inner safety, the

inner intimacy. I've benefited greatly from both being in

conversation with family who are interested in this conversation

with my coaching colleagues and friends and community through

social care coaching and different communities I've been

in. So I believe that immersing ourselves in these ideas is one

of the biggest things we can do. And that's really why I created

the mystical sisterhood membership. And that's always on

my website. I'll refer to it at the end. But that's I think what

I found for myself is the immersion in community has

allowed me to experience more internal freedom. And so I want

to bring that to the world. I want to ask you a question.

Okay, what has spoken to you so far? And what do you need from

yourself consistently.

Ask these kind of slowly. Where have you neglected yourself?

Possibly trusting someone else on the outside more than

yourself? What ways have you been hard on yourself? For what

has happened in the past? what ways are you hard on yourself?

For what you haven't figured out in the present? That's a big

one. We're often really hard on ourselves for what we haven't

figured out yet. Especially as a woman at midlife, we've lived

many years, and we've lived many experiences. And we can still be

trying to mentally in our ego, be figuring out things. And I'm

telling you, this process of bringing you into your heart for

developing the inner trust is a key to get us away from the ego

mind and into our heart space. I know that if you're listening

today, you are on a journey of moving from an outer world folk

focus to an inner world focus, you would not be here if you

weren't. And that's what I always love to I want to hear

about your journey. I think it's fascinating. So when the outer

world beckons, when you want to know the answer, know that

creating space in your day, let's call it space, let's not

call it time, because many of us have a scarcity relationship

with time, and I get that completely. So let's create

space in your day. It's one of the most precious things you can

do to foster inner growth. And if we call it space, it has a

bigger energy to it right? Time does too. But we've been so

cultured by time, we haven't been as and cultured by space

being scarce. Maybe if you've got little kids, and they're all

around you absolutely. Or you have a crowded home, or you're

taking care of and taking care of an elderly parent, those can

also create constraints on spaciousness, but let's think of

creating space in your days. And it may seem like what does this

space look like it can be physical space, it can be a

spiritual space for you. And it can be this emotional space. I

think it's sometimes can sound cliche, when somebody says, Oh,

you just need to journal more, or you just need to meditate

more. But to me, it doesn't matter what is being called in

or what's being offered to you. Doesn't matter the form. But

it's that you take intentional time for yourself, by a time a

spacious time, on a daily basis, if possible. For me, and a dear

friend said this the other day that it doesn't look the same

for her everyday either someone that I love and respect so much.

But for me, it doesn't look the same. But I do believe some of

the following practices allow us to get to this. I don't know

like designated intentional space. And also holding this

intention of I intend to create, to develop to foster to nurture

to nourish my own inner knowing and trust. So daily practices

lie, lighting candles, sitting with a journal, asking your

guides what they're here to tell you are asking what I need to

know, meditating, there are so many different meditations. They

can be from insight time, or from calm they can be from also

listening to anything inspirational. Because I find

that when I listen to inspirational or I read books

that are inspirational, they get me into my vibration, which

allows me to connect with my true self. I also take a look at

throughout my day, when I can, I'm no saint, believe me. But

when I find myself using language that is focused on

disconnected or disconnecting, versus connecting with myself, I

witnessed myself and choose to replace these thoughts and words

with compassion and understanding. It can be any

number of phrases. So things like and these just soften.

These allow us to soften into ourselves. When we have an

experience that doesn't feel good coming to ourselves. It's

so understandable that you experienced that that way, or

that you feel this way. I see you. So this is inner dialogue.

I see you for what you were experiencing. I want to connect

with you. And just any sort of bridges inward of connection. We

don't want the words that that disconnect that. And so when we

say like I'm interested in my own experience. I'm curious

about it. I want to know. Again, it harks back to this isn't an

inner child podcast today. But it harks back to oh, what I

wished I would have heard as a kid. But I can also give that to

myself, I can give that to my loved ones, I can give it to my

adult children. So I want to do another podcast on inner child

because it's so fascinating. But the inner child involves going

back to yourself, if you don't know what I'm talking about, to

a younger version, and giving the law of care attending to and

re parenting that is being called for. So in short, in

developing this inner trust, you will begin to depend on yourself

for when you develop this safety, intimacy, you'll be

giving yourself more permission to do things in your life, to

show up for what is true for you in the way that feels true for

you. So, permission comes from you, first and foremost in your

adult life, not from others. I think the process of intending

to develop inner Trust and Safety and intimacy allows us to

really slow down our life and begin taking pause more. And we

can rely on ourselves for amazing guidance, and the

cornerstone of it all for unwavering self compassion. And

if you can't find that, from yourself, turn to those you know

who can give it to you. You don't need someone giving you

the answers. I mean, that's not to say that it's not well

meaning, but it's within you. This whole podcast is just about

it's within you. Bring in your trusted sources. It's that that

dance between the two, I believe transformation for you, is going

to happen before your eyes. I know that for so many of you it

already is. You will find yourself saying I used to choose

this way of doing or being. And now I choose this way. I'm

mystified by the changes in myself and those around me with

commitment, care and compassion, inner growth will flourish and

take on a quality of abundance and again spaciousness. It is

your time to experience this relationship where you can feel

safe within where you wholeheartedly trust yourself,

and just enjoy a beautiful inner experience. I'm personally on a

journey of leaning into my truths, what my soul needs to

learn. It's your birthright. It's my birthright. It's our

birthright. So will you either begin, or continue to commit to

your own personal growth. carving out time for yourself is

a daily practice. We didn't talk about it in these ways. But

practice present moment awareness. You become calibrated

to your energetic vibration, and begin to know what you feel like

inside. Get to know when things don't feel right. And when

things are not yours. Practice coming back to the time that you

set aside for yourself for spaciousness, and choose what

speaks to you. Are you ready to develop an inner space and

consciousness of safety and non judgement and continue to lean

on trusted people? And what they reflect back to you. Take your

time with the outer advice and input and know that these

answers lie within you. You are on a quest alongside me to know

and to really be your true authentic self. And I'm so

honored again to be traveling alongside you.

You know that I'm passionate about what I do. I'm passionate

about every topic that's been brought into this podcast. I do

struggle a little bit when I choose what to talk about in my

solo episodes. And I think I probably needed this one today

to to keep on leaning in. But I wanted to say because soul care

coaching and my mystical sisterhood, podcast and

membership are so near and dear to my heart and I know that they

are here for you if you if you want to lean on them at all.

There are three ways to get involved in the work and work

with me, you can schedule just a one off 60 minute session for

you to get an experience of what this work feels like. In this

brief session, you can learn about intention setting,

setting, share what is most relevant in your life, discover

what is calling to be tended to uncover limiting beliefs

operating below the surface, and walk away with a few tangible

action items or new things to ponder in your life. I mostly

love to work in the second way, which is a 12 week coaching

container in which we do a deep dive into this work, whether

it's how do I even come to myself? What is coming up for me

through my emotions? What am I here to learn? What's most

important? How am I showing up but mainly, how am I showing up

for myself. So you begin to learn the principles of soul

care into your life. Learn how to meet yourself with compassion

more regularly, and grow a practice of developing a deep

and authentic and connected relationship with yourself. And

another one of my favorite offerings is the mystical

sisterhood community, or membership. And this is for

either those doing coaching and wanting to experience community.

Or it could be that you're not ready for coaching and want to

experience community. And then these principles, I have members

of the group who say like I just want to immerse myself in this

language and start to learn not only this, these personal

growth, ideas and new conversation and new language,

but also these principles of the universe. And I that's the part

of the mystical that we sometimes pull into the podcast

is like, how is the universe holding us? How are these things

for me, and it's all woven together. But in the membership,

it's a lot of fun, because we're doing live calls every week,

there's a community feed with inspiration. There's inspiration

from me as your guide, but also from your fellow members who are

on the path of seeking. So that's a little bit about the

membership. And I do believe that healing happens in

community. Being in community of seekers on a path, just

reminding us of practices and principles is invaluable. So a

few ways to get in touch are to follow me on Instagram at

Maureen Spielman. If you're not doing that already, you can DM

me there with any questions. You can email me at hello at Maureen

spielman.com. That's M au RENSPIEL ma n.com. And you can

find the mystical suit, sisterhood membership under the

work with me tab on my website, which is Maureen spillman.com.

Or you can go to mystical sisterhood.com I hope today's

podcast lead you to considering your inner landscape a bit more

your inner trust and just be with yourself in this really

heart centric, curious, gentle, intimate way. Thank you for

listening today. And I'll see you on the next interview and I

hope to see you in the membership or if you feel like

following coaching. All right, trust yourself. Thanks for

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