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[🇬🇧#71] "You need to go where it hurts immediately": mastering the art of moderation with AC Coppens, renowned strategist, conference curator, host, TED speaker and moderator
Episode 7127th March 2025 • berlindetoi • Gabrielle
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I discovered AC as they were in charge of a moderation at the French Ambassy in Berlin.

The situation could have been tricky due to a lack of time, but AC owned the stage and made it into a very inspiring and empowering moment 🗣

In this episode, AC is sharing their experience from guiding meaningful discussions up to deeply understanding how to engage audiences 💥

You will learn:

1️⃣ The essential skills of a moderator

2️⃣ The balance between preparation and improvisation

3️⃣ How to captivate an audience and keep them engaged

4️⃣ The evolution of conferences and networking events

My favorite take away:

➡️ Moderation is not just about asking questions, it’s about creating a journey for the audience.

➡️ You need to go where it hurts immediately, so the real conversation can happen.

Enjoy!

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Hello, everyone.

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Welcome on the podcast show.

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My name is Gabrielle, and I'm delighted that you're joining us for this conversation.

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When I arrived in Berlin a few years ago, I was struggling creating a network, professional

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as personal, and I would have loved to hear discussion and conversation from inspiring

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and engaged people living here.

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This is the purpose of the podcast Berlin de Toit.

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In French, German, English speaking conversation, we're going to meet these incredible people,

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which makes this place so awesome.

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So thank you for tuning in and see you soon.

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I'm a Berliner, probably born in France and made in Berlin.

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Yeah, and then I'm also a moderator because I have also this performing and acting background.

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I've had some actors training also as I was in New York, but also here in Berlin.

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Welcome everyone on the show.

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And today I'm more than delighted to share our conversation with AC Coppens.

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AC Coppens is a strategist, conference curator, host, and a TED speaker moderator.

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They founded the Catalyst, an agency for innovative and creative players working at the crossing

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of digital tech, film, XR, music, sound, design, and culture to turn conferences into sites

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of knowledge exchange and co-creation.

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I saw them perform, as I like to say, or moderate on stage, and it was an absolute blast.

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In this conversation with AC Coppens, we really talk about the mastering of the art of moderation.

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And they gave us so much takeaway, how to organize the discussion, how to go deep dive

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where it hurts immediately.

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And it was a super fun, interesting, and profound moment.

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So I hope you'll enjoy it as much as I did.

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Thank you very much.

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Let's go.

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I didn't knew this whole background when I first saw you, actually.

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I had no idea who you were.

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You came on stage and I was blown away from how you took it.

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So you still have something very magnetic or charismatic in a way.

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And you have this capability to capture the attention of people, to make us go away with

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a lot of information and insights that we learned about.

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And you also have this moderation part where you keep it very in flow.

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I saw you perform as a moderator in a situation which could have been tricky because of a

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short time that was shorter than what was expected.

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And you mastered, and you took the best out of a difficult situation, or you didn't even

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take the best.

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You just took the situation and turned out to have the best out of it anyway.

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Basically, I remember a situation.

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I was supposed to have a panel for an hour and then we had, I don't know, 20 minutes

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or something like that to finish because everybody was late.

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And I remember I went straight to the insights and then I asked only one question to each

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one.

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Okay, I know you have two minutes, but it was great because the audience had the results

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of what we wanted to share instead of, you know, like the German would say, labern, around

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a thing like blah, you know, so we went straight to the point.

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I like that very much.

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You really went straight to the point.

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And the other thing is you were very honest.

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You let the emotion and you took us with it in a way which was not at all comfortable,

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actually.

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It's interesting to use, I'm giving clear guidelines and still make it excited.

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You know, it's kind of guideline and excitement doesn't always work that well together.

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It's good.

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I mean, it's a live entertainment, I would say.

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You need to to work with what you have in front of you and with you, the people you have with

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you and on stage and you have the audience, obviously, and it needs to be with the audience.

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I think I would not see my work without the audience anyway.

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This is the last thing I'm going to improvise and never improvise moderations.

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Actually, I always prep.

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I think it's the secret to make it really work.

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Of course, I can have great conversations with people because I mean, my job is to ask

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questions and you can and people love to talk about themselves.

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So this is great.

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So you can always have great conversations.

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But if I do not know them, I will take time to get to the point to see, OK, where is it

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really interesting?

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And then if I have two or three people, because the art of moderation is really to be with

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more people sometimes.

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I mean, at least two, of course.

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And you want to go to the point where it's really interesting, because most of the time

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you're going to do this not just to have a nice conversation, but to share it to an audience.

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I don't want to bore the audience.

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I want the audience to be there for the second one, to stay with it and to be like, oh, my

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God, you know, I'm just coming back from the Berlinale and somebody in the audience would

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say to me afterwards, you know what, with you it's impossible to have a look and check

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your mails when you're talking with your panels.

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Everybody has to listen.

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And I'm like, yes, this is exactly what I want.

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You know, I don't want to have everybody on their phones or something.

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Otherwise, why are you there?

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You know, do you want to be part of this conversation?

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So you need to imply the audience.

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Right. So if I want to get there and get the best and arrive at a point in the

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conversation which is leading to some kind of interesting insight.

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So it brings you as an audience further in your thoughts, in your inspiration,

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in understanding the world.

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Or I don't want to miss the point.

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So that's why I want to prepare.

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So I read about the speakers and I want to say I'm far too far away to be alone.

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I mean, I have a team and they help me to prep like what did the speaker do before?

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When did they speak? What did they say already?

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Because I don't want to repeat conversation.

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And there is a lot of these conversations.

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Right. So you want to have these specific constellations with specific topics and etc.

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So you you're like, OK, what are they bringing and what did they talk about recently?

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And then you want to integrate this and say, well, listen, you said that before.

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So now what's your point? And etc., etc.

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So you need to know where is where is the speaker coming from, from which perspective?

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Then you can organize your moderation guideline.

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So you want to have this and to explore first.

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You have the definition. OK, great.

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And then, OK, well, this is the first hypothesis.

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Oh, great. OK. Oh, but there is a contrasting.

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And then, oh, you have the end.

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Oh, let's put it all of this together and transcend what we've been talking about before.

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I think I'm very French in that way.

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But of course, I don't do like thesis, antithesis and etc.

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It would be very boring.

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But I need to have these key angles to to articulate the conversation.

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And very often also I announce it on stage.

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OK, we're going to do this.

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We're going to talk about this.

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Then we're going to go and we will do this and then we'll finish with that.

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And I want that promise.

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And I want to so I organize my time for the conversation

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so that I know we're not going totally over time.

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It's always so very short.

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I mean, the trend is definitely to shorter formats.

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People do not want to stay.

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But most of the time now you would have like, OK, we have six people

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and we have 30 minutes.

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You're like, yeah, this is going to be on point.

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And this is where the prep is essential, because you need to go

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where it hurts immediately so that you want to have it out of the way

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and, you know, have it clean and discuss.

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Otherwise, I'm obsessed to

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make sure that the content is given to the audience.

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I'm obsessed to deliver that promise.

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Yeah, you make sure that people get what they're looking for,

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which also requires a huge amount of courage.

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Because you have to get the information,

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you have to have the speakers being true to themselves,

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because this is the thing I've seen sometimes in a moderation.

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You put a note like a music note and people will align on this.

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And you have such a huge role as a moderator to make sure that

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the excellence where the people will say, OK, I have to show up

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to be as good or as precise or as detailed.

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So you can you know, so you have to affirm yourself

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in your position to make people go like react on this.

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And this is only one part, because the second part is

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you have to captivate your audience.

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I I did one or two moderation, which is nothing to compare to what you do,

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because we had like 40, 60 people in the audience.

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And I saw how the speakers reacted, which was something I didn't thought about.

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So they wasn't they weren't that comfortable, for example.

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And then you have to deal with this,

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deal with the audience and remember what you want to talk about.

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Oh, I don't remember what I want to talk about.

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I need my notes.

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Otherwise, I can't remember what I want to talk about.

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It's just so much.

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And then you get derailed and you you need to be really on point.

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So I'm very strict with the with the guidelines somehow.

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But I still at the same time, I allow this flexibility.

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I mean, it has to be otherwise it's really boring.

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You cannot offer scripted content.

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First of all, you are the master of the time.

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And this is really the most important.

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Very often I make the joke, I'm the CTO, not the chief tech officer,

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but the chief chief time officer.

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And this is super important to deliver the promise within the time,

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which is also attributed to this thing.

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And we know what we're talking about. This is how we met. Right.

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But I think you have many things you have also to make sure

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that everybody on stage is really going to to talk.

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They have been invited to talk.

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So you have to be careful that not one speaker is taking the whole

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room, the whole space is not too invasive.

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So you want this to be also balanced.

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You need most of the time. It's really great experts.

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So you want both.

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You want all of them to to to speak

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with a sort of well, somehow equal times. Right.

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I'm always thinking of political debate.

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Somehow this is they are entitled to speak

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in a time which is like, you know, respectful for everybody else on stage.

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So it's the time.

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It's, of course, the themes that you are covering.

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And it's also, yes, the way they have to feel on stage.

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It's also the way the audience is.

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I love to interact with the audience even during the conversation.

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You know, I'm turning to them.

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I wonder, what about this? And do you think that?

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And then I check, you know, like who is OK with this?

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And so that they are keeping it.

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And you talk to the audience the same way you talk to the speakers.

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So you're as you have the same ex exigens.

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Yeah. Some kind of demand.

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Yeah. Or expectations.

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Because you're you're also in a certain way hard with your speakers, host experts.

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And at the same time, you're like public audience.

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Do you have a question? It's now or never.

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And I want to answer now.

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And it's so good.

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I know. But this, you know, sometimes it has been reproached to me.

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I mean, you learn always like that.

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I was threatening the audience, you know, like, yeah, but this is really this is,

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you know, it's now or never, really.

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And I have to ask who reproached that the audience or someone

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who was not in the audience, because there's a huge difference.

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I think the audience liked it.

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Yeah, that's another story.

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But I would say this is something that I mean,

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I think I bring a good dose of humor.

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You know, I mean, I'm not threatening the audience.

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No, you're not.

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And I want to engage the audience like, you know, the consolation.

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And this is why I'm really so obsessed with time

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way beyond the stage is that we we have so little time in life.

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I mean, time is so scarce and it's a huge countdown.

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And we we really need to move on

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and also to stop talking and act.

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So let us talk. Let's make good decisions.

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Let's be informed about how we want to think about the future.

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So let's do it now.

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And we have a unique constellation of people on stage.

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They are there for you.

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You're not going to have them in that way for this conversation ever again.

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So now I don't have the time to say all of this right when I'm on stage.

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But now I'm telling you, it's now or never.

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Do you have a question to the speakers?

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So actually, the right word is empowering.

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Yeah, exactly. Empowering the audience.

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You said at the very beginning

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that you organize and prepare your moderation quite precisely.

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How much do you have to be an expert to talk with experts,

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with an audience which usually are not experts at all?

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Well, it depends.

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I don't research so much.

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I keep it so genuine as I can so that I can.

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The audience can identify

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with me.

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So I'm the one not knowing and I'm asking them stupid questions

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or easy questions to speak so that they are transmissible to the audience.

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They are transferable, translatable to the audience.

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So I am the bridge, so to speak.

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Otherwise, if it is experts in the room, I mean, just coming back

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from the Berlinale, it's only film professionals in the room.

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It's the industry sessions.

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And I'm on stage with experts and they know what they're talking about.

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And I'm not a film and game techie expert.

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So, yeah, but I would research, obviously.

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I will research about the speakers, research about the themes,

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what is hot, what is coming next.

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So I know a couple of things, but I'm not the one doing it.

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So I would research what I do not know.

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I would read quite a few things and then I would extract

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what are the most important questions, what are the most important trends

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and what is relevant to the audience today.

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And then I would structure the conversation around that

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so that it really turns around that.

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What does the audience want to get out of this conversation

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when you're invited or asked, for example, to do a moderation?

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People say this is what we want to have at the end.

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Or it's more about we know that you're competent.

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Please do it, that we have a good moment.

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I mean, what is this?

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No, I would say, I mean, most of the time, the head of curations

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that we're working with, because most of the time

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we are not curators of any conference, we are co-curators,

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actually, of any kind of conference, because the clients tell us

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this is what we want to discuss.

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And they say something like, hey, we need something to talk

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and to inquire into this.

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And we want something about the trends in this field and etc.

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And but they ask us because they know that we know a little bit about it.

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So then we elaborate on that.

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I mean, people coming to conferences are coming to to learn something.

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So they don't have the degree of expertise, mostly of the

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of the people on stage.

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Mostly, mostly, I would say.

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I have to ask a tiny question, please, in relation with

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artificial intelligence, Internet and everything.

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Do you think there's going to be more conferences?

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Or less, because they're going to be everything online,

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or do you think this meeting in person in a room?

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Oh, yeah.

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It's something that's going to stay and become even more important.

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I don't know if there will be more conferences.

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I think that the business of conference is going to change.

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That's for sure.

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Because I think that, you know what, I don't want to go to conference

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and see panel, panel, panel, keynote, panel, panel,

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maybe a little far as a chat and then, yeah, you know, let's have a drink.

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And that's it.

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I mean, it's so boring.

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And I'm reading so much about the development of the business.

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And maybe it's very difficult because sometimes you have clients who are like,

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hey, you are an innovative conference.

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You you really you could do something new, you know.

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And and even the super innovative kind of like, yeah, yeah, of course.

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Yes. And I'm like, yeah, maybe let's do a shorter format and do this

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and then invite that and et cetera.

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And then they would like.

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And in the end, you have the grid and you have an hour panel, an hour panel

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pose, an hour panel, keynote, an hour panel.

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You're like, oh, my God, you know.

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But on the other hand, I remember working for the European Commission

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where you would think, like, oh, are they really innovative?

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And yes, they were super.

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They would be super open.

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And we we did really super innovative and experimental formats for them.

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And it was great.

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And first, the people would say, like, I'm not sure they're going to talk.

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And then everybody would talk.

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And we could not stop them talking, you know, with the audience.

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It was crazy.

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And yeah, OK, great.

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You know, so it is something that I really like to do

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and to conceive.

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And I think that we need more of this.

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What is the relevant format for your audience and for the topic

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you want to discuss?

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And also, there are so many conferences that people don't know

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where they need to go.

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And it's also very pricey if you go to those conferences

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and you have to travel and the hotel and everything.

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So which conferences are you really going to go to to make business?

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To make deals, to find ways to develop, and it doesn't have to be business

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can be also creative practices, right?

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So where are you going to go?

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And you will need to know and you will be picky.

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I don't think this is going to be online.

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And because we have more AI, the more AI we will have,

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the more human we will need to get.

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And we will need to have this kind of trust.

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And this will be live.

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This is not going to be with a screen.

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I don't think so.

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I don't think I mean, you will need not a robot on stage.

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You will need a moderator able to feel the room.

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And able to say, this is what we're going to talk about.

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And we need also people meeting and shaking hands

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and looking deep into each other's eyes.

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And can we work together?

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Who are you? How do you, you know?

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And it's also like, what's your smell?

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Can I smell you? Then I can work with you.

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You know, otherwise it's not going to work.

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And I really do believe this.

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And I think it's going to be even more important.

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So the events we change, I hope

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we will need some new kind of networks and networking.

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We will need definitely new formats,

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sometimes less interactive, sometimes more interactive.

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We will have to be way more curating this really.

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So the crafting part

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is also part of your work, right?

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Mm hmm. Yeah.

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You go to which point do you push this?

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So, for example, sometimes after Muslim moderation or the talk,

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you know, you have a cocktail party and now and then you see that

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people always go in the small groups of people they know.

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Would you also enter that area and organize

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how people interact with each other as the audience?

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Oh, yeah, we actually do that.

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We do curate also dinners where we put people together.

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Yeah, yeah, we do that.

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Or we pick an expert to speak at a dinner, for example.

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That's the kind of things also we do.

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You should do something nice.

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You should do a proper networking event.

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You should have people able to curate this life, so to speak, like on location.

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How did you learn all of this?

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How do you work like digital notes?

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Did you research?

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I'm talking about the organizational part.

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It's a lot of experience, first of all, because attending a lot of conference

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where you're bored to death, you're like, OK, I never want to have something

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like this ever again or daring to explore formats.

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And then we yeah, we do also research.

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I mean, at Ars Electronica, we tested a very ancient way,

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indigenous way to wave

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things and discuss in a round circle.

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And so we had people

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working with Rafia and and and and talking about AI at the same time,

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which was pretty good, very people were very deranged.

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You know, they were like, what are we doing here?

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And it's great because you are putting them in another perspective.

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And so we read a lot.

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We we invite experts in specific formats or so to to do it.

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And I love also to I don't know, for example, a fishbowl, right,

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which is classically you have two or three people in the middle of of

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circles, so to speak, and like an aquarium.

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That's why it's called fishbowl.

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And then the people around them is the audience are looking at them

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and there is a free seat and people would come from the audience and speaking.

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Sometimes I like to explore and say, OK, so we can do this.

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But then we're going to do something specific.

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We're going to ask every row.

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And then this is what I call the wave out.

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And then we we we ask the people in the audience in the circles

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to elaborate on key questions.

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And then we have some people summing it up

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and then we bring it back to a wave back, so to speak.

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And then we have all the answers flowing back in the middle of the of the circle.

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And then everybody can, you know, like close the thing.

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So you need two or three hours to do that.

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But I mean, it is something which I like very much.

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And it has no name, right?

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Well, I'm just coming back from

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Ted Nix, which is going to I was in Ted Nix a couple of months ago

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and there was a great new format.

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I loved it.

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And I asked him, you know, like, how did you do that?

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There was three people on on stage.

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And it's a we I mean, I was invited to Ted Nix

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to launch the new 360 degree stage, which is quite a challenge, I must say.

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And the the the next speakers

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were three people on stage, and they decided to divide the hour

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in 20 minutes every time there was a new moderator

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animating the discussion with the two others.

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And when the time was gone, they would change seats or stand up

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and take a next chapter.

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It was very engaging, very, very nice.

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We talked a little bit about persona.

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How do you prepare yourself?

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Do you have a specific outfit?

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Do you have like a training?

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Yeah. Do you have a perfume?

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No, I always have the same perfume and I always have the the same outfit.

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Indeed, I think it's belonging to your own branding, actually.

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No, I just like to wear suits, so I always wear a suit and

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and a white shirt or something like that, you know, depending

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because sometimes white shirts are not good for the studio or something like that.

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So you have to be careful if it is taped or not taped

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and if it is a studio or not a studio.

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But otherwise, I'm always in the same outfit and prepare myself.

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It's just like being performing.

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You need to go in this stage frequency. Right.

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So I'm I'm very used to it.

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So you can have me jump on stage from zero to 100 immediately.

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But otherwise, it's good to I love to to be in a separate room

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and read my notes and be totally concentrated

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to be really in the sphere of the conversation I have to moderate.

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I need to be very much with myself and very concentrated so that I

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I need to know my line.

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Where do I guide these people to?

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This must be imprinted in me, so to speak.

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So I will read my notes, my guideline, and I have many options

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because I don't want to have a said it's not scripted content.

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So I just need to be flexible enough to engage them in a conversation,

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which is super interesting.

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And it needs to be something which I did not prepare

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because I need also to be surprised.

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Otherwise, I'm going to get bored myself. Right.

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But I need to bring them back to the guideline.

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And also I brief my speakers in advance so that they know.

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So we're going to have three parts.

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So please don't talk about this in the first part.

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Not about this in the second part.

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So that we can cover it in a way which is digestible for the audience.

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You can say anything in the first part, in the second part, in the third part.

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Please, can we keep it that way?

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So I need to bring them a bit so that we can explore this together.

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And I mean, I'm aware when I'm telling you this, it looks like I'm so,

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super prepared, but believe me.

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80% of what's happening on stage has not been really discussed.

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You know, it's just like, what are they saying?

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You know, and it's great.

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You know, it's great.

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You I'm asking because I'm also curious.

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As I said, you have different individuals

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that you have to bring together on stage to talk about something

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and go in the direction that you are bringing them to.

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Do you have sometimes authority?

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Difficulty is a problem where you have to frame very harshly.

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Or just did you have from experience a way of seeing it

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at the beginning that is enough?

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I made the mistake like a lot of moderators at the beginning

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as I started to have to prove myself

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that I could be in the round with them and speak to them and that I knew.

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So I would do very long intros to prove

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I knew about the scene and et cetera, et cetera.

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I understand that. No, it's I don't have to prove anything.

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I have to make them feel that they are the experts and they are.

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I'm not. I'm definitely not.

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So it's not at all about me.

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It's just like I need to be the facilitator

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and they need to be the experts.

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That's for sure.

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So we will interview the speakers most of the time in advance

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to see what are they really coming from?

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Because sometimes you have an ideal speaker and you talk to them.

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You're like, no, wait, this is not what I want to hear.

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And this is not the expertise I wanted to have.

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So maybe you place them to another conversation or something like that.

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But otherwise, you would have

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it's part of the research to make sure to train them.

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Also, like, make your point, go to the point.

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Don't do like AC in this moment to talking like freely about anything,

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not having a look at the watch.

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It's the format. Yeah, I know.

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It's a form. I don't know.

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Otherwise, otherwise I would be like crazy looking at the time all the time.

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Like, OK, we're over the time.

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You talked about being on high energies

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during the stage and the performance.

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Yeah, it's more a specific frequency.

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It doesn't have to be energy.

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I mean, yes, it's a specific energy.

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That's for sure, because you need the energy to be able to to carry this. Right.

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But how do you come down?

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Yeah. And how do you regenerate?

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You know, you know what I mean?

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Yeah, I know what you mean.

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I've been also a manager of a music artist for a couple of years.

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So I know what is the post show syndrome.

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And I know it.

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And I think that any attendee also of a conference, you go to a conference,

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you are for two or three or four or five days with hundreds of people.

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Everybody's talking.

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You have all these dinners, networking events, loads of drinks and etc.

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And everybody is this collective experience of being life around

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something which is putting you together a common interest, common business,

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which is so close to your existential

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issues, so to speak.

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So it is something which is which is existential somehow.

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And then suddenly you go and there is no one.

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You're alone on the flight.

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You go back at home and maybe you are alone if you don't have a family or something.

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And then the landing can be really hard. Right.

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And on the one hand, it's really great because you have peace.

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Oh, my God.

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Is, you know, like all these sometimes in conferences, it's so loud.

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You know, all these people talking all the time.

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I have a dizziness from all these people talking so loud.

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And at the same time, you come back and you're like,

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whoa, what happened?

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But it is something which is coming to anything.

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You come back for from a holiday.

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You come back from a conference.

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You come back from an event, a concert or whatever that is.

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And then it was something so wow.

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And then you need to land.

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So to land, to come down, it needs a little bit of time, I guess.

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It's also practice.

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You know, I mean, now I'm so

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you do this of Deutschland so routiniert, you know, like, OK, OK, no, no, it's gone.

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Sometimes I would stay before.

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Maybe I would stay longer after with drinks and speaking with everybody.

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And now I don't do that.

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Also, it's just it's it's a lot of receptions, you know.

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So I'm very careful for my health.

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And also because I'm traveling so much, I need to be very careful.

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When did this international part came?

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If I don't mistake, you had this during your studies.

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But was it already within like you wanted to cross borders?

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I took the track with Paris, Oxford and Berlin, and I stayed in Berlin.

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That's how it started.

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And it was so fascinating because it was the times where

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it was a new era with the integration of West and East.

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And it was really super interesting.

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Yeah. Was it your first time in Berlin?

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It was my first time in Berlin.

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And Berlin took your heart?

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First of all, yes.

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And I remember it was like super exciting and super.

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Everything was totally like new.

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And I don't know, it was like recreating something.

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It was pure creation, sparkling and super creative and.

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Free and curious and open

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and at the same time, super provincial.

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And very strange was you would go to the eastern part of Berlin.

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It was really different than the western part of Berlin.

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So it was it was fascinating to see like, oh, would you see this two parts

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of town coming together?

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It was really great to be part of this adventure, I would say.

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I never planned to stay for so long in Berlin.

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I heard this so many times.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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Or you always come back to Berlin after you left it.

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Exactly. But I think, I don't know.

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To be to be honest, it has changed for me now.

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I'm not so much.

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Das Verliebtsein hat sich jetzt natürlich verändert.

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So it's I'm not so much in love with Berlin as I was before,

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like passionately in love with everything which was happening.

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I don't know. I think I mean, this is change, right?

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So change is everywhere in any town and everything.

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And it's it's it's the way it is.

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And I mean, everybody I mean, you have the people saying like, oh,

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it was better before wherever it is.

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And back then it was way behind, et cetera.

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I think it's just different.

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And the way it is now is not so appealing to me as it was before.

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And this very unique.

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I mean, we were so privileged to be part of this unique change in society

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and in different perspectives.

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So but I don't know.

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I'm I'm not in love anymore.

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But when you came at that time, you haven't had any plan.

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No, I was pretty sure I would say a couple of years.

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That's for sure.

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I mean, I wanted this.

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And I mean, you know, when you've been investing so much time

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to master a language, you want to use it, you know.

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And I remember it took me years to bring it to to a level of language

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where you could, you know, like have these subtleties

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and to understand the not the jargon or dialect or whatever that is,

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because I cannot talk Berlinerisch, you know, I don't have the dialect.

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OK, ich kann auch sagen ich auch or something like that, but it's not my thing.

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And it doesn't feel authentic to me.

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But I yeah, I understand it at least.

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This is for sure the Berlin at that time

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had this very strong political, societal, creative part.

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You were talking about your love for new things and technology.

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Was it also the case at that time?

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Yeah, well, I mean, I remember I was part of the

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what was it called? Silicon Alley.

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It was something like a

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because of I can't remember where we were.

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Maybe Prenzlauer Allee, Schönauzer Allee or something like that.

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Anyway, so it was called Silicon Alley.

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Of course, I mean, I don't need to tell you what parallel to the Silicon Valley,

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obviously. But basically, I mean, I don't know if I mean,

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we were very creative at night, I would say.

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But during the day, I don't know.

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There was a lot of also of copycats.

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I mean, it was also the reputation of Berlin with the tech scene back then.

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So 2000 are etc.

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It was really like, I don't know.

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Now we have a lot of innovative people, a lot of great technology companies.

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Also, also here. And

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yeah, it's a

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I mean, reflecting from today, I mean, seeing that

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cultural budgets, but also innovation budgets to support young

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young companies, startups and etc.

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are have been slashed by the local government.

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It's a pity because it is really like depriving Berlin

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from a big part of its DNA.

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And I think it's going to harm the city.

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It's going to harm the land of Berlin.

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I was reading also like a couple of days ago that it is already

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not the first startup location in Germany.

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But Munich is always, you know, this rivalry, depending on which criteria you have.

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But it's going to be hard for Berlin.

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Yeah, it's definitely I don't think it is the same that it was.

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And I'm less interested in it now.

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But I don't care so much

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because I'm traveling so much that I love it to be my base.

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Now you're freelance on your own.

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How did you came to this point?

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I don't know. I think I was

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I guess I was very impacted by, on the one hand, a very

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conservative education for, you know, like MBA business career and etc.

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Coming from an international business school, the oldest in the world

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with a very conservative way to form, to shape the people somehow.

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Do my job to to to leave my profession

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was one track in life.

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The creative track was totally separated from that.

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So I was profoundly also dividing some tracks in my life.

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Is it a good thing?

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Back then, I thought it was a good thing because I didn't

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I didn't want to have my performance

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life, my my life as a performer being seen in my business life.

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I didn't want this to be mixed up, probably because I have been performing

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as a guy on stage for a long time.

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And it was really super interesting to reverse the gender roles,

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to explore stuff.

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I mean, I mean, Berlin is so queer.

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You know, this is so much queer culture and it was so much space

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to be able to explore this. It was really great.

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And it was super interesting also to to to do to do this.

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And I didn't want this to impact my job when I had to do it, you know,

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like with political institutions like the Senate and everything.

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I was like, you know, is it going to reduce my credibility

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as a as a professional person and et cetera?

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And I think this is today, of course, I can say and I knew back then

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it's not really a smart choice to be to be all the time

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sort of hiding half of yourself. Right.

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But at the same time, I couldn't do it better.

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I'm asking because I work in German,

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but a big part of my life is in French.

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And I still have the the really the sensation

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because of the language structure who I talk with, et cetera, that is divided.

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And I more tend to say it's good that it's separated.

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I like that. I have some conversation with some person in the language

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and different ones and another one.

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And I was curious to know what you think, because I think it's important

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also to have space where you can explore only a part of yourself

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and you don't have to be the whole self.

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You know what I mean?

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All your time.

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But still, it's important still to have it like in a frame, maybe.

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It's like when you do sport, when you do sport,

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you don't always take your business part of yourself on the treadmill, for example.

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Yeah, I know what you mean, of course, it's more about.

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I would say it was it has it had a lot to do with time boundaries,

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like how much time do you invest in this?

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How much time do we invest in that?

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And also that which people do you see in this world

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and which people do you see in those worlds?

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So it's a lot of different ecosystems.

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It has something which is a little bit exhausting to navigate these

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on different tracks, you know, like being on a multilevel all the time.

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At the same time, it is super enriching.

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I read a book recently of the path of least resistance.

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I mean, I guess like every the more you you go on with life,

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the closer you come to yourself.

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Some people might think like you have a.

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A mission or a purpose, a life purpose.

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I I think it's only a question of interpretation.

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It's always very easy to find your life purpose when you look back.

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So like, oh, yeah, sure.

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I was supposed to be on stage and look, I was supposed maybe to be a pianist

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and that is it.

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But then I didn't do it.

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And I did that and then look at me now.

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I you know, I merge all the parts and I was meant for that.

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You know, it's so easy to look back.

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But I don't believe in it.

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I think it's just like it happened.

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But there is no meaning, but there is no something

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which is telling us that, yes, you were meant to do that.

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I think we look for a purpose in life because it's better before you die.

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Thank you so much.

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Yeah. Thank you very much for the invitation.

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It was a great moment here with you.

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Thank you. Thank you.

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Thank you so much for your time and attention.

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I hope you enjoyed this conversation.

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and past from person living here in Berlin.

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