What do you do in those moments when emotions are running high?

An awkward conversation.

A difficult email.

A family disagreement.

A colleague who’s pushing your buttons.

In this Quick Spoon from my conversation with Dr Eric Goodman, we explore one simple question that can create a little more space… and a little more choice:

“If I was at my absolute best right now… what would I want to do?”

Not…

What do I feel like doing?

Not…

What would be easiest?

But…

What would my best self choose?

A practical reflection on values, choice, and how to respond—rather than simply react—when things get challenging.

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QS6 If I Was at My Absolute Best…

[00:00:01] you're having an argument with your

[00:00:05] feel like

[00:00:07] their mother or something like that, right?

[00:00:15] was at my absolute best, what would I want to do? How would I [00:00:20] want to deal with this?

[00:00:22] gives you

[00:00:26] to, work towards.

[00:00:28] Eric: So, when

[00:00:31] they need things made very

[00:00:39] Ross: Hi there, [00:00:40] and welcome to People Soup Quick Spoon real conversations about work, leadership, and being human, grounded in behavioral science with practical ideas you can [00:00:50] actually use. Ross McIntosh and here's your quick spoon.

[00:01:21] Ross: That's your QUICK SPOON Until next time, take care.