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Good morning, Mel. Good morning, Bess. How are you today?
Speaker:I'm good. You've got your cards again. We've both got flowy hair. I hope we've
Speaker:got my hair down, but we both seem to have quite flowy hair today. Flowy
Speaker:hair, muted tones, glasses on today because we've
Speaker:been squirreling away this morning on my
Speaker:laptop doing all the fun stuff that you
Speaker:don't like to do. I actually, I just had them on my desk and I
Speaker:picked them up to move them, and then my hands just instinctively go to
Speaker:shuffling them. And the cards I have on my desk, these are one of
Speaker:my daily, almost daily
Speaker:pulls that I. They give me a really
Speaker:sharp, sweet, clear
Speaker:message. Don't have to go interpreting them. I put them
Speaker:on my altar, and they are Kyle
Speaker:Gray's raise your vibration cards. And they're really nice.
Speaker:They just have a little saying on it and some really quirky
Speaker:artwork. And
Speaker:when I've just pulled a card, two have come out stuck
Speaker:together, and they're very
Speaker:nice. So the first one says, you
Speaker:are worthy. And it's a
Speaker:picture of a jug, a yellow
Speaker:jug on a green, starry background pouring out.
Speaker:Looks like it's quite a full jug, because it's not, is it? And it
Speaker:is pouring out this abundance of water, which
Speaker:kind of looks a bit goddessy. I'm not sure if it's meant to,
Speaker:has those kind of curvy curves. So I love
Speaker:that. Now, the message it came with is, the world
Speaker:is blessed to have you. And it's
Speaker:a world globe with a sun. Sun
Speaker:coming up just behind it in a darkened,
Speaker:starry sky. The
Speaker:world is blessed to have you, and you are worthy. And
Speaker:I think that this is such an important message for all
Speaker:of us, because we often just go through life, right? We just go
Speaker:through the things and we don't know what we're doing most of the
Speaker:time. And it can be quite easy
Speaker:to just think, what's the point? Does anyone care?
Speaker:Especially when you've got kids and you're like, I must have said three times
Speaker:this morning, can anyone hear me?
Speaker:Am I speaking into a void? Hello? And
Speaker:messages like this just remind you, or remind me anyway,
Speaker:that the fact that we are here on this earth at this
Speaker:time, in any moment, right. Is actually a
Speaker:miracle. Absolutely. Yeah.
Speaker:If you think of the odds, the odds of
Speaker:actually your parents meeting
Speaker:and. They'Re falling and their parents meeting and. Then their
Speaker:parents meeting and surviving, and then the
Speaker:whole conception thing, like the actual likelihood of
Speaker:that, the rights sperm with the right egg at the right time
Speaker:under the right stars signs and the right
Speaker:conditions and the right nutrition and the right. And then
Speaker:actually childbirth and being born and then
Speaker:actually just being here. Like, the chances of
Speaker:it are actually really slim. And if you've ever held
Speaker:a newborn baby in your arms, you know
Speaker:what a miracle life really is?
Speaker:The world is blessed to have you. You are worthy. The
Speaker:fact that you are here and that you're listening to something like
Speaker:this tells me that you're here for
Speaker:something great. Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker:And you're the only one that can do it. And I love
Speaker:these cards of affirmation because it's a reminder of that.
Speaker:Like, we forget. Yes. How
Speaker:amazing we are, how perfect we
Speaker:are. Imperfect imperfections.
Speaker:Our perfect imperfections. And yeah, sometimes we need to be reminded of how
Speaker:worthy we are, how good we are, how amazing we are, how unique
Speaker:we are, what makes us stand out,
Speaker:what makes us a nice person,
Speaker:what makes our quirks, make us who we are thing. And that we
Speaker:are all worthy and that we are all deserving of nice things and
Speaker:wonderful things. And people
Speaker:are blessed to have us in our lives. Lucky them. Lucky
Speaker:them. Because we do. Sometimes we don't hear that appreciation
Speaker:goes a long way, doesn't it? But sometimes we do. I think as mums
Speaker:shouting into the void, we don't always Mother's Day. We've just had Mother's day. And
Speaker:yes, it's nice to have that day to day. We don't always get that recognition.
Speaker:We're just, we're going with the flow. We're doing all the things, we're doing all
Speaker:the hard work. And so sometimes we need to be the one that gives
Speaker:ourselves those words of affirmation to remind ourselves.
Speaker:I have on my phone, I have. You are worthy pops up at random
Speaker:times throughout the day or the year, different things. And it's actually quite
Speaker:interesting when they do pop up like different messages. It's not all about being worthy,
Speaker:but sometimes it'll be like time to go to bed or
Speaker:put your feet up kind of thing. But it's amazing how those messages pop up
Speaker:at exactly the right time when you want to hear them. So I love that
Speaker:reminder today that we are all worthy, that we're all here as
Speaker:little miracles with work to do, but also with
Speaker:lots of blessings to come our way as well. Yeah. But then our work
Speaker:can be our blessing. And like I said, I've been this
Speaker:morning squirreling away on my laptop,
Speaker:doing the admin things, which, it's a means to an end,
Speaker:but when I'm doing it and I'm writing these words and
Speaker:I'm thinking, actually, maybe this word is going to come and inspire somebody.
Speaker:Maybe this word going to help somebody
Speaker:realize just how worthy they are. And I.
Speaker:And actually, it's not just that the, they're blessed
Speaker:to have me and my email land in their inbox. It's
Speaker:also I'm blessed to have them reading that. Absolutely. Yeah. And
Speaker:being there is allowing me to live my purpose, or
Speaker:not allowing supporting me and living my purpose and sharing my
Speaker:dreams. And, you know, you said about this perfect
Speaker:imperfections and all of our quirks. I think that through
Speaker:our lives, we're often. We can be led to believe
Speaker:that our quirks should be toned down. Yeah.
Speaker:We should just fit in. We'll just be like everyone else. And this is
Speaker:what's normal, and this is what's usual, and this is where we should
Speaker:be. And anything else that doesn't fit in this box is just something that
Speaker:can be hidden or only expressed in certain times.
Speaker:And actually, one of the benefits of
Speaker:having this spiritual journey, of really knowing
Speaker:yourself, of coming into that acceptance, is that
Speaker:allowance of my quirks. And then
Speaker:more than that, it's my quirks that actually
Speaker:are the things that go around touching
Speaker:others, that might inspire others, that might give others
Speaker:someone else permission to be themselves and to feel they're
Speaker:worthy. So, yes, the world is blessed to have you exactly as you are.
Speaker:But if I want to take that further, the world is blessed to have
Speaker:you exactly as you truly are.
Speaker:Yeah. The world's even more blessed if you can
Speaker:show up and actually be all of you, with the
Speaker:craziness, with the shyness, with the
Speaker:doubts and with the fears and with the. The wacky
Speaker:things that we like sometimes at home, I just do the weirdest
Speaker:things and my husband just starts. He's just, what you doing? And I'm
Speaker:like, I don't know. I am just expressing this
Speaker:energy that wants to come out.
Speaker:Is it always in the kitchen? It's often in the kitchen, yeah. That's where I
Speaker:do my crazy things. Like a bit of a wiggle, like my leg wants to
Speaker:do a little bit of a dance. Chicken dances, like,
Speaker:weird songs. And you, I think you and I, we have the same thing that
Speaker:we make up words to songs. Yeah. Based
Speaker:on. I don't know. I don't know the words to any song ever,
Speaker:literally. Just make all of them up. Right. It's just one of those things.
Speaker:And I think it, and my kids see it and they look at me like,
Speaker:oh, mummy's, gone mad again. But I think it gives them permission that it's
Speaker:ok. You don't just have. When they're at school, they have to be a certain
Speaker:way. It's at home sometimes it's irritating, but at home,
Speaker:like, this is your place, and how can we bring that out into the real
Speaker:world? And for me, that was probably one of the most
Speaker:freeing things that happened. When you come out and I speak about the
Speaker:things that I'm passionate about and that I love, which I always
Speaker:thought was just weird because people I remember
Speaker:once, years and years ago, when I'd first started, I just learned
Speaker:Reiki, and I was really getting into
Speaker:the mind and the philosophies and all this stuff.
Speaker:And I remember reading this thing in a book
Speaker:about a pencil, right? And that we are all a pencil. Have you
Speaker:heard this? I'm going to match this
Speaker:pencil. And that sometimes we have to be put into
Speaker:the. Into this. Into a. What's the word?
Speaker:A contraction and be sharpened so that. Okay. And that the
Speaker:more that we're used, that sometimes we can start to
Speaker:feel like we're getting smaller. But actually, the more we
Speaker:actually use ourselves, the more that we are expressed. And there was all of this
Speaker:stuff, and it was really deep and it was. And I was like, mind blown.
Speaker:And I remember writing on my face, I am a pencil. And my
Speaker:friends, who in those days, my
Speaker:corporate friends, like my normies, yeah. As
Speaker:we might call them now, were like, Melissa, what on earth is
Speaker:wrong with you? And I was like,
Speaker:oh. And I think there was something, God, in me then. I quite my, like
Speaker:this thing that's wrong with me. Yeah. I'm gonna find that pencil
Speaker:quote. I love that. I
Speaker:love that you did that. Shall I share the card that I've got? Yeah, please.
Speaker:It's. Welcome the new.
Speaker:Welcome the new butterfly. Look at that. So it's from the
Speaker:butterfly oracle card deck for life changes. Welcome
Speaker:the new. And as I'm thinking on this, it's almost
Speaker:not just welcoming the new,
Speaker:it's welcoming that which already exists
Speaker:within you that is maybe new to other people, but isn't
Speaker:really new to you. Because if we think about our superpowers and our
Speaker:uniqueness and our weirdness, that's not new to us.
Speaker:But expressing it outwardly might be new to other
Speaker:people, or it might be new to us to be able to
Speaker:express it openly without feeling that we're having to dim our light
Speaker:or that we're having to dim it down so that we fit in.
Speaker:So for me, this is about welcoming the
Speaker:new version of you, but maybe the version of you that already
Speaker:existed just hasn't yet been let loose in the
Speaker:world. And that when we're on this spiritual journey, like you said, when
Speaker:you start putting things out there that were maybe a little bit different to how
Speaker:some people with different hats on when you've got a different hat might have viewed
Speaker:that. But I think a lot of people who are going through on this spiritual
Speaker:journey, who are going through transformation, who are going through growth, feel
Speaker:this often. And it can often feel, I
Speaker:suppose that's where the growth is. A lot of the time when we allow ourselves
Speaker:to be more of ourselves, but it can also feel
Speaker:quite, I don't know if difficult is the right word, but it can
Speaker:feel like this is so different to how we
Speaker:were before. And a lot comes up with that. A lot maybe stuff
Speaker:that needs healing, a lot of beliefs and things start to come up with that.
Speaker:And I know that I talk sometimes about how it took me a
Speaker:while, even though I was always spiritual, even though I was
Speaker:visualizing from four years old, even though I had a very spiritual family and I
Speaker:was able to, in my own home be
Speaker:myself and express and do past life regressions and all these weird things with
Speaker:my mama, which aren't really weird. The outside world would have been viewed as that
Speaker:if I just rocked up at primary school and started saying, this is what we
Speaker:did at home last night. But it took me a
Speaker:while in my thirties to merge what
Speaker:I thought was my corporate everyday Beth
Speaker:with spiritual Beth, all the while
Speaker:not fully realizing that I was always both of those people and it
Speaker:was just about integrating them. Like I hadn't changed in that
Speaker:integration and me feeling comfortable with who I was.
Speaker:I hadn't really changed as a person. It was just my perception of who I
Speaker:was showing up, as if that makes sense. And I think a lot of people
Speaker:who have worked in the corporate world or some other, it is that you
Speaker:do and then move into this spiritual sector and either you wanting
Speaker:to create a business that's more spiritual in nature, or you just want to bring
Speaker:more spirituality, bring more rituals and habits that support
Speaker:your spiritual growth, then it can sometimes feel a little bit like,
Speaker:how do I merge these two together? And sometimes we
Speaker:don't need to merge them. Sometimes we're already merged. It's just the acceptance of
Speaker:that. And it was fascinating
Speaker:to me when I started to welcome in the new of who I
Speaker:was to the world, how people started, the
Speaker:reception that I got from people who I thought would see me as
Speaker:in a different light. One of my very first clients was somebody who I'd
Speaker:worked with in the corporate world, and I would never have thought
Speaker:that they would be interested in anything that spiritual Beth had to say, but yet
Speaker:they've become one of my lifelong clients. And
Speaker:when I said what was it that attracted you to me, it just made sense.
Speaker:Like all of the things I knew you were good at in corporate land, I
Speaker:didn't really understand how you were able to manifest and
Speaker:do a lot of that stuff. I didn't know how you were able to fill
Speaker:events. And now I understand it was through the scripting and the visualization
Speaker:and your approach to project management, which is different
Speaker:to what other people might do in terms of project management.
Speaker:So I think we're always, we always are those people. It's just
Speaker:how we change our perception
Speaker:of that and how we allow ourselves to welcome in that version of us and
Speaker:move through that. But it's not an easy path. But it's not a hard path
Speaker:either. We talked about this another show, didn't we? That kind of
Speaker:pushing a boulder up a hill conversation we have. I think mostly
Speaker:it's quite scary. Yeah, because it's new and
Speaker:we really genuinely care what other people think of us, right? We genuinely do. And
Speaker:that's good because that's helped us survive this long, and it's helped us have
Speaker:the relationships or maybe the successes,
Speaker:but also this
Speaker:story that you've just shared with your client, by you
Speaker:showing up and being all of you, by you just going, okay, I'm going
Speaker:to show them how I managed to fill
Speaker:events and how I can do this. Actually, it's inspiring them into
Speaker:another way of thinking. Now, you could have done this in a hundred different other
Speaker:ways, which may be more
Speaker:textbook, but would they have had the experience and
Speaker:the realizations that they've had? And so by you showing up fully
Speaker:as yourself and going, okay, if you want to work with me, then this is
Speaker:what I, this is who I am, this is what I offer, this is
Speaker:my beliefs, these are my values, these are my skills, these are my
Speaker:experiences, then you are always going to
Speaker:invite in the right people all of the time. So many of
Speaker:us go through life feeling
Speaker:and like, it's hard work, right? And, oh, and people don't
Speaker:understand me and all of this, and I've certainly been
Speaker:there. But when I look back in retrospect, it's the people that don't understand
Speaker:me are the people where I felt like I had to put an act on
Speaker:in order to be there. Of course they didn't understand me because I didn't give
Speaker:them a choice to, a chance to understand me. I
Speaker:was being this version of me that I thought that would
Speaker:be acceptable. Yeah. However, as
Speaker:I've become more of myself, as I've understood myself better. Yes.
Speaker:There have been people who have fallen away, people who were like,
Speaker:Melissa, who do you think you are with the pencil comment?
Speaker:I speak to maybe two of them now.
Speaker:Yeah. But you know what? That's okay. Yeah. Because I don't have
Speaker:to be somebody who can't talk about these
Speaker:things for fear of rejection. I can be the full version of me.
Speaker:And just whoever's listening to this podcast, you've come to
Speaker:me and to Beth for a reason.
Speaker:Because where you understand there's a resonance there and
Speaker:we can only truly find our true tribes, our
Speaker:true soul families and
Speaker:real relationships that are supporting and loving and
Speaker:affirm this. You are worthy if and
Speaker:when we are on that road, at least to being fully
Speaker:ourselves. Yeah. So I would invite everybody
Speaker:to welcome in the new
Speaker:and be
Speaker:a bit quirky, allow yourself to have the dance in the
Speaker:kitchen and.
Speaker:Dance in the. Kitchen and see what that brings in, what
Speaker:laughter that brings, what kindness that brings. I
Speaker:think you've got to feel safe with it. So start there. Start with somewhere
Speaker:that it does feel safe. So for me, I
Speaker:had my people and I behaved. And it wasn't like I
Speaker:was always putting on this mask, but it was certainly there. And then
Speaker:it was actually when I started sitting in circle,
Speaker:I'm like, oh, okay, I don't need to be. It took a little while
Speaker:because I felt I needed to be something else. I don't know.
Speaker:But then I realized, okay, these conversations are quite
Speaker:normal. When I'm teaching in soul school, in the
Speaker:Akashic records training, one of the things that I'm, that we
Speaker:do in there is we have these posts and we're like, explain
Speaker:your journey, talk about your journey, talk about your questions, talk
Speaker:about the experience so that this becomes
Speaker:normal. So you start to find the words, so you start to see,
Speaker:okay, look, I can speak about this and nobody is going
Speaker:to go and burn me on a stake because that is a lot of
Speaker:our perception. At least I'm going to be able to pull a
Speaker:card in soul space in my inner community. It's okay, we can pull cards,
Speaker:we can ask the cards for our guidance. And we make this normal. We
Speaker:make this usual and we begin to find the language around it.
Speaker:And every time we do that, it proves to our psyche.
Speaker:Okay, look at that. I did that. No one died. This is
Speaker:good. It's great. Yeah. So it
Speaker:starts to build up that acceptance of self.
Speaker:So find somewhere that you can go and express
Speaker:that. A sharing circle, an online community, a
Speaker:friend, whatever it is,
Speaker:your spirit team, they're always there. And
Speaker:for me, another one of the biggest gifts I think that
Speaker:spiritual practice gave me was this.
Speaker:Knowing that I am worthy and that I'm here for a reason
Speaker:and that I'm okay and that I'm allowed. And it's
Speaker:that reassurance that
Speaker:allows me to keep on pushing these
Speaker:boundaries of, okay, what is normal? What's my
Speaker:normal? What can I do and be and have and all of
Speaker:that. What is normal? We've got these
Speaker:ideals, right? But what is that? We're all different, right?
Speaker:My world. It's interesting because last night I was teaching,
Speaker:I'm teaching a group of holy fire Reiki
Speaker:teachers at the moment, and we were
Speaker:speaking last night about the role of
Speaker:the three selves that they identify in the
Speaker:holy fire system, and they talk about this culturally
Speaker:created self. So the culturally created self is that part
Speaker:of us that feels that it needs to be accepted
Speaker:by who we are. So this is the programming that we had
Speaker:come in. This is the. Oh, look at that. I see colors
Speaker:around people. Oops. That freaked everybody out when I
Speaker:mentioned that. Or when I told my auntie
Speaker:that there's going to be a baby, and then it turned out two weeks
Speaker:later that she was pregnant or that, whatever. And
Speaker:we're like, oh, I better not. And we start to
Speaker:create this version of ourselves, and it's so deep.
Speaker:It's so deep in our psyche, we don't even know. We think it's
Speaker:us. Oh, I am lazy. I am
Speaker:an accountant. I am.
Speaker:Whatever it is, it's so deep that we don't know that it's not
Speaker:what we are. If I ask, if I asked 100 people to describe
Speaker:themselves, they'd probably tell me what they do and some
Speaker:of their attributes, but that's not
Speaker:who they are. Not in truth. And the
Speaker:holy fire system starts to heal. Not let go,
Speaker:not dismiss, not separate, but starts to heal this
Speaker:culturally created self so that it allows more
Speaker:of this other self, which is the authentic self,
Speaker:to come in. So this is the part of us that is driven by
Speaker:our true desires and our true wants and
Speaker:this knowing, I suppose,
Speaker:that when we do have these challenges and these experiences
Speaker:that we need to move through, that this is part of our soul's plan. Yeah.
Speaker:We are here to move and grow and evolve.
Speaker:And then as we begin to work on these
Speaker:aspects, the authentic self needs healing
Speaker:too, because it's been hidden, it's been told, no, you're
Speaker:not allowed, you're not allowed. You can't be here. You're not allowed.
Speaker:Wait at the door and said, I. Come back for you. So it needs some
Speaker:meaning too. Yeah. And then it begins to awaken what they call the dormant
Speaker:self. And this concept is quite
Speaker:fascinating. It's almost like the visual I get when I think of
Speaker:that is this little bit of us that sits, like, inside, you know, where is
Speaker:it? In my solar plexus? And it keeps peeking out, going, is it safe?
Speaker:Is it safe for me to come out yet? And it's the part of us
Speaker:that's our potential. It's the part of us that gets us to, for
Speaker:example, sign up to these things, right? And be like, yes, I can do this.
Speaker:Then you get there and you. I'm not sure. Yeah, better not. I've got a
Speaker:hundred other things to do. I'm not going to. I'm not going to do it.
Speaker:It's the part of us that gets us booked onto something or
Speaker:makes us start to write down these ideas or have these
Speaker:dreams, and then it's a little mouse looking for its
Speaker:cheese. It's, oh, better not come out. But as the
Speaker:culturally creative self receives its healing and its understanding of,
Speaker:okay, I develop these traits, these
Speaker:experiences, these habits, these beliefs, because
Speaker:they help me be accepted. They stop me being thrown out of the tribe, which
Speaker:is a, which is an ancient survival
Speaker:mechanism, so that the authentic self can be like,
Speaker:oh, okay, look at me, look who I am, look where
Speaker:I want to go, look where something is driving me to. And then
Speaker:this dormant self, which I wonder if maybe we
Speaker:installed in ourselves before we were born, we're like, this is who you're becoming.
Speaker:This is who you're going to be. Do you think the dormant self is the
Speaker:whispers? Or do you think it's different? Because I feel
Speaker:like maybe it might be your impersonation of the dormant self that is making me
Speaker:think, because I think whispers is more, is stronger, it's
Speaker:more confident in who it is. Whereas the dormant self, as
Speaker:you described it, they don't. Oh, your voice described it was a little bit more
Speaker:timid of wanting to come forward, but. Or do you see it as like, the
Speaker:same thing? One of the same thing. I kind of wonder if, when it actually
Speaker:comes out, if it's actually really a big lion
Speaker:with the courage that it needs. Do I think so? Possibly. I sometimes
Speaker:get guidance and I think maybe we'll have a one of our
Speaker:episodes about our guidance team. But I think part of
Speaker:what it is that guides us is this future self.
Speaker:Yeah. And maybe the dormant self
Speaker:is that part of that future
Speaker:most aligned self of ours that sits
Speaker:within us. It's. This is where we are now. And I'm just wait. I'm
Speaker:waiting for the moment. And maybe
Speaker:its doorway into that is coming into this
Speaker:authentic path of ourselves. Which means the
Speaker:truth of I know who I am. I
Speaker:know what I want, or at least I think I do.
Speaker:And then questioning and exploring and being
Speaker:curious about where my values
Speaker:and experiences and wants actually truly
Speaker:lie. And I think alongside that, we've
Speaker:got this ego that is maybe trying to keep us safe
Speaker:and maybe trapped a little bit, like not time yet. Stay back.
Speaker:It's not safe. It's not safe out here just yet. Yeah,
Speaker:our egos are amazing. I think it's part of this culturally created self.
Speaker:Its job is to keep us safe. Yeah. And the only thing it knows is
Speaker:what it knows. And so I've got this far. I'm still alive.
Speaker:Let's not do anything to rock the boat. I think that's it. I think it's
Speaker:making friends with our ego because there's a lot of books
Speaker:and commentary around, actually.
Speaker:Ego is the negative and the soul is the positive.
Speaker:But if we can make friends with the ego knowing that
Speaker:it's doing a job, it's trying to keep us safe, it's trying
Speaker:to stop us jumping off cliffs and hurting
Speaker:ourselves, that it's that friend that we can
Speaker:choose to listen to or go. Okay, I appreciate
Speaker:your advice, ego. However, I'm
Speaker:still going to do this thing. We can inform it. It's
Speaker:another thing, we speak about this in the holy fire training as well, that our
Speaker:ego isn't something to be dismissed. It's again,
Speaker:it talks about the healing of the ego because the ego is what
Speaker:makes us, or part of what this human experience is.
Speaker:That if we didn't have an ego, we'd probably not be in a
Speaker:body or at least we wouldn't be an adult yet. It
Speaker:helps us in so many ways. However, it's just
Speaker:been misinformed. And I do believe that our
Speaker:job, this generation, and again, I don't mean
Speaker:that in age, I mean our generation of these
Speaker:awakening beings, is to help us
Speaker:heal those parts of ourselves so that ego can feel
Speaker:safe in exploring and doing these things.
Speaker:I don't know about you, but I found certainly for me that
Speaker:my ego is less
Speaker:activated now than it used to be. It used to
Speaker:just be in control. Yeah. And now it's
Speaker:there. Of course it's there. And it shows up in all funky
Speaker:ways. Let's not, let's not lie
Speaker:about that. But it's just less activated.
Speaker:It's just, ah, listen to me, because I think I've proven to
Speaker:it time and time and time again. It's all right, we got this. It's
Speaker:gonna be okay. Come with me. You've got a job. You've got a really
Speaker:important job to do with me today. Ego. Hold this clipboard.
Speaker:Yeah. This is gonna keep us safe. Can you be in charge of that?
Speaker:And it's, oh, okay, yeah, I can do that. And it's very clever and
Speaker:cunning and it often shows up in ways like this admin
Speaker:I was talking about, which I was meant to do two days ago
Speaker:and three days ago, but actually ended up me buying
Speaker:clothes for a photo shoot, doing something else, which I
Speaker:need to do anyway. The 25 other things that,
Speaker:because there's a part of me that's when I put this out there, then it's
Speaker:the stories we tell ourselves. So make
Speaker:friends with the ego. Another question that I think just dropped
Speaker:in was, as children, is the
Speaker:ego as developed
Speaker:or. Because if you think, as children, we're just going to. I'm just going to
Speaker:put this in my mouth and I'm just going to throw myself down the
Speaker:stairs on my little buggy. So is the ego
Speaker:there? Or is it just that we're not attuned to it? Or is it that
Speaker:as children, we've not been conditioned by society and cultural
Speaker:norms and all of this stuff? All of that? Yeah, I think the ego
Speaker:is being informed the whole time. I think it's there. I don't know what
Speaker:the psychotherapy this is, but
Speaker:my feeling is our ego's there.
Speaker:It's being informed in all of these early childhood
Speaker:experiences. Zero seven. And I can see, I have a seven year old
Speaker:in my house, bless him, and I can see it. I can
Speaker:see the ego coming into play.
Speaker:And with my nine year old, I can see
Speaker:how the ego can often control
Speaker:him in that. It's like, oh, I better
Speaker:not. He's quite quiet, my
Speaker:nine year olds, and I can see it's like, oh,
Speaker:everyone's looking at me and that's an, that's an ego
Speaker:thing, isn't it? Because you don't feel safe in there. So, yeah, I think that
Speaker:it's there. It's just not in charge. And
Speaker:at some point it gets brave. It doesn't have to, maybe
Speaker:doesn't ever have to be in charge. Maybe the next generation of children and the
Speaker:generation after that, there will be more of this balance and God
Speaker:help me, I'm. It's hard even knowing that as a
Speaker:parent trying to bring up children in this way. If we do the work
Speaker:with our kids and then they'll start and then they'll start and
Speaker:maybe in two or three generations it will be something very different.
Speaker:Maybe it's good that we have an ego. It's
Speaker:good. Yeah. And don't get rid of it. We need it. We're human.
Speaker:Yeah. I think it's just how we, like you say if
Speaker:lots of people, lots of parents are all
Speaker:different spiritual
Speaker:inclination, then maybe the children of the future will
Speaker:approach things slightly different. It's an interesting
Speaker:concept. You know what it is. Comes back to the
Speaker:card. Maybe what it is allowing our
Speaker:ego to know, yeah, I'm worthy. Yes, the world
Speaker:is blessed to have me. Yeah. Maybe when it really knows that.
Speaker:Because there was always that kid at school that you're like, oh, they've got a
Speaker:really big ego. They love themselves so much and it's, oh, that's the worst thing
Speaker:ever. But the truth is, and I see this in retrospect now,
Speaker:that those ones that walked around, oh, they loved themselves so much and
Speaker:they, who do they think they are? Probably were the most insecure
Speaker:people. Yeah. They had to keep up this appearance. They had
Speaker:to be, it's like the, like the mean girls in, in
Speaker:the movie when you actually look beneath it, they're the ones that are really
Speaker:insecure and the ones that don't feel safe being them. And
Speaker:so they're trying to be in control of the situation.
Speaker:Exactly. So it's like their ego is on high
Speaker:alert all the time. It's, I need some, this culturally created
Speaker:self needs to be there because that's the only thing that I know how to
Speaker:be. And so maybe if what we're feeding our
Speaker:ego naught to seven and then now it's not like we have to wait for
Speaker:the next incarnation to do this. Let's get clear. We have control
Speaker:over that now, we have impact on that now. But maybe
Speaker:it's how we inform it. You know what? You are worthy and the world
Speaker:is blessed to have you truly. Not the world is blessed
Speaker:to have you because you can, because you've got the right
Speaker:outfit on or because you can speak these certain words
Speaker:or that you're always with the computers or whatever it is
Speaker:that we've been. That we've been prizing, but truly, just because
Speaker:I'm here. Yeah. The world is blessed. I say to
Speaker:my son, my nine year old, like, quite often, he's
Speaker:quiet. I'm like, I love hearing your words. Your words are really
Speaker:important. Make sure he even writes really
Speaker:tiny. And he writes small, but your words are
Speaker:important. We want to hear them. Yeah.
Speaker:So, I don't know, maybe that's feeding this ego so it feels
Speaker:safe. And when it feels safe, it doesn't need to
Speaker:act with these destructive behaviors that it's so known
Speaker:for. Interesting. So I love
Speaker:today's episode. Yeah. That we're all worthy, we're
Speaker:all good enough and that we can welcome in that version of us
Speaker:that the world needs to get to know. I'm a
Speaker:pencil. I am worthy.
Speaker:You're a pencil, I'm a penny.
Speaker:Oh, it's very safer to be a pen.
Speaker:But then once you run out. Yeah. We could have a whole
Speaker:stationery debate, couldn't we? Pencils and pens and just. I
Speaker:got Mother's day, so. Oh, nice. I'm
Speaker:very happy restocked. I love a little bit of coloured pens
Speaker:and. Well, maybe for another time,
Speaker:but, yeah. All of you listening, just know that whatever it
Speaker:is that you are, and even if you feel
Speaker:that you have things that
Speaker:could be improved, that could be better, that could be more accepted, that
Speaker:could be. It could be born in you. The world is blessed to have
Speaker:you as you are and we need you as we are. And
Speaker:just contemplate on that journal on that, be reminded
Speaker:of that. Maybe this is your sign from spirit, that, yes, you are worthy.