Episode 2: Rewriting Our Inner Narratives
Welcome back to The Mirror Project!
Alexandra and Christine here, ready to unravel the tapes on repeat in our minds. Today, it’s all about navigating those internal dialogues and creating powerful affirmations.
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Our Inner Tapes
Decoding Our Internal Monologue: What are these tapes we play in our heads? They’re the dialogue—sometimes loud, sometimes subtle—fueled by emotions and experiences.
Parental Mantras: Sharing snippets from our childhood mantras—a special family expression from Christine “I love you forever, forever I love you,” and Alexandra's "over, under, & around."
Evolving Tapes: How have our mantras shifted over the past year? Christine dives into her mom’s advice on daily manifestations.
Crafting Mantras/Affirmations
Finding Your Mantra: There’s no wrong way! Let it excite or motivate you. If it doesn’t fit, tweak it. It's the beauty of manifestation. Remember, as Louise Hay said: You can always reorder in the Cosmic Kitchen.
Caveats & Preferences: Avoid negative language, keep it genuine. Alexandra shares her personal preference—why she avoids certain terms in her affirmations.
Our February Mantra: “We are bigger than our doubts, bolder than our fears, and stronger than our obstacles.”
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Closing Thoughts
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Hello and welcome to the mirror project.
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:We are your host, Alexandra,
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:Christine: And Christine,
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:Alexandra: and we're so glad
you're joining us today.
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:We are diving into the tapes.
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:We play over and over in our heads.
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:I don't know about you, Christine,
but I feel like we're about to
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:enter a carnival and should warn our
listeners to strap themselves in.
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:I mean, hands, arms, and feet
inside the carriage at all times.
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:Christine: here we go.
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:Before we dive into today's topic,
like, subscribe, or follow us on
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:your preferred listening platform.
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:Go ahead, pause, and do
it now before you forget.
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:Don't worry, we won't
get started without you!
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:So what do we mean when we say the
tapes we play over in our heads?
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:Alexandra: Well, those are often
like our internal monologues or
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:dialogues that we have with ourselves.
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:And so sometimes those are the constant
running stream of thoughts that we have,
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:or at least for me, because there's
always Those things going on in my head.
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:And then I talked to a coworker
and she was like, that is
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:literally not how I think at all,
and I was like, Flabbergasted.
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:So if you are one of the lucky ones who
just does not have that internal dialogue,
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:my gosh, I wish I was you, but for many
people, it's often the more negative ones
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:that are playing and are louder, right?
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:Those are the ones that kind of feed off
of our insecurities and doubts and the
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:emotions that we're kind of suppressing
or just experiencing in that moment.
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:And we'd love to start changing those.
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:To more positive ones, which is always a
process and never snap of your fingers.
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:So today we're going to dive into
what we are currently thinking stuff
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:we've been exposed to and how to
go forward creating better mantras.
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:So Christine, what were some of
the things that your parents told
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:you when you were younger that you
kind of had running in your head?
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:Those were your young
child family mantras.
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:Christine: Yeah.
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:So when I think back on it, , the mantras
and sayings that stick out to me from when
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:I was a kid always were positive, they
may helped me feel excited and energized.
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:To greet each day and one in particular
is something my dad would say to me and
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:my sisters before we left for school each
day, which was go make history today and.
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:Looking back on that, one might think
like, wow, that's really intense to say
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:to some kids, but it was more so like,
whether it's big or small, find something
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:in the day that makes an impact on and
your history and perhaps on someone
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:else and their history, and I always
loved that, and I still think about
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:it to this day actually I was thinking
about it when I was walking to my car
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:the other morning and I was like, Damn,
sometimes I wish I was a kid again.
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:Just feeling the excitement I would
have for each day and having my
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:dad say, go out and make history.
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:So yeah, that's, that's one
that really sticks out for me.
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:Alexandra: And then I know your
family is a very much a loving family.
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:So was there any things surrounding
the love you had for each other?
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:Each other?
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:Christine: Yeah, there's
one in particular.
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:My mom would say that she said to me
the first time she really had a chance
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:to hold me in the hospital after I
was born, which we use to this day.
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:And we say, I love you forever, forever.
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:I will love you.
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:And I love it because it's, even
though it's repetitive, it's.
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:Shows this, the, the unending nature
of the love we have for each other.
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:And I just carry that with me
always because you know, my
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:family is so important to me
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:Alexandra: Yeah.
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:And from that, that saying, it's almost.
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:You get the sense that it's unconditional.
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:Right.
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:I think so much of love and you
know, what we tell other people is
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:comes with conditions and strings.
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:So I just love that that's a very
giving and then open to receiving.
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:Yeah, that's
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:beautiful.
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:Christine: Thank you.
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:And how about you?
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:Hmm.
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:Alexandra: sayings, I mean, my dad
was always like somebody of the finish
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:what you start and the measure twice
cut once which was hilarious because.
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:Later, as an adult, when I would
do projects with my dad, he
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:would often not measure twice
and cut and then be very upset.
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:So that was a do as I say, not
as I do moment and from my mom
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:and really both of my parents.
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:So I found out I had intermittent
dyslexia when I was very small.
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:I never Remember a time of not having it.
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:I mean, luckily now most letters and
things don't flip my page unless I'm
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:very tired, but when I was a child,
people thought I was lying because
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:sometimes the word saw was saw.
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:And sometimes it was, was, and one thing
was my parents never labeled me dyslexic
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:or did anything special for me at school.
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:We would only tell teachers if it became
pertinent to something in a grade.
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:And part of that, I really appreciate
because they hired a, okay.
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:A math tutor to, to teach me how
to read, which was really cool.
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:And part of what I learned that
summer was this thing that they
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:would always say to me after, which
was, if you can't go through, what's
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:the way over around and under.
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:And so that has been a huge
mentor throughout my life.
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:It's okay.
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:Come up to a roadblock.
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:Okay.
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:Can't go through it right
now, over under and around.
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:And if I have to demolition
a new way through.
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:So that has always been
something that's in my mind.
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:And then As we've established in
our last episode, I'm a bit serious.
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:And with that comes my type
A perfectionist personality.
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:And my parents never expected
perfection for me, but what
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:they did expect was my best.
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:So that was something also we don't expect
perfection or for you to be perfect.
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:We expect you to do your absolute best.
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:And I think as great as those were,
I have since warped them into,
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:you know, A lot less positive,
but at the root, they're positive.
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:And the other one was, if you
have nice things, take care of it.
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:Take care of it and
love it for generations.
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:Be grateful.
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:So those are the ones I remember as kids.
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:So now that we've talked about what
we were told as children, what are the
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:tapes that you play to yourself now?
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:What is, what is it like living
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:Christine: Currently, yeah, it's, it's
really interesting because it wasn't
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:until we sat down and sort of thinking
about different topics we wanted to
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:discuss that I really started analyzing
what are my mantras and what are the
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:tapes that are playing in my head.
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:And this year in particular
has been A tough year.
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:It's had some ups, it's had some
downs, and I'm happy where I'm at now,
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:but it's been a journey nonetheless.
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:And so I would say I've been really
examining what are the things I'm saying
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:to myself and what should I be saying
to myself and where to even start.
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:Right?
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:So I really noticed that I was.
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:a friend to myself, then I should
not be talking the way I am because
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:I would be a horrible friend.
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:I would just not want
to be friends with me.
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:And something I've been really learning
and growing to accept and truly
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:understanding is to speak to yourself how
you want to be, how you speak to others.
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:So you need to treat yourself how
you want to be treated, almost.
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:Flipping that, treat others
the way you want to be treated,
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:and putting it on yourself.
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:Treat yourself the way
you want to be treated.
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:So I started trying to correct, or
stop and correct myself when I start
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:having negative thoughts, or start
playing a tape in my head that is trying
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:to put myself down, and think about,
why am I, why am I thinking this way?
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:Why am I Why am I talking
to myself in this way?
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:And once I started to become more aware
of that, I then started to think, well,
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:what should I be saying to myself?
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:And one of the things that really helps
me, I was talking with my mom about it.
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:One day she was like,
have you ever considered.
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:Manifesting what you want for each
day when you get up in the morning?
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:And, she was like, I don't mean what
you say in your head, I mean actually
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:speak it out loud, into the universe.
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:And I, and I was like, I don't
know, I, I, I, no, I've never
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:done anything like that before.
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:And she's like, well maybe
you should give it a try.
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:And it was, Some of the best
advice I heard at that time
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:because I live by myself.
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:I don't talk to anybody I
wasn't talking to anybody until
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:I got to work in the morning.
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:So just taking that moment to Think
about what I want to get out of the
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:day, taking it back to when I was
a kid, go, go out and make history.
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:What do I want to do and get out
of today and talking that out loud.
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:And it really put me
in a great head space.
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:And I would enter in into any situation
feeling like not like I had armor on,
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:but feeling like I was prepared for
whatever was going to come my way.
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:And that.
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:I wasn't going to be taken
down by any other negativity
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:that was happening around me.
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:And so, that's kind of
where I'm at right now.
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:Alexandra: That's amazing.
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:Cause I know that, you know, and
last year,:
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:quite a lot because you were just
not feeling great in your job.
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:And there were moments where
it was like, Oh, Christine, I
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:just want to give you a hug.
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:Like, like you've got
this, you can do this.
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:And you know, particularly if you're in
an environment that is kind of draining
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:or not fulfilling, it's almost as it
makes those negative tapes louder.
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:So I love that you started Like
proclaiming to the world in the morning
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:that this is what I want for the day.
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:That's
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:Christine: Yeah.
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:Yeah.
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:And I started talking to myself.
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:Like, I think a lot of people, they
exist throughout the day, not realizing
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:that they have themselves as company.
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:So I started talking to myself
and really being present and
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:understanding, like, I always have me.
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:So, I should be kind to myself,
I should support myself the way
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:my friends and family support me.
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:And it was a great exercise that my
mom suggested I do, and I'm, and I'm
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:Alexandra: Yeah, and I would say that
we're probably both a bit introverts.
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:So we do like our alone time.
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:And so who are you with when you're alone?
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:Yourself!
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:And having better conversations
with yourself is really important.
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:And I would say that my journey, because
I mean a lot of this is like Some of what
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:we're talking about today is our internal
tapes, what we want to manifest, which
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:is positive going forward, but addressing
those old negative tapes, right.
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:And having compassion for ourselves,
which like you, I do not talk to myself
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:the way I would talk to my friends.
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:And as a bit of a public service
announcement for anyone listening strongly
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:endorsed therapy with a good therapist.
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:I've been in it for a while and,
you know, it's not just about how we
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:behave or act or go through the day.
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:It can be things around.
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:Eating like I'm sure we'll talk
about this at some point on this
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:podcast, but I've had an eating
disorder and a bit of body dysmorphia.
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:So the way I talk to myself
around food and food is one thing
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:that we have to consume, right.
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:You know, to feed and move
us throughout the day.
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:And the way I would talk to myself
about my body and about what I was
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:eating was genuinely horrendous.
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:And so doing really hard work
this past over this past year in
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:therapy, I've been able to pinpoint
and say, okay, You know, stop.
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:It's okay that you feel this
way, but it's not actually true.
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:And like, my therapist loves this, and
I'm like, what is the proof of that?
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:And so that also helps, kind of go, are
these negative tapes really accurate?
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:And I'm not saying this is easy work.
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:Anyone, guys, if you've got negative
tapes, feel free, I'm with you.
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:Because it is hard to change them, right?
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:Like, if you've, I've spent 20 plus
years thinking this way, right?
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:And that's a lot of time buildup of these
negative tapes and saying like a positive
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:mantra once is not going to do a lot.
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:It's a great start.
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:It's a great start, but it's
not going to do a whole lot.
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:And it's each moment and I tend to be it.
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:As we said, perfectionist.
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:And so if I'm not perfect at
something right out the go, like if
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:I haven't just flipped a switch and
I'm like, Oh, I'm suddenly positive.
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:I think I've done something wrong.
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:And learning to have that compassion
for yourself, as you had said,
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:Christine of like, what do you want
for the day and stopping and go, okay,
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:I see that you've come up because of.
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:you're trying to protect me or whatever,
but we don't need that right now.
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:So I would definitely say that
there's been a major transformation
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:in the way I talk to myself.
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:Is it where I want to be?
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:Not yet, but as we've talked about on this
progress podcast, we are always a work
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:in progress and it's working on making
the more positive, the changes louder.
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:Christine: And like anything, it's
going to take time because it took
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:a significant amount of time for
you to be at the point you're at
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:where you may have those negative
tapes running in your head, right?
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:It was years of maybe not constant
negativity being Put on you, but it builds
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:up over time, so you can't expect, like,
it to turn around the, the one time you
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:decide to, to speak up and manifest what
you want for the day or read the mantra
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:you have on your bathroom mirror when
you're getting ready for the morning.
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:Alexandra: Yeah.
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:Christine: it's going to take
time and that's okay, but
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:you just got to keep at it.
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:You got to keep trying.
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:Alexandra: Christine, we know
that's not the answer I like.
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:I want it to be, you know,
today and apparently,
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:Christine: a whole nother issue.
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:Instant gratification.
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:Alexandra: yeah.
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:And it was funny, you know, because we've
talked about, I've, I've been through
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:therapy and still currently go, but you
know, I was sitting down and my therapist
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:looked at me one day and she's like, the
standards you set for yourself and the
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:way you talk, she's like, that's insane.
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:Right.
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:It's like.
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:And that was like, why I was like,
Oh, this is going to be a carnival
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:because she's like, you have a
fun house mere yardstick that
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:keeps changing and keeps moving.
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:And it's just setting those
unrealistic expectations.
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:And so it's, it's a little bring a,
bringing our tapes back to reality.
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:And then changing it to
where do we want to move to?
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:And I think that's a great segue
into what we're gonna talk about
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:next, which is, okay, so we have
these negative tapes or positive.
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:If you have positive ones, awesome.
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:How do we work on creating new mantras,
like new sayings, new things that
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:we can repeat to ourselves to start
to change the tide of the old tapes?
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:And you know, so what is your
approach, Christine, when
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:you want to create new tapes?
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:Christine: Sure.
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:So I, there's definitely no wrong way.
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:I think step number one is
recognizing how you're speaking to
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:yourself and figuring out what you
need to say to yourself, right?
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:Because that's, that's I think the
biggest part of the battle is you need
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:to recognize when you're Not being
kind to yourself and dig deeper and
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:figure out why and what do I need?
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:So that's what I like to
do whenever I need to find.
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:A new way to be more kind to
myself and be more present.
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:And from there, I start thinking
about what brings me joy.
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:And if I'm realizing that's a lot
of external, you're seeking a lot of
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:external things to, to bring you joy.
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:Okay, we need to analyze that and we
need to figure out like, okay, what do I
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:need to do to Find that within myself so
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:that's where I start.
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:Alexandra: It's almost like having
a joy furnace inside your body.
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:Right.
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:Like this constant burning flame of joy.
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:Christine: and sometimes it's
barely an ember, but sometimes it's,
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:it's bright and burning strong,
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:Alexandra: And to build off of
that, like you said about what
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:excites you and motivates you.
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:Yeah.
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:You don't want a, a mantra or a
saying to be, oh, another thing
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:I have to do, and ugh, I didn't
get to it, and I feel terrible.
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:Like, that's not what
you want this to become.
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:Right.
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:So I would say figuring out what you need.
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:And we can, we'll definitely get into
things of like how to structure them
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:or what advice that we have, but it's
definitely what feels right to you.
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:And you can try something out for
a couple of days to a week and say,
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:Hm, that doesn't quite feel right
and go back to the drawing board and
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:maybe change up a word or two and
try that one and until it feels good.
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:And of course, you don't have to do just
one for one thing you want to work on.
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:You can always do multiple.
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:One thing I love from Louise Hay and I
think it was in, The power is in you book.
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:And I know she's repeated it a couple of
times in her books, but she always talks
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:about like the cosmic kitchen, right?
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:Ordering from the cosmic kitchen.
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:And you can say with your affirmations
and, you know, mantras, you can be
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:like, ah, this is what I'm looking for.
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:And you can get it and go.
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:Really not quite what I thought
I was going to get and you
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:can go, thank you universe.
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:However, I'm going to put a new order
and I want it slightly different and
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:that's totally okay because I think
again, perfectionist tendency, I
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:was like, Oh, that's not possible.
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:I've been saying this and that's,
I get very stuck right around.
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:It's got to be perfect.
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:I've got to say it this way.
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:It's got to be with this intention.
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:And so, yeah.
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:Is there anything you would recommend
people, of course, there's no wrong
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:way to do this, but is there anything
that you've recommended people?
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:Maybe avoid doing or when they
start writing their mantras,
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:Christine: So, when it comes to creating
mantras for yourself, I think it's really
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:important to avoid any negative language,
like not or don't, because you don't
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:want to start off on the wrong foot.
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:You want these to be
positive and bring you joy.
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:Another thing I would say is try and
keep them on the shorter side, it's
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:easier to remember and will stick
in your brain and may even pop up
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:in moments when you need them most.
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:So short and sweet is
always a good way to go.
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:And I would say It's also really important
to make sure they're coming from a
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:genuine place and say something like, I'm
willing to learn, or I'm willing to start.
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:And starting small is okay.
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:So those would be my, my tips when
sitting down to think about a mantra
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:that you want to create for yourself.
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:Alexandra: Yeah, I would agree.
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:I think that's really good to start
small because I, I think sometimes
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:I love Louise Hay's work, but
sometimes they can be very long.
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:And when you're starting out, you're like,
Oh my gosh, how will I remember all that?
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:So I definitely think short and sweet.
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:And as you get more practice at
it, you can definitely build.
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:And like you said, the genuine place, I
think sometimes, particularly on social
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:media, depending on who you follow,
you can see things of like, Okay.
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:Almost what I would call overly positive
overly enthusiastic mantras, you know,
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:like that just does not feel genuine
to me and where I'm at So I like that
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:that I'm willing to learn I'm willing
to learn to start is a beautiful way.
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:I would say The other thing that I've
seen and this is a personal preference
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:everyone So if you resonate with this
cool, and if you don't just keep doing
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:what you're doing so I like to avoid
the term release when I Use mantras
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:or positive sayings or affirmations
Because think about it right re is
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:it's got this essence of return recur
coming back You know, you want somebody
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:to return to you you want a reminder
of something So bringing it up again,
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:and it's almost like a boomerang right?
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:Yes, send it out and it comes flying
back at you Most of the things you want
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:to release you do not want coming back.
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:And so the terms I like to use are
Clear clear it out and let it go
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:because particularly like let's say you
Hypothetical you're not a great situation
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:situationship or relation and you're like,
you really want to change how you approach
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:that and you're ready to start cutting
some toxic people out of your life.
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:Well, you don't want to say,
I release this person because
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:you may not want them back.
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:Christine: Mhm.
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:Alexandra: So he's like, I'm ready to
clear this energy, this out of my life.
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:I want to let go of this.
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:I don't need this anymore.
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:So that would be really my biggest caveat
and a personal preference when it comes
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:to writing mantras is yes, no return.
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:Of the things we no longer want.
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:Christine: Yeah, that's a really good
point, letting, when you want to let
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:something go, you don't want it to
come back to you, so, I like that,
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:not, not release, not, not return,
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:Alexandra: Yeah.
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:What it just makes me think,
it's really easy, right?
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:Like it's, let it go is a very
easy, cause then you can just start
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:singing the Frozen song, let it go.
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:And
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:Christine: very true,
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:Alexandra: which is helpful in moments
if you're like, wow, I'm just really
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:bogged down by this and you can just
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:Christine: I think too, bringing
up Frozen and let it go.
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to create a mantra for yourself,
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media or go to the internet and
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with me or what books I'm reading.
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intimidating to just sort of like.
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be inundated with stuff.
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resonate with on social media, a creator
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for both Alexandra and I, Simon Sinek
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social media because his approach to.
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settings, but just to life
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mind if you're not able to create
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:Alexandra: I know you've shared
a video of Simon Sinek where
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with a guy who created Nike
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type up your thoughts in the comments
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where we tease this episode, let
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think of Nike's tagline, just do it.
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of Nike and they were speaking in
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was like, okay, stand up if you
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times, you know, just jog around.
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he's like, okay, now if you run three
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sit down and if you run, you know.
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:How many of our miles a month sit down
and then it got to the point where no
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:matter what temperature, rain, sun,
shine, or snow, do you still run?
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:And, you know, basically a handful
of people in the audience were
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these, this is the just do it.
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get up and just do it.
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just, or three words, just do it.
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also an important part of
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:You're saying this also
a great way to do it.
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:I don't know if we talked about it is.
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:You want to stick it on a post it note on
your mirror, but write it down, write it.
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write it or say it out loud.
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:I think all of those using all five
of your senses to embody those new
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:Christine: you have a conversation with
them about your personal mantras, ask
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:them what theirs are, and then maybe
as an exercise, if ever there are
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:moments you feel during the day, you
can say to that person, If I'm ever
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you mind if I just text you my mantra?
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both sort of, Refocus on yourself
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not release, let go of of what's
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idea, it's to find a partner in it.
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:Alexandra: right.
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also spreading that change
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think I don't know in today's world.
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right on social media.
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on this podcast, but knowing myself, I
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Oh my gosh, what will people think?
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:Oh, I totally fumbled on that word.
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:They're going to catch it.
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:And sometimes I have to say,
stop, Hey, we just did it.
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of incredible and amazing, and that
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or that we're actually changing how
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:I think at the end of the
day, what, just keep, going,
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:Alexandra: I also think this
is really great that we're
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:Like, this is our second episode,
we're starting in February, and if you
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:think about the beginning of the year,
at least in the States, everyone's
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:like, Oh my gosh, New Year's, new
me, you know, these are my New Year's
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:resolutions, and blah blah blah, and
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:then it's like They start to
very much quickly plummet.
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:Right.
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:Christine: Who knows who, how
many are still trying to work
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:towards a resolution in February?
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:Alexandra: so I love this.
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:And this is kind of a huge for
anyone listening, this is kind
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:This is a touch base.
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:Christine: Check
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:Alexandra: I don't know.
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:Thank you.
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:I don't even know what I'm saying at this
point, but it's a good check in with,
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:Hey, are you sticking to your resolutions?
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:Is there a new affirmation you can
write to help you achieve those goals?
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:You know, resolutions, particularly if
it seems like a very large one to tackle.
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:And I don't know if you guys caught on
our social media, but we did share a
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:mantra that we had for the month and
that leads us into the one for February.
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:So Christine, do you want to tell our
listeners what our February mantra is?
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:Christine: Yes, I would love to.
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:So our mantra for the month of
February is we are bigger than
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:our doubts, bolder than our fears,
and stronger than our obstacles.
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:And I love that it's touching on
three different aspects, right?
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:So, yeah, you can look forward.
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:Each month we'll be
posting a monthly mantra.
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:And hopefully that inspires you to,
you know, embody those for yourself.
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:I think if you're not the type of person
who resonates with resolutions, maybe this
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:is a nice first step, you know, taking on
a monthly mantra and see what happens.
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:Alexandra: Yeah.
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:I mean, they're really, it is very hard
to go wrong with them short of, you know,
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:putting in your negatives because you
don't want to attract that energy, right?
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:You don't want to attract the
negatives and the things you're
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:But it is a nice little check in moment.
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:So we are doing this as much for you guys.
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for how we're talking to ourselves.
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before, I mean, in some ways we
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:And if we do not talk to ourselves the way
we would talk to somebody that we love and
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:care about and support, that's really hard
to continue to do that for other people.
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:Because, you know, you constantly have
this different dialogue in your head.
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:Christine: Yes.
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:I know for me sometimes though, it's,
it can be easier to be that way to
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about myself, but none of that.
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:No more of that.
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:You need to treat yourself just as,
just like you treat those you love most.
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:Alexandra: yeah, it makes me think of the
whole self care, self love is not selfish.
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:I mean, even something as simple
as that is a, is a good place
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:to start, particularly if you're
somebody who gives and gives and
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:Like self care is not selfish and
self care can be something like.
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:No, I don't feel like going out today.
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time to take a nice bath or
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:Christine: Mm hmm.
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:Alexandra: know telling people no the
one time we will say it's okay to say
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:no in an affirmation Because what is it?
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:No is no is a noun and a
complete sentence So yeah,
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:Christine: Yes.
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:No is a full sentence.
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:next up, why don't we talk
about some books on the subject.
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:Alexandra, do you have any
recommendations for our listeners?
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:Alexandra: Do I have
any recommendation guys?
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:strap yourselves in you're about
to get like A whole monologue.
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:Okay.
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:So yes, I actually do have a lot.
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:And most of the stuff is I've picked
up, I think I would say in the past year
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:So I really like anything by Louise Hay.
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:And if you don't know who Louise Hay
is, I think she's an awesome woman.
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:She has since passed, but she started Hay
House Publishing, I think when she was 69.
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:I love most of Hay House
Publishing's works.
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:They publish a lot of metaphysical,
positive psychology type information.
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:So definitely check out by them.
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:What I will say from their
publishers, I love Louise Hay's work.
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:I think I mentioned the book
earlier, The Powers Within You.
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:That one I have read.
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:Next, I'm working on mirror work, which
is essentially what it sounds like.
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:Sitting in front of a mirror,
telling yourself affirmations, which
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:Christine: Very fitting
for the mirror project.
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:Hmm.
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:Alexandra: I have difficulty doing this.
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:So that one's, that one's
going to be interesting to do.
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:But she also has, you can heal your life.
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:She started out with what is fondly
known as the little blue book heal
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:So I like that work.
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:I've done a couple affirmation decks.
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:If you have difficulty coming up with
your own, you're like, I just don't
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:know where to start picking up an
affirmation, Oracle deck, great place.
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:Cause you can find ones that you resonate
with and go stick it up in your mirror.
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:This is what I'm gonna
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:Christine: Yes.
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:Your mom sent me one earlier
this year and I love It it
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:Alexandra: Yes.
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:Christine: does help.
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:Alexandra: Yes.
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:And if any of our listeners are
interested, definitely DM us and we will
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:send you the information for some of
those cards so you can pick up and support
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:either Hay House or individual artists.
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:So these are all great sources, but what
would you say is a good place to start?
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:Like if you could give us one
book to start with, what would you
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:Alexandra: Christine, that is
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:Christine: I know, but we
got to start someplace.
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:So where would you say we start?
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:Alexandra: Okay.
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:I'm gonna totally do an
Alexander thing and give you two.
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like A bit of hogwash, right?
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:This does not seem to
have any of the events.
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:The science behind the connection
between our thoughts and the realities
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:that we live in a really good book
is Mind to Matter by Dawson Church.
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:That one kind of goes really into
the science of how our thoughts
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skeptical, start there.
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:If you're like, yes, I am totally
into this affirmation mantra.
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:It's like, give it to me all Louise.
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:Hey the powers within you, or you
can heal your life because those
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:are great ones to start with.
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:couple other ones that I have
read that I've really enjoyed is.
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:I do consider myself an empath,
have been since I was a child,
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:an empath survival guide by Dr.
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:She is really good a lot of great tools
and tips and she, I think, provides an
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:affirmation at the end of each chapter
to help with empaths at work or in social
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:Really good one.
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:And then I briefly mentioned I've
had an eating disorder and I'm
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we come up to later in this month.
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:I know we've teased it in our reel
reel at the beginning of the month for
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:So stay tuned for our episodes
with a guest on body image.
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The Only Diet There Is by Sandra Ray.
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:It's a diet of negative thoughts,
which is difficult to do.
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:Christine: I know.
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feeding you your whole life.
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:Alexandra: right.
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:You're like, wait, hold on.
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main source of sustenance.
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:So that's a good one.
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let's be honest, there Tons more to do.
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:I really want to read Becoming
Supernatural by Joe Desperenza
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:Hamilton.
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and heard about it, it kind of is
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:It got, it has the science of why it
works, the how the brain interprets that.
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:And then really I would
recommend Any work by Louise Hay.
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:I want to check out Brené Browns,
which I think, Christine, you
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:Christine: her a lot.
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:Yes.
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:Alexandra: yeah.
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:And Mel Robbins.
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:She's great to follow on social
media, and I'm trying to think.
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:The book I remember from her that I
haven't read is The High Five Habit.
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:I think I did,
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:a challenge with hay house.
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:It was like, raise your
vibrations by Kyle.
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:Great.
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:Also a good one.
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kind of lead in one day and it was
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:like the high five habit, right?
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:And you're like, okay, what is this?
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:And something as simple as waking
up in the morning and high fiving
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:yourself in the mirror, right?
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:There's a lot of psychology wrapped
up into giving somebody a high five.
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:You're like pumped up
and you're like, okay.
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I will be totally honest, guys,
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:I felt absolutely ridiculous.
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process right there?
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:It's like, okay, you're ridiculous.
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:You're so silly.
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:What are you doing?
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:I mean, immediately the negative, and
then did it for a few days and I was
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:Christine: Yeah.
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:Alexandra: this is a great
reminder to start doing
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:Christine: Okay.
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:Wow.
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:And I actually just had another thought
just when you were listing off a couple
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:of other authors to consider reading, I
also thought it might be time for you to
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:sort of reevaluate who you're following
on your social media and unfollow anybody
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:who isn't giving you what you need right
now and following Brene Brown or Mel
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:Robbins or anybody else, Simon Sinek,
who you think you connect with and guys.
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:will help lift you up when
you need some assistance.
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:Alexandra: Yeah, and I think somebody
that I have definitely shared with you was
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:Paul Scanlon, he's from the UK and he's,
his channel's got some really good stuff.
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:And Well, I honestly, before we get
much further, I do want to say music,
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:I mean, that can really put
you in a different headspace.
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something in your life, look at
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:the music you're listening to.
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:Does that support that change
or is it counteractive?
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:Christine: that's a really good point.
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:I'll have to think on that.
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:What music am I listening to?
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:a lot of Christmas music.
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:But anyway.
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:All right.
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:Well, on that note, I want to thank
you all so much for joining us.
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:We hope that you found this helpful,
and we'll start to think more about
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:what's your current inner dialogue,
what are your current mantras,
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:and consider creating new ones.
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:We would love to hear what your old
and new mantras are over on Instagram.
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:And as we mentioned earlier in the
episode, at the start of each month,
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:we'll be posting a shared mantra.
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:And so this month we chose,
I am bigger than my doubts.
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:Bolder than my fears, and
stronger than my obstacles.
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:We hope you'll tune in next week
as we talk about love and dating.
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:Until then, talk soon.
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