Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’ll finally feel free when my health gets better/life gets easier/I'll have more money...?"

The problem is, some circumstances, like a chronic illness, may not change. Otherwise, like getting out of debt, may take a while. Does that mean you can’t feel free until then?

Not necessarily. Because while you may not be able to choose your circumstances, you can still choose how you live with them. And those choices - from how you talk to yourself to the boundaries you set and what you do each day - can make the difference between feeling trapped by your life and actually living it.

Carly Alyssa Thorne knows this firsthand. Having lived with serious health problems since birth, she’s had to learn how to create a life she enjoys without waiting for her health to suddenly get better.

In this episode, we explore why freedom is something you can create every day, and the role your language, boundaries, mindset and daily choices play in it.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Welcome Carly Alyssa Thorne! Her story and how she came to do this work
• How to create freedom when you’re dealing with circumstances you simply can’t change
• The surprising connection between your quality of life and freedom
• What changes when you stop seeing yourself as a victim of your circumstances
• The role your everyday language plays in keeping you stuck (without you realising it)
• Why boundaries may have more to do with freedom than you think
• The part of forgiveness most people misunderstand
• How to catch the negative self-talk that’s become so automatic you barely notice it
• Why changing a few everyday words can change the way you approach your life
• The first thing that needs to happen before you can change an ingrained pattern
• Why the same personal growth tools don’t work for everyone
• Where we get in our own way between having an idea and actually making it happen
• Why waiting to “be free” could be the very thing keeping freedom out of reach
• How to create moments of freedom even when much of your day is outside your control
• What it really means to become the writer, director and actor of your own life
• Carly's #1 way to unleash freedom in your life

RESOURCES

• Check out Carly's website
• Connect with Carly Instagram
• DM us TRAINING on Instagram to join the leadership training and transform your life in 90 days: https://www.instagram.com/freedomwithgiorgiaandawn

Welcome to another episode.

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Today, we have Carly

Alyssa Thorne with us.

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Carly is a director, producer, actress,

author, and speaker with over 30 years

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in the conscious transformation field.

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Blending Eastern and Western

philosophies, she integrates wellness,

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spirituality, and storytelling

to create media and experiences

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that inspire growth and healing.

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A former fitness and wellness center

owner and certified life coach,

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Reiki master, NLP and hypnotherapy

practitioner, and interfaith ordained

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minister, Carly brings a holistic lens

to every production and collaboration.

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Her work bridges film, business, and

consciousness, empowering others to

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embody their truth, elevate their

message, and lead with purpose.

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Welcome, Carly.

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We are so excited to have

you here with us today.

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Carly: Thank you so much for having me.

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Dawn: Absolutely.

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So the first question we like to start

with with all of our guests is to ask

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what got you into what you're doing today?

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Carly: Okay, so, when my mother was

pregnant with me, she had shingles,

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so I was born with something called

CRS, which is congenital rubella

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syndrome, which affects all your

bones, your organs, and your skin.

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So my day-to-day life was basically

doctors, injections, et cetera, et cetera.

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And that was when I was really young, and

that's not gonna take us to our freedom.

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When I was older, it became more

about I tried committing suicide

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at least three times, and the

very last one was pretty bad.

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And at that point I really

did need to make a choice.

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Did I wanna live or did I wanna die?

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it's like, you can't keep doing this.

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This isn't working.

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and so I eventually just chose life,

and even when I was going through all

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the illness and, everything else, I

was always someone that loved to help.

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I was always helping everybody,

and all my friends used to tell me,

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"Oh, you're so easy to talk to."

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I'm telling you, strangers would

tell me their whole story, whether

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it be on a plane, sitting somewhere.

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And so I eventually

got into life coaching.

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How I got into all the Eastern

practices and Western was, basically

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because of the chronic health.

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I studied all of Eastern medicine and

all of Western medicine, to the point

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where I actually got certifications

that even RN nurses had to take.

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and so I did everything I could to

make myself a healthier version.

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I'm still not completely healthy,

and it'll be that way for the rest

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of my life, but make the choice to

continue forward and create my freedom.

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And I equate freedom

with quality of life.

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Dawn: Absolutely.

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Carly: That, to me, is freedom.

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Dawn: Absolutely.

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So, I am a functional nutritionist and

a medical massage therapist amongst

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Giorgia and I working together to do the

podcast and transformational coaching.

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And fundamentally, I was sharing

with her that without having health,

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we have no quality of life and

therefore where is the freedom?

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And health looks different for all of us.

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with what I understand is you're saying

is that when you were younger, you were

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constantly in the hospital, you were

constantly getting injections, you were

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constantly seeing doctors, and now there's

some sense of a balance or equilibrium

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that maybe you're not in the hospital or

seeing doctors as often because you've

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integrated some Eastern thought philosophy

with the Western thought philosophy.

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Can you share a little bit more

about that journey with us?

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Carly: Yeah, so I was the type of person

that I'd really rather do all Eastern.

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I'd rather not do any Western.

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and I'm stubborn, Which can be a very

good character in a lot of cases,

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like especially being chronically ill.

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I fight for myself.

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I become a pit bull when it

comes to insurance companies,

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like really to get things done.

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the journey of coming to freedom

and learning all those practices

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gave me the ability to tweak.

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Like there's certain Western medicines

I'll be on for the rest of my life.

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I have no choice, otherwise I'd

be in constant flare mode, 'cause

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I have six autoimmune diseases.

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and it's interesting too,

because the fact that.

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I'm 4'11", I'm short, I'm 103 And so

people look at me, and I have muscles,

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and they're like, "What's wrong with her?"

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"Why does she have a handicap card?"

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"Why does she have a walker?"

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It's because every day

looks different for me.

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When I wake up, I never know what

I'm gonna wake up to, whether it

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be a swollen knee, pain, nothing.

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I'm actually waking up and going,

"Oh, wow, this feels good," right?

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So it's just a matter of every

day having to create that mental

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fortitude, that positivity.

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And, all that also, the language and

reformating how I was speaking is

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how I got into NLP, hypnotherapy.

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And, a lot of Eastern practices,

everything from flower essences,

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herbology, acupuncture, acupressure.

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There isn't any modality

I have not played with.

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And this is a question, how far down

the rabbit hole do you wanna go?

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Believe in karma, dharma, fate, destiny?

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So they're like, "Well,

you gave that to yourself."

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This is the life you chose."

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And I'm in it, right?

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And of course, when I was younger,

I had the woe is me, like why me?

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All that victim energy.

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until you come to a place where you're

like, "I don't like that energy and I

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don't choose to be a victim anymore.

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I'm gonna fight for myself."

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It's a very interesting

psychological journey because

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you're constantly battling.

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There's days you wake up and

you still feel like shit, and

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you still have to switch around

that positive mental attitude.

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And of course, a lot of people call

positivity woo woo, affirmations woo woo.

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the reality is, everything that

we say to ourselves, we feel,

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and it can create reality.

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And it's not saying that I

created this because I was born

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with this and it was, in utero.

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it's one of those conversations, are

you gonna have a pissing contest with

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someone about it when they're saying,

"Well, if you hadn't done this,"

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or just go, ", it is what it is."

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And it is what it is, and

I have to live with it.

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So I just say, "Yep, it is what it is."

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Dawn: Well, I think that Giorgia and I

would both say that there's a part of

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us that agrees to an extent with this.

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We're not necessarily sure

it's karma, dharma, whatever.

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It's that we source whatever goes

on in our lives, and we believe

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that we source it to ultimately

lead us to our life vision.

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Mm-hmm.

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Not necessarily because I did

something bad- Mm-hmm … or something

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happened when I was in utero.

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For some people, they're like, "Oh,

that's the cross you have to bear", no.

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For us, we look at it as how does this

situation, which I love how you said,

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"I shifted from that victim mentality."

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How does it shift you from being in

victim to the victor of your life, and you

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understanding what is your life mission?

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So even though people said these

things to you and you're like, "I don't

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agree that it's past life or karma,

dharma, whatever," it has led you to

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creating this amazing way of life for

yourself and, from my understanding,

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supporting other people as well.

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Carly: Yeah, absolutely.

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And the thing is, I do believe in

Dharma Karma I mean,, when I was a

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little girl, I grew up in private

Catholic schools and I grew up overseas.

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I left the States when I was five.

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I didn't come back to

United States till I was 14.

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So I learned a lot about cultures and

different religions and you name it.

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But as an early child, I already

changed our Father prayer to

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Our Father who is everywhere.

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Dawn: Mm.

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' Carly: Cause to me, I didn't like the

heaven and hell and, all that energy.

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I was like- I believe if I talk

to God, it could still go to

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Jesus, Mary, whatever, right?

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To me, there's a higher power.

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there is a God.

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And that's also gotten me through some

things 'cause like I said, when you're

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in the darkness, it's really easy to

get drowned and coming out and for

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me, I don't go to church, but I pray.

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I feel like, you can pray

from anywhere, right?

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You could have faith anywhere.

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You don't have to go to a church.

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You don't have to go to a temple.

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You can pray from home.

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By all means, obviously a church

is a great place for people.

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My first experience was in the church is

when I went to a victim's abuse circle.

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I was in some domestic violence and I

immediately went to a church because

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I knew they have everything there.

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They have AA, they have weight watchers.

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Everything you could possibly want and a

lot of the churches, they have groups for.

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So that was my first

experience going to a church.

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And that's the other thing advocating.

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You have to be able to advocate

for yourself, set boundaries for

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yourself because if you don't, you're

gonna be a doormat and then you're

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back into the victim mentality.

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So it's a lot of mental

checking in with yourself too.

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Like when we were doing our pre-talk about

NLP and the word try, but, et cetera, we

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don't realize how much negative self-talk

we do, and it's just so important to catch

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yourself when you're doing those things.

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And one of the tricks I tell people all

the time is smile and try and be sad.

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Go into the bathroom, look in the

mirror, and force yourself to smile.

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Your physiology will change, right?

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When you're walking down the street,

you see someone without a smile.

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When you smile at them, they smile back

not even intentionally, it's just an

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automatic, just like the yawn effect.

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Right?

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You smile, someone else smiles.

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They yawn, you yawn.

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So there's a lot of symbiosis that goes on

in all of us through interconnectedness.

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So I believe in all that it's just

a matter of I had to tweak how I

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talked about things so I didn't have

to hear all the BS, if you will.

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Dawn: Absolutely.

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Carly: 'Cause they're not in my shoes.

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They're not in my life, and it's great

to look at me and go, "Oh, she's thin.

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She's this, she's that.

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She's fine."

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But when I come out and show

them my port in my chest or my

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IV pole, and they're like, "Oh-"

they realize, I deal with stuff.

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I get up every morning and I infuse.

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Before I go to bed, I infuse.

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There's still things that are

medically in my life that I have to

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do, yet I do them with positivity.

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I'm not, like, all dreading it anymore.

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It's like, "Oh, I gotta do another IV."

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It's just an automatic

process of my day now.

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I take all my vitamins, I take my

supplements, I do my energy stuff, I

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have a chi machine, I have red light.

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I do everything I possibly can to

keep myself as healthy as I can

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Giorgia: Well, that's amazing.

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I want to go deeper into this concept of,

words create your life, especially when

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you are born with a condition, I'm sure

the people around you from very young

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age started treating you as a victim.

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And so some of those negative self-talk

that you developed towards yourself

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also stems from what everyone else

possibly was telling you about

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what you can and can't do, what

you can be and what you cannot be.

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And so can you talk more about how

words create the reality, they create

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that identity, and then how you can

consciously shift that through language?

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Carly: Well, first of all, for me, it

started with boundaries, because I had a

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very toxic relationship with my family.

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I've actually written about it, but I had

to wait till certain people passed away.

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I didn't wanna get into all that

drama but because of the drama and

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because of the lot of the tension and

everything, I literally didn't speak

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to my mother for a chunk of 10 years.

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It was my sanity, and that's

part that people don't realize.

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Your family is your family,

yes, they're your blood.

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However, if it's doing harm to you,

you have to take care of yourself.

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I still called her, but I didn't

physically see her, and then eventually,

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of course, I did physically see her

after 10 years, 'cause I was moving

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to California and they're back East.

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It's just, you have to make a choice.

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And yes, they're still your family

and you have to respect that.

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She gave birth to me you have to

choose to step out of their stuff.

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Well, there's three things to this.

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One, you have to be willing to forgive,

because most people that abuse have

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come from abuse, so they're doing

the best that they can do, the best

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that they know how to do, and if you

can come to it from that perspective.

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Now, doing what they did, was that right?

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No, and that act will never be right

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And so a lot of people misconnect

forgiveness with the act, meaning,

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well, if I forgive them, then that

means I'm forgiving what they did.

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And I explain to my clients, no, it's

just a matter of giving yourself freedom.

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'Cause if you stay in that energy,

you're basically giving them the power

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to control you So you have to forgive.

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And the other one, forgive

yourself, 'cause there's the guilt.

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Why didn't I say no?

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You did say no until a point where it

was you're gonna get hurt more or just

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you dissociate and let things happen.

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So I think a lot of it is people learning

to stand up for themselves is their voice.

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Use their voice.

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Reach out for help.

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That's strength, it's not weakness.

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And literally change your mindset.

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Surround yourself with people that

are positive and if you're in a

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complete negative zone, just leave.

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You have to set boundaries for

yourself for your own protection.

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Everybody needs boundaries.

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It's just one of those things that

some people don't have any, some people

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don't know what the heck boundaries

are, and it's our job to educate.

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People will ask me if

I'm wearing the port.

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And If someone's staring, I'm

like, "Do you have any questions?

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I'm more than happy to answer

anything you wanna know."

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Because it's all about education in

the end, because most people that

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have this port, they have cancer.

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This particular one is for hydration.

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It's so that I can stay

hydrated, it's just education.

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and mindset, mindset, mindset.

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And faith.

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You have to have faith in something.

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Dawn: So a few things came up for me.

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Number one, in reference to forgiveness,

is a lot of people don't realize

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that forgiveness is for themselves.

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Yeah.

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And you mentioned very beautifully

that you are giving someone else your

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power when you refuse to forgive them,

when you continue to hold on to that

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hurt, that anger, that frustration,

whatever you feel they caused you.

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And so when we are able to forgive

somebody else for whatever we

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feel they did, it supports us.

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It brings us back to our power.

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It brings us back to our health, mm-hmm.

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And the other thing is when we're

talking about language, so one of

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the things that I go into is we don't

have to do anything, we choose to.

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We get to.

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The way that you described how you choose

to wake up every morning with positivity,

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you don't have to wake up being positive.

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You're making the conscious choice

and decision every single day, even

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though I might have to, based off

of, Western medicine, take these

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medicines for the rest of my life.

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I'm consciously choosing it

because it makes my quality of life

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better, and I get to be positive.

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I experience less pain.

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I am kinder to people

when I'm in less pain.

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So for- Me, and often you'll hear both

Giorgia and I, if you're listening

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to the podcast, we say get to a lot.

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Because when we look at something

as a I have to, it becomes heavy.

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It becomes like this weight that

we must carry, and in reality,

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it is a gift that we have to

choose between one or the other.

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The fact that, for example,

75% of the world has access to

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clean water and 25% doesn't.

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It is a blessing to be able to have

clean water that I can get from a

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bottle, and I get to go to the store to

buy it, not I have to go to the store.

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So I love that you do focus a lot on

language and mindset with your coachees.

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Can you go a little further into

sharing with us maybe an example, not

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using names, of someone that you really

supported, that they came to you and

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they were in this dark place like you

were before, and now they're in the

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sunshine, now they're in the light?

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Carly: Yeah, I've worked

with a lot of clients.

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Well, first of all, It's

mind, body, spirit, business.

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Because the reality is when one's out of

whack, something else is out of whack.

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So usually someone suffering business,

something's going on at home.

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It could be something

personal or, whatever.

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I tend to use multisensory

approach and build archetypes.

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, It's fascinating, with NLP, you

can learn if someone's auditory,

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kinesthetic, what am I missing now?

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Dawn: Visual

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… Carly: huh?

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Visual.

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Visual.

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There you go.

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Anyways, once you find out the archetype,

it makes it really easy, then you

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can tailor things along their way.

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So I work with them a

lot about their speech.

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I make them write out, " why

are you coming to me?"

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And then I say, "Okay, I want you

first to write it," 'cause when

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you're writing, you're triggering

chemistry, you're triggering

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physiology, neurology, everything.

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You're rewiring.

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So typing or writing.

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Then I make them read it to

themselves with no voice.

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Then I make them read it out

loud, and then they get to edit.

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And then it comes to me.

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The point is for them to see speech

is such a powerful thing, and words

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are flat on a screen or on a text, and

it loses context, it loses emotion.

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So unless you're a writer and

you know you have to write, most

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people don't think about that when

they're doing texts and writing.

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And like we had talked about earlier,

how to give feedback to people

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in a way that they can hear it.

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And this is very interesting.

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from a chakra perspective, your solar

plexus, which is your networking,

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it's literally how we plug in, how

we connect, it literally shudders

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when it hears the word but.

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So if you say to someone,

"I love you, but…"

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, They're literally

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In shock, and so they can't

even hear what you're saying.

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Whatever you said after

that means nothing.

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So it's informing them.

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One of my T.

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Harv Eker courses, every time we said

the word try, we had to do 25 pushups.

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Believe me, by the end of

those three days, you were

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not saying that word, right?

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I help them build a toolbox.

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These are the tools that you need.

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Language is a huge one, and these

particular words are off limits, and every

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time you say those words, you are actually

gonna do something that you don't like.

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You're gonna do a pushup, you're gonna do

a burpee, you're gonna do whatever it is.

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You're gonna get to pick what that is,

but you're gonna have to do that until

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you can start reframing your language.

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'Cause it's not easy at first when you're

used to just talking and words just fly

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out and you don't even think about it.

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And as I said to you earlier, too, if

I say it even on an interview live,

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I'll immediately correct myself.

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I go, "Oh, and…"

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It's because it's my way of

affirming for myself that I'm

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checking in with my language.

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So it's just really becoming aware.

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The first line to curing anything

is awareness or admitting.

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Just like in AA, if you admit you're

an alcoholic, then you can go forward.

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You have to admit what's going on

with yourself so that you can change

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it and get the help that you need,

'cause otherwise you're just in

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denial or you're disassociating.

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Giorgia: Yeah, and I love how, first of

all, you are the example for your clients,

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so you do what you tell them to do.

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I also love that your coaching is so

practical because so many people just

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tell you what to do, and you're like, "No,

no, no, actually, here's the push-ups,

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here's the accountability that you need

so that you can be on the right track."

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Because we are all humans, and we need

that time to develop these skills.

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So-

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I just love everything

that you are sharing.

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Like I said, like building the toolbox

with mindset and language and everything,

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and I really hear you say that your

entire journey's about going from being

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a victim when nothing was working to

just I am responsible for my own life.

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And so every day I get to make those

choices to take care of myself, and

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then to take care of other people.

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So I feel that your share is

resonating so much with us and

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with our listeners as well.

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So do you have anything else, any

other tools that you haven't shared

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yet that you would like, that support?

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Carly: I encourage people, too, if

they're having trouble, whether in

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some sort of addiction, to try getting

someone to do hypnotherapy with them,

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and NLP, because it really can help.

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I find I haven't seen personally a lot

of people that've had a lot of great

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effect with EFT tapping, it's not help

as much it might help somebody else who

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doesn't have as much trauma as I've had.

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However, it does help pull some of

that energy out and lighten the load.

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And depending on what that person's

beliefs are too, I'll teach

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someone the chakra system Actually,

tell me something you love to do

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Dawn: I love to do massage therapy

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Carly: massage therapy.

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Okay.

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Thoughts come from somewhere.

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The thought of massage comes

into your crown chakra, then

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you start to think about it.

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Your third eye, you start to

actually think about that massage.

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You just can't wait.

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Then you start to speak

about it, your throat chakra.

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Then you start to get passionate about it,

and you start talking to people about it.

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Your solar plexus.

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And people start asking you questions

about the massage, where are you going?

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Do you have a special person?

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Then it goes to your seat

of creation, your gestation.

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So for however long, let's say you

were having it for a month from now.

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So for a month you're gestating the

thought of I wanna have a massage.

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Now, the root chakra is

abortion or creation.

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You're either gonna abort the idea because

your mindset decided to play tricks on you

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and then you didn't go, "Oh, I'm tired.

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I can do it another time," or you

actually gave birth to that idea

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and you went and had that massage.

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So thoughts come from somewhere.

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You think it, you speak it, you get

passionate about it, you network about it,

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and you create it or you not create it.

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And so I can talk to a lawyer or a

doctor or anyone, peer to peer in

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a way that they don't need to know

what the names of the chakras are.

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They don't need to know

what the colors are.

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. If they're male or female,

they're spinning left or right.

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Give them the basics of how they work.

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And they get that.

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They're like, "Oh, wow, I

never thought of it like that."

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So there's ways to teach woo woo in a

non-woo woo way where people can actually

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hear it and not be pushed away when

they hear that you're metaphysical.

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Dawn: That's really practical.

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And I guess I should have been clear,

i'm a medical massage therapist of

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over 20 years- Oh … so it's more

about giving that to other people.

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I do love to receive it, just there's

pretty much one or two people in

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all of Italy that I've seen that

I've really liked because they

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don't massage like we do in the US.

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It's like they put the lotion

on and they just rub it.

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Yeah.

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And the way that you just

explained it is so practical.

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I know the chakras.

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I know what they do.

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I know which ways they spin.

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I know it's masculine and feminine

and all that stuff, and I've never

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thought to explain it to someone

in the way that you just did.

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Especially for someone, which I

have a quite analytical brain, at

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the same time, I wouldn't have even

thought to explain it that way.

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And for someone who has an analytical

brain- Mm-hmm … that was so perfect.

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Yeah.

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So freaking perfect.

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Carly: And when I deal with people,

that's why I say I do multisensory.

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Once I find out how they learn,

how they sense whatever, then

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I can take that same analogy

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I can take that same technology

and, cater it to that person.

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Dawn: That's amazing.

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So I'm gonna segue into the

freedom aspect at this point.

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So how have you taken all of these

different things that you have mastered

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and created freedom in your life?

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Carly: Through daily practice.

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Because here's the thing, four

hours of my day is medical.

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I have to infuse, I have a

ton of medications, I have a

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bunch of different injections.

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So two hours in the morning and

two hours a night are not mine.

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They're dedicated to me keeping

myself as healthy as I can.

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So that's the whole thing too, is teaching

them to get a hobby, to work out, to

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move your body, to journal, to read.

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It's literally finding out what makes

them happy, what gives them those

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happy hormones, and whatever that is,

that's what we're gonna do more of.

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And they'll be like, "Yeah, but what if

it's at the office and I'm really pissed?"

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I said, "Great.

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Close your eyes for five minutes, put

some earphones in your ears, blast some

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music that you like, and then you're done.

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Have your little tizzy fit, take

them out, and then go back to work."

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You can stretch at work they

have chair where you can stretch.

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The point is there's nothing that

you cannot do that you cannot

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research to learn how to do.

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Giorgia: Mm-hmm.

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Carly: Today, with AI technology,

Googles galore, if you really

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wanna find a way out of something,

there are solutions out there.

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You just have to be

willing to look for them.

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Dawn: Yeah.

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Giorgia: And what I love about your answer

is we think that freedom is this niche.

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Like one day if I do all of these

things, then I am going to finally

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be free, whereas what I'm hearing

from you is freedom is a daily

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choice and a daily practice.

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Carly: It is.

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I'm 61 now, and I've been dealing with

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it since I was born, and

I've had 67 surgeries.

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So you can imagine with 67 surgeries

there are gonna be times that I am

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gonna be sad, I am gonna be depressed.

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I am gonna be like,

"Oh, come on, "Already?

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Another surgery?"

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So it literally has to be my choice

to go, "Okay, it's just another

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day, and it's just another surgery."

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My friend bought me a bracelet once

that said, "It is what it is," because

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there's nothing I can do about it.

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Most doctors are dumbfounded by me because

they literally cannot handle my case.

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It's so complex.

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There's nothing I don't have.

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The only organs that are not

touched is my liver and my kidneys,

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thank God, 'cause you need those.

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But everything else is touched.

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My vision, my heart, my ears, you name it.

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And so, that's a lot, and to

most people It's very, very hard.

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You have to make the choice.

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And I actually have this quote

that we are the actors, directors,

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writers, we are everything.

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In other words, your story, you

can edit it any time you want.

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You can direct it.

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You can produce it.

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You're acting it out as we live.

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We're the players.

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So if you looked at life as a play, and

look at all the different pieces that

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come into it, you can actually start

assigning each one of those parts names.

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Like, this is my accountant hat.

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This is my, wife hat.

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This is my kids hat.

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Whatever, 'cause we're

very complex human beings

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Dawn: I love everything that you

have shared and how you incorporate

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so many different things.

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And There's a bit of me that can resonate

with the complexity of your health issues

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or the health issues that you have.

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I told 12 doctors in Italy, "I

swear I have a mold infection."

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And one of them basically told my husband,

"No, you just married a crazy American."

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And I was like, "No, no.

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I know my body better than

anyone on this planet.

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I have lived in it for over 40 years.

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Do not talk down to me.

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And on top of knowing my body better

than anyone on this planet, I also

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have a background in nutrition

and medicine, so I'm not an idiot.

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I'm not your normal patient.

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Please don't talk to me like that."

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The 13th doctor I saw, she had trained in

the United States in functional medicine.

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And I said, "You know what?

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I'm gonna go in there, I'm

just gonna tell her my story.

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I'm gonna see what she gets

out of me telling my story.

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I'm not mentioning what I think it is."

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Mm-hmm.

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"I'm gonna see what she comes up with."

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And at the end she's like, "I

think you have a mold infection."

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And she goes, "We have a test that

you can do and it's really expensive."

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I said, "Oh, I know how much the test is.

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I was just waiting for someone

to confirm because I don't

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have access to the test here."

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And she goes, "I do."

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I did that test, and I had an

insanely terrible mold infection.

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And we eradicated it through

the work that we did together.

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Yet 13 doctors before one listened,

and I could have saved two and

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a half years of how sick I was

by having someone just listen.

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And I think that's one of the big

problems that we have in medicine

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these days, is that physicians

do not listen to the patient.

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They don't listen to, what are the

symptoms this person is telling me?

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Oh, you have all the

symptoms of a low-functioning

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thyroid or iron deficiency.

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Your thyroid and your

iron levels look good.

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It's not those.

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What if your optimal doesn't look anything

like what they say is in that range?

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Exactly.

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This is where, we get to encourage our

physicians to think outside of the box.

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And so one thing that I love is that

you have incorporated all of this.

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You've incorporated the Western

aspect of, how do I look at this

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from a medical standpoint and how do

I incorporate this from the Eastern

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mindset with creating that balance?

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And I think that you have done

this so beautifully, especially

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bringing in the mindset piece.

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So if anybody wanted to reach out

to you, if they wanted to work

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with you, if they wanted to just

chat with you, what would they do?

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How would they contact you?

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Carly: Yeah.

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So the best thing to do is just to Google

me, 'cause you can find any platform.

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And just Google Carly Alyssa Thorne,

and I'm on Facebook, Instagram.

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You can email me at

[email protected].

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I'd be happy to have a free conversation,

seeing if we're a good alignment There has

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to be some sort of energy, some exchange,

and someone that's willing to collaborate.

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I can't do it for you.

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I can do it with you.

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Exactly.

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But I cannot do it for you.

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So I'm looking for people

that are open-minded and

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are willing to do the work.

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Giorgia: Awesome.

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We are going to put all the links on

how to contact you in the show notes.

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Okay.

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Perfect.

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And contact you with questions, and we

encourage everyone to reach out to you.

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The last question we ask all our guests

is, what's one way that our listeners

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can start unleashing their freedom today?

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Carly: The way you can unleash your

freedom today, that's a perfect question,

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and one I always tell everyone when you're

still in bed, put on music that you like.

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The minute you stand up, do a

little mini dance because it

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sets your tone for the day.

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It's like if you stub your

toe, you're gonna be pissed

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all day, you don't want that.

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So just do a little jig when you

get up 'cause, you're still, foggy

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and cranky 'cause you just woke up.

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Dawn: we have different answers every

single time, and I think, this is one of

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the best- Yes … just to get up and give

yourself a jig, because truly, how you

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start your day is so, so important that

you set the tone for your entire day.

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And Napoleon Hill has said, "Write

down your intention for that day and

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write what you're going to do to stay

in that intention," who you're gonna

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be, how are you gonna show up to

make sure that that is how you stay

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centered on that intention for the day.

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So I think it's so beautiful that

you're like, "Do a little jig.

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Get yourself in that positive mindset

from that moment so that when you do

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stub your toe later in the day, you're

like, 'Okay, I did my jig this morning.

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I can get out of this much more quickly.'"

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Carly: And you can do another jig.

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Dawn: Exactly.

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Carly: Exactly.

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You can do another jig.

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'Cause when I wake up I don't

feel good my body's very cranky.

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You just, do what makes you feel good.

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Dawn: Yeah.

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Absolutely.

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Well, thank you so much for today, Carly.

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We appreciate your words of wisdom and

your support for all of our listeners.

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I am sure that they gained a lot

of information and some tools that

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they can add to their toolbox.

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Carly: Thank you so much.

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It was an absolute delight