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Angry One Week, Down The Next
Episode 1822nd August 2022 • The Grief Code • Ian Hawkins
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Episode Summary

Ian shares with you in this episode the common experiences and feelings of frustration and toleration you get. This creates a pattern, and Ian is here to tell you there is a way out of that cycle.

Don’t miss:

  • Finding or using certain tools to help you to stay calm.
  • Showing up in the important areas of your life.
  • Learning how to process your feelings and creating a healthy way to deal with it.
  • Turning your anger into fuel to get consistency and make things happen in your life.
  • Going into Eventbrite to access online events by searching “Hawkins,” you will discover great power and impact in your life.

About the Host:

Ian Hawkins is the Founder and Host of The Grief Code. Dealing with grief firsthand with the passing of his father back in 2005 planted the seed in Ian to discover what personal freedom and legacy truly are. This experience was the start of his journey to healing the unresolved and unknown grief that was negatively impacting every area of his life. Leaning into his own intuition led him to leave corporate and follow his purpose of creating connections for himself and others. 

The Grief Code is a divinely guided process that enables every living person to uncover their unresolved and unknown grief and dramatically change their lives and the lives of those they love. Thousands of people have now moved from loss to light following this exact process. 

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Ian Hawkins 0:02

Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

What it says in the heading there, you have it get feel like you're in that rotation of one week, you got the sheets frustrated? snappy, irritable. Next week, you've feel just down or bitten bit ordinary and in a way the the frustrated weeks good because at least you're going to get things done. But because you're not performing, sorry, because you're not showing up in the important areas of your life important relationships and just how you feel about yourself generally. And you leads you to that down space. And just frustrating, right? You get to that place where things annoy you. And you just get in that habit of tolerating it, you're in such a repeat pattern that you just don't want to fight anymore. So he's there are certain things you just go along, I'm not going to bother. And this pattern goes all the way back to your teen years. For me, I can remember the day, I can remember the moment where I'm like, I'm just not going to find this anymore, fighting with my siblings, and always feeling like I was getting in trouble. And I'm just like not not doing this anymore. So I'll just listen, I'll tolerate it, just so it just goes away because I'm sick of fit. And that happens now when we're adults, right. And there are different times where that's been the case for me. And that was one of the real drivers for me for changes. I'm sick of being like that I'm sick of being angry when I come home sick of snapping at my children and my wife at the dog. And so it's learning how to process so that doesn't have to be the case. The problem is, is that there certain tools that you may have learned to help you to stay calm. You just didn't have tolerating shit that you just should not tolerate. And what happens is that builds up and it builds up and it builds up. And like I said, at the start there, there is an element that it gives you drive and it actually fuels you to a certain extent. But then on the back end of that you're still feeling rubbish because of of how you behaved at certain times. Or when you tolerated things. You're like, why on earth am I even having to tolerate this, again, just having to clean up different messes, or because you've reacted in a way because it's all been wiped out. Usually these things are like, they're not fair, like, but he just got so used to it, you just want to find it. So you roll over again, and, and you slowly slowly sink down into a lower place. And the most frustrating thing is you just can't get those consistent results and performances. There are times when everything's flying and young really well. And then when it does, then you have those moments where like, what the hell man? Like, why can I do this all the time. So even when you're going well and getting success and feeling fulfillment, there's still party that it's like never satisfied. That third party that searching for perfection and just get so frustrated, because you just can't get there consistency, you've had a taste of it, but you just want to be able to do all the time. So the thing has been working really well for me. And this actually came to me from my own experience, right? I was having an altercation in my family. And I was quite upset, which is normal, right? Not anyone's fault. It's part of living with people that we care about. And I found myself the next day going over to I'll show you or or I'll better get on with it or whatever. But the next day, I just got so much done.

And I'm like Sorry about that knocking things over. There has to be something to this. There has to be something to this fuel around anger, but there must be a better way to do it. And That's what I've learned. And now I'm showing my clients and they getting awesome results. And the surprising things are that not only is it helping releasing the anger to give more of that fuel and drive, but it's meaning that you don't have to worry about things like procrastination, it means that you can bypass those avoidance tactics that you have those distractions that you find the scrolling the just the boredom at different times. And the other cool things been where it actually starts to release other parts. So you're shifting other stuff sitting in your system, like physical pain, like, those old patterns are useful, sad, out of the blue, you just couldn't release those. So instead of in that place of like, like, I've talked about before, I'm talking about and talking about important, but feeling like you just have to talk about you're done with the talk, and you actually want a strategy that's going to get you out the other side. And this is what this this process does. Yeah, I've learned from experience, and I've implemented it from experience, and it's given me even more than I expected through that. And it's called the anger rehab training. And I'm really excited to share this with you, because it allows you to turn that anger into a fuel that not only allows you to give that drive forward and have that discipline. But you know, left, you're not left feeling down on the other side of it, you know, having those ups and down moments, but you're having more of those consistent, days, weeks, months, and you start performing at a level that you know, that you've been capable of, but just haven't been able to to up haven't been able to until now. Game Changer. So for those who want to jump the queue here, you'll find it on Eventbrite, you go to online events and search in Hawkins and you'll find it there. I'll be running one of these every week, I'll let you know it is a paid training. But such is the power of this and the impact that's going to have in your life, it's a very small investment for the for the positive impact this is going to have and as always, you can wait till it appears on my social media, or send me an email and you can get in the in the jump the queue and get the email from my newly new, not newly might coming soon. Newsletter, it's on the list of things to do. So turning the frustration and anger into fuel, getting that consistency and removing the procrastination and like I said the bonus is getting rid of some of that physical pain that might have been sitting in your system for a long time.

I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform