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If you don't do this then you're definitely going backwards every day....
Episode 9013th August 2022 • The Daily Podcast with Jonathan Doyle • Jonathan Doyle
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In today's episode I explore one of the great inconvenient truths about the nature of existence itself. It's the fact that if we are not moving forward then there is a very good chance we are going backward.

I share a great quote from Dale Carnegie who reminds us that it does not matter how small our steps may be as long as they are heading in the right direction.

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Well, Hey everybody, Jonathan Doyle with you.

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Once again, welcome back frightful friends to the daily podcast.

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Grab yourself a copy.

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I have had a good day.

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Uh, caught up with similarly great people.

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I always try and keep pushing myself.

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To be around.

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good people who can help me to grow now today.

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My friend, we are going to talk about a quote from Dale Carnegie.

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I've been, uh, over the last few weeks and months, we've been looking at all of the

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great men and women throughout history.

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We've talked about Marcus Aurelius a fair bit.

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Yesterday was one of my favorites, Zig Ziegler, talking about how we manage

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our past, our present and our future.

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So today we're going to talk about Dale Carnegie.

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One of the great.

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I guess motivational, uh, character based writers of the early 20th century.

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So I really liked this quote, listen to this.

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He says, if you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be.

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You are automatically engaged in becoming.

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That is gold.

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Listen to that again.

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If you're not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you're

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automatically engaged and becoming the person you don't want to be.

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This is a thesis.

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That I have been a guest sharing with you guys for a very long time.

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It's around homeostasis or homeostasis, depending on how you want to pronounce it.

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Homeostasis is the principle that objects are trying to stay

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in equilibrium at all times.

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Now, one of the ways to think about it is.

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Your own internal physiological system, your neurochemical,

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biological internal system, you know, your blood pressure, heart rate.

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Hormone levels there.

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They're always trying to seek balance.

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Yes, they do vary at different times of the day.

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They vary when we eat when we sleep.

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But in general, this principle of homeostasis means that the body is

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trying to keep itself in the optimal.

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Uh, state, I guess, of equilibrium for as long as possible.

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And of course, when we knock things out of equilibrium, we get all sorts of problems.

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But here is the interesting paradox.

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The cosmos itself.

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Is not holding itself in homeostasis.

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It's constantly moving and growing and expanding there.

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Stay with me as I put all this together.

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So even our own bodies, you know, from the second of conception.

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We're moving towards a different state.

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We're moving here.

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I can't believe I'm going to say this on a motivational podcast.

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We're moving towards physical death.

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I don't believe it's a spiritual, I think it's a physical death.

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Um, so even, even if, even though we have homeostasis taking place,

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In the interview, if you put the lens of a single day over your body, but

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really what's happening is that we're still growing and moving forward, we're

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still developing towards something.

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And of course, as I've said recently, if you look at the big bang theory,

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the thesis of the singularity as they call it, when the cosmos came

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into existence, it's still moving.

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It's still growing.

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It's still a dynamic process everywhere around you, that you look is growth

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and change, growth and change.

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It's everywhere.

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It's in the plants that you look at at your window.

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It's in your own physical body, it's in your kids or your friends.

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You're seeing it everywhere.

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The world, the clouds, the sky, the ocean, the air, everything is

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in a constant state of movement.

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And that's why I like what Dale Carnegie is getting at here.

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He says, if you're not in the process,

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Of becoming the person you want to be moving towards that internalized ideal.

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Then he says you're not staying neutral.

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And he says, even if we think that we're just staying exactly where we are, he

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says effectively, we're going backwards.

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We're becoming the person.

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We don't want it to be.

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So you know that if you sit on the couch of life and do nothing, you don't improve.

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Right.

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You.

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You basically go backwards.

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You don't stay exactly the same.

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Like, if you sat on the couch, literally let's say literal physical couch.

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For extended periods of time.

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Got no exercise.

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Didn't uh, look after your physical appearance, didn't read

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anything didn't eat properly.

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You know, you'd like to think that you're just sitting there doing nothing, but

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you're definitely doing something right.

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And that something is going to take you backwards.

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So I like this idea that if we're not in the process of becoming

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the person that we want to be, we're automatically by default.

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Engaged in becoming the person that we don't want to be.

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I think that's powerful.

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What's the message.

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We have to be constant.

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Agents in our own life agents of action agents of change.

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Now often I get the question.

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Well, Jonathan, what about, you know, Prayer and stillness and meditation

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and accepting the way things are and being at peace with that.

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Totally get it.

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Totally get it.

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I do.

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And as I've said, always, I have plenty of that built into my life.

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In fact, just before coming into the studio today.

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I had a busy morning and I took some time out.

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I finished watching a really interesting documentary.

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I sat on the couch with our magnificent caboodle Benji, and, uh, and just

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sat for a bit, had a good coffee.

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I'm going to just rested.

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I guess there's definite seasons there's times there's moments where we

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take stock, where we settle, where we regain a sense of balance and poise.

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But I think what kind of needs reminding us of is what is the general trajectory?

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What is the general trajectory?

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You see tomorrow morning, I'm planning to go out and probably run a marathon.

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Um, it's not an organized one.

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I just sometimes go out and run them because I can.

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And because, cause I'm a little bit different.

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But, uh, you know, I'll do at least 35 K and if I get to 35, I'll probably

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just go ahead and do the marathon.

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Um, I'm 48 and I'm not a built runner.

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I'm not built to run, but I like this process of just testing myself,

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pushing myself, encouraging people through some of the things that I do.

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So with all my imperfections, I'm tracking toward.

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This ideal of becoming the fullness of what I can become.

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I'm not going to reach it in this lifetime, but my

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general trajectory is growth.

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So if I was to do none of those things, The message of today is that I wouldn't

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stay the same and actually go backwards.

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So one more time, listen to Dale Carnegie, give you not in the process.

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Of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in

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becoming the person you don't want to be.

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Who is that person you don't want to be?

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It's the person that doesn't grow.

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It's the person that looks the same year after year after year and thinks the same

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thoughts and says the same things and holds all the same opinions and has had

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all the same experiences with nothing new, no growth coming into the system.

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You know, we do it without gardens.

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Don't we?

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I mean, we're constantly tending to them.

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Fertilizing them adding things to them, improving them, taking care

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of them so that they become all that they can be as another metaphor.

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But we need to be doing that to ourselves as well.

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So do not take this as an overwhelming chore.

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Do not take this as some great big burden.

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The way I want you to think about it is just pick something small.

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Just pick one thing, whether it's a relationship, whether it's negative

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thinking whether it's physical fitness, whether it's getting a

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promotion, just pick something and ask yourself, am I growing?

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Am I moving forward?

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What's the trend.

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What's the trajectory.

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And then if it's not where you want it to be, take a small step of difference.

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It doesn't have to be remarket.

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Markably huge.

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It's like the snowball at the top of the mountain.

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Once you start to get a little bit of momentum in your life.

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One day, you suddenly find you're in new territory.

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You suddenly find, Hey.

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My life, different things are different now i'm starting to feel different i can

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do different things i can have different desires i can approach what the life

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differently we're here to grow we are here to grow I'm a parent three young

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kids still and what's one of the greatest joys seeing them grow my son is literally

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just turning the corner into being a young man i'm actually starting to see the

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facial changes the physical changes The cognition changes and it's a joy to sink.

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wonder what he's going to become i wonder what's going to happen here i wonder

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who's going to turn into And you know it's just i think that's how god looks

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at us he looks at us are we engaged in the process are we contributing to our

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own growth Are we learning to love more each year are we more healthier each year

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are we contributing more each year just that incremental growth that movement

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forward All right friends that's it for me please make sure you've subscribed

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to it for me hit that subscribe button Go check out those show notes booked me

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to speak I'm back on stage terrorizing audiences all over the world And um

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got a wonderful invite to new orleans this week Looking forward to seeing we

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could make that happen I've got about 3000 people there in new orleans and

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i'd love to get there Um to uh respond to that invite and do the keynote.

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so uh if you'd like me to come and speak live at your event please reach

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out all the details will be here in the show notes god bless you everybody

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my name is jonathan doyle this has been the daily message and you and

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