Have you ever had doubts about whether you are living a purpose-filled life? Building off the conversation in Episode #45 about fear, this episode focuses more about the steps that we can specifically take to help discover our purpose-filled live. It is always a great opportunity to evaluate what you are truly capable of becoming and ensuring that you are staying on the path of creating opportunity by a having drive towards your defined purpose.

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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs

Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 47 of Speaking From The Heart.

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Today, we're going to extend our

conversation from episode number 45 in

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which we discussed how we can extend

ourselves beyond a fear filled life,

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and now talk about how we can use that

to our advantage to create our purpose.

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I think it's really important to

understand the context of which we're

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discussing because, for many people, which

I had explained in the previous episode

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of talking about fear, that we often live

in a life of not just the things that we

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stay in routine and consistency, but maybe

even breaking outside of that shell, where

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I shared a lot in the previous episode

about my personal experiences to overcome

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and be able to share my true gifts to

this world as a result of breaking some

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of those stereotypes, especially with

some of the things that I have kept close

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to my heart, so with those things said,

and if you haven't, go check out that

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episode before you dive into this one any

further, because what I really want to

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build on today is not just the ways in

which we can use our purpose to become

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somebody that we thought that we could

ever be, but I really want to help find

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the ways in which we can elevate ourselves

to being capable of doing the things that

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we can stay on our path, no matter what

might happen that throws us off, and it

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really starts with a conversation about

how we can keep ourselves out of fear.

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I really like to talk about the

fact that we have to understand a

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little bit about what drives our

motivation of fear in the first place.

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Truthfully, fear often exists because

of the ways in which we have to not

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only tackle the day to day that we

have in our lives, in which we have to

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make sure we make enough money, make

sure that we feed ourselves, make sure

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that we clothe ourselves; mainly the

basic necessities, but we also have to

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realize that we can't let certain people,

places, or other sort of circumstances

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control the way in which we can create

some of those modalities in our life.

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I know for many of us, especially with

some of our guests that we've had,

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especially Michelle Westgate that was

on one of our earlier episodes when we

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launched the podcast, it's really about

not just staying in that complacency,

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but knowing that when somebody acts

on the outside to try to make you feel

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like you're worthless, it means trying

now to elevate yourself to that next

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level, so that you're not stuck in

that sort of complacency all the time.

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We often set ourselves up with having

that sort of circumstance, mainly due to

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the fact that we cannot change what is

happening because we assume that nothing

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can change in the first place, but we

often confuse that with the fact that we

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have to generate steps, often laid out

for ourselves, of the ways in which we

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can improve, and create, those values

that we stick to through thick and thin.

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We have to find those values, not just

in the ways in which we interact with

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others, but also in the ways in which

we can create not just that coveted life

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that we always sought out, but also make

sure that we're doing in such a framework

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that helps us to continue to build the

best opportunities that life has to offer.

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I know that sounds so generic and

it sounds so vague, but the truth

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of the matter is that we all come

from different walks of life.

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None of you might have grown up on a

farm like I had, which I explained in

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episode 45 that helped me to create some

of those responsibilities, but we also

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have to understand too that maybe those

lives that we have on a farm might be

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completely different from what mine is.

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It might be that you don't have a number

of degrees; maybe you have a certain

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skill set that you have challenged;

that you have ensured that you're

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staying on that path to help drive that

next defined purpose in your own life.

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Regardless of what it is that has

gotten you from point A to point B

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in the past, now it's about having a

conversation of what takes you from

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point B to point C to point C to point D.

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Regardless of what those points are

that are in your life that you have

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to get to that destination, it's about

understanding what you can take today

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as steps to head in the right direction,

so let's cover a couple things that

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I think might be helpful for you,

especially when we're having that

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generic, finding our purpose conversation.

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There are numerous authors, first off,

that I could say for most certainty,

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that might explain this concept much

better than even I, a personal and

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development coach, could even do, but I

think that it's important to understand

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that one framework, or one side of the

coin doesn't always mean that you have

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all the big picture, so I'm always

encouraging people to read, and read

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about what other people's stories are.

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You can do that in a variety

of different formats.

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Especially with my Toastmasters

background, I have loved listening to

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other people's journeys of how they

got to where they are in Toastmasters,

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the international organization that

works on communication and leadership

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development, but each of those stories,

whether they're personal or professional

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in nature, each combine into ways in

which we can all learn how we can get to

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where we need to be, especially if we're

stuck in a certain sort of idea about

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ourselves, maybe some sort of concept

about what we are going through that has

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been time tested and proven to not be

the way in which we should handle it,

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but more importantly, above all else,

is about learning how our experiences,

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especially with other people, can help

us become better from learning from

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mistakes, learning in the ways in which

they did their sort of processes, but also

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being able to learn in a greater purpose

of how there isn't just one way to do

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everything, and that's exactly my point.

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How it works for one person doesn't

mean that it will work for you.

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Finding our purpose often means looking

at the bigger wide picture of how we got

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to where we are in the first place, so

being able to learn from others is a good

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first step to get to where you need to be.

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The second thing that I would also

encourage that goes along the same vein

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of this is to watch, as many videos

as you can, of some of the greatest

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speeches, and even some of the best

testimonies, that are out there of how

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people got to be where they are today.

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It doesn't mean just looking at the

some of the most famous people; maybe

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actors or actresses, maybe politicians,

maybe even activists for that matter.

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Although their stories are

unique in nature, I'm talking

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more about the personal level.

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In other words, what are some of the

people that we might even have in

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our own lives that maybe we never

had that conversation with that could

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help us to understand how they found

their purpose in the first place?

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One of the greatest people, especially,

although he's very famous and no

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longer with us in this world, Steve

Jobs, the founder of Apple, along with

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Steve Wozniak, actually has a great

autobiography that was written about him

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that explains quite a lot about his own

personality and how he interacted with

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others, which was eye opening to me as

to the way in which he treated others,

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but it also unlocks some of the beauty

of the fact that his journey, although we

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might have some questionable doubts about

his ethics and maybe even his demeanor

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towards others, it certainly proved that

it doesn't always mean that you have to

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follow the same path as somebody else.

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I always encourage people to check

out what autobiographies are out there

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and read about some of the people

that have gotten to where they are

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at, especially in career fields or

even in personal accolades that maybe

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you're trying to achieve as well.

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Obviously, I could say that

you should work with a coach.

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It's time tested, it's something that

even as my business has done, I know I

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really would love to have more people

come through and express that they're

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really looking to find their true

calling, or, in my case, to find their

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true voice in this ever changing world,

the mission of Your Speaking Voice,

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which we cover in an earlier episode.

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It isn't just about finding the right

coach that might be able to help you.

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It's also understanding what is the

process that you're willing to take

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in order to get from that point that

you're at currently to the final

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destination, and notice that this time

around, I'm not saying just from one

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point to the other, but looking at the

world view of what you might need to

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do of getting from that point that you

are to where the final destination is.

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It can be a long, arduous process,

and I can't caution you enough about

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having that trepidation and that

courage to keep pushing forward, but

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you also have to understand too that

it isn't just about learning how to

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get from that one point to another.

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You have to surround yourself

with more than just one person.

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A great person that I have admired,

that I have gotten to know more

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recently, has definitely done this by

taking their business, and even their

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personal commitment to trying to get

from where they were before to another

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place, by surrounding themselves

with not just one, two, three, maybe

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even up towards of twenty, thirty,

fifty, a hundred people, so that they

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are able to achieve their success.

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Each of us holds a key, or a fire I like

to call it, deep down inside of ourselves,

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that allows us to be passionate about

what we're able to do, so I always tell

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my clients that I might be just one of

those pieces of the puzzle that they're

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trying to get to, but they might need help

with other places, which is why I'm always

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interested in collaborating with other

coaches to help each other build that

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biggest foundation of where we need to

go in our lives, especially with running

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our own businesses, for that matter.

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Even with that said, the personal aspect

of what you are trying to do is about

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living that purpose filled life, which

if you have never written down what

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that purpose is, that big grandiose

goal if you will, of what you want to

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try to achieve, you might want to start

working on that right now, and it doesn't

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mean that you have to figure out what

that is right now at this very moment.

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Just having a rough idea of what

you want to try to do in your life,

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especially with what that purpose is,

is always a good starting place to get

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to where you ultimately need to be.

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Now, I might know, from some experiences,

that sometimes that goal has changed,

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and I even have talked about, in some

previous episodes, about how my past,

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especially with some of the people that

I've had as influences in my life about

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what my career should be, has ultimately

led me into now, doing this podcast,

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even being a coach, but it's still not

just about what I'm doing right now, but

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what I'm doing to evolve myself, because

even as we speak, as of this recording,

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I'm working on bigger aspirations of

what my plan will be, and I'm really

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excited to be sharing that with you down

the road at some point, but I know that

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my mission isn't always about staying

stagnant in the moment in which I'm at.

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It's about always evolving that goal

to get to where we need to go, and

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if I'm not capable of doing it all by

myself, I'm going to reach out to the

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people that are capable of doing that

and getting that sound advice, and it

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doesn't mean that you have to always

pay for someone to be able to do that.

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Now, you might be asking yourself,

"Well, why would you ever say

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that last statement about not

having to pay somebody else, Josh?

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Isn't that what you're out for?

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Isn't it about the money?"

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Well, I have to thank my friend Kyle

Slaymaker for saying this really early on,

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and especially as I started my business.

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Even in his episode in which we

interviewed him, he expressed

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something that is so true to this day.

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It isn't about just the money.

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It is about the connections that you

make, and the aspects of our relationships

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with others, is what generates that

money, so think about this for a second.

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Do you have a network that allows you to

keep building your relationships and your

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confidence and determination so that you

can unlock the best financial reward?

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Are you always seeking out that next penny

or that next change that's coming out of

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the change drawer out of your business,

thinking that you're going to be able

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to pocket that and be able to make it to

the next level of whatever it is that you

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have 20, 30, or 40 years down the road.

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Are you living in the long term?

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Are you living in the short

term knowing that you can

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create that long term success?

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It is all about finding our framework,

and I think that we often lose sight of

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the fact that it's always about the money.

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It's always about the money.

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It's always about the money, but

as I have been recently reminded

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of, money is the root of all evil.

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Let me repeat that.

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Money is the root of all evil.

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If you're not taking into consideration

the fact that if you want to have

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just this financial success, you're

doing it for all the wrong reasons.

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You're not doing it to lead a purpose

filled life, because if you're making

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your worship, your idol, to be about

money, then what are you actually

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trying to serve in the bigger picture?

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What is it that you're trying

to serve in the bigger context?

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One of the greatest influencers of my

life was a sister that I met at Alvernia

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University by the name of Sister Pacelli.

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She's no longer with us.

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She passed away a number of years ago,

but I had been fortunate to have one

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of her classes in which she really

explained this concept very well.

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In that sort of aspect, we were able to

learn so much about the opportunities

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that existed, not only in serving

a Christ filled life, but in the

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bigger sense, what we can do in the

Franciscan way of serving others.

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Now, if you're not Catholic, or

you're not religious whatsoever, it

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doesn't mean that you have to be that.

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It's about the principle.

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You can always detach the religious

aspect from the principle, which

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is what I'm trying to share with

you today, is that it isn't always

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about what we're finding as money.

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What we are trying to find, though, is

this capability of staying on that path

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of opportunity, so that no matter what

happens, we are always staying consistent

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with the ways in which we can sustain

that bigger goal that we set out for

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ourselves, because we are able to create

not just those goals that allow us to

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support that main mission that we have

in our life, but we're able to bring a

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team around that reminds us that it's

not just about the money, it's about the

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impact that we're trying to make, and

we need to always remember that we can

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make that impact, because we are doing

it for the gifts that we have been given.

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You do have that purpose, which I have

talked about leading outside that life of

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fear, and if you stick yourself out with

your neck, and your head is exposed, I

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will tell you that people will see what

you are truly capable of doing, because

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they will see right through you that you

want to lead that purpose-filled life,

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that you are the genuine article, that you

are somebody that they should get to know.

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For the longest time in my life, I

thought that I wanted to be somebody

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just like that, but I was doing it

for all the wrong reasons, so don't

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take that same road that I did.

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Learn from my mistakes, just like I

asked you earlier to learn from other

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people's mistakes, and don't do it the

way in which now, at 36 years of age, I'm

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finally doing what I was called to do,

because you can do what you are called

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to do, if you're just willing to just

keep that conversation going, not just

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with yourself, but with others as well.

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Even if it takes a village to solve all

those different purposes that we have in

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our life, just know that there's at least

one person that's interested in hearing

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from you, especially with the fact that

we all need to be heard from time to time.

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If you're not finding that support,

especially like people that have

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gone through such situations like

Michelle, which we have interviewed

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on this show, just know this: I do

want to hear you, because there's

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at least one person that does care.

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I do care a lot, and I really want to

help others realize their true potential

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by not just seeing what it is to get

from point A to point B, but to get from

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point A to infinity; to be able to really

say to ourselves that we are living

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that life that we always wanted to live.

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That we are capable of being able to

take a step outside of our comfort

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zone, and maybe we are able to not only

create that "level up experience", but

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to maybe create that full possibility

of not just seeing what we are doing

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right now, but what our future self can

be doing, because you are the future.

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You are capable of doing it.

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You do have purpose, and I want

you to have that drive to not just

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find your defined purpose, but to

have you be helped along the way.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 47 of Speaking from the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

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