Fall Into Radiance: 7 Rules to Lock The F*ck In

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What's up, radiant icons and welcome back to Dare To Be

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Iconic, the podcast made for icons

who are daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli.

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And for today's tea time sesh, we

are spilling the tea on how to lock

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the fuck in for fall, because fall

is a time to refocus your glow.

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So we have seven rules, 20 days,

and one iconic era, and that

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all starts today, radiant icons.

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I, for one, am so, so excited for,

um, this new little challenge because

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November, y'all don't even know the

half of it yet, but November is one

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of now the busiest months between

my day job and DTBI and my personal

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life, I will only be home for about

maybe let's say five, maybe six days.

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And so I need to get my shit together.

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I need to lock the fuck into fall

into Radiance this fall as we

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prepare for Sexy 27 in December.

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Because you already know National Amanda

Day, we are going big radiant icons.

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It's sexy 27.

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But before we get into that.

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We need to fall into radiance.

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We need to embrace our most confident,

our most radiant, our most iconic selves.

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And that all starts with the seven

rules that I will be diving into

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today so that we can unlock this sexy

energy that's all about self-worth,

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confidence, and chasing your dreams.

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But before we do that, radiant icons,

make sure to connect with me on

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socials on Instagram and TikTok it's

@amandapaolicelli_ and @daretobeiconic_.

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And if you're on LinkedIn radiant icons,

you already know what I'm gonna say.

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Make sure to connect with me on there.

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It's Amanda Paolicelli.

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All of my socials are linked

in the show notes below.

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And also, since we are speaking of

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All right, radiant icons.

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That is enough chitchatting.

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Let's get to that piping hot tea that

I know you all are waiting for because

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we all wanna know how to lock in this

fall so that we can fall into radiance.

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And that all starts with these seven

rules and I am so damn excited.

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Make sure to stay till the very

end for a very iconic surprise

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announcement that may have to do as

to why I'm only home for five days.

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So anyway, are you ready?

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radiant icons, because your

tea time sesh is starting now.

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Rule number one is romanticize discipline.

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If there is one thing I have not

done in October is romanticize

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discipline, radiant icons.

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And that is all changing this November.

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So we can, what?

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We can lock the fuck in to

radiance because locking in is

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not punishment, radiant icons.

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It is a devotion to your future self.

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So the action item that we, that's

right, we both will be doing for

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rule number one is creating a daily

ritual whether that is a morning walk,

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journaling, skincare, anything that

feels luxurious, not restrictive, that

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is the action that we will be doing.

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So for me personally, my daily

ritual to romanticize discipline

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in my life for these next 20 days

will be journaling and skincare.

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And I always tell myself that

I'm gonna journal every night and

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I'm gonna go and do my skincare,

but honestly, I get really lazy.

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And the last month, October, as we

all know, I haven't been shy about it.

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October is a triggering month for me.

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It's very hard for me mentally.

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And when I am in the, the dumps,

right, when I am really not feeling

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it, and I am in that like triggering

state, I become even more lazy

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and I, I almost am paralyzed.

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And for me, for November, I really

want to be intentional in this

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romanticizing discipline, and I wanna

go back to something that was so

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freeing for me that really challenged

me mentally and felt luxurious.

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And for me, that is journaling, that is

writing, that is so therapeutic for me.

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And I haven't journaled since

August, honestly, like since right

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after my breakup and so much has

happened and I am just been scared.

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So I'm going to really push myself

and romanticize that discipline by

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creating that ritual of journaling at

night, no matter what the hell is going

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on, no matter how I feel, I'm going

to journal for at least 10 minutes.

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I know that is something

that I can actionably do.

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That is something that

is realistic for me.

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And also right before I journal,

I'm gonna do my skincare.

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I say it all the damn time

that I'm gonna do my skincare.

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And honestly, I do do my skincare.

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Okay.

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I, I do my moisturizer, I do my cleanser,

and I do my little Vaseline for my lips.

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Right.

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And like, that's great, but

I really wanna get back into

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gua-shing or however you say it.

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I really wanna do the gua, basically.

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And I always tell myself,

oh, I'm gonna do it.

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I'm gonna do it at least

once or twice a week.

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And I never do it.

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I never do it.

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I just, I just never do it.

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And I can only get to my basic skincare

routine and like, that's great in all.

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I always say I'm gonna do it and I always

feel so good after I do the guasha and

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I sleep like a damn baby after I do it.

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I don't know what the hell it is, what

science is going on, but I sleep so damn

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good and I haven't been sleeping well.

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So for me, doing the guasha and like

then journaling feels luxurious to me

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'cause I know my brain is gonna be free.

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Right?

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I'm gonna be able to dump all my

thoughts onto paper and really

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think things through 'cause there's

a lot going on in this brain.

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So once I do my journaling and

after I do my guasha, 'cause

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it's already relaxing me, right?

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I'm able to hit the pillow

and actually go to bed.

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How nice is that gonna be for me?

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Especially as we go into this

very, very busy season where

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I'm barely gonna be home, right?

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So I need to enforce consistency,

romanticize discipline in my life because

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consistency is your new love language,

radiant icons, for the next 20 days,

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that is what consistency is to you.

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I challenge you to truly think

about what do you want in your

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daily ritual that feels luxurious

to you and not restrictive.

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How can you honor that first rule of

romanticizing discipline in your life?

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Rule number two, move

like the main character.

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Now, this is your physical glow up

rule, radiant icons, I am a firm

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believer that incorporating movement

into your daily life, into your daily

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routine makes you feel powerful.

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It allows you to own your power like we

spoke of maybe two weeks ago, for The

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Dating Dilemma: Crushing On Potential, it

is so important to own your power 'cause

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that is what makes you magnetic, right?

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So moving like the main character

for rule number two, we are going

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to be focusing on that energy that

we possess when we move our body,

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and we do movements that we enjoy.

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So the action that we are going to

take together for rule number two is

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commit to moving your body twice a

week and again, radiant icons, this

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rule is not about the mirror, right?

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We are doing this for the energy,

that powerful energy that you

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possess when you move your body in

a way that you thoroughly enjoy.

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And I know you guys are probably gonna

already be like, Amanda, you have

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already incorporated rule number two

because we see it all the time on your

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Instagram and TikTok, and you are right.

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You are right.

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Rule number two, move like the

main character has been something

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that I have been implementing in

my life since mid-September when

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I started doing the Sexy, Single,

and Iconic solo dates for myself.

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And one of them was that heels class.

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And I know ever since season three

has started, I keep going back to

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how healing dancing in heels has

been for me and my healing journey.

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And you are right.

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I'm gonna say heels class is one of

the movements I'm committing to and

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I've already incorporated into my

life that has made me feel powerful.

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But because we are, we right?

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We're doing this challenge

together for 20 days.

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I'm gonna push myself

a little bit further.

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I'm going to challenge myself because

right here, the action is we need

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to move our body twice a week.

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Right?

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Well, once a week I go to

heels class and that's great.

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Perfect.

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Okay.

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I'm gonna challenge myself even more.

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I'm gonna do at Home Reformer Pilates

because after my breakup, I bought

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that reformer Pilates board, and I

did do it for maybe a month or two.

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And don't get me wrong, I do pull

out the board every every so often,

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but I'm not pulling it out as much

as I would like because I'm lazy.

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I'm gonna, I'm like, I'm

so honest with you guys.

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I am too lazy to pull out the

damn board that I pay for.

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I paid for that damn board because I

wanted to do it, and I did do it, and

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then I stopped because I got lazy.

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That that's just inexcusable.

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That's truly inexcusable.

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Especially as we are going into fall

and we are locking the fuck in, right?

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I, I can't be doing that.

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Absolutely not.

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So I'm gonna take out that damn board.

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I'm gonna stop being lazy and

I'm gonna fall into radiance.

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I'm gonna do the reformer Pilates board

that I bought that I wanted to do for

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myself because I really do enjoy Pilates.

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It was just too damn

expensive to go to a studio.

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So I bought the board so

I can go as many times.

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'cause you know, girl math.

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If I, you know, buy the board

and it's $99 compared to going

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to a class every week for $40.

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And I, I do the Pilates board maybe

like twice what, like twice, three

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times a week, whatever you wanna say.

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That's like basically free at that point.

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And yes.

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Have I already paid off the board

by the amount of times I've done it?

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Yes, that's true.

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But still, I like a good deal.

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Okay.

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I like a good deal.

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I need to keep doing it.

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So now it's even more free, right?

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I don't know.

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That's how I'm justifying it in my brain.

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But basically I'm holding myself

accountable on this podcast because

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what else, what else do I do here?

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It's, it's Dare To Be Iconic.

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Um, yeah, I'm gonna pull out

that reformer board that I

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bought because I wanted to do it.

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I'm gonna start implementing it

back into my movement routine.

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And I challenge you guys as well to find

a movement that you enjoy that will allow

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you to tap into your sexy energy that

is all about confidence and embracing

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your most radiant and iconic self.

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Oh my goodness, radiant icons.

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There is something about number

three when it comes to these guides

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or these rules that I prepare for

you guys that I just end up loving.

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Whatever.

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Number three is the most.

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It's something that always just

like speaks to my soul and this

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rule, rule number three, is one

that I have been loving and it is

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creating your signature energy.

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Now, when it comes to creating

your signature energy, I think

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of beauty as empowerment, right?

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Your scent, your lip combo, your outfit.

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When you feel good about how

you are presenting yourself,

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you radiate confidence.

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So when I think of rule number

three, this is the action item

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that we will be doing together.

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It is picking one signature thing that

makes you feel iconic every single

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time you step outside of your house,

and I know what you're gonna say,

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you're gonna call me out because I've

already done this 'cause you guys have

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already heard about my signature set.

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You guys have already seen my

Signature Lip combo, so you're like,

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Amanda, you've already done this.

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You're right.

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You're right.

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Between rule number two and three, I

have incorporated those honestly, out of

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all these rules that I will be telling

you guys about, rules two and three have

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been ones that I have been implementing

into my life since mid September, and

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it has been life changing and the way

that rule number three has given me

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permission to experiment and have fun.

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I don't think I ever really allow

myself to have fun when it comes

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to my appearance, I, I, I don't

really let myself experiment.

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I kind of stay into, okay, well this is

my, this is my scent that I always use.

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I know I like it.

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That's it.

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I don't venture off and try new things.

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When it comes to my makeup,

I know what looks good on me.

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I'm not gonna change it.

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I do the same eye look and I do

the same lip look and I do that.

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I'm like, I'm not gonna change it.

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But when it came to the

radiant reign era, right?

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Stepping into this new era of my life

with this new found confidence, this sexy

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confidence that just radiates from me.

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I started giving myself permission

to experiment and have fun

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when it came to my appearance.

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So for me, the two things that I really

have pulled from rule number three in

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creating my signature energy has been

my scent and has been my lip combo.

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My lip combo happened by accident.

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I just needed to like put on a lip

and I really didn't wanna do the

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lip that I was already experimenting

with, which is my like cherry cola lip

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that I was seeing all over Pinterest.

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So I like literally bought all the

things- I never owned lip liner in my

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entire life until August when I wanted

to try that Cherry Cola lip 'cause it

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was like right after the breakup and

I was like, I need to try something.

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You know how people get

bangs after a breakup?

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For me it was like, okay, well I'm gonna,

I'm gonna try lip liner, that's my thing

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or I'm gonna, I'm gonna get some new

perfume and get myself a signature scent.

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Like, that's what I did.

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I didn't get bangs.

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I got a new lip combo

and a signature scent.

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That's just me.

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Um, but like, you know, I, I tried lip

liner, I tried that Cherry Cola lip and I

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wanted something, you know, different for

this video series I was filming for you

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guys on TikTok, the Breakup to Reign One.

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And I just put those two things

together and all of a sudden it like.

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It like worked and like

I fell in love with it.

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You guys fell in love with

it, and now here we go.

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I have my signature lip.

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I'm not wearing it right now.

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I'm not wearing it right now.

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Okay.

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It's, it's really late actually

while I'm recording this episode.

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So I did not wanna put on

my full face of makeup.

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Um, but, you know, my signature lip became

a thing that that allowed me to create

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this signature energy that I have been

embodying in this new era of my life.

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And it's, you know, oozed into

every other aspect of my life

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'cause when I wear that lip combo,

I feel like the baddest bitch alive.

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I feel like the most

iconic girl in the world.

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Like, I mean like as I should, right?

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But like when I have that lip combo

on, or when I have my signature scent,

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which is Oakcha, you know, I do the

sinful and I then I layer it with the

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that girl viral vanilla and it's sinful,

delectable, and delicious and sexy.

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But when I have those two things on,

I feel like literally unstoppable.

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I feel like the hottest girl

in the world, like as I should.

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But that's the energy I'm creating

for myself by experimenting and

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having fun with things that I've never

experimented with or had fun with before.

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So when it comes to creating

your signature energy, use

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your beauty as a strength.

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Use it as a form of empowerment.

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Find for you what makes you

feel the most iconic when you

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step outside of your house.

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Again, that can be a lip combo.

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That can be maybe a new eye look

right, a signature eye look.

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It could be your signature scent, an

outfit color, like whatever it is.

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Find whatever it is for you that

makes you feel iconic and radiant.

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Rule number four: do one

thing that scares you.

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Confidence is built through

courage, radiant icons.

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So your action item for rule number

four that we will be doing is every week

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for 20 days, you are going to, not you,

we, we, 'cause we're doing it together.

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We are doing something that pushes

us outside of our comfort zone.

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So I'm talking DMing

that brand that you love.

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I'm talking posting that video

that you think is cringe.

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I am talking, taking yourself out on

solo dates, showing up to that event

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solo because you wanted to do it.

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Yeah, that's right.

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I'm referring to episode one of

season three, Solo, Not Lonely:

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How To Be Your Own Best Friend.

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That is how you step outside

of your comfort zone.

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Fear is just an invitation

to level up radiant icons,

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and this rule is testing you.

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It is inviting you to level

up, so push that fear aside.

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Say goodbye to your comfort zone

and do the thing that scares you.

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For me, personally, when I think

of rule number four and I think

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of the month ahead, it's actually

gonna be really interesting because,

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well, I guess this goes with my,

my iconic surprise announcement.

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As you guys know, I love Formula

One and well, I'm in my radiant

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reign era, which is all about

being sexy and single and iconic.

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And what's more sexy, single and

iconic then the Las Vegas Grand Prix.

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Mm-hmm.

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I'm going to the Las Vegas Grand Prix

and you already know all of the coverage

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about this very chaotic, very unhinged,

sexy, iconic trip to Las Vegas will be

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covered on the Dare to Be Iconic podcast.

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Okay?

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So don't go anywhere.

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You know, the podcast is gonna

be, honestly, it's probably gonna

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be some of the best tea time

sessions of our lives, okay?

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I'm just saying.

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What better way than to live

out rule number four and end

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this challenge by doing this

really big thing that scares me.

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I don't think there's anything better

honestly than to end this challenge

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than with this trip to prove to mean

that I have fallen into radiance and

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really have lived out all of these

rules to the fullest, especially

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rule number four in this case.

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So I challenge you when it comes

to doing one thing that scares you.

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It doesn't have to be something

as big as going to a race by

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yourself halfway across the country.

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Do something that pushes you

outside of your comfort zone.

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Because again, fear is just an

invitation to level up and damn,

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are we leveling up this fall?

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Okay, we are leveling up radiant icons.

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Now let's get to rule number five.

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Rule number five, protect your peace

like it is Prada, you cannot be iconic,

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radiant icons, if you are drained.

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Boundaries are a luxury.

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So when it comes to protecting

your peace like it is Prada.

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I want us to audit our energy.

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Where are we leaking time,

comparison, or attention?

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So think of it like this, replace

your scrolling with self-care

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comparison with confidence.

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For me, I have found myself in the

last month really like doom scrolling.

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Okay, doom scrolling galore over here.

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I just automatically go to TikTok

whenever I feel anxious or overwhelmed.

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It's like some type of

like coping mechanism.

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I, I don't know, it just allows

me to truly desensitize and

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really just pull myself out of

like that, that anxious state.

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Forces me there, right?

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And I just am doom scrolling my life away.

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I can't do that anymore.

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That is literally draining my energy.

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And like I said beforehand, you

cannot be iconic if you are drained.

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I cannot keep on doom scrolling,

especially when I am in that anxious

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state that is not benefiting me.

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Okay?

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So I'm gonna audit my energy.

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I cannot doom scroll anymore.

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Instead, I'm going to replace

that with an act of self-care.

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Maybe that act of self-care is journaling.

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So I can tie it into

rule number one, right?

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Romanticizing discipline.

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Okay.

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I need to romanticize

discipline in my life.

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So why not?

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Why not?

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Whenever I catch myself wanting to

doom scroll, I then replace it with,

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okay, my daily ritual of journaling.

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That's what I'm gonna do.

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So maybe every time I think of

doom scrolling, no, no, no, no, no.

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I'm gonna force myself

to journal my thoughts.

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Maybe that's gonna help me reinforce

or discipline myself to get into

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that routine of journaling and

get away from that doom scrolling.

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So it's kinda a two in one here, right?

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Rule one and five,

however you wanna do it.

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But for me, maybe that's what I do

to protect my peace like it's Prada.

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Maybe when I find myself in that game

of comparison, I go on a walk, right?

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Maybe I combine it with rule number two.

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In this instance, when I find myself

comparing myself to someone on social

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media or someone in my daily life, I'm

going to take a step back and I'm going

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to pour my energy into movement so that

I can feel my power again, and I can

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start owning it because I shouldn't

be comparing myself to someone else.

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Just like I mentioned maybe three

weeks ago in the, You're Not Late,

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You're Becoming episode, so season

three, episode two: everyone

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is on their own path in life.

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Just because we are both on chapter 26,

it does not mean that my chapter 26 and

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your chapter 26 are gonna look the same.

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In fact, they're not.

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Our chapters, even though we're

both on chapter 26, are going

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to look completely different.

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So when I find myself in that comparison

game, I'm going to audit my energy.

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I'm going to take a step back, and

I'm going to implement movement.

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I'm gonna go into that twice a week,

I'm gonna move my body, whether

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that's heels class, whether that's

reformer Pilates at home, because I'm,

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I need to take out that damn mat and

stop being lazy or going on a walk.

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Maybe that's how I combined

rule two and five, and I do a,

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a two for one deal over here.

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Right?

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You know, a nice little bogo.

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If you're in the south and

you know Publix, then you

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know what I'm referring to.

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But you know, I, we love a good

BOGO over here, and maybe that's

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that with rule number five.

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Maybe when you see yourself doom

scrolling or comparison or whatever

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it is, that is really just draining

your energy, replace it with one of

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these other rules that allow you to

fall into radiance and embrace your

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most confident, radiant, iconic self.

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We're gonna do a little math equation.

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I don't like math.

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I don't like math, right?

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These icons, I actually hate math,

but it's fitting for this rule

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and it's, it's a pretty simple

equation, and it is, your internal

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dialogue equals your external energy.

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The way that you talk to yourself

affects how you carry yourself.

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So rule number six, you need to

speak to yourself like you already

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are her, because guess what?

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You are her radiant icons, you are her.

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So for the next 20 days, our action

step will be we are going to say one

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affirmation out loud that grounds us and

my affirmation or my go-to affirmation

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that really allows me to ground

myself and get back into my being and

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remind me of who the hell I am, right?

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Because sometimes we forget who we

are and we need to get back on track.

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this is what I tell myself.

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I am unstoppable.

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I am unshakable, and I

am unapologetically me.

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When I say this affirmation, not only does

it ground me, but it allows me to choose

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who I want to show up as in the world.

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And for me.

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I am showing up as the unstoppable

unshakeable Amanda Paolicelli,

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because that is who the hell I am.

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And that's on period.

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So, when it comes to rule number six,

remind yourself that the internal dialogue

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that you feed yourself affects the way

that you carry yourself in this world.

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So speak to yourself with kindness.

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Speak to yourself with strength,

speak to yourself with love.

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That is what we need more of

in this world, especially when

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we are talking to ourselves.

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So when you're not feeling like the

baddest icon in the world, that's okay.

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I want you to take a step back and

say an affirmation that grounds

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you, and you can totally take mine.

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You can steal my affirmation.

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Please do.

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Please do.

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Because it will remind you of

the bad bitch that you are.

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It will remind you of how iconic you

are because you are the most iconic,

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radiant icon out there radiant icons.

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And that's on period.

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We've made it to rule

number seven, radiant icons.

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And I do love this rule

because it is so Amanda coded.

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Add sparkle to the small things in

your life because everything's good

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with a little bit more sparkle.

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The most radiant individuals

that I know are the ones who

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find magic in the small things.

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So when it comes to rule number seven,

and it comes to our action item that

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we will be doing to reinforce this

rule into our lives for the next 20

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days, is romanticize your life daily.

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Whether that is a coffee ritual or a

special getting ready playlist that

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you have perfectly curated to pump you

up in the morning, or even a cute gym

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outfit or a cozy candlelight journaling

session, like whatever it is, you

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need to romanticize your life daily,

even if it's just the small things.

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Actually, that is what you need to do.

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You need to add sparkle to

the small things in your life.

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When I'm going on a hot girl walk

or when I'm going to heels class,

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the sparkle that I add to that

is I do my full face of makeup.

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And I wear a cute little outfit because

that makes me feel iconic, but it also

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adds sparkle to the little things.

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Man that example actually like puts

in all the rules together, like

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one through seven, but still, you

know, like doing that allows me to

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add sparkle to the small things.

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It allows me to romanticize going

to heels class and enjoying myself

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even more than I already do.

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another great example of this is

celebrating the small wins and I

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actually just started doing this with

one of my really good friends, Rachel.

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I met Rachel at the under 30 summit and

we, we literally met the first day at the

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first event and we have been attached at

the hip ever since and she lives literally

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on the other side of the country.

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Like we could not be at further,

further places away from each other.

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But we are literally

still attached at the hip.

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And one thing that we have started doing

together to kind of like retrain our mind

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to to see the sparkle in the small things

is celebrating the small wins in our life.

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So each night, even though I forget

sometimes, Rachel, okay, I, and I know you

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know this, but you know, I'm just gonna

hold myself accountable on this podcast.

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But you know, we text each other

almost every night, our small wins

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when it comes to our professional

lives and our personal lives.

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And that allows us to not only hold each

other accountable, but it allows us to

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rewire our brain and allow us to see

the sparkle in the small things in life.

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And also see the wins that

we are accomplishing daily.

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Because sometimes I think we're

so focused on the big wins, and

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I'm so guilty of that, like I'm

gonna call myself out on that.

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Sometimes I just focus on the big

milestone moments that I forget

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to take in the small wins in life.

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Rachel actually came up with this idea

that we hold each other accountable,

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and I've really been loving it and

it's really starting to add a little

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bit of sparkle back into my life.

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And I've missed that in October.

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I really have missed the sparkle

and the delusion and like the

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hopefulness that I had in August, in

September, I, I lost it last month.

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And I'm really, really happy that this

challenge and these seven rules will

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allow me to add the hope and the joy

and the sparkle back into my life in

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specific categories that I've lost it in.

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When it comes to rule number seven, add

the sparkle to the small things in your

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life because it just makes life more fun

and more iconic and I just love it for us.

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All right, radiant icons.

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That is your tea time session for today.

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If you enjoy today's episode, make

sure to subscribe to leave a Rating, a

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review, to tell your friends about us,

to tell everyone and anyone, because

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you know, we love what More radiant

icons in our iconic community of ours.

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You know, I am never gonna get

tired of saying that radiant icons.

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Oh my goodness.

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: 00:31:47

Woo.

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: 00:31:47

A lot of energy, but I'm just so excited.

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: 00:31:50

I'm so excited for us to fall into

Radiance together, especially with

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these seven rules and these 20 days

for this very iconic era because as

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I mentioned beforehand, fall is all

about refocusing your glow and well,

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: 00:32:08

that is what we are doing together.

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And if you are joining me on this 20

day challenge, then make sure to tag,

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: 00:32:16

dare to be Iconic on Instagram and

TikTok as you show off how you are

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: 00:32:21

implementing these rules for the next 20

days so that you can fall into Radiance.

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: 00:32:26

And don't worry, radiance icons.

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: 00:32:28

You already know that my social game

will be up and running as I not only

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: 00:32:33

prepare for the Las Vegas Grand Prix.

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: 00:32:35

Oh my God.

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But also as I implement these rules

into my life, as I come into this

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like refocusing, resetting period of

the year, um, or honestly just like

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this month because I really need it.

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: 00:32:49

I really need it.

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: 00:32:50

October kind of threw me off

my axis just a little bit.

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: 00:32:53

And November, even though I'm barely gonna

be home and I'm gonna be living the life

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: 00:32:57

in Las Vegas, um, I, I need my glow back.

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: 00:33:01

Well, no, I don't need my glow back.

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: 00:33:03

It's already been here.

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: 00:33:04

I just, I just need a little resetting.

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: 00:33:07

Let's just chat about

next week real quick.

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: 00:33:09

So next week We are spilling

the tea with our very first

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everyday icon of season three.

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: 00:33:15

You guys obviously know her because

she is the one, the only ultimate

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: 00:33:20

fan girl, and she's also dare to

be iconic social media intern.

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: 00:33:24

Lere will be on Dare to Be Iconic.

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: 00:33:27

I am so excited and so honored to

have her on the podcast so she can

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: 00:33:34

spill all the tea on her new podcast.

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: 00:33:37

Born to Fan Girl.

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: 00:33:39

I, uh, she just has such a special

place in my heart and I am so excited

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: 00:33:43

for you all to get to know her.

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: 00:33:45

She is so iconic, so, so talented,

and, uh, I just love her so much.

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: 00:33:50

I cannot wait for next week.

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: 00:33:52

So I'll chat with you then.

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: 00:33:53

radiant Icons.

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: 00:33:54

Remember, Dare To Be Iconic.

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: 00:33:57

Bye.

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