Many people assume that intimacy is simply about physical connection, but what happens when emotional distance, unresolved issues, and years of disconnection begin to erode a relationship from the inside out?
In this episode of The D Shift, Mardi Winder sits down with sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet to discuss one of the most overlooked aspects of relationships. Drawing from her personal experience of spending 26 years in a sexless marriage and her professional work helping couples reconnect, Xanet shares valuable insights about emotional intimacy, communication, self-awareness, and creating healthier relationships after divorce.
Whether you are currently in a relationship, considering divorce, or rebuilding your life afterward, this conversation offers practical wisdom for understanding the role intimacy plays in long-term relationship success.
This episode highlights:
• Why intimacy challenges are more common than most people realize
• The emotional impact of living in a disconnected relationship
• How unresolved issues can affect future relationships
• The connection between communication and intimacy
• Rebuilding trust and connection after divorce
• Common relationship patterns that follow people into new relationships
• Creating healthier and more fulfilling relationships moving forward
About the Guest:
Xanet Pailet is a nationally recognized Sex and Intimacy Coach, bestselling author and the founder of Passionate Intimacy Retreats. After leaving a 26-year sexless marriage Xanet now helps committed couples who feel stuck, disconnected, or in conflict transform their relationships into ones filled with intimacy, safety, passion, and joy.
For Xanet’s book: https://a.co/d/0gYuFzO6
To connect with Xanet:
Website: https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com/
Instagram: @xanetpop
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/xanet-pailet-2b464671/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjgLul94hbzGu3X5-QBxrjg/featured/featured
About the Host
Mardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.
For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbb
Connect with Mardi on Social Media:
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinderadams/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4women
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