I bet you’ve been here…
Your kid comes to you with a situation – there’s something happening they don’t like, maybe they’re having an issue with their teacher or a friend at school – and you respond with something like, “it’s not that big of a deal,” “you’re overreacting,” or “don’t worry about it, it’s gonna be fine.”
You may have the best of intentions and even say these things in a really sweet way in an attempt to soothe your child or give them a new perspective.
But instead your kid may end up feeling like you don’t understand them or care about their problem.
This type of response is called minimizing. We’re minimizing our kid’s problems, complaints or fears. We’re trying to skip over the negative emotion rather than supporting them through it.
The truth is we can’t skip over feelings. The way to get to the next emotion is to feel the one you’re in.
And once the feeling has been felt and moved through, you can help your child to shift their perspective. This is emotional coaching.
The tools you’ll learn in this episode will help your child feel that you actually see and understand them, and they will experience the empathy that you are offering to them. And I’m sharing lots of real-life examples to help you become your kid’s emotional coach.
You’ll Learn:
- What it means to minimize your kid’s complaints and why it isn’t effective
- What compassion looks like in these conversations
- Why naming the emotion is so powerful
- What to do when your child resists being coached or when you are not calm enough to be compassionate with them
Free Resources:
Get your copy of the Stop Yelling Cheat Sheet at https://www.calmmamacoaching.com/stopyelling.
In this free guide you’ll discover:
✨ A simple tool to stop yelling once you’ve started (This one thing will get you calm.)
✨ 40 things to do instead of yelling. (You only need to pick one!)
✨ Exactly why you yell. (And how to stop yourself from starting.)
✨A script to say to your kids when you yell. (So they don't follow you around!)
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