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Hey there, Bold AF'er!
Ready to break free from generational BS and start living your F*ck Yeah Life?
In this inaugural episode of "Living Your Best Damn Life One 'F*ck Yeah I Did' At A Time," I'm diving deep into what it means to be a cycle breaker.
I share why breaking cycles is hard AF (but so worth it), and arm you with my Cycle Breaker's Toolbox - six essential strategies to break free from inherited patterns.
Plus, I'm introducing the powerful Cycle Breaker's Manifesto, your personal battle cry for living life on your own terms.
Episode Highlights:
- What exactly is a cycle breaker?
- The challenges of breaking cycles (and why it's totally worth it)
- My 6-piece Cycle Breaker's Toolbox for breaking free
- The Cycle Breaker's Manifesto: Your blueprint for change
- How to take that first tiny, courageous action towards your F*ck Yeah Life
Whether you're battling toxic relationships, financial struggles, or any other inherited crap, this episode is your permission slip to chart your own course.
Remember, it's never too late to start living differently unless YOU say it is.
RESOURCES MENTIONED
Download your free Cycle Breaker's Manifesto!
QUOTES
The discomfort, the doubt, the occasional, what the f*ck am I doing moments, they're all signs that you're growing, changing, and creating a life that actually fits you instead of squeezing yourself into a life that was never meant for you in the first place.
All the awareness in the world isn't gonna change a single damn thing if you don't take action.
Remember, you don't ever, ever, ever, ever have to figure it all out because you won't. You will never have it all figured out. You just need to start. Take one tiny courageous action today, then another tomorrow. And before you know it, you will look back and realize just how far you've come.
You Are a Badass: "You are a badass to them. You are helping them give themselves permission to do the same thing, so you are absolutely a badass.
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Transcripts
Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: Hey. Hey, bold AF'er. Welcome to the inaugural
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: full length episode of Living Your Best Damn Life One
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: "Fuck yeah, I did!" At A Time. I'm your host, Jen Vertanen,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: and today we're diving deep into what it means to be a cycle
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: breaker and why it is so damn important and I cannot
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: think of a better way to kick us off. So buckle
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: up, I'm gonna say that a lot because I'm about to get real
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: about breaking cycles, living life on your terms,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: i.e. creating the life that you actually want instead of the one that
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: you think you're supposed to have. So first, what
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: exactly is a cycle breaker? I define a cycle
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: breaker as someone who looks at the patterns in their family,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: their upbringing, or society and says, no.
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: I'm gonna do things differently. It's a person who decides that
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: just because something has always been done a certain way,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: doesn't mean it has to stay that way. So
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: maybe you're breaking the cycle of toxic relationships,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: dysfunctional relationships, financial struggles, unfulfilling
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: career, addiction, people pleasing, or
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: any other b s that's been passed down through the generations,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: through your lineage. So whatever it is, you
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: have decided that the the buck, the proverbial
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: buck stops with you. And let me tell
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: you, that takes some serious ovaries or balls
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: whatever anatomy you identify with. Here's the
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: thing about being a cycle breaker though, it is not for the faint of
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: heart. I wish it were. It's not. It is hard,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: like AF. Right? Think of it like
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: trying to swim upstream against the current while everyone
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: else is floating along in the right direction,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: having fun, laughing, drinking their beer,
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: sunshine, loving life, and you're over there
Speaker:Jen V. "Live Your Best Damn Life" Coach: working your ass off trying to get anywhere. It can
Speaker A:be exhausting, frustrating, and sometimes
Speaker A:lonely as hell. I've been there. I know.
Speaker A:You might face resistance from family members who don't
Speaker A:understand why you're rocking the boat. You might
Speaker A:have friends who think you've gone off the deep end because you're no
Speaker A:longer settling for mediocre bullshit in your
Speaker A:life. And let's be real, your own brain is
Speaker A:probably gonna throw a tantrum or 2 or 20 as you
Speaker A:start changing things up because that's what your brain does. It is
Speaker A:wired to keep you safe from the tiger lurking in the
Speaker A:bushes. But here's the secret, my fellow rebel.
Speaker A:It is all part of the process. The discomfort,
Speaker A:the doubt, the occasional, what the fuck am I
Speaker A:doing moments, they're all signs that you're
Speaker A:growing, changing, and creating a life that actually fits you
Speaker A:instead of squeezing yourself into a life that was never meant for
Speaker A:you in the first place. By now, you're like, this is
Speaker A:great, Jen, but how do I actually do this cycle breaking
Speaker A:thing? So here are some tools I've found invaluable
Speaker A:in my own journey and in helping my clients break free
Speaker A:from, again, whatever cycles and BS and fuckery
Speaker A:holds them back. Number 1, awareness. You
Speaker A:cannot change what you don't acknowledge. Start paying
Speaker A:attention to the patterns in your life. Where are you
Speaker A:operating on autopilot? What beliefs or behaviors
Speaker A:have you inherited that aren't serving you? Again, you
Speaker A:can't do this without awareness. And once you know,
Speaker A:you can't not know. It's impossible. Number
Speaker A:2, permission. Give yourself permission to
Speaker A:do things differently. You don't need anyone
Speaker A:else's approval to change your life. I know it feels like it.
Speaker A:I know it's hard, but you are a grown ass adult,
Speaker A:and you get to decide what is best for you. No one
Speaker A:else walks in your shoes. No one else can do that for you.
Speaker A:Number 3. This is a big one, boundaries. Learn to set and
Speaker A:maintain healthy boundaries. This might mean saying no more
Speaker A:often, speaking up for yourself, or distancing
Speaker A:yourself from those toxic dysfunctional relationships,
Speaker A:even if you really love the person. Number 4,
Speaker A:self compassion. Breaking cycles is hard
Speaker A:work. I don't need to belabor that. Be kind to
Speaker A:yourself along the way. You are unlearning decades
Speaker A:of conditioning, and it's not gonna happen overnight. Thinking
Speaker A:that it will is literally setting yourself up for failure, and
Speaker A:we do not do that in my world. I've tried it. We're not doing
Speaker A:it anymore. Number 5, support.
Speaker A:So surround yourself with people who get it, who get
Speaker A:you. Find your community of fellow cycle breakers.
Speaker A:They're out there. They will cheer you on and pick you up
Speaker A:and even hold your hair when, you know, you
Speaker A:blah. And finally, number 6, some mother
Speaker A:truckin' action, because all the
Speaker A:awareness in the world isn't gonna change a single damn thing
Speaker A:if you don't
Speaker A:take action. Start small if you need to, but start somewhere. So it is
Speaker A:time time for the main event. I present to you
Speaker A:the cycle breaker's manifesto. Yes. I created it.
Speaker A:Yes. There's a download, so you don't have to take notes. Just listen and
Speaker A:then download, use whenever you need that that
Speaker A:boost, that oomph of, I can do this. It's
Speaker A:hard, but I could do this. Here we go.
Speaker A:I choose to write my own story, not the one that was handed to
Speaker A:me. I embrace discomfort as a sign
Speaker A:of growth, not a reason to retreat. I
Speaker A:give myself permission to outgrow people, situations,
Speaker A:and versions of myself that no longer fit.
Speaker A:I recognize that my worth is inherent, not
Speaker A:earned through people pleasing or perfectionism.
Speaker A:I choose to prioritize my dreams and desires
Speaker A:knowing that my success can only
Speaker A:inspire others. I forgive myself for the
Speaker A:times I fall back into old patterns, knowing that progress
Speaker A:isn't linear. It's the opposite of linear. I
Speaker A:celebrate my wins no matter how small because every
Speaker A:single step forward counts.
Speaker A:I trust myself to make decisions that align with my values
Speaker A:even when they're different from what others might expect.
Speaker A:I choose to see challenges as opportunities for growth,
Speaker A:not roadblocks. I commit to living
Speaker A:authentically, knowing that my truth may make others
Speaker A:uncomfortable, and that's okay.
Speaker A:I dare to imagine a different future for myself
Speaker A:and future generations. I choose
Speaker A:to be the person I needed when I was younger.
Speaker A:I embrace the power of yet. I may not have figured
Speaker A:it all out yet, but I'm well on my way
Speaker A:because I say so. I recognize that
Speaker A:healing isn't just for me. It is for everyone whose
Speaker A:life I touch. In big, in small
Speaker A:ways, everyone I interact
Speaker A:benefits from my healing. I commit
Speaker A:to loving myself fiercely, knowing that self love
Speaker A:is the foundation for all positive change.
Speaker A:Like I said, I've created a downloadable cycle breakers
Speaker A:manifesto for you to refer to again and again as
Speaker A:stuff comes up, like fear, perfectionism,
Speaker A:ego, etcetera, as you go about creating your
Speaker A:own version of a fuck yeah life. Click on
Speaker A:the link in the show notes to download your own copy.
Speaker A:So, dear cycle breaker, I wanna know
Speaker A:what cycles are you in the process of breaking
Speaker A:or are feeling called and ready to break? What
Speaker A:is one small step you can take today to start
Speaker A:living differently? Remember, you don't ever,
Speaker A:ever, ever, ever have to figure it all out because you won't. You will
Speaker A:never have it all figured out. You just need to
Speaker A:start. Take one tiny courageous action today,
Speaker A:then another tomorrow. And before you know it, you will look back
Speaker A:and realize just how far you've come. When I
Speaker A:look back on the the past 9 years of my 54
Speaker A:years on this planet, so not very long, in the
Speaker A:life of Jen, I cannot believe how far I have come
Speaker A:and how much I have to look forward to now that I am
Speaker A:actively intentionally living my version of my
Speaker A:best damn life. I am always orienting myself back
Speaker A:to what I want, who I am, who I want to
Speaker A:be, what I want true in my life. So
Speaker A:if you're ready to go all in on breaking cycles and creating
Speaker A:your fuck yeah life, head over to jenbertinan.com/workwithme.
Speaker A:Let's turn that someday into, fuck yeah,
Speaker A:I did. And don't forget to join our Facebook group, do the
Speaker A:damn thing, where you'll find a whole community of
Speaker A:badass cycle breakers just like you. By the way, I
Speaker A:define badass as, and you may not feel like a
Speaker A:badass, but there are people watching you right now,
Speaker A:watching you intentionally change your life for the
Speaker A:better. You are a badass to them. You are helping
Speaker A:them give themselves permission to do the same thing, so
Speaker A:you are absolutely a badass. You don't have to feel it all the time, but
Speaker A:I want you to start owning that. Okay? So until
Speaker A:next time, keep being unapologetically you.
Speaker A:Keep breaking those cycles, and remember, it is never
Speaker A:too late to start living differently unless
Speaker A:you say it is. Now go out there, make
Speaker A:some waves, rock the boat, rock multiple
Speaker A:boats. You are a beautiful cycle breaker.
Speaker A:I'm so glad you're here. Bye.
