Tune into the latest episode of the Conscious Home Podcast as we explore the profound themes of vulnerability and authenticity with our special guest, Maria Fernanda (Mafe Anzures) from the I Missed Me Podcast. Known for her candid discussions about mental health amidst the often idolized facade of social media, Maria's honesty about her struggles and triumphs resonates with anyone who's ever felt lost in the shadow of their heartbreaks.

In this session, we dive deep into how vulnerability can not only shape our personal narratives but also influence our collective experience. Maria discusses her personal journey through pain, growth, and healing, and how these experiences propelled her to start her popular podcast.

This episode holds a lot of wisdom for anyone needing to reconnect with themselves, find peace amidst chaos, and begin a journey of self-healing and discovery. Maria's story and sincere advice invite you to pause, reflect, and maybe, start a dialogue with your deeper self.

• (00:00:00) Introduction: Host Blanche Garcia welcomes Maria to the podcast, highlighting her impact on promoting authenticity in digital spaces.
• (00:00:17) Rising Through Vulnerability: Maria shares why she started the I Missed Me Podcast, highlighting her initial struggles with a personal breakup and how vulnerability became her strength.
• (00:00:57) The Power of Self-Conversation: Delve into how Maria's solo recordings became a therapeutic routine, aiding her self-healing process.
• (00:01:44) From Personal Healing to Sharing: Maria reveals the transformation of her private recordings into a public podcast aimed at helping others find their path to self-awareness.

Join us as we capture these profound learnings and share a journey of embracing imperfection and cultivating self-love. Don't miss this blend of personal narrative with insightful discussion, perfect for anyone looking to enrich their understanding of themselves and how they interact with the world around them.

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hi everyone.

My name is Blanche Garcia.

Welcome to the Conscious Home Podcast.

We are here with

Maria from the I Miss Me

Podcast.

And I'm actually really excited because she is a podcaster

who has gained popularity

for her honest discussions about mental health

in a world

where social media usually showcases idolized lifestyles.

Maria stands out by promoting the power

of vulnerability and

authenticity.

She courageously shares

her own experiences with pain, growth, and healing.

That's such a, beautiful introduction.

so excited to be here.

always love to hop on other people's podcasts to share my message.

So thank you so much for the invitation.

Yeah, I

always feel like it's shared connection and shared energy and you

never know where it's going to go.

it's

So

what inspired you to start your podcast, and delve into the topics

of self healing, self love and self

confidence?

You know, a lot of people that have podcasts have the idea

to have a podcast and like have the intention of having that project.

For me, it was a little different.

I went through a breakup and I didn't really want to go to therapy

and I was having a really hard time getting over the pain and the breakup.

So I started recording myself on my phone and just talking with myself,

ranting and crying to my phone because I didn't really, You know, I've

never been someone to, like, open up my emotions with other people.

just like my mom, my family, and at the time, I didn't really feel

comfortable talking with anyone, so I just started talking to my phone.

And then, eventually, you know, time heals, and I started feeling better,

so I just didn't really feel the need to record myself on my phone anymore,

and I started listening to myself.

To the first audios that I was recording and then I was like, oh my gosh, I'm

so much better Maybe I can turn this into a project and that's how the

idea of actually starting a podcast

was born

So

kind

of through your own self healing,

you realize that maybe other people could benefit.

Yeah I feel like that Experience as a whole not just the audios, but a

breakup in general made me very self aware and when you start having conversations

with yourself and Really get vulnerable of the things that I have to work on and

this is the reason why it's hurting so much you mature a lot and you become very

self aware And so truly I feel like the only way to heal is to be self aware And

that's what I want to lead people to be

Exactly,

Introspection is the only way to growth and to ask the hard questions.

And unfortunately, the way you do that is through certain circumstance and things

that happen to you that aren't the most comfortable, but they force you to grow.

exactly.

and

how has spirituality played a role in your life, particularly in your journey

towards authenticity and self love?

I started my spiritual journey very young.

When I was 13, I read the Law of Attraction, the book by Randa,

and it completely changed my life.

And I started kind of doing the exercises for people that have

read the Law of Attraction.

Know that it is a bug with like a 30 or 28 day challenges Applying gratitude

into your life and I started doing that very young and I started seeing

how much it was working And that is something that never left my life.

Gratitude for me is the most important thing to have but then I think that

a lot of people use spirituality or God or whatever they believe in as

a cushion or as a resource to reach out to when things are going bad.

And I've been guilty of that, of just reaching out to God when things are

going bad and then when things are doing very good, maybe not reach out as much.

And then when things are really bad, be like, here I am again.

And so for me, I think, Going through my breakup, at the time

I was just going through a lot.

it was a combination of a lot of things it was a very Big wake up call of don't

just reach out to god or the universe when things are going bad you have to

reach out always you have to Build a relationship or work on the relationship

that you have with the universe with god all the time it's not just when things

are bad and so I was 17 then and I went to therapy and It was kind of a therapy.

It was kind of like a therapy camp that I went to when I was going

through my breakup and I didn't know it was christian until I got there.

I've never been someone who's religious.

I've always been super spiritual, but some believes really resonated with me.

And so then I just kind of started building my own definition and my own

relationship of what God means to me.

And I keep it very private.

It's not something that I talk about on my podcast.

I don't think it's something that I will ever talk about on my podcast, like my

relationship with God, But, Spirituality does play a very big role in my life

and with my family, with my friends and it's something that is always there and

it's always present and I do feel like it guides me to do everything that I do.

I agree.

I think that everybody has to find their way

and at least find a connection to something.

Whatever they want to call it.

And you have to keep that relationship going.

Daily and it's either

you work with it and nurture it or you kind of starve

Yeah, for sure.

And just like any relationship, if you think about how many things a romantic

relationship requires is like it's time, it's energy, it's effort and it's

love and it's a lot of communication.

I feel like the same.

Has to be with God again, whatever you believe in whatever you call it.

I call it God it requires the same love, communication, work, energy, effort

and some people don't see it like that and I do I do believe that it requires

work and I feel like that is why So many good things happen to me because

I do make sure that I put effort and the time to work on that relationship

That I have with my spirituality

I agree with that.

So what

are

some practical steps individuals can take to initiate their own journey

of self healing and self love?

a lot of self awareness would be my main one.

it sounds super cliche, super repetitive, but feeling in order

to heal, is extremely important.

Because I do really believe that the only way out is through only by feeling

your emotions You're gonna be able to understand your emotions know why

they're there and As a consequence of knowing why they're there also letting

them go and I feel like that is the main reason why it's so important to feel

them because only by feeling them you understand them and once you understand

them it's easier to let them go.

I feel like a lot of times we seek closure from people, but in reality what we

should seek closure from is our feelings and the way that we're feeling that

way and we waste so much time seeking closure from another person, where In

reality, we should be seeking closure from our emotions and our feelings.

And I don't think that we do that enough.

So I think that once you start trying to understand why you're

feeling what you're feeling, that's the only way that you're going to

feel better and that's how you start

healing.

I agree.

I think a lot of people

miss the step

of the relationship to self,

because

you can't have any other relationships that are of value.

if you don't understand yourself and you don't have that relationship with self

and the self awareness is one of

them but the why you do things

the trigger because a

lot of times people are reacting

but they don't understand what the starter point was

right

something that it's super important to understand because i love talking

about psychology on my podcast and the reason why because for me Someone

telling me to feel to heal it sounds very cliche and it's pretty hard for me to

understand the why so i always like to say the why behind things and the reason

why it's so important to have a good relationship with yourself is because

our brain agrees with us it doesn't argue against us it agrees with us so whatever

you tell your brain to be true it will reflect to you on your life so if you're

constantly telling yourself that you're not worthy that you deserve, all of the

pain that you're feeling, that you're hurt, that you're heartbroken, it will

continue to reflect those things in your life because it's agreeing with you.

it's not arguing against you.

So if you're constantly telling yourself that you're heartbroken, your brain

will continue to put you in situations that make you even more heartbroken.

So having a good relationship with yourself means having good communication

and positive communication with yourself so that the universe or

your brain can reflect good things

to you.

when you start telling yourself certain stories,

your

body starts

reacting to that information,

good or

bad.

So that's how people create sickness in their body sometimes,

because they're creating a negative energy that keeps growing, and growing,

And it goes outward.

So when you create positive within your thought process, And in your body, then

it goes out in your energetic field.

And then also it attracts other things

that are of like vibration.

in your opinion,

what are

some common obstacles people face when trying to cultivate self

love and how can they overcome it?

I think they base their relationship with themselves, with

Situations that they've gone through like if something doesn't work out

with someone It's probably because of me if a job doesn't work out.

It's probably because of me if Don't know my parents were hard on me when

I was little it's probably because of me and so we constantly blame

ourselves for the things that we went through when in reality If something

doesn't work out, it's because there's something better out there.

If something doesn't work out, it's because we deserve better.

But that is a belief that has to start within.

nobody can really convince you that everything is happening

for you and not to you.

Nobody can convince you that there is something better for you out there.

Like, you have to believe that yourself, and I feel like the reason

why we struggle so much to have a good relationship with ourselves is because

we struggle to believe that there is something better out there for us.

And I think that it is because it requires trusting and there is no proof to trust.

You know what I mean?

And we are very logical beings.

Like our brain is constantly trying to solve problems.

And when there's a problem, we don't have a solution to, it's really hard

to believe that there is actually a solution and that is what trusting means.

having to believe that there's a solution, even if we don't

know how it's going to happen.

and so I feel like that's why we struggle so much to love ourselves,

but . If you don't love yourself, then you're never gonna receive

all of the things that you want.

You know what I mean?

I agree with that, And I also think that, Things

have divine timing too.

. and so

sometimes we're very limited.

we always put the end result like the options of only

what we are

limited to see.

So we'll say there's only three options here.

There's only three outcomes.

And so all those three may depress us,

not realizing that there are six other that we never thought about.

And so we

have to allow that opening

for things that

we have no idea about,

For sure.

And I think that we're really hard on ourselves when things don't work

out instead of celebrating them.

And I think that once you start celebrating them, you start vibrating

in a whole nother frequency.

that starts attracting even more things to celebrate like I always talk about

relationships because it's like the main topic that we talk about on my

podcast and a lot of people that are going through breakups or got ghosted or

are going through situationships listen to me because they're kind of looking

for that safe space after heartbreak suffer so much when something doesn't

work out and it's always like, this person ghosted me because I'm not worth

it, this person ghosted me because I'm going through pain, and I made

this video a couple of days ago of if someone ghosted you, congratulations.

start celebrating things not working out, because that just means that

you're just one step closer to finding what is actually going to work out.

and again, once you start celebrating the things that are happening to you,

regardless if they're good or bad, you completely change your frequency.

And then you're gonna start attracting things to actually have, love and

celebration for.

Well, it's interesting.

I was having this conversation as well

with somebody who got

ghosted

and I

said to her, what

kind of fears does that bring up in you?

did you

really

want

the relationship or a

relationship or was the fear bigger than the want?

And sometimes we

bring into our energy field.

The lessons that

we need to learn at that moment, the things that show us a mirror for

introspection.

So

it has multi facets.

that it's not meant for you at that moment.

Maybe something better is out there.

They weren't the right thing for you.

But

also Why are you attracting that

vibration,

particularly what is it that you can learn from that so you can put it to bed

so you can go to the next step?

and I think that.

We question people a lot instead of questioning ourselves as to why are we

allowing it Why are they ghosting me?

Why are they being mean to me?

Why are they being toxic the question is Why are you allowing it?

everything that we go through is always going to take us back to our

self worth and a lesson to work on yourself and a lesson to be better.

It's not a matter of Why is this person ghosting me?

The real question is, what frequency are you vibrating on

that is attracting those type

of relationships?

Oh,

100%.

I remember when I went through a completely tragic relationship,

in my early 30s, and

it was horrible.

It was like earth

shattering.

And I

end up going to Omega.

to a retreat there.

It's in Rhinebeck, New York.

And I went to like a whole week retreat.

I was like, this is gonna help me, you know And it

actually did.

and it was two practitioners.

They were married hosting it.

David and Gail

gershon, I

believe.

And so we're

in

this

group

thing and

we're talking about

what we want out of our life

And our

limitations And I

remember sitting there going.

why

can't I

get

the love that

I keep giving out?

And he said

to

me, the

question is,

why are you not giving that love to yourself?

And at the

time I was

like,

what is he

talking about?

Like, of course I love myself.

But the

truth

is is that if I loved myself, I wouldn't accept that behavior.

it's very

interesting, the layers.

so could

you share some empowering practices or affirmations that have personally

helped you on your journey

towards self love

love and I think it all goes back to gratitude.

never been a journaling girl, affirmations girl.

I journal every single morning.

It's just 10 reasons why I'm grateful for.

And I've been doing that for the past, I want to say six years, every

single morning changes your life and everybody should try it out.

But I've never been someone that meditates every single day,

affirmations every single day.

I just always recommend and almost turn it into like a, Non negotiable is gratitude.

Like start being grateful for every single thing regardless if it's hard and

regardless if you're not actually grateful for it because it is just training your

brain to eventually feel grateful for everything for everything that works out

and for everything that doesn't because gratitude is the highest frequency that

you can be vibrating on and the only

frequency that you're going to be able to attract everything that you want

so always always always be grateful.

However it looks for you.

Sometimes it's not even about the word thank you, but it is about the

feeling of feeling grateful for the people that you have around you,

feeling grateful for the things, feeling grateful for the opportunities,

feeling grateful for your job, your food, your family, your everything.

And we focus so much on what we don't have, this person left.

I don't have love.

I don't have relationships.

I don't have friends.

And you forget about everything that you do have.

And sometimes that's the blockage that's between who you are and what

you want is focusing on what you don't have instead of what you do and feeling

grateful and appreciating what you

do.

And I will say this, gratitude to

me is

kind

of a little bit like

meditation.

When I started

meditating, I got a lot of intrusive thoughts

and you get

sidebarred with them.

Like you're just like,

Oh my God, your

mind goes on a

tangent.

And then the

more and more that you work on it, you realize that those thoughts

aren't going to not happen.

They're going to come in, but you

notice them, see

them,

and then just let them go.

And it's the

same thing

with

gratitude.

you're not always going to feel a hundred percent.

You're not always going

to

feel like, Oh my God, this is amazing.

It's

okay to acknowledge the realities in your life, but not

sink and soak in them.

And once

you acknowledge them and go,

Hey, this

makes me feel a certain way and let it work through your body.

Then go, yeah,

but this is what I'm

learning from

this.

This is the gratitude I get

from This This is the silver lining, right?

Find the silver lining.

I remember

Gabby

Bernstein, She has this thing.

I remember

during 2020 COVID lockdown.

I went through my own tipping point with having my daughter and things like that.

And I remember her

saying just

choose a better thought.

than

the one you

had.

That was life

changing for me at that moment.

Cause it was

' easy.

it was an

easy jump.

Sometimes

it's hard to be grateful

For the

lessons

you're

in, but it's very easy in the moment

to

say just pick a better

thought.

So,

where

do you see

yourself

wanting to go?

Like where do you see in the

next couple of years?

what is your

what is your

vision?

I would love to know, but I think that I've been practicing presence so much

that for me, it's more about how I would like to feel regardless of where I am.

I read the power of now.

And

Mmm one of

I

think one of my

Mm-Hmm, . I, I read it every three months whenever I feel like I'm kind of losing it

But, for me it's like, I don't even know where I'm gonna be tomorrow, but

I know how I want to feel tomorrow.

And I think that I know how I don't want to feel because I felt it before.

I know that right now I have a lot of peace that I want to

keep regardless of where I am.

Tomorrow next week in a few months or in a few years I would love to

Grow my podcast as much as I can and share my message as much as I can,

but I also know that if TikTok were to be banned tomorrow and I were to

lose all of my social media tomorrow I wouldn't lose the peace that I have

right now because I don't depend on it.

And so for me it has been more a practice of Detaching from everything that I

feel like i'm depending on so that

If in a few years it doesn't work out, I'm still going to be okay.

I could say that in a few years I want to be married.

I want my podcast to be the number one in the whole world, but if it doesn't

happen, I'm still going to be okay.

we attach so much in the result and we're just so, attached on how it has to happen

and when it has to happen, that if it doesn't happen the way that we want it to

happen, we're just not going to be okay.

And I've been practicing intention without attachment a lot, where I know where I

want my podcast to be, but I also know that it's gonna happen when it's meant

to happen, and when I am going to be ready to appreciate it, which has been

a huge one for me, of things happen when you're ready to receive them.

And if they're not happening right now, you're probably not ready for them.

Yeah, no, it's 100%.

I remember

I used to co host a

TV show

and

I

wanted to be in a certain place, a certain

show, do a certain

thing.

But I was doing something that

sucked the energy out of me.

And I remember being my 20s.

I was like,

I just have to keep going,

hustle on the way there and be miserable on the way

there.

And one

day I

woke up and I was like,

I don't want to be miserable on the way

to something.

I want to be embodying of my

happiness in that moment.

And when I

did

that, I released the outcome.

And it's true, you go in a direction, but you have to release the outcome

because you don't know where it's going to lead, but you do know

how to protect your happiness within those moments

moments as much as The problem with depending your happiness on

the result is that You really don't know when you're going to be happy,

because you really don't know when the result is actually going to happen.

And so sometimes we're okay with being miserable on the way,

because we're like, okay, once I get there, I'm going to be happy.

But you really don't know when you're going to get there or

how you're going to get there.

And you can be miserable for a few days or a few months or even a few years.

you decide to be happy now, you really don't care about the end

result, because at the end of the day, you're going to feel the same.

And you don't know how long that

we're having this

life ride.

You know,

for me, I decided to incarnate here to have this

life.

So why

would I choose to be unhappy and

miserable on my way to somewhere?

I'm human.

So I'm going to have the experience I have.

and some days are going to

be rougher

than others,

but

decide that this is when you get to

be happy.

This is when you feel fulfilled.

I mean, this was great.

Is there

anything else that you want to

add to this that you would

that you would like them I don't know.

I always, when I close my episodes, I always just ask people what does

healing mean to them because I'm always super interested and knowing

what healing means to other people.

So I guess if I were to share my answer, I would just say that Sometimes we focus so

hard to heal that we forget to experience and for me what I've learned about healing

is that When you stop healing you actually start healing when you stop being so

hard on yourself on feeling 100 better And you actually start experiencing and

going out and being with your friends and being okay with being sad But then

at the same time experiencing everything that life has to offer you actually start

feeling better so People that listen to your podcast people that listen to my

podcast and people that listen to all of these self growth podcasts are ultimately

looking to heal and if I were to share a piece of advice or a message is Just stop

trying so hard to heal because once you stop trying you actually start healing.

hundred percent once you stop being the seeker

Then

you're

much more of the

activator,

the attraction to what you

want because you're not

seeking anything.

You're just

being.

well, it was great

was

great having you

appreciate it.

And I'm excited to see where your

journey takes Thank you so much.

I

appreciate that.

All right.

Thanks

everybody for tuning in to the Conscious

Home

podcast

and we'll see you next

time.

time.