00:00 Introduction and Fast-Paced Episode Announcement

00:29 Discussing Pride Month and Social Media Engagement

01:18 Biblical Perspective on Social Media Conduct

04:59 Proverbs 16: God's Sovereignty and Human Responsibility

10:45 Proverbs 17: Wisdom in Relationships and Conflict

15:09 Proverbs 18: The Power of Words and Communication

20:01 Conclusion and Farewell

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Hey, welcome to Saturday's edition

of the daily Bible podcast.

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Or you.

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You batting me away.

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I haven't said anything.

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We're going to talk super fast on this

episode because we got a lot to get

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through people double-time us anyway.

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Well, not everybody does.

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Most people do well, I don't know.

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I double timeless.

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Yeah.

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But even my wife, she, a time and

a half is as much as she can do to.

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It's too fast.

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Okay.

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And that, to me, it, she leaves with me.

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Yeah, well, like, no.

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Okay.

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Interesting.

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Hey real quick question.

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Okay.

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Real quick.

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This is this shouldn't

take you very long at all.

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Super fast.

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It's it's.

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It's a pride month as it's often called.

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Yeah, it's bad.

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It's a bad thing.

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Pride is we're done.

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Let's move on.

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Okay.

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What should we do?

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It, should we endorse?

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Should we like, should we

post it should be repost.

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Should we engage with content that is

deliberately antagonistic, sarcastic.

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Uh, depreciative.

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It's snarky.

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That's a good way to put it.

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That's a good encapsulating word, snarky

toward the pride movement and pride month.

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Obviously, none of us are happy about it.

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We're not excited to see it.

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We're not, we're not endorsing it or

publicizing that, but when there are

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posts or campaigns that are meant to

deliberately kind of put a finger in the

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face of somebody and say I'm against this.

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And I think this is awful and stupid.

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What do we do with that?

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Is that something biblically?

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Okay.

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Should we engage?

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Is that helpful for our soul?

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Is it not?

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Uh, I'm going to say by and large.

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No, it's not helpful.

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And, and here's why if, if you're

thinking, man, but I want everybody

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that I love to, to know where I

stand on this, but they probably do.

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My guess is my guess is they

know where you stand on this.

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Um, and if not, is that.

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Is that really the best

platform to do that?

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Is that the best way to communicate that?

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So if this is about your loved

ones or your church family, or

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somebody else, knowing that, Hey,

you're, you're against these things.

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Great.

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I think they do.

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I think they get it.

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I think the fact that you're a

Bible believing Christian, hopefully

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connected to a Bible believing church.

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They're going to assume.

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Yeah, he's, he's probably

didn't know where you are.

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You're not flying the rainbow flag.

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And then if you're thinking, yeah, well,

I just want to, you know, I want to reveal

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how stupid this is and, and show people

that aren't Christians have done this.

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Again, let me ask, do you think

that this is the best platform?

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How many baptismal testimonies have

you heard from anybody in the tank?

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That was like, well, I was

a raging unbeliever until I

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saw somebody's Facebook post.

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That made fun of what I

believed in the meme got me.

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I was.

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Cut to the heart.

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Yeah, I don't think anybody.

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I don't think anybody, I don't

think that's what it looks

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like to be salt and light.

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And so.

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Um, you know, I think we need that

before we hit post on our social

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media, we need to ask ourselves,

what is my goal with this?

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Like what.

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What is my intended end here.

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And then we need to ask ourselves

is what I'm about to post going

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to actually accomplish that end.

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Or is this something that I'm looking for?

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The laugh, the cheap laugh from a couple

followers, or I'm looking for the likes.

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I'm looking for the engagement.

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I'm looking for the repost.

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I'm looking for the share, right?

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That's not a good reason to

share anything on Facebook or.

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X or Instagram or Tik

TOK or wherever it is.

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Uh, social media is not a public forum

that is, is helpful for debate and

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engaging people in any meaningful way.

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It just isn't.

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It's a place for people to get

angry for tones to be misunderstood.

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Um, for stereotypes to be affirmed in

and confirmed in and for relationships

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to end, um, because all it takes to

end a relationship on social media

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is hitting blocker on follow it's.

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It's much better.

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If you have a concern for somebody in your

life that maybe is on your social media

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profile, it's much better to have that.

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A conversation with that person in person.

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Uh, and not use a meme or not use a

post to, to try to passive aggressively.

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Uh, get it then by hoping that it

comes across their feed, as they're

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scrolling on their Facebook wall, pick

up the phone call and set up a meeting.

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It's not likely to show up on their wall.

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Anyway, Facebook has gotten

better about trying to.

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Uh, try to prioritize posts that

are going to appeal to your people.

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Right.

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The people that you're closest to.

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And every now and then something

will sneak through my feet.

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That'll be from someone who's

antagonistic toward what I believe.

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In fact, one of the things that I saw

recently, Um, It was, it's not funny

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actually, but it's, it's, it's tragic.

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But the, the, the picture

says wishing all the.

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Homophobes a super uncomfortable month.

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And there's hearts that are

rainbow colored all around it.

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In fact, I'm going to send it

to you right now, pastor Peter.

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So you have it.

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I appreciate that.

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Yeah, that's great.

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But I it's stuff like that where like,

I'm not going to engage with that.

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I mean, yeah, sure.

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They're.

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They're friends who like that

in her for that they liked.

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And they laughed at it and they get

firmed and approved those things.

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But it does nothing for me.

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Um, which, which I'm the target, right?

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I'm the one who would, who

would take offense to that?

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I'm not, I'm not going to move with that.

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I'm going to respond to it.

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I'm not going to say,

Hey, I don't like this.

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And here's the reasons why.

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Like, it's just not going to be

helpful, especially in this medium.

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Right, right.

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By and large.

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So that's a quick take.

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If you have a specific example that

you want us to tackle, then send it to

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pastor PJ at the world's best pastor.com.

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Yeah.

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And that'll get bounced back by.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, let's not be social

media and Facebook warriors.

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There's enough relationships in with

real human beings that we need to be

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focused on rather than trying to, uh,

change the world via your Facebook post.

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Proverbs 16.

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Proverbs 16, the plans of the

heart belong to man, but the answer

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of the tongue is from the Lord.

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Oh man.

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So that means password.

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I don't need to plan then because

the answers from God that's right.

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Oh, okay.

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Uh, that's not actually.

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Right.

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No, it's not wrong to plant it.

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In fact, look at verse nine.

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The heart of man plans his way,

but the Lord directs his steps.

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We're going to talk about

this on Sunday, tomorrow.

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Uh, God's sovereignty and our,

our will, our choices are.

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Our responsibility.

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How do those two things go hand in hand

and we are going to plan things and we're

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going to make decisions in our lives.

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Uh, Piper calls them true choices.

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I know we've, we've gone back and

forth on what does that look like?

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But when we come to a fork

in the road, And maybe you're

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making a plan for your family.

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Do, do we stay, do we

go, what do we do here?

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Do I change my job?

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Uh, that's a true choice that you have.

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In other words, you are responsible

for the decision that you make.

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However, we also believe according

to God's sovereignty, that that

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choice is ordained by his decree.

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Uh, that you are going to choose

to do what he has ordained

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that you will choose to do.

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So it is a true choice, but yet it is also

a choice that God is sovereignly retained.

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And those two things.

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I'll be honest.

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They seem to just butt

heads with each other.

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And yet the, the threads and scripture

are, are they're in parallel tension

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with each other, as we've talked

about before on this podcast.

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But this is another example of that

from the writer of, of Solomon.

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Understanding that God's sovereignty and

man's responsibility do go hand in hand.

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And yet we need to understand if this

is the imagery of a, for example,

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a dance that man's responsibility

and God's sovereignty dancing.

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God's sovereignty leads.

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God's sovereignty is the overruling

force here, no matter what.

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Yeah, but it is a real and true choice.

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Those are, those are good

words to describe that.

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Uh, even in our own experience,

we, we could say, look at.

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I feel like I'm choosing to say the

words that I'm saying right now, I

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am in my brain processing all these

things and saying the things that

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I'm saying, and I'm choosing that.

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Uh, but in reality, the larger scope of

what's happening is that God is behind

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all that happens, which is mind boggling.

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And it's in one way exciting

to me because it means that God

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is bigger than my mind can even

fathom or comprehend, which I love.

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I love that quality about God.

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If I could understand God,

that would be a scary prospect.

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If I knew all that, there was about God.

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I think I would be dangerously

close to being God.

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That makes sense.

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Yup.

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And I think people can often get

discouraged or concerned to think,

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well, how does, how can that be?

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That doesn't logically work.

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And not to say that God is.

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Illogical or that he's antilogic, but

perhaps there's a way that God puts

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pieces together that are just beyond

our capacity to understand in the same

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way that if you were to explain to a.

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You know, one of the

big cicadas out there.

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Uh, during the summer.

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Let me tell you how the internet works.

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Let me, let me explain to you how to

drive a car and you're going to be

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kind of, you're talking to the wind.

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It's never going to understand, no matter

how many illustrations you use, no matter

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how many gizmos or gadgets you use as,

as a help supports, never going to get.

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Um, the distance between us and a Cicada

is far smaller than between us and God.

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Uh, the distance is in impassable.

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It is infinite.

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And therefore we should trust what God

says about these realities and be okay

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with the fact that we may not ever fully

comprehend it, at least in this life.

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Maybe the next, yeah.

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And that's such a good

reminders who, yeah.

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Verse four, along those same lines.

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The sovereignty of God, we've talked

about the, the uncomfortable doctrine

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of God's sovereignty over the damnation

of a lost, uh, but look at verse four.

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The Lord has made everything

for its purpose, even the

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wicked for the day of trouble.

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Uh, they're in, we see God has.

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All are Romans nine prepared

vessels of wrath for destruction.

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Um, and we've, we've talked about why

that is that, that part of the reason why

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hell exists is to magnify the glory of God

because his justice is better understood

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his, his, even his grace and mercy are

better appreciated by those that have

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been made recipients of those things.

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So.

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Uh, this is not something to,

to show to say, look at us.

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We're, we're better.

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This is a hard verse.

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This is, uh, a.

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A difficult verse, but it does show again.

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God's sovereignty here

in verse verse four.

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Yeah.

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If I could skip on down a few verses to

let's go to another famous verse here.

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Pride goes before destruction and

a haughty spirit before a fall.

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There's your meme.

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That's for Facebook.

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Pride goes before destruction.

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That actually is that's clutch.

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I might put, I'm gonna put that up.

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I had to use that one.

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I'm going to have to

have attributed to you.

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To quote, Dr.

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PJ.

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Decoding the Bible God.

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Yeah, well, Pride.

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Um, Who among us doesn't struggle

with this particular sin MI.

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Yeah.

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Well, besides you and the rest of us

do besides you, everyone else does.

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So.

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Now, obviously this warning.

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It can sometimes ring hollow because

we've heard it so many times before,

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but I mean, Let it does strike you.

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Let it, let it re remind you

how important this is and how

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good it is when you're a humble.

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I mean, think about something that

is so attractive and people, when

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someone is genuinely humble, it's,

it's a, they're a joy to be around.

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They're easy going.

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They're easier to love and to

like pride is, I mean, we call it.

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It's that person reeks

of arrogance, right?

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There's an, we, we say that people stink

when they're arrogant and they're proud.

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So just know that God hates it.

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It stinks to him.

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If it, if it thinks to us how

much more does it stink to God.

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Check yourself, make sure that

you're not walking in arrogance.

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And know that if you continue that

way, you're bound for destruction.

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Yeah.

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How about verse 31, a gray

hair is a crown of glory.

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I bridge it gained and

righteous life rachet.

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Man I'm getting there.

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Yep.

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Let's do it.

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Yep.

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Welcome in that gray hair.

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Gray hair is a crown of glory.

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Yeah, gained in a righteous life.

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Verse 32, who, again, slow to anger.

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Whoever slow to anger is better than

the mighty and he who rules his spirit

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better than he who takes a city.

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So just the strength

of self-control there.

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Uh, to, to keep our temper in check.

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All right.

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Chapter 17, we're leaving so

much behind the chapter 16,

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but again, have fun with it.

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Yep.

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Yeah.

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If you've got questions about these things

too, feel free to reach out podcast it.

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Competency x.org.

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Uh, and we will do our best to get

to them on the, uh, on the air.

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Chapter 17 verse three,

the crucible is for silver.

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The furnace is for gold

and the Lord tests hearts.

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Uh, again, that the heart is

regulatory of the character of a man.

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And so as the crucible.

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Is there too.

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Uh, bring, draw set of silver

and the furnace to purify gold.

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So the Lord.

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Does so with the hearts of men.

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And so, uh, a good, uh, and

sobering reminder there for sure.

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I would add that at crucible

suggests a painful trial.

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Crucible is not like, oh, let's just

put our hands around a nice warm fire.

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At the end of the day, the

crucible is really, really hot

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and it's meant to, to refine.

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Now we've got that song that we just

sang back when we were in refinery.

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yeah, the crucible God is refining us.

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That is not a painless experience.

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So if you're going through a

painful situation, Take heart.

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Yeah, it could be God's crucible.

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That's refining you.

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Yep.

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Verse nine.

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You referenced a couple episodes ago.

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Whoever covers an offense.

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Seeks love.

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We talked about that a little bit there,

but whoever repeats the matter separates,

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close friends, let things go, bro.

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Yeah.

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Let it go.

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Sometimes we need to, for sure.

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Verse 10.

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Reboot goes deeper into a

man of understanding than a

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hundred blows into a fool.

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Ah, again, w.

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Are we welcoming that those voices in

our life, do we have people in our life

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that are going to speak that truth?

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Uh, and, and not a way to, to

wound us and leave us on the side

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of the road, but, but in a way to

help us to, to see our sinfulness.

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We talked about projects a second ago.

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This is a good way to, to remain

humble is to have friends in

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your life that are going to.

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Truth into your life

and in humble you yet.

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Yeah.

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How about let him and me to,

she bear robbed of her Cubs

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rather than a fool in his folly.

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I don't think I ever want to

meet a Sheba robbed of her Cubs.

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I probably in the natural person

would choose the foolishness folly.

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Yeah.

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That seems less dangerous.

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But scripture saying

it's not, it's not crazy.

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Yeah.

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That is crazy.

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Again, the company that we keep,

it has an impact on our life.

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The first 14, the beginning of

strife is like letting out of water.

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So quit before the quarrel breaks out.

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And this is so good.

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And we're going to talk about this in

chapter 18, too, but there's so much that.

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The province has that's good

in the counseling office and

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especially in marital conflict.

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Yeah.

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Things like this.

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Like you've got an opportunity.

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So, so often when the, the earliest

evidences of a conflict or are emerging

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in your relationship with your, your

husband or your wife, You've got an

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opportunity to diffuse that and walk away.

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Right.

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Sometimes I'll talk to couples

and say something, you know what?

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Sometimes it's worth taking the L just

for the sake of the unity of the marriage.

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Yeah.

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Even if you feel at the end of

the day, you're confident that

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you're the one that's right.

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Sometimes it's better

to just take the loss.

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To, to cover it over and move on for

the sake of the unity of the marriage.

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So it doesn't turn into

an argument and a fight.

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You've got the opportunity to do that.

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That's what there's versus talking about.

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You can stop the leak.

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Before it breaks out and

completely burst, right?

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The dam letting out and

destroying all sorts of things.

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It reminds me that skit

from SNL, the Bob Newhart.

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Stop it right.

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Stop it.

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I'm just gonna put that

next to my notes here.

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Stop it.

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Let's just stop.

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Stop.

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Stop the fight.

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Stop the corner.

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Yeah.

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Verse 17, a friend loves at all times

and a brother is born for adversity.

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PR talk through that.

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Uh, is that a, is that a contrast?

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Is that.

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Parallel the, the friend is the brother.

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How do we understand?

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Verse 17?

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So I think there are in addition,

I think it's a, this is, this

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is like this, this is like that.

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At least that's how I understand it.

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So verse 17, a friend loves at all times.

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Uh, that is, there's a, there's a

kind of friend who is like a brother.

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There's a friend slash

brother who is so close.

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They might as well be family because they

are faithful to be there at all times

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when there's good times when there's

bad times, they're there by your side.

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And if you have that person.

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That is a special gift.

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Do not let that person go.

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Don't allow them to walk

away out of your life.

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If you have them, keep them as

best you can, because I think this

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is something unique, especially

today when people are surrounded by

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loneliness and people are isolated.

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We have lots of acquaintances, but very

few friends, real friends that you could

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say I could turn to this person at 2:00

AM and trust that there's going to be.

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You know, there's going to be a return

phone call or return text message.

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Yeah.

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So I think that's what it is.

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It's an additional, uh, uh, parallelism

of comparison that this is like that.

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How do you read that?

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Yeah, I would agree with you on that.

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That's my take on it as well.

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I don't think it's.

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Contra.

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Just setting them in, in

contrast with each other.

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Right.

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Uh, verse 28, even a fool who

keeps silent is considered

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wise when he closes his lips.

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He's deemed intelligent.

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I'm not saying anything

else for this podcast.

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Laying out the rest of the thought.

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Yeah, no, that, that, that's a

funny one, but, but they're strict.

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They're uh, sometimes when we open

our mouth, we reveal our foolishness

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and it's better to just be quiet.

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How's that saying?

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Go better.

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Someone thanked me a fool than to

open my mouth and remove all doubt.

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Right?

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Yeah, something like that.

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Now we'll proper is 18.

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Uh, again, 18, one of the chapters

that I go to so often in counseling.

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Because it talks so much

about the importance of good

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communication, good communication.

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I mean, in, in, in marriages,

but in friendships alike.

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Uh, communication and the

dysfunctional communication is so

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often what's at the root of conflict.

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It's the people don't know how

to communicate with each other.

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They don't know how to listen.

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They don't know to how to hear.

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They don't know how to understand.

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They don't know how to.

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Be understood in a way that's helpful.

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And Proverbs 18 really is one of the

chapters that, that I said, there's not

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really the magic elements in the chapter

so much, but, but Proverbs 18 has a lot

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to do with our communication, how we

use our tongue, how we use our words.

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So good in the counseling office.

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So good in thinking about how

we communicate with each other.

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There's a ton of things here, and I think

we should start by pointing out verse one.

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Uh, you're meant to be in community.

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There's going to be, there's going to

be sparks there and there's going to

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be con conflict and Proverbs 18 gives

you parameters for how to address it.

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But notice what it says, whoever

isolates himself seeks his own desire.

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You're being selfish in the,

in the worst possible way.

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He breaks out against all sound judgment.

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Let that sit on your chest for a minute.

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If you want to be thought of as a

biblical fool, isolate yourself,

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don't have any friendships.

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Don't pursue friendships.

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Make sure nobody knows you.

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I live in the cocoon of your own inner

world and know that you're breaking

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out against all sound judgment.

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So if you're wondering if

relationships are worth it,

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Proverbs 18 is going to tell you.

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Yes, it is, but it's not without a cost.

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It's going to cost you something, but

the cost is worth the price of admission.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Some of the just basic nugget

principles as we go through here, we

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can touch on, I think pretty quickly.

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They're pretty, self-explanatory

about a verse to a full takes.

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No pleasure in understanding, but

only in expressing his opinion,

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that that's the person that just

wants to, to say what they think

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and they don't care what you think.

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Um, verse six, a fool's lips walk into

a fight and his mouth invites a beating.

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Uh, that one's comical, but it

kind of goes back to what we

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talked about just a minute ago.

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You've got the option.

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To diffuse the conflict before

the conflict begins instead.

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I was going to say, bring it right.

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Bring it.

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Verse 13.

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If one gives an answer before he

hears it, his folly and his shame.

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It's one of my favorites.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Talk, talk through that.

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What what's that verse talking about?

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We rarely listen enough to

understand the full breadth of

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what someone is trying to say.

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If one, it tries to, and often in that

counseling office, Uh, you're listening

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to either a husband or a wife talk about

something and you might be inclined to

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like, oh yeah, yeah, that person's right.

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Yeah, for sure.

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You, your, your friend is doing this all.

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Yeah.

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The wrong about that until you hear the

other side that the friend says, well,

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let me tell you my end of the story.

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And then at the end of that, you

realize, oh, there's two parts.

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Make the whole.

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And now I have a better understanding.

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In fact, I think the first

person who spoke is now wrong.

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So if someone gives an answer before they

hear the totality of what there is to

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be said, It's folly and shame for you.

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So it makes perfect sense that

you would become a really good

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listener if you want to communicate.

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Well, start by being a

really good listener.

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Yeah.

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In similar, along those lines for 17, the

one who states his case first seems right

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until the other comes and examined him.

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Right.

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And that's.

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That's helpful for us to remember

as we're making our case.

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Our argument, if, if we're in

a conflict with someone is to

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say, okay, there's another side

of this that I need to hear out.

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I, yeah, it's not wrong for us

to lay our case out there and

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lay our position out there.

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But we need to hold that loosely and

listen to the other person before we

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make that, that ultimate final decision

so that we can get their perspective

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and try to understand things from,

from their point of view, rather than

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just saying, well, my, my way is right.

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And then verse 21, death and life

are in the power of the tongue and

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those who love it will eat its fruit.

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Uh, in other words, those who love

either its life-giving elements or

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it's death, inflicting elements,

they're gonna, they're gonna reap the

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consequences of how they use their words.

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Uh, you will either leave a wake of broken

relationships behind you, or you will

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have good deep life-giving relationships.

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If you use your words wisely.

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Yeah.

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This first typically is used to say.

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Got powerful.

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Your words are.

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And I think, I think that's valid.

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I think it does suggest that in

death, in life or in the part of the

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tongue, what you say can be either

life-giving or death breaking either way.

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It's true.

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Uh, but I think that the emphasis

on, on the proverb is to say that.

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Those who like to talk a lot,

are going to enjoy the, the

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consequences of their talking.

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And if they're talking is productive and

edifying, it's going to be life-giving.

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If they're talking and their words

tend to be complaining or bickering,

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or what have you, or lying,

it's going to be death bringing.

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So guard your words,

choose them carefully.

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Be judicious about the words that you

use, because you're going to suffer

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the consequences for good or for ill.

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Uh, for the words that you use.

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Yup.

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And then look at verse 22, he who

finds a wife finds a good thing.

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Yes.

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Right.

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Good.

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Interesting.

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Understatement of the year.

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Yes.

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Yes, absolutely.

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Yeah.

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And then finally, verse 24, a man of many

companions may come to ruin, but there is

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a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

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Oh, there you go.

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That's why that, that works well with

the last verse we were looking at.

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Yup.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, they go together.

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It does.

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Y you made it through another

episode of the daily Bible podcast.

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So did we?

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Yeah, we did go us and we'll be back

again tomorrow for another episode.

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So join us, then keep, bring your Bibles.

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See you then guys.

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Bye.