The skill of validation can be both incredibly useful AND really challenging to use interpersonally and with ourselves. My sister Ruth joins me for a conversation about what challenges she's encountered in practicing validation. We discuss some of the beliefs we grew up with around validation and problem-solve ways to remove those roadblocks.

Helpful resources from this episode:

DBT references:

DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets – online pdf version;

DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets – buy the manual from a Black-owned book store!

DBT handouts used in this episode:

General Handout 4 – Skills Training Assumptions;

Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 17 – Validation;

Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 18 – A “How To” Guide to Validation;

Emotion Regulation Handout 5 – Model for Describing Emotions (alternate version: E Wheel);

Emotion Regulation Handout 6 – Ways to Describe Emotions;

Distress Tolerance Handout 8 – Self-Soothing

Other resources used in this episode:

Levels of Validation

Beliefs that Get in the Way of Self-Soothing

How to Tell if You're Invalidating Yourself

Examples of Validation Phrases

Biosocial theory graphic by Jesse Finkelstein

Instagram @theaustralianfeminists: psychological invalidation

Instagram @hellothrivers: healthy vs toxic empathy

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