You're here to master your life, but you can't do that when you're caught in a cycle of emotional reaction to what you perceive is happening in your outer world. Join Dr Demartini in this episode for an in-depth look into how the Demartini Method can be used to evolve the brain. You have the power over your perceptions that enable you to take any event, supportive or challenging and process it in a way where you see it as on the way, instructive for your life, instead of working against you. Mind mastery is life mastery but mind mastery isn’t about self-control or memory tricks, it’s about developing the most important part of your brain, your executive center or prefrontal cortex that gives rise to the all-important self-governing executive function. Those with the greatest executive function are the leaders, the influencers and the unborrowed visionaries in the world. They’re using the most advanced part of their human brain and benefiting from operating from this higher functioning aspect of their brain. If you’d love to evolve your brain function from primitive survival to advanced thrival, then tune in to hear how using the executive function development exercises that make up the Demartini Method can literally impact the evolution of your brain and the mastery of your life.

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The idea of an innocent victim and perpetrator and

in my opinion, is antiquated. It's time for a new psychology.

I'm introducing a Demartinian psychology with the Demartini Method, to open up,

to get beyond victim thinking, to become master of destiny,

not victim of history.

Today's topic is the evolution of the brain and how the method I've been working

on for nearly 50 years can assist in the evolution of the brain to maximize the

brain function. I'll start off by saying,

I've just finished reading a magazine by Scientific American on

activating children's genius, and the very first beginning of it,

it says that one of the keys that psychologists have found is,

moving them into their forebrain as early as possible,

which is developing what is called an executive function,

right off the top of this magazine article it hit that.

It was interesting that I just read that this morning before I'm about to do

this, because it matches what I'm about to share,

so I was very inspired by that. But you have a forebrain,

which is the front part of the brain,

which is the most advanced part of the brain, that is most developed in humans,

about 30% of the brain is in humans,

but as you go down through species and vertebrate species back in time,

it goes from 30% to 17%, to 9%, to 5%, to 2%,

to 1% as you go down through the phyla from primates to mammals,

to reptiles, to fish, all the way back.

So one of the things that allow us to distinguish us from other animal

species is this development of the executive function,

which is able to govern and monitor the impulses and instincts

of survival. So we could call this forebrain,

this developing brain as the thrival center, the evolutionary center.

Because there's shown through evolution that this thing is getting more and more

enlarged and is involved in more and more masterful functions.

The evolvement of the brain and the evolvement of that is by using the

functions that are displayed in this executive function.

So I'm going to outline some of those,

and then I'm going to describe how the method I've been working on all these

years has been for that purpose, to enhance that area,

to give us more mastery in life, to empower our lives.

Every human being has a set of priorities,

a set of values they live their life by.

Whenever they're living in the highest priorities,

the numero uno value you might say, the blood, glucose,

and oxygen goes into that forebrain. And when they're living by lower values,

it goes into the subcortical area of the telencephalon,

the diencephalon and all the way down into the mesencephalon, metencephalon,

myelencephalon, which are the lower, more primitive parts of the brain,

and down into the hindbrain area. So if you are living by highest priorities,

you develop your brain, the forebrain, the executive function.

If you live by lower priorities, you develop the animal survival function.

Some people call it the angelic brain when you're living there,

because you're like an angel, you have governance.

And you're like an animal out of control when you're living by lower values and

waking up that lower developed center.

So anything we can do to live by highest priority,

anything we can do to dissolve distractions, will awaken

And this area of the brain is involved in discipline, reliability, and focus.

So concentrating and staying focused is one of the symptoms of an evolved brain

of functioning. Discipline to stay focused on something,

not immediate gratification, but long term vision. That's a sign.

Expanded space and time horizons, patience, and bigger visions.

People like Elon Musk and people like Richard Branson and people that have

bigger visions and Bezos that have bigger visions. In fact,

as Seneca said, you measure an individual by their most distant ends.

How big a vision do they have? This is a sign of the executive function.

It is also involved in waking up creativity, genius,

innovation and unborrowed vision.

It's involved in also strategic planning, executing plans.

Is also involved in making sure that you are self governed,

the ability to govern yourself and not let the vicissitudes and volatility of

perturbations in their life interfere with your main focus in life.

So people who are stay steady and focused on something and develop a skill and

build momentum in it and wake up their persistent genius,

that's what this executive function's about.

When that is awakened and strengthened and developed,

you have less noise in the brain.

The signal to noise ratio of receiving wisdom and

inspiration, gamma burst, which are aha eureka moments are heightened,

more alpha theta states, which is a balance of day and night synthesis,

this is awakened in this executive center.

So we have less noise in the brain, more clear focus in the brain,

more creativity in the brain, more genius in the brain,

so that's an advantage that we have in evolution, to solving problems.

It's the problem solving area of the brain. And when it comes to business,

it's actually bringing equanimity and equity,

because we have the greatest objectivity and fair exchange awareness.

We're less likely to be narcissistic and altruistic,

exaggerating or minimizing ourselves when we're in our executive function.

More likely to be authentic.

We all want to be loved and appreciated for who we are, authentically.

That's the executive function. In relationship to money,

Warren Buffet says, until you can manage emotions, don't expect to manage money.

The executive function is sending glutamate and GABA,

which are facilitatory and inhibitory transmitters down into the amygdala,

the subcortical, which is where it is impulsive and instinctual.

And it calms them down and allows us to be poised and present and purposeful and

patient and productive. So from a business and financial perspective,

the executive function is where it's at, that's why they call them executives.

In relationships when you're in your prefrontal cortex, you're resilient,

adaptable to change, you can adapt to people's responses.

You're more likely to respect individual in communication,

less likely to narcissistically project your values,

or altruistically inject other people's values,

and try to get others to be like you or to get you to be like others.

You're basically realizing reflective awareness.

Awareness is maximized,

your aware of awareness in the prefrontal cortex.

And you have reflective awareness instead of reflexive awareness,

where you just a reflex responding like a stimulus response,

the outside world runs you. You're more intrinsically driven.

When it comes to social causes, you're the leader. You have more influence,

you're more governed. You exemplify leadership spontaneously,

you get more power doing that.

Your power in life is based on the magnitude of space

mind. So you automatically wake up leadership. And in physiology,

the executive function calms down the suprachiasmatic nucleus,

which is a diencephalic area, which is underneath it,

and it basically calms down the biorhythms and harmonizes them.

It automatically calms down the hypothalamus, which

which cause in a sense, a homeostasis. So if we live by our highest value,

we wake up this executive center,

we automatically have more homeostasis and more physiological performance,

and we have more wellness facto, we have eustress,

not distress. And when it comes to spirituality,

we're inspired when we're living intrinsically.

They showed in this magazine that children who are allowed to fulfill what they

spontaneously love learning, wake up their genius.

They automatically want to persevere.

They want to diligently put in the hours on it, master the skill.

So living by highest priorities and waking up this executive center is an

essential component of waking up a mastery of life and being inspired by your

life. Why would we want a quiet life of desperation when we can have a life of

inspiration? So now how's that relate to the Demartini Method?

The Demartini Method is something I started developing

at age of 18. I happen to read a book by Leibniz,

a German philosopher who had helped develop the calculus,

with the help of a dictionary.

And he said that there's a higher order.

He called it a divine perfection, a divine order, a divine

magnificence in the universe that few people ever get to see.

And what they do is they're able to see the order.

Now what they found out in Claude Shannon's work,

they found out that order means, no missing information.

That's coherent order, means all the information's there.

And decoherence and disorder is when you have missing information. Entropy,

the tendency to go from order to disorder occurs when you have missing

information, when you're conscious of something,

but unconscious of other things. But when you're fully conscious,

you develop order.

Leibniz described there's a magnificent order in the universe that few people

see because the majority of people are not living in their executive center,

they're living down in their amygdala and hindbrain.

But if you are knowing how to ask the right questions and see what's unconscious

and be fully conscious, you awaken this.

And I set out at 18 to try to find a science for that.

I also happened to read Principles of Quantum Mechanics by Paul Dirac.

And I talked about the pairs of opposites being united to make light,

the particles and antiparticles joined together to make light.

And I then looked at that and I thought, well,

wonder what would happen if positive and negative emotions were joined together

at the same time, could they make enlightenment? Just a metaphor,

naive metaphor that I thought.

Turned out when I started researching and really going into it,

turned out to be a profound realization.

Something that I thought was just an interesting idea turned out to be very

profound and as more research is coming along, it's even more profound.

What I found out, the Demartini Method emerged starting at age 18,

and the first component of it was the realization that what we see in others is

inside us. Now this was described in biblical terms in the New Testament,

Romans 2.1 I think, when it talked about, you know,

pluck the mote out of your own eye and look inside yourself before you try to

change others and that whatever you see in others is inside you.

That's been known in psychology, like psychology 101.

But I realized in my life that I was sometimes emphasizing things to people and

what I was telling them, I was really talking to myself.

Chomsky described that in language,

we'd speak for others to make sure we listen.

So the first part of the Demartini Method was the realization of reflective

awareness and transparency. The realization that,

that what you see in the world around you and the people around you, you have.

So way back years ago in my early twenties,

I went to a dictionary and I started making a list, a big Oxford dictionary,

making a list of every possible behavior a human being could have,

and 4,628 individual traits.

And I went in there and I looked at what the trait was,

who do I know that has that trait to the most extreme and where do I have it to

the same degree as I see in them?

And instead of waiting for people to push my buttons and cause reaction,

because I had disowned awareness, I figured I might as well just pre know it,

preemptive strike and know that that I have all those behaviors.

So if somebody says that I'm mean, or whatever, instead of me denying it,

I own it. And then I realized that when I own all the traits, I'm less reactive.

So when I realized that and watched it in my own life and realized that

everything I was seeing in others, when I looked carefully and honestly,

and reflected on it, introspected,

I found out I had everything I saw in other people.

So the first part of the Demartini Method was the realization that what we see

in others is inside us. And once we look at where the seer, the seeing,

and the seen are the same, and realize that what we see in others is inside us,

we have less to react to, less to point our fingers at,

less emotional reactions, less amygdala response, which is a subcortical area,

and the more executive function because we have reflective awareness.

The executive function is a mastery reflective awareness,

reflective awareness means you balance the equation between what you see in

others inside you. You realize you have everything that you see in them,

inside you.

What I did is I went through all those 4,628 traits,

found the most extreme examples, found out where I had them,

and I had every trait. I was nice, mean, kind, cruel, giving, generous,

and stingy, taking, narcissistic, altruistic,

I was all the above at different moments in my life. Nothing was missing.

When I finally realized that nothing was missing in me, I realized,

I don't need to get rid of half of myself to love myself.

People want to be loved for who they are, but they can't

as long as they're trying to get rid of some part of themselves to be like

somebody else, or trying to get rid of somebody else to try to be like them.

Anyway, when I did that,

the first step of the Demartini Method is to define the specific traits,

the actions,

the inactions that people are demonstrating that you

them all. And that's really profound. In fact,

you would never imagine when you start on that journey that you have all that,

but you do.

What's happened is we get too proud or too humble to admit what we see in others

inside us. And the too proud and too humble disowned parts we have,

are the things that push our buttons.

Everything we disown is what other people run our lives with.

If we disown things we admire, they hook us with an infatuation.

If we disowned the things we despise, it'll hook us with a resentment.

So if we don't want infatuations, resentments, and fantasies and nightmares,

and impulses and instincts to distract us and being present,

so we can get on with executive function and evolve our brain.

The first step of the Demartini Method is to own them all,

have reflective awareness that makes you immediately into the forebrain.

And allows the blood supply to go up in the brain because it reduces distress.

Distress is the perception of loss of that which you seek and the perception

gain of that which you're trying to avoid.

Perception of loss of prey and avoidance of predator.

And so all distresses are boiled down to that.

And when we neutralize and own the traits, the prey and predator dissolve.

The idea of an innocent victim and perpetrator and

in my opinion, is antiquated. It's time for a new psychology.

I'm introducing a Demartinian psychology with the Demartini Method to open up,

to get beyond victim thinking, to become master of destiny,

not victim of history. So the first thing is reflective awareness.

Once we finish that and we own what we see in others inside us,

we go to the next level. We find out the things we admired have downsides,

the things we despised have upsides.

What we thought that we infatuated or admired in some experience or some

individual, is our conscious awareness of the upsides, which is biased,

and our unconscious awareness of their downsides.

And if we're infatuated with them and we're blind to the downsides,

we're going to have an impulse towards them.

If we're conscious of their downsides and unconscious of their upsides,

we're going to have an instinct to avoid them. So that means they,

because of our misperceptions, run our lives.

But if we go and ask the questions,

what is the downside of the thing we infatuate with?

And what's the upside of the thing we resent? And not make up an answer,

but look and discover that every event has two sides. All events are neutral.

As Milton said, within the heaven is the hell,

and within the hell is the heaven.

And you can make a heaven into a hell and hell into heaven,

based on asking questions and become cognizant of both sides.

If you look at somebody that you love,

you'll see that they have things you like and dislike.

You're not going to get only likes without dislikes.

And the same inside your life. You have both sides.

To think you're going to get rid of one side and only be one side is futile and

fatal. And the same thing in the people around you. They have both sides.

But if you don't see both sides,

don't honor both sides and project subjective biases onto them and create

your moral hypocrisies about them, you'll trap yourself.

You'll be too humble or too proud to admit what you see in them is inside you.

And then you'll end up judging them and then they run your life.

And anything you infatuate with or resent,

occupy space and time in your mind and run you.

So that's the noise that blocks the signal from the soul you might say,

the calling that you have, that's the highest value in your life,

what your mission in life.

So the second we go in there and level the playing field and see both sides,

so the Demartini Method,

it holds people accountable to see both sides of an event.

So we're not storing up in our subconscious mind

all these stored BS, you might say,

all these polarized perceptions that run our lives.

Every infatuation that we don't see the downsides to,

will occupy space and time in our mind and keep running us. And it'll make us,

anytime we see something that's associated and reminds us of,

we'll have an impulse, we got to jump to get it.

And that's what impulse buying is. And that's what impulse relationships are.

It's not love. It's an impulse towards a dopamine fixation.

But if we go and calm down the infatuations and bring

level the playing field and actually get to see both simultaneous,

love is a synthesis and synchronous of these opposites. When they're balanced,

you feel love for somebody. You feel grateful for somebody.

You discover the hidden order in things, instead of the chaos,

which is missing information, you're now mindful.

And now you have a higher level of operation and the

the executive center is now awakened. And now you have mastery again,

you're returned to mastery.

I call this whole project I'm saying today is about returning to mastery,

taking command of your life, being captain of your ship and master of your fate.

Instead of being at the whims of the outside world and being victims of this

world out there, externally driven all the time.

So once we level the playing field, we go another step.

We then go and find out just as we found the downsides to what we admired and

the upsides to what we despise and balance them,

we then go to the places where we did that, that we owned in the first step,

and we found out where we did it,

and we found out the benefits to what we've done that we thought we were ashamed

of and the drawback to the things we've done that we are proud of,

and calm down our pride and shame. And some people say,

why would I want to dissolve my shame and my pride? Very simple.

When you're proud, you're exaggerating yourself. You're not authentic.

When you're shamed, you're minimizing yourself. You're not authentic.

You want to be loved for who you are,

are you can't be loved for you are if you're not being who you are.

By calming those down and bringing yourself in the center and having tears of

gratitude for yourself,

just as you had tears of gratitude for others when you did the previous

questions, you automatically have a love for yourself, self love,

your self-worth goes up. Your presence is stronger.

You exemplify mastery in that point,

you automatically attract opportunities to your life because they can sense that

you're reliable, you're discipline, you're focused and you're equitable.

You're not trying to get something for nothing with your pride,

not trying to give something for nothing with your shame,

which disempowers you and makes you less magnetically attractive to do

business with or have relationships with.

Every area of your life is empowered by this mastery, this exercise,

this Demartini Method. I've been working on it like I said, for nearly 50 years,

trying to take anything that would maximize human awareness and potential and

stick it in one method that a person can learn. And once they learn that tool,

they've got it for life, and they can use it over and over again.

I have students who've been with me for 40 something years now,

learning and applying different parts of this as I evolved it.

But really for the last 36 years in the Breakthrough Experience,

people have now used it and actually I've trained people on how to use it.

And they're sharing it with thousands of people around the world also.

So I have facilitators that have been trained specifically in this method,

are building business and in the whole industry now serving people in

psychological and physiological conditions,

and to help people master their lives. In addition to that,

we go to the next step.

The next question is to neutralize the polarized view that we

have of people. You hear people say,

well my mother was always mean to me and my father was always cruel to me,

or he was never there, or my mom was too busy to ever see me,

or I was not valued, or I would never do that.

Anytime you hear 'always' 'never', you have what is called infinity over one,

always, and one over infinity, which don't exist.

There's no phenomenon that we can identify that with. So it's a skewed,

subjective bias, a false positive, false negative interpretation of reality.

It's a hallucination, a distortion of our reality.

So in order to dissolve those distortions and hallucinations,

which we call reality, and bring us back into what's actually there,

we go and ask the questions,

where is the other side of the person that we're judging?

We take somebody we admire, we look at the downsides.

But we also got to look at where they do the opposite behavior.

Because we judged them for a behavior,

that's why we looked up to them or looked down on them.

We judged them for a behavior. Now we got to go find their opposite behavior.

So if somebody says, 'well,

my mom was never there for me.' We now ask the question;

so go to a moment where, and when you perceived your mom there for you.

And at first you go,

'but she was never there.' Go look again and we hold you accountable to go and

make sure that you're not exaggerating that and then avoiding somebody that you

actually love because every time you have difficulty loving somebody else, it's,

it's a part of you you're not loving.

So you're going back and you're finding out where they did the opposite behavior

until they balance.

And I've been doing this for decades and people don't believe it's possible

until they do it. And once they do it, they go, my God,

I can't believe I had such a distorted view about this individual.

But the Demartini Method holds you accountable.

You're basically bringing a mathematical balance to perceptions and balancing

your brain. As Pythagorus says,

a balanced brain and body gives physiological wellness. And Galen,

the great physician said the same thing. We know that.

So the second we go in there and find out where they have the opposite trait to

what we observed, so if we thought well they're always kind,

where are they cruel? They're always cruel - where are they kind?

If they're always knowledgeable - where are they not knowledgeable?

And we go in there and look at the places where they have the opposite behavior,

because there is no one sided individual. Nobody's always one side.

Nobody's always nice and never mean, always kind, never cruel or always mean,

never nice or always cruel, never kind. They're a human being, sometimes kind,

sometimes cruel ,sometimes nice, sometimes mean, sometimes positive,

sometimes negative. You're both. Your intuition knows that.

And if somebody tries to project onto you that your only one side,

your own intuition will go, no, that's not true. I'm both sided.

Everybody can look in their life and be honest and see that they have two sides.

When somebody supports their value, they as nice as a pussycat,

when somebody challenges their values, they're mean as a tiger.

You have both sides and so do other people.

And so what that does is hold you accountable to see the whole,

have mindfulness,

instead of being conscious of one side and unconscious of the other.

Anytime the conscious and unconscious are split,

as Jung and Blair and others have described,

we have an incomplete awareness,

a bias and we have a misperception about reality.

And our misperceptions of reality create our reactions that are incomplete to

cause illness.

So the second we go in there and hold ourselves accountable to see the whole of

the individual and see both sides and see that they're balanced,

we have more love and appreciation for them.

And we also have more love and appreciation for

reflections.

We're projecting ourself onto them and realizing it's our illusion that gave us

that interpretation. Then I go in and I do another step.

I go in and ask the question,

go to a moment where and when you perceive this individual displaying this

trait, this action, this inaction that you admire or despise,

and in that moment get present, where are you? When are you? What's the content?

What's the context? And at that moment, who are they doing it to? You.

And at that moment, who's doing the opposite?

Because I discovered when I was writing a book when I was 23 called the

Illusional Basis of Man's Health and Disease on perceptual illusions and how it

affected physiology,

I showed very clearly that the moment you perceive something,

you're dealing with contrast, Wilhelm Wundt, father of psychology,

him and James also knew about these contrasts,

and knew that you cannot perceive something without its opposite.

If you see them simultaneously, you have the executive center.

If you see one side without the other,

you have the amygdala and you're in the animal center, the desire center.

So we're bringing now a simultaneous synchronous awareness of the opposite

of whichever you're perceiving to show that every perception is a pair of

opposites. And I always say,

love is a synthesis and synchronicity of all complementary opposites.

So when you watch that pair of opposites and see them at the same time,

you feel grace, you feel love, you feel appreciation, you see a hidden order,

because there's no missing information now you're not splitting the conscious

and unconscious.

At the moment we perceive things our conscious and unconscious split and we see

things with distortion.

If we go back and get present and use our intuition to awaken to where the other

side of the contrast was, and see both at the same time,

tears of gratitude come out of our eye.

We realize there's nothing to avoid or seek.

There's something to be appreciative and love.

And we get to love another individual and a part of ourselves at the same time.

It's a profound,

that particular question inside the Demartini Method is a profound

part of moving you into the executive function.

The brain is set up to integrate pairs of opposites.

It's not in analys it's in synthesis.

And when you go down and break things down into parts,

you go into the more primitive parts of the brain.

But by going in and integrating it and having a synchronicity of opposites,

in contrast,

you realize that the judgment you started with was absolutely a bias.

It wasn't even true. It was an incomplete awareness,

a bias because of the stored subconsciously stored

around because you never took the time to do the method on previous stuff and is

now carrying into your future life. And it's affecting your whole behavior.

A lot of people are automatons reacting to external stimuli,

instead of actually being present and letting the voice and the vision on the

inside, overrule the world on the outside. As William James said,

the greatest discovery of his generation is that human beings can alter their

lives by altering their perceptions and attitudes and mind.

You have the capacity to willfully alter perception.

The Demartini Method is a science of how to ask questions to make you

fully conscious to awaken, you might say the meditative,

most advanced part of the brain, to get blood, glucose, and oxygen in that area,

to create neuroplastic growth in that area and to actually create an

expanded forebrain. And this is what shows the evolution.

This is the most advanced part.

Then there's another question that we go through.

We realize that the only reason we resented people

to a fantasy.

And the only reason we admire people is we compared them to a nightmare.

You can't infatuate with something without resenting its opposite.

You can't resent something without infatuating with the opposite.

So we now go into the very moment when they've displayed the trait we admired.

And at that moment we look down, if they had done the opposite,

what would've been the benefit? And if we go and look at the time we despised,

the trait we despise, in that moment we perceived it,

if they had done the opposite, what would've been the drawbacks?

So we cracked the fantasy that we're comparing the

cracking the nightmare to the things we admire.

And what that does is allows us to level the field and realize that there was

nothing but love. All else was illusion.

It was just a momentary delusion about our reality that's got

us trapped, that holds us back, that gets our animal brain active,

instead of our executive function. So this Demartini Method,

that's that's that literally help you integrate and empower the front brain.

Then we have a specialized columns and questions that go further with the method

that's involved in dealing with grief and relief.

We only grieve the loss of the things we infatuate with.

And we only grieve the things that we resent that we gain.

And we are relieved by the gain of the things we infatuate with and relieved by

the loss of the things we're trying to avoid.

We have this grief and relief mentality. It's two poles of a magnet.

So I have series of questions in the Demartini Method that level the playing

field, to help you live to realize that you're a master living in a world of

transformation, not gaining or losing things.

The masses live in the illusion of gain and loss,

they get caught in the animal behavior of grief and relief.

They have fantasies and nightmares and they're sorrow and they're in joy

addicted to things,

instead of actually being present and transformative and adaptive and

resilient, where you're empowered in life.

So the Demartini Method is designed to integrate the brain ,to empower

your life, to help you focus on mastery. It's a science.

I've been developing it for almost 50 years.

I've got thousands and literally a hundred thousand people that I've taken

through the Breakthrough Experience on demonstrating it.

And I absolutely love sharing it with people and training people on it because

it is a powerful tool.

And it's going to revolutionize parts of psychology because instead of being the

victim and running the story and rambling about your story,

which is a made up story of only your conscious mind,

it allows you to see the whole. Allows you to be present,

allows you to wake up the executive center,

have self-governance and no longer be victim of history, but be master destiny.