So many times I hear “I don’t like change” and or many versions of the same. What I know to be true is that change is constant. We are always evolving, change is happening whether we want to or not. We have been talking a lot about transformations lately, and transformation is another way to say change. What if I told you that you can be in the driver’s seat of your transformations? It’s absolutely a possibility and this week on the podcast I am going to give you 5 P’s that put you right in the driver's seat of who you are becoming, what you are creating, and well quite simply change. Let’s go!
Highlights from this episode:
(02:19) How to stay the course through a transformation
(06:02) Walk into my house for a moment
(13:24) The four things that make transformation easy
(15:29) Plan goes with preparation
(20:52) Persistence
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Hey, everyone, I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a
Unknown:leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping
Unknown:you find out who you are authentically as a leader, own
Unknown:it and go out and make an impact in your life and the lives of
Unknown:others. This world needs your leadership, your gifts, your
Unknown:unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders don't wait.
Unknown:They create. I know firsthand that life is going to throw us
Unknown:curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness, our ideas
Unknown:and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe in
Unknown:yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion
Unknown:for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated, and
Unknown:most important in action towards your unique impact in this
Unknown:world. So let's jump in. Hey there, everyone, this is Coach
Unknown:Kelly, welcome to episode 156. Of let's be honest, before we
Unknown:start pretending I am so very happy you are here. Hey, how
Unknown:many of you have listened to last week's episode where we had
Unknown:coach Sylvia Fox on who is a dynamic aging coach and really
Unknown:helped us understand so many things that go into optimizing
Unknown:our health. She was amazing. She is amazing. And if you haven't
Unknown:listened, please go check it out. It's such an inspirational
Unknown:and empowering episode, I really feel. And since I have been on a
Unknown:kick, called transformations and all the things that go into it,
Unknown:as we're taking on transformations in our own
Unknown:lives. Y'all know, I've been taking on a transformation in my
Unknown:life. And like just taking all the lessons and the things that
Unknown:we're learning and like what went into it to create success
Unknown:and what goes into transformation to creating
Unknown:success. So like, it's it's been fascinating and super fun. So
Unknown:I'm so grateful coach, Sylvia was here to work with us around
Unknown:transforming our health. That is one of my biggest
Unknown:transformations this year. And Sylvia is amazing and such a
Unknown:great resource. So connect with her, if you are up to a
Unknown:transformation in your health also, because I think that she
Unknown:is here for it. And I don't think she's here for it. I know
Unknown:she's here for it. So thank you again, coach, Sylvia for being
Unknown:here. So today, what I thought would be really fun since we're
Unknown:on a transformation kick. And we are, you know, in the first
Unknown:month of our second quarter of this year of transformations. I
Unknown:thought I will break this down and I'm calling this
Unknown:transformations Made Easy. She is not saying the sarcastically
Unknown:but how do you help yourself really stay the course. Through
Unknown:your transformation? Will it always be easy? Oh heck no. It
Unknown:will not always be easy, but that's okay. Because sometimes
Unknown:it will sometimes it will be hard. There will be a struggle.
Unknown:It's kind of like this, you know the butterfly? Well, she did not
Unknown:start out as a butterfly. No, she started out as a
Unknown:caterpillar, a really, you know, Caterpillar kind of moving
Unknown:through and then knew that it you know, senses or knows that
Unknown:it's time to change and works itself into a cocoon. It gets
Unknown:gooey, it gets gooey and lots of things are happening in there
Unknown:beauty is evolving struggle is happening. Is it easy? Is it
Unknown:hard? I don't know I'm not a butterfly. But I'm going to
Unknown:suggest that probably all of that is absolutely a
Unknown:possibility. And then what emerges the transformation? The
Unknown:butterfly and she flies off. I mean, it just ah Do y'all have
Unknown:butterflies when I was a kid, I'll never forget I had this
Unknown:bedroom and this bedroom, my bedroom it was like pink, and
Unknown:had this really cool like canopy bed this and that. And I was
Unknown:getting a little bit too old for that Princess kind of right. And
Unknown:I remember this was like this is one of those moments in
Unknown:childhood that was transformational and in so many
Unknown:different ways. I remember I was going to camp Fox for a week
Unknown:which was a summer camp, summer camp in on Catalina Island,
Unknown:which is in southern California 26 miles across the sea.
Unknown:Catalina Catalina Island is the place to be so if you know, you
Unknown:know. So I was going to camp Fox, I was super excited because
Unknown:oftentimes at Camp Fox, not only was I there with people, you
Unknown:know, that I already knew, you know, from school or whatnot,
Unknown:but also like people that were at different schools that only
Unknown:time I would get to see them was the annual camp Fox trip. And so
Unknown:like all the fingers and toes crossed, they were going to be
Unknown:there and oftentimes they were and I remember this trip that to
Unknown:camp Fox was super fun, had a great time and then came home
Unknown:and coming home was always sort of like kind of bitter Sweet,
Unknown:you know what I mean? Like, it was a pivotal moment in summer.
Unknown:Got to hang out and do really cool things with friends and
Unknown:like the camaraderie and the laughter and the silliness. And,
Unknown:you know, I mean, it's Catalina, it was like the ocean like, I
Unknown:remember waterskiing on the ocean. And that was so amazing.
Unknown:Until I saw jaws. That sort of changed. Anyhow, I digress. So
Unknown:coming home was bittersweet, because you know, leaving like
Unknown:this amazing week, but also then, you know, being able to go
Unknown:home and, and reengage with my family and all the things right,
Unknown:all the things and the rest of the summer. Well, this
Unknown:particular time, I came home, and I went into my room, and it
Unknown:had completely transformed like completely. It I was like, Wait,
Unknown:where am I? Did I come home? Am I I lived on on Hopeton road? Is
Unknown:that a great name? Hopeton like a ton of hope, I love that lived
Unknown:on Hopeton road. And I know it was in my house. I knew I walked
Unknown:into my house, right? I walked into this room and it was this
Unknown:fabulous color of yellow sunshine, right? The carpet was
Unknown:yellow. Some of the walls were yellow, like Sunshine Yellow,
Unknown:this really bright yellow that didn't even occur to me. I liked
Unknown:the color yellow, right? I was all over the pink. And I'm like,
Unknown:What is this? Like, it was bright and lovely and joyful.
Unknown:And then to the walls of the four walls in my bedroom to all
Unknown:walls were the most magnificent wallpaper I had ever seen in my
Unknown:life. Okay, it was this foil type wallpaper. And it had the
Unknown:most beautiful butterflies and sort of greenery. And it was
Unknown:like silvery and gold foil. I don't know, it was stunning. I
Unknown:had never seen something like that. And I was like, Oh, is
Unknown:this my room like I could not even handle it. Lose my room. It
Unknown:was so joyful. And it was it was so full of change and promise
Unknown:and, and joy. And it was just, it was extraordinary. Now, I
Unknown:will tell you, I burst into tears, which happened often. And
Unknown:it might still happen often. And they were pure tears of joy. And
Unknown:also gratitude. I was like, What in the world like the whole room
Unknown:was transformed. And it was like I almost couldn't believe that,
Unknown:that my parents saw me and like, we never discussed colors,
Unknown:wallpaper. The fact that I even liked butterflies, right? Like
Unknown:this was I mean, talk about a leap of faith on my parents
Unknown:part. Like we're gonna go ahead and transform this kid's room
Unknown:while she's gone. And just like, hope and pray. She really loves
Unknown:it. And they nailed it. I mean, they nailed it. Now, again, I'm
Unknown:going back going, I don't think we've ever talked about it. But
Unknown:you know what my parents knew me. So it was just one of those
Unknown:moments where I was like, wow, what I am, I've been seen, I
Unknown:have been transformed. And I think sometimes that's what
Unknown:transformation is, is when we allow ourselves to see who we
Unknown:are and who we are becoming who we are and who we are becoming.
Unknown:And we get to decide, we get to evolve, we get to upgrade
Unknown:whatever that means for us, right? But you know, you've
Unknown:landed when you have that moment of Whoa, I see me like in that
Unknown:wallpaper in that yellow, joyful room, I saw myself and it opened
Unknown:up a whole new world of possibilities that I didn't even
Unknown:know existed. Truly amazing, truly amazing. So I share that
Unknown:with you because you know, I love butterflies and the like I
Unknown:hadn't even planned to tell you that story before I turned on
Unknown:the mic. I just hit butterflies and it transported me back to a
Unknown:moment of transformation in my life. And here's the funny
Unknown:thing. transformations can happen over time. And
Unknown:transformations really are change the change that we're
Unknown:wanting to create. That's what it is. They can happen over
Unknown:time. They can be slow and steady. They can be slow and
Unknown:Rocky. They can be quick. They can happen in a nanosecond. And
Unknown:I gotta tell you, in that bedroom as a young girl, in a
Unknown:nanosecond, I was transformed. I felt seen. I accepted the joy
Unknown:that I exude. It's, uh, you know, like, That's a true story.
Unknown:Like, I love joy and I it is something that exudes from me.
Unknown:Okay, not every day I'm human, but most days He's right. And I
Unknown:felt seen for who I am. And also when I started crying like they
Unknown:didn't tell me to stop crying in that moment, that's usually what
Unknown:I heard. Stop crying. You're crying, you're always crying,
Unknown:stop crying. I didn't even hear it. They let they let me my
Unknown:tears flew. So it was it was incredible. And so what I
Unknown:thought is to like, as we're landing the plane on this sort
Unknown:of mini series of transformations, I wanted to
Unknown:talk about transformations made easy, because I think sometimes
Unknown:people are afraid to take on the change they really want and
Unknown:that's okay. Right? That's okay. It's okay to be afraid and to do
Unknown:it anyway. Right to do it anyway. It really trusting
Unknown:trusting the process, trusting your faith, it's okay to be
Unknown:scared and do it anyway. Right? scared, afraid is just a
Unknown:feeling. It's really, it's a feeling. Now, here's the
Unknown:interesting thing.
Unknown:There is a fine line between fear and excitement. There is a
Unknown:fine line between the two of those. And so, you know, we can
Unknown:really work ourselves up. You've heard me talk about that on one
Unknown:of the past episodes, like, being really afraid. And I had
Unknown:forgotten I'd forgotten I had forgotten not not that I forgot
Unknown:my faith. Not I didn't forget that I just kind of lost sight
Unknown:for a moment and really got wrapped up in fear until I
Unknown:didn't anymore, okay. And so, I actually, believe it or not,
Unknown:even though I was nervous about the knee replacement, I got kind
Unknown:of excited about the new possibilities, right? And there
Unknown:is a fine line between fear and excitement. Did you know, it's
Unknown:literally the same thing, it's just that you've assigned a
Unknown:meaning to it, right? I'm either afraid or I'm excited, okay,
Unknown:you've assigned a meaning to it. And human beings are meaning
Unknown:making machines we assign meaning to things all the time.
Unknown:Here's a great example. Think about when you were into roller
Unknown:coasters, and maybe some of you still aren't a roller coasters,
Unknown:right? You like it's the new roller coaster at the amusement
Unknown:park. Like the biggest the baddest the scariest one, right?
Unknown:And you're standing in line and you got a whole lot of
Unknown:anticipation happening. This happens for a lot of people.
Unknown:Some are just like adrenaline junkies. Am I right? Oh, not me.
Unknown:I'm like, let's go. But for a lot of us, we're like, getting a
Unknown:little scared. I don't know, right? Like, you get that
Unknown:feeling. And then you get Do you know what it feels like to feel
Unknown:like the anticipation and the in the kind of scared and ah,
Unknown:right, you know, that feeling. And then you get on the right.
Unknown:And you start going and you click, click, click, click,
Unknown:click, click, click, you know what that click is that's going
Unknown:up the hill. What's on the other side of the hill, big drop, the
Unknown:big drop, right click, click, click, and somewhere in the
Unknown:click, click, click, click somewhere, somewhere, somehow
Unknown:you've decided what kind of ride this is going to be? Is it going
Unknown:to be full of fear and horror and that was awful. Or we're
Unknown:going to ride this roller coaster like nobody's business.
Unknown:And for most of us, that then becomes the decision. Hence,
Unknown:excitement prevails. Okay. And now we're excited. And we're
Unknown:laughing and squealing and all the things right? till we get to
Unknown:the end. And we're like, that wasn't so bad. Maybe I'm gonna
Unknown:get in line again. Okay. So that's just one example. There's
Unknown:many examples in life, but there's a fine line between fear
Unknown:and excitement. And so anyway, I digressed off to another place I
Unknown:wasn't planning on talking about on this one unless I was okay.
Unknown:So let's talk about transformations made easy,
Unknown:because here's the thing, transformation is change
Unknown:something that you want to shift in you. You all know, for me, I
Unknown:have big health goals this year, two very critical milestones
Unknown:called one knee replacement and the other knee replacement
Unknown:happening and then doing the work to ensure that the knee
Unknown:works. So that any excuse that I've ever had, because the knees
Unknown:hurt all the time, on moving my body, exercising, having
Unknown:activity, being able to finish losing weight that I've been
Unknown:wanting to lose for a very long time. Like that's all gone,
Unknown:right? That's all gone for me. And ultimately, the
Unknown:transformation for me is that I am vibrant. And in my integrity
Unknown:consistently. Again, you've heard me say this, I can be
Unknown:Integris with everybody else can't we all but sometimes when
Unknown:it comes to us Woopsie Okay, and like doing physical therapy at
Unknown:home, nobody's watching me. Nobody's telling me what to do.
Unknown:Except I know if I've done it or I haven't done it. And that
Unknown:motivates me because you might remember me saying my two words
Unknown:for the year is vibrant, and integrity. And so I like I am
Unknown:here for the consistency. I'm here for the consistency.
Unknown:Alright, so let's get into it. Let's talk about four things
Unknown:that I think are 100% non negotiable when you are working
Unknown:on change or working on transformation, and they will
Unknown:help you have it be easier. Okay? And this is this is what
Unknown:they are their four P's, I like threes, I like fours, I like
Unknown:twos, I like to keep things simple that you can that you can
Unknown:remember. And they are preparation, practice, process,
Unknown:and persistence.
Unknown:Those are some powerful PS powerful piece, right. And so
Unknown:first and foremost, as you're working on anything that you
Unknown:want to change, you got to prepare yourself for it. You got
Unknown:a plan, that might be a fifth P, but I think plan goes with the
Unknown:preparation, your plan is part of the preparation, right? You
Unknown:got to prepare for it? What is going to be required of me? What
Unknown:is going to be required of resources? Anything? What's
Unknown:going to be required for me to step through? Is it planning? Is
Unknown:it seeking out some information? Is it asking questions? Is it
Unknown:getting help? Do you want to hire a coach? Do you want to
Unknown:hire a trainer? Do you want to? You know, do you have
Unknown:accountability partners, you know, what is going to be
Unknown:required? And that's part of the preparation, thinking about it,
Unknown:thinking about it? And not just thinking about it in the prep?
Unknown:But like, yes, there's the thinking, but then there's also
Unknown:the action? Is there something that's going to be required to
Unknown:get myself ready for the next thing for the thing? In my case,
Unknown:prior to knee surgery? Absolutely. It was asking
Unknown:questions, getting help, lots of help. You've heard I've talked
Unknown:about it on the episode, so I will spare you the repeat. But
Unknown:it was also physically preparing myself not just mentally,
Unknown:emotionally, or like, you know, having questions answered this
Unknown:and that but also physically working on core strength working
Unknown:on upper body strength so that I could support myself as the knee
Unknown:was healing, you know, things like that, things like that. So
Unknown:prepare, when as I'm going into this transformation, I'm going
Unknown:into this change, what must I prepare with what's going to be
Unknown:required of me? What's the help, etc. Okay, second thing, now
Unknown:we're getting into it, like we have stepped into the
Unknown:transformation. And we get to practice, right, we get to
Unknown:practice the things that we are instilling. So for instance, for
Unknown:me, it was a lot of practicing mindset, practicing, I prayed.
Unknown:That's a practice. That's an action. Right. I also asked for
Unknown:help. And I worked with a hypnotherapist, and I also
Unknown:worked with a tam created a you guys remember, coached him, he
Unknown:created a great visualization for me. And like just kept
Unknown:practicing, I practiced, you know, my like, how am I doing
Unknown:all my strength? Can I lift more? How's my core? Can I
Unknown:engage it easier, right? Practicing through the process,
Unknown:also practicing moving through the house with having not having
Unknown:the knee work the way that it that it wants to work? Okay, so
Unknown:like I'm rambling a little bit here, but you get the idea. What
Unknown:are the practices that I will put into place to support me
Unknown:through the transition? And think about what you're up to?
Unknown:What could those things be? What are those things? What are those
Unknown:things? What could they be? And what's the practice that I'm
Unknown:going to put into place because practice creates progress.
Unknown:Practice creates progress, and then even through the
Unknown:transformation like right now, practicing walking in a whole
Unknown:new way. I was really, it was really interesting to me to
Unknown:learn that I have a nifty new knee. And I'm still walking
Unknown:exactly the same way I walked when I had my bum knee walking
Unknown:exactly the same way that I walked. So when my physical
Unknown:therapist sees me, or my husband sees me or a friend sees me,
Unknown:they're like, Hey, you, you're walking the way you used to
Unknown:walk. And I'm open to that, I want to know that because I
Unknown:spent so many years overcompensating and walking in
Unknown:a whole different way, that that's what that's what my body
Unknown:knows. So it's like practicing walking correctly so that my
Unknown:hips work, my ankles work my backwards, the knee is working.
Unknown:So it's like practicing a whole new way of walking, one that I
Unknown:am unfamiliar with, because it's been many years. So the third P
Unknown:is process. Now, this can be a couple of different things when
Unknown:we're talking about process. Because as you're going through
Unknown:transformation, creating the change that you want, there's a
Unknown:process to it and sometimes it's an obvious process and sometimes
Unknown:it's a process that the good old universe has put into place
Unknown:okay. I always say this trust the process, because many times
Unknown:we're gonna try to force a current, we're going to try to
Unknown:have it our way, do it this way, have it be perfect control,
Unknown:blah, blah, blah, you get where I'm going with this. Here's the
Unknown:thing, trust the process, I always say this more will get
Unknown:revealed. And when you're open to that, when you're open to
Unknown:that, here's the second thing that occurs, what am I learning
Unknown:through this process? What am I learning because the results are
Unknown:golden, but the learning is platinum. I can leverage that.
Unknown:So if I'm open to the process, and I'm trusting the process,
Unknown:okay, you're following me, more gets revealed that I can
Unknown:leverage, okay, that I can leverage. So I think the process
Unknown:the process, part of it is key in transformation. And then
Unknown:finally, our fourth P, super important. Persistence, stay
Unknown:persistent. Because on the days that you don't feel like it and
Unknown:you will have those days, persistence, and being
Unknown:persistent, will help you move through it. Okay, we'll help you
Unknown:move through it, you'll get on the other side of whatever that
Unknown:little hurdle was, whatever that struggle was, whatever, whatever
Unknown:was right there. And you'll look back at it and go, Oh, okay. All
Unknown:right. I got you. I see you, and I did it anyway. Okay. So let me
Unknown:review our four P's. And honestly, I could add so many
Unknown:piece to this, but I wanted to give you these, it's
Unknown:preparation, practice, process, persistence, okay, I'm gonna
Unknown:throw a fifth pn, I can't help it. Purpose, purpose. Here's why
Unknown:everything leads to that. Because again, on those days,
Unknown:where you got to really lean into being persistent, the thing
Unknown:that's going to help motivate you to actually stick with these
Unknown:four P's is purpose, that's the fifth P. Okay? Purpose. It's,
Unknown:it's telling you why you're doing this. It's telling you why
Unknown:it's important to you. And it will help you move through with
Unknown:so much more clarity, more motivation, and you will be so
Unknown:happy for it. Right now, when this is airing, I am eight weeks
Unknown:post op, eight weeks post op, and the knee is really working.
Unknown:It's really, really working. I'm still practicing how to walk.
Unknown:That is an interesting process, still practicing, looking at
Unknown:what works, looking what doesn't work, really capturing all the
Unknown:things that I'm learning along the way. And you know, what's so
Unknown:interesting is I'm noticing there's a different level of
Unknown:integrity, there is a different level of vibrancy. And there is
Unknown:a different level of trust. And so holding on to those four p's
Unknown:and keep and to continue to implement them. Because even
Unknown:though I'm on the other side of me one, we're working now
Unknown:towards me two, we're working with me one I'm not really on
Unknown:the other other side. But you know what I mean, the other side
Unknown:of surgery, we're still we're in the in the therapy part of it.
Unknown:So we're still working with it. And now we're working towards me
Unknown:to write. And here's the thing that I'm finding so interesting.
Unknown:Like, in my mind, I was like, Okay, once your knees are good,
Unknown:then you can exercise. Well, you know, we're doing physical
Unknown:therapy, we're exercise.
Unknown:Know what I was thinking that was gonna be, we're exercising,
Unknown:I can feel it, I can feel other parts of my body getting
Unknown:stronger. And you know what, I like it, I like it. And so guess
Unknown:what, there's no waiting leaders don't wait, we create. And so
Unknown:that was one of the mind blowing things that in the process of
Unknown:this I learned, I'm like, oh, it's not like removing the
Unknown:excuses. It's leaning into the new and doing the things that
Unknown:are going to have you be vibrant and being integrity. Okay. So, I
Unknown:had so much fun sharing those things with you. Like I said,
Unknown:there were a few things in there. I wasn't planning but
Unknown:they seemed relevant. I'd love to hear what your thoughts are
Unknown:on this, I'd love to hear about the transformations that you are
Unknown:creating. They're so important. And it really is a fascinating
Unknown:thing to to dissect these and really, like get into how to
Unknown:have this be an easier and smoother way through, even on
Unknown:the hard stuff. So remember, you have a choice to lead your life
Unknown:or follow your circumstances. Life is about knowing your
Unknown:passions, your purpose, your values, creating an impact in
Unknown:your life and the life of others and who emerges from taking the
Unknown:lead in their lives are authentic, vulnerable,
Unknown:courageous, and I'm mean for peeing five peeing. Okay, that
Unknown:sounds really funny. Using those five P's to slay through your
Unknown:transformations and your changes. It is not always going
Unknown:to look the way we think it's supposed to and we Really get to
Unknown:trust that more will be revealed as we move forward. should
Unknown:remember take those pauses let go of worrying doubt they're not
Unknown:serving you. Let them go and live fully the best version of
Unknown:you. Thank you for listening today. Next week we are going to
Unknown:talk about leveraging lessons. Oh, it's gonna be so juicy.
Unknown:Good. So thanks for listening today. I know there was great
Unknown:value for you as you move through your day and take the
Unknown:lead in your life. Have a great week ahead. And if it's not
Unknown:shaping up the way you want it to take the lead and create a
Unknown:fantastic one. Have a wonderful rest of your week. I'll see you
Unknown:next week. Take care. Thanks for listening to another episode of
Unknown:Let's be honest before we start pretending for more resources on
Unknown:taking the lead in your life, head over to Kelly J mobic.com.
Unknown:And connect with me on Instagram at coach Kelly Mobic. If this
Unknown:episode was helpful for you, please feel free to share it
Unknown:with friends rate and review it on iTunes. That's Apple podcasts
Unknown:now, and at any time feel free to connect with me and let me
Unknown:know what you want to hear next or what you're working on. I'm
Unknown:happy to help. Thanks again for listening. And here's to you