Shownotes
In this episode you'll discover the habits it takes to make a great leader.
0:01:55 Building Small Business Tips: Know Thyself
0:05:33 The Six Habits of Growth: Leadership
0:07:09 Leadership Skills for Success
0:09:08 Leadership: The Importance of Involving Others and Having Tough Conversations
0:12:39 The Importance of Challenging Others
0:14:30 The Power of Leadership: How to Raise Your Ambition and Be a Positive Influence
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ― Anais Nin
“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.” ― C. JoyBell C.
Product of the day: LevelUP membership
Building Small Business tip: Know thyself:
- To know what you want in your business/career, you first have to know where you want to go
- To know where you want to go you need to know who you are.
- To discover who you are, look at who God made you. Your likes, gifts, talents, and personality.
- DISC is an excellent tool of personality discovery.
- Get your DISC assessment through my affiliate link
Main topic: 6 Habits of Growth - Brendan Burchard
Habit #6: Leadership
- Put yourself in positions of leadership
- Can we empower others to work together toward an important vision?
- People support what they create
- Learn to enroll people into coming up with ideas
- How do I get my community involved in the process with their ideas?
- Seek collective movement forward
- Show people CUP: Compassion, Understanding, Praise
- Great leaders have the tough conversations
- Challenge people based on THEIR needs. Better yet, and them what challenge they need, or what goal would challenge and motivate them 💥
- You must summon the habit and call to leadership. Raise your ambition.
- Adopt the mindset of a role model. Ask yourself to show up in a way that you are a positive influence in other people’s lives.
- People are learning habits and mindset from you. They watch how you show up, and they feed on your energy.
- What would I do differently if I were acting as a role model for (specific person)
- You play small when you're acting only for yourself.
Question(s) of the day:
- Goals/expectations for 2023?
- What do I want from 2023?
- Is what I’m doing now serving me in my journey to what I want?
- What would I like to see change?
- What would benefit me?
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Welcome back to another episode of the Constructive Liberty Podcast. Today's Wednesday, December the 14th, 2022.
Speaker:This is episode number 128, I think. I do terrible remembering the numbers.
Speaker:I don't know why. It's all good. Today I am talking about leadership and really specifically I'm sharing my thoughts and notes,
Speaker:that I took down while listening to Brendan Burchard's Six Habits of Growth and specifically habit number six, leadership.
Speaker:I think it's a really good, like he had a lot of good things to say in that it's an audible original audio.
Speaker:So it's not a book. It's only on audio and you can only get it on audible. As far as I know, if you have an audible subscription, you can go listen to it for free. I highly, highly recommend it.
Speaker:But I'll be sharing my thoughts on that.
Speaker:Before I get into that though, I wanna share with you a couple of quotes on growth and some really good ones.
Speaker:The first one, I don't know how to say her name, Anais Ninh, I'll go with that. She's an author and or was an author.
Speaker:The picture looks rather old. I get all my quotes from like Goodreads or some other place, but she said, in the day came, when the risk to remain tight in that was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
Speaker:So if we're afraid to grow, like there comes a point in life when the risk to stay where you're at is greater,
Speaker:than the risk to move forward, to grow, to become everything that you can be, to blossom into your full potential.
Speaker:The second quote, cause I always have two at least, is from another author, C Joybell C.
Speaker:She writes all kinds of different things. I've never read any of her stuff, but I love this quote. Says, the only way that we can live is if we grow.
Speaker:The only way we can grow is if we change. The only way we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed.
Speaker:And the only way we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open.
Speaker:So do it, throw yourself. I love that. The only way you can live is growing and essentially taking a leap of faith and going out and doing the.
Speaker:At what it is that you want most of all in life. Just going out there and doing it. Like just go do the thing.
Speaker:I love those two quotes. They speak powerfully to what it takes to grow and change and build and create the life you want to live.
Speaker:Cause that's what we talk about every single week is intentionally designing the life you love to live. The lifestyle of freedom, as personal freedom, business freedom, relationship freedom, lifestyle, all around lifestyle freedom.
Speaker:Those are the things that we talk about.
Speaker:I have another segment that I'm gonna introduce maybe every single week. And that is the building small business tip.
Speaker:One of the things that I love doing in life is giving people an insight into themselves, into what it is that they love to do.
Speaker:And if they, in the process of that work, if they start their own business, that's like, wow, I love that.
Speaker:And that's what I do within my coaching business, Empowering Forward Momentum, is helping,
Speaker:especially teens and young adults, figure out what it is they love to do and either find a career in that or build a business around that.
Speaker:And building the business is by far the best way to go. So building small business tips is something that I'll be implementing each and every week. And you can also go follow my building small business TikTok channel. I'll drop that link in the show notes.
Speaker:It's not, hasn't been real active, but I'm going to start building that up, sharing tips, sharing software, sharing things that I use and things that are useful to build your small business.
Speaker:Today's tip, Oh, and you should also tune into our Monday evening live streams at 7 p.m. Central.
Speaker:I go live, sometimes I'm solo, but I try to do an interview every single week.
Speaker:This started at the beginning of November, so I've got like five or six episodes out. But talking about what it takes to grow personally and in business from a biblical perspective.
Speaker:So personal and.
Speaker:All geared towards building your own small business. I got to pause here.
Speaker:Excuse me. I had a big cough come up.
Speaker:Today's tip though for building small business is to know thyself.
Speaker:To know what you want in your business or your career, you have to know where you want to go. And to know where you want to go, You have to know who you are, right?
Speaker:So to know what you want, you've got to know where you want to end up at.
Speaker:And in order to do that, you have to know who you are.
Speaker:That way you know where to start, where you're starting from. So you start by looking at who God made you, how he made you, the interests, the talents, the gifts, the everything that God created in you.
Speaker:He gave you for a purpose. He gave it to you to utilize, to create a difference in someone else's life. And one of the best places that I like to start in that, that I recommend starting, is where the personality assessment.
Speaker:Really gives you insights into everything about you.
Speaker:They're a lot of fun to do, but they are super insightful. And disc is my preferred tool for that.
Speaker:I'll drop a link to that in the show notes as well. So you can go get your own disc assessment.
Speaker:It is an affiliate link, but it's through my, I get a small commission for the company that puts that on. So I'll drop that link in the show notes.
Speaker:There are other resources out there. If you don't wanna use my affiliate link, just type in disk assessment and you'll have hundreds.
Speaker:So that's all good there. I wanna move on to the six habits of growth. Habit number six, leadership.
Speaker:This is, like I mentioned earlier, it's an audio from audible.com, which is an Amazon company.
Speaker:Highly recommend if you have an audible subscription, go check it out. But habit number six, leadership.
Speaker:The first thing he says to build that habit, to becoming a leader, is to put yourself in positions of leadership. Like don't sit around waiting on those things to come to you.
Speaker:Go seek them out. Go find a position of leadership to insert yourself in.
Speaker:When the opportunity's there, reach out and take it. Take that position and run with it. Like do good with it.
Speaker:As a leader, it's our job to empower others to work together towards an important vision.
Speaker:Is that a strength that you have? Is that something that you have built in yourself? as something that a leader needs to work towards.
Speaker:That that is really the ultimate job of a leader, is to empower other people to work together towards an important vision.
Speaker:And one way to do that is to figure out how to get people to support what they're working on.
Speaker:And he, Brendan Burchard says that the best way to bring other people in, to bring your team members in, is to allow them to help create the thing. Like allow them to have direction in where it's going.
Speaker:See, people support what they create.
Speaker:So it's our job as leaders to learn how to enroll people into coming up with ideas.
Speaker:So you've probably come across people.
Speaker:That when you tell them an idea, when you tell them a thing,
Speaker:When you just give it to them, they don't find it as palatable. They're like, that's not such a great idea.
Speaker:But if you can, in conversation, lead them or guide them to coming up with a solution.
Speaker:Through the process and they come up with that idea that you had all along.
Speaker:They're a lot more supportive of it. So sometimes they'll come to the conclusion that you want. Sometimes they might come up with another conclusion. But the idea is to get them to help in the creation of the process. Even if you don't implement or utilize their suggestions.
Speaker:They feel like they had a voice and that they were heard and that gives them some skin in the game.
Speaker:So how can you get your community, your teammates, your workers, your family, whatever position you're in, how can you get the people around you involved in the process and sharing their ideas?
Speaker:That's the job of a leader.
Speaker:We need to seek collective movement forward.
Speaker:If we're not moving forward together as a group, as a whole, as a family, as a business, as whatever it is, as a church, as a community, it doesn't matter what it is.
Speaker:If you're not moving forward together, then you're scattered. You don't have that focused vision.
Speaker:People need to know what the vision is. We also need to show people CUP. It's an acronym, not an actual cup. It's an acronym for compassion, understanding and praise. People thrive on those three things. They need those three things in order to feel a part of it, to feel appreciated.
Speaker:They need compassion because we all make mistakes, so we need to have compassion.
Speaker:Like to be understood when I speak when I think when I say when I feel when I do I like to be understood and Then praise for so when something goes right they need to hear that praise They need to be told great job. You did good in this area, you know, you have really good effort,
Speaker:It didn't quite come out the way you intended or the way we had hoped but you did really good You tried hard you thought through it but maybe next time you can utilize what you learned.
Speaker:But compassion, understanding, and praise. Also great leaders have the tough conversations.
Speaker:Sometimes it is super difficult when we have a family member, a church member, an employee, or a coworker, or whatever position that person has.
Speaker:It can be super hard to have the tough conversations.
Speaker:Especially when you are in the leadership position because we're calling that person out on a deficiency is what it can feel like to them and what it can feel like to us.
Speaker:We are reprimanding them. We are basically, it can come across when you are the one, the...
Speaker:Recipient of the tough conversation, it can feel like you are being told you are not enough. You're not good enough.
Speaker:But on both sides of that conversation, you know, the the leader that is initiating the tough conversation needs to show compassion, understanding, and praise. And the recipient of that conversation,
Speaker:needs to understand that it's not personal.
Speaker:90% of the time it's not personal. It's not about you.
Speaker:It may be about something that happened. It may be about something you did. Maybe about something you need to change and improve. But if you can separate yourself from the cause.
Speaker:Or the reason for the conversation and say maybe this person is speaking truth. Maybe they really have something here.
Speaker:What do I need to hear from this?
Speaker:What do I need to learn from it and grow from that, maybe there's irreparable damage done in the conversation, but you can at least still take what you learned, what you heard, grow from that and move on.
Speaker:Whether it's in the same position or in another position.
Speaker:At a different company or wherever that is, you still can accept that and grow from it.
Speaker:The next thing is to challenge people based on what they need, challenge people on their needs. We all come from a different place in life. We all have different backgrounds. We have different personalities. We have different likes and dislikes.
Speaker:We have different needs in life. Each personality type, not even taking into account the background, how they were raised, their religious beliefs, their political support.
Speaker:Personality has basic needs. And if we can challenge people based on those needs, which is something that you'll learn if you take a disc assessment, you'll learn how each personality has different needs and how to challenge people or connect
Speaker:with people or talk with people or whatever based on those needs. That goes a long way. So you need to challenge people based on what they need and bring them into the conversation of the challenge that they need
Speaker:and what goal would challenge and motivate them to move forward, to become more invested in what they're doing, in the work that they're doing. What would it take to really have them be invested in that?
Speaker:I'm expecting some deliveries today, so I had to check outside to make sure that that was not a delivery driver.
Speaker:You also have to summon the call or the habit and the call to leadership. So you need to raise your ambition in those areas.
Speaker:If you are not the leader you want to be, you have to create that habit inside you.
Speaker:Raise your ambition a little bit. You can do better. You can be better. You can have better But you have to raise your ambition and you have to build that habit of leadership. It is a building is something that you can create.
Speaker:Yes, some people seem to be born natural leaders, but anybody can build the habit of leadership.
Speaker:You have to adopt the mindset of a role model and ask yourself to show up in such a way that you are a positive influence in other people's lives if you can Think about that each morning.
Speaker:How can I be a role model?
Speaker:How can I be a positive influence in someone's life today?
Speaker:How can I do that? What would it take for me to be a positive influence on somebody else?
Speaker:People, not everybody, but people are watching you. They watch how you show up and they feed on your energy.
Speaker:They're learning habits and mindset from you. So if you can think each morning,
Speaker:if specific person in your life were watching you and saw you as a role model, what would you do differently each and every day?
Speaker:What would you do differently in this situation? How would you act differently?
Speaker:What would you do and say and think and feel if you saw you as a role model?
Speaker:How would that change who you show up as in the workplace, in your family, in your community, in your church, if you were the role model for those people? and then become.
Speaker:That is how you become a leader. You adopt the mindset of a role model and you draw other people into the vision.
Speaker:You only play small when you're acting only for yourself. Or I'm sorry, you play small when you're acting only for yourself. So if you're only acting out of selfish motives or for what you can get out of it.
Speaker:You know, that's playing small. But when you can draw the team in, When you have a big vision and you can draw the team,
Speaker:in around you to work towards and to move towards the accomplishment of that vision, that's playing at a much higher level.
Speaker:Those are my thoughts when listening to Brendan Brichard's six habits of leadership or the six habits of growth, specifically habit number six on leadership.
Speaker:Go check it out. I will drop that link in the show notes. I wanna leave you today with a couple of questions.
Speaker:As we're nearing the end of the year and moving into 2023, a new year, a new beginning as it were, just some things for you to think about.
Speaker:And these are things that I go through and wrestle with and struggle with each and every December.
Speaker:And that is kind of a look back on my previous year, things that have gone well, things that haven't gone well, things that I've done, things that I wanted to accomplish and didn't get done, things that I felt could have gone better, things that exceeded my wildest expectations.
Speaker:I tried to remember those. But also looking forward to the next year, what are my goals and expectations for the coming year?
Speaker:What do I want from 2023?
Speaker:I have what do I hope I do? What do I hope I am by the end of 2023? Is what I am now serving me is,
Speaker:My expectations for the coming year does that serve the person I want to become does that serve who I want to be and then,
Speaker:What would you like to see change for the following year? That's different from the previous year and how would that benefit you?
Speaker:You. Those are just some things that I think through that I, as I write down my goals and figure out where I want to go in the coming year, those are some things
Speaker:that bring me back, that center me. One of the things that I am working on in this coming year is a membership. It's called Level Up and the habit number six,
Speaker:of leadership from the six laws of growth really calls me to level up in life. And.
Speaker:Where this came from is a desire for deeper personal and business growth and spiritual growth.
Speaker:It's a membership, but it's more a community of people that are striving for growth, Calling each other out on what they say they want to do and pushing each other forward,
Speaker:Elevating each other to achieve higher things It is part membership part mastermind. It's community. It's book study on steroids it's all of those things and,
Speaker:My idea with this membership my goal what what I plan on doing is is every member will receive a gift box each and every month.
Speaker:On the odd months of the year, they will receive a book, a study guide, and a couple other things. Those will be random things each month.
Speaker:And then on the even months, there'll be personalized gifts specifically designed to help that person grow towards their goals.
Speaker:That is where I'm taking this membership. Again, that's called level up if you want to read a little bit more about it. I'll drop a link in the show notes It's empowering forward momentum comm forward slash level up if you want to go check it out,
Speaker:Right now I'm only accepting ten people. So it is open. I have a couple of members already so if you want to join love to have you check it out reach out to me if you have any questions I.
