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Today's episode is about the importance of maintaining a healthy mental state during difficult times. Evan shares his favorite shifts in perspective, quotes, philosophies, and practices that helped him improve his mental health. Evan also emphasizes the power of gratitude and the mindset shift of viewing obstacles as opportunities for growth.

On this episode, Evan opens up about a difficult time in his life with regards to his mental health, highlighting the tools that he used to ensure that his bouts of anxiety didn't lead further down a bad path. Evan hopes that this episode provides you with some tools to help you get through tough times, and flip the hard times upside down to look at them as opportunities for growth.


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This podcast is for educational purposes only, it is not a substitute for professional care by a doctor or other qualified medical professional. Evan Roberts is not a medical professional and this podcast is provided on the understanding that it does not constitute medical or other professional advice or services. Statements and views expressed on this show are not medical advice, this podcast, including Evan Roberts and any guests on the show, disclaims responsibility for any possible adverse effects from the use of information contained in this episode. If you think you have a medical problem please consult a medical professional.


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No one is immune to difficult

times at one point in time or, or

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likely multiple points in time.

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Life will give us hardships and we're

going to go through hard times and

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the not so funny thing is that these

things typically never get easier.

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But the silver lining is that we do

get better at doing those things.

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And in today's episode, I'm actually going

to share some of my favorite shifts in

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perspective, quotes, philosophies, and

practices that I've used during difficult

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times to maintain a healthy mental state.

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So all of that and more is going

to be covered in today's episode.

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This is the elemental I've been podcast.

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I'm your host, Evan Roberts, but more

importantly, I'm someone who truly deeply

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cares about both your health and mine.

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And as someone who dealt with a lot of

gastrointestinal issues as a kid, This

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is kind of my way of paying my respects

to my younger self, because I really

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do wish I had some kind of a podcast

or a form of information like this that

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I could have used to help heal myself.

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But nonetheless, I have one

now and I'm providing it for as

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many people as I possibly can.

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So that's the goal with this podcast

is simply to break down health topics

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from a holistic and a simplified

perspective so that you can walk away

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from these episodes with some digestible

knowledge, as well as the tools that

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you can apply to your life to actually.

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Improve your health and

take control of your health.

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And, uh, yeah.

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So hopefully you walk away from

these episodes feeling empowered

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and feeling like you have some

actionable steps that you can take

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after listening to these episodes.

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Now today's episode is going to be

a little bit different than most

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episodes I used to actually do.

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Mentality Mondays, uh, back in the day.

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And I really enjoy doing the episodes.

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Actually.

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They're like some of my favorite

episodes mentality and kind

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of the stoic philosophy.

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All of that stuff is

super intriguing to me.

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So I do really love talking

about these and nonetheless.

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Our mentality, the way we view

things, our perspective on things

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is super important to our mental

health and our overall wellbeing.

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Um, truly you can.

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Completely change your day and

the way you see things, just with

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a simple, a perspective shift.

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So really they're super powerful.

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And I found a ton of benefit in really,

you know, reading a lot of these,

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um, stoic philosophies and quotes.

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A lot of it coming from Ryan holiday.

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As well as doing a lot of meditation.

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And, uh, yeah, I've just found

a lot of benefit in these.

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And so today I'm going to share some

of these tips and tricks that I've

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used in the past personally, to really

improve my mental health or rather

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just maintain a good mental health.

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So first off, I want to start off with

saying that, you know, regardless of

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what it is that you're going through,

no matter how trivial it might

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sound, um, it's all in, you know,

It's from your perspective, right.

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And what may be difficult to one person

may not be super difficult to another.

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Um, but it's not for us to compare if

you're going through something and it

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feels difficult to you, then that's okay.

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That's difficult to you.

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And it's something that needs to

be addressed by you, um, so that

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you can improve yourself and, you

know, be in a good mental state.

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So, um, I just bring that up

because there's obviously people.

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In this world who are going through super

difficult times, whether it's with war.

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You know, not literally having no food on

the table, like starvation, there's some

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really super terrible things going on.

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And so, um, that really does kind of lead

me to the first point, which is gratitude.

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But before I even jump into that, just

wanted to give a quick little backstory.

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Uh, on myself in terms of why

I kind of started using some of

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these, you know, mentality shifts

and different things like this.

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Uh, so about a year ago, there was a time

of about a year to a year and a half where

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I was mainly just really going through a

financial, a financially difficult time.

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And.

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It was just one of the times in my life

where I really started dealing with, uh,

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a little bit of anxiety and I'm typically

a very upbeat, like happy go lucky person.

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Um, so for me, when I get into

that state, um, yeah, it's,

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it's definitely not enjoyable.

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It's not the norm for me.

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Um, and so, you know, I, I wouldn't

say it got the best of me, but it was

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something that I could definitely see

if I did not bring attention to it

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and awareness to it and work on it.

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It could have led to.

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Really bad downward spiral spiral.

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Um, so I'm happy that I did work

on this and find some tools that

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I could apply to my life to, uh,

really get me out of that situation.

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And so one of the very first

ones was indeed gratitude.

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Um, I was, for those of you who don't

know, I did a 30 day straight met of

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sorry, 30 days straight of meditation.

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It was a Joe Dispenza

meditation, and it truly was.

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Like absolutely.

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Life-changing, um, doing it 30 days in a

row, but one of the really big things that

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Joe Dispenza talks about is gratitude.

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And I really, I mean, it's

such a great practice.

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I, I I've actually fallen

off of it a bit here.

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Um, in the last, um, I don't know,

so many months, I would say honestly,

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Uh, but every now and again, I do

still try to bring, uh, this awareness

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to some gratitude, whether it's

before a meal or even just waking

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up first thing in the morning.

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But nonetheless gratitude

is super, super beneficial.

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Um, if you feel like you don't have

something to be grateful for, trust me,

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there are like so many things in the world

that go right for you every single day.

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And then it's just those few

things that aren't going, right.

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That we really pay the most attention to.

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Right.

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Like you can wake up in the

morning, which first off is the

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biggest thing to be grateful for.

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Right?

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Like your eyes literally

opened this morning.

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Um, that is a miracle in of itself.

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So that's huge right there and

definitely something to be grateful for.

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But nonetheless, You know, if you

were able to wake up this morning,

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have a, a warm meal and, uh, you know,

get ready, have clothes to put on.

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Like, these are all

things to be grateful for.

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Obviously, even though they might sound

very basic, they're definitely something

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to be grateful for, but you know, it's

always like, The flat tire on the freeway.

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And it's just like, man, of

course has had to happen to me.

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Right.

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And then it totally ruined your day.

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And it's that one thing that went wrong,

even though everything else went right.

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That totally ruined your day.

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And so we really are.

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We allow these.

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You know, one simple, negative thing

to really dictate the rest of our day,

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even though everything else is going.

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Right.

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So it's super important for us to

remember that there's a lot of stuff

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that we should be grateful for.

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Right.

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And on that note, when you're grateful,

you can't experience two opposing,

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uh, emotions at the same time.

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So.

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If you're grateful.

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You can't be angry and mad at life.

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And, you know, focusing on the bad

in life, you're actually can only

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be focusing on the good things.

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And when you're truly in a state

of gratitude, it's super blissful,

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you feel great, you feel optimistic

and, um, you know, just grateful.

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I'm grateful for all that

you have in your life.

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Um, so gratitude was definitely

one of the biggest practices that

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I would do every single morning.

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And I could definitely feel a huge

shift when I would do a gratitude

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practice and with gratitude practice.

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It's also very important to

note you can't just list off

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things that you're grateful for.

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Like I'm grateful for my house.

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I'm grateful for food.

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I am grateful for, you know,

can't just list them off.

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You actually have to feel.

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Gratitude.

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You have to feel thankful

in your heart, in your body.

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You got to feel grateful for

the things that you have.

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And that is what's really going to put

you in a street, a state of gratitude.

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So really, you know, bringing

awareness to understanding that

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you truly are grateful to have the

things that you have in your life.

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So ratitude was one of the first

things that I definitely would

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implement every single morning when

I was going through hard times.

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At the time, I was taking a ton of

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And then the second thing, and

this is a really just the mentality

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shift, but it's a quote from,

I believe it's Marcus Aurelius.

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And, and Ryan holiday wrote

a great book on this as well.

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The obstacle is the way, um, and

that's pretty much the quote as well.

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The obstacle is the way or that, which

stands in the way becomes the way.

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And there's been many mornings that I

have just literally sat and meditated

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on this specific quote and topic.

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Um, Yeah, because there's so

much to be gained from it.

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So another way to kind of phrase

this or that I've heard it

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phrased is I don't have problems.

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I have puzzles, which, you know,

pretty much just means the same thing,

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but a different way of reframing it.

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And it really is the truth, right.

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That which is giving us the

most difficulty in life.

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The thing that we're probably

avoiding the most as well, or we

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have the most resistance towards.

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Is the thing that's actually

probably the most beneficial for us.

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It's probably the thing that's

going to catapult us forward and,

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uh, really, you know, give us the

tools that we need to be better, a

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better version of ourselves in life.

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And when I was able to finally.

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Figure out this mindset shift

of recognizing that, you know,

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all the things that I was having

resistance towards in my life.

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Were the things that I

actually needed to work on.

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Right.

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And those are the things that

are typically the most scary.

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They're the things that we don't want to

do, and that we try to avoid at all costs.

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But at the end of the day,

they're actually the things that

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are the most beneficial for us.

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And it's funny cause it's, you

know, we have the most resistance we

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fight against it, but it's like a.

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Uh, Aero being pulled

back in a bow, right?

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You're being pulled back.

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You're being pulled back all this

resistance, but then once you finally

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give in and put in the work and become

better at that point in your life or that

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area of your life, that you're lacking,

that's typically when the arrow is

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released and it just launches us forward.

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So instead of fighting.

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The difficulties in our life, the things

that are giving us the most uncomfortable.

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Uh, feelings, right?

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The most uncomfortable

things in our lives.

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Those are probably the things that

we actually need to be leaning into.

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So for me, it was finances and

it was difficult because, you

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know, you have to also look at.

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You know, you have to take a very.

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You have to take a very sober look at

the situation of life that you're in.

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Now, of course, there are circumstances

outside of our control that.

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Can put us in a really tough and not

fun situation, but a lot of the times we

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actually have done things in our past that

have led us to where we're at currently.

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So it is very important for us to

actually take, uh, you know, a wide

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view of, of our lives and kind of

how we've gotten to where we're at.

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And really analyze the steps that we've

taken that have brought us where we're at.

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And so for me, since it was

finances, I had to evaluate what

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have I done financially that

had gotten me to where I'm at.

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And so really understanding those

things and understanding that.

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Those were the areas, uh,

that I needed to work on.

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Right.

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So that I wouldn't repeat those things

in the future because I had to learn from

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this uncomfortable, this pain, right?

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Like these, these situations where

I was just so tired of it, like, why

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is this happening to me kind of deal.

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But understanding that no,

this is not happening to you.

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It's happening for you.

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And this is something that you can

learn from, and you can truly take

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things from this situation is.

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It is everything in life

can be a lesson, right?

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It's a test.

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And so, um, if we can lean into

these uncomfortable things, We're

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going to just ultimately equip our

tool belt at the end of the day.

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So instead of.

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You know, recognizing these areas.

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Uncomfortability in our lives and

trying to avoid them or resist

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them or all these different things.

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We really should be leaning into those

because once we lean into them and

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fully surrender and just be the best

that we possibly can in those areas of

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our life, that we're really lacking.

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That's where we're going to

make ourselves the best version

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of ourselves possible because.

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Once again, things in life

don't really get easier.

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We just get better at doing them.

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It's pretty much true with everything.

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If you think about literally learning

to walk and talk and, um, you know,

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ride a bike, like it's not necessarily

that those things got easier.

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You just got a lot better at doing them.

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You develop the muscles and, you

know, built up the muscles, you have

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the correct, you know, development

and the ligaments and the tendons

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and bone structures and all this.

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And, you know, it was because you were

walking and constantly practicing it that

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you finally got good at doing that thing.

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And so it's literally with everything in

life, the areas that were not very good

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in life, the areas that are giving us.

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Trouble difficulty.

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They're uncomfortable.

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Those are the areas that we

just need more practicing.

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We need to go and we

need to be relentless.

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We need to work hard in those areas.

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And ultimately we're going to

come out the other side better.

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So really my goal for you with this

podcast episode is if you're going through

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a difficult time or you're dealing with.

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Um, some anxiety and all

these different things.

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It's very important for you to

first off, you need to identify

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the areas of your life that are

making you uncomfortable, right?

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Because that is something that, uh,

can be difficult to do at first.

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You might be experiencing, um,

you know, depression or whatever

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it might be, but it's very hard

to actually identify what it is.

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That's kind of the root or the cause of.

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This uncomfortability in your life.

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So we first have to really identify that.

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And once we're able to identify it.

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Then we really have to be.

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Upfront with ourselves.

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We have to, you know, look at

ourselves and see, okay, what

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is it that I'm doing wrong?

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Why are we in this situation?

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You know, what are the things that I

could've done better and really just

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take that sober, look and understand

that whatever the difficulty is

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that you're facing in life today.

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Is just an opportunity for you to

learn and to get better at that thing.

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And I know it's easier said than done,

but truly just that mindset shift.

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If you can actually tap into that and feel

that mindset shift of this isn't happening

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to me, but it's happening for me.

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What is this moment in my

life meant to teach me?

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What does it meant to teach me?

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And if you can look at your obstacles in

that light, if you can look at it as a

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teacher, as a lesson, And an opportunity

for you to get better and to grow.

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It's going to change

everything completely.

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Right?

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You're now taking the

power into your hands.

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You're taking responsibility for

your life and for your situation.

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And now you're also taking responsibility

for the steps moving forward.

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So.

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If you can really grasp that, which,

like I said, it took me awhile.

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I truthfully spent a lot of time just

thinking about this and, and trying to

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apply it to my life and see how I can.

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You know, make it work for me.

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And, , when I finally did, when I was

finally able to just understand that look.

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Areas that you're like avoiding and

you know, like annoyed about, and

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you're so mad and you're just like,

oh, like, why does this happen to me?

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Uh, once I was finally able to identify

those and just take a sober, look at

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it and to look at it as something that.

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Is some, it's something that's

trying to teach me a lesson.

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Um, man, that was the biggest

mindset shift for me possible.

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And it's truthfully actually

really helped me with, , all of my.

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Yeah, kind of my mental health.

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It really helped me to just have this

positive outlook on life and to not feel

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like, you know, life was attacking me, but

rather it was trying to teach me something

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and help me to be better in life.

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So.

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Um, Yeah, I don't know.

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I found a ton of benefit

in that and my mind.

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, just felt more at ease.

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Whenever I did start to get that

feeling of like, oh man, like, you know,

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starting to get just super worried.

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All the time and just feeling bad in

my body and in my mind constantly.

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Then I would come back to that and

really just ask myself, Evan, hold on.

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This is a moment in

time that you can learn.

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And you can really grow from this.

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So what is it that this

moment is trying to teach me?

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And then I would just go from

there and, uh, you know, we

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have to take the steps as well.

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We have to do the things in

life that are going to get us

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better at whatever that is.

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So for me, for example, with finances,

it was, you know, really taking a

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look at what my finances looked like,

getting a financial, , planning,

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journal, you know, writing things

down, , reading books on finances,

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all of these different things, right.

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We have to take the steps as well, uh, to.

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Get better at those things.

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But, uh, also another thing that's very

important to remember is if you are

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going through a difficult time, just also

understand that it's temporary, right?

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Like everything in life is temporary.

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We have ups and we have downs

and you know, they come and go.

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And so we have to.

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You know, remain humble when we're

doing well, but we also have to

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remember when we're not doing

so well that it's not forever.

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So if you are going through a

difficult time, that's also something

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that's so beneficial to remember.

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that as well, myself, where it was

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just like, if you're going through

a difficult time, Just remember that

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it's not forever, things will change.

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And then in those uncomfortable times

they can be some of our greatest

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teachers and we can have literally

some of the biggest growth in our lives

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possible during those difficult times.

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So anyways, that is going to

do it for today's episode.

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I hope you enjoyed this.

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Well, it's not really a mentality

Monday episode, but nonetheless.

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Um, I'll just call it a mentality episode.

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Um, and hopefully.

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You are able to walk away with some

of these tools, which just as a quick

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recap, number one, definitely try

to find gratitude every single day.

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Uh, it doesn't take long, but remember

you do have to feel the gratitude.

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You can't just list things off.

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You actually have to feel gratitude.

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Um, and then number two is just

going to be the mindset shift of.

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Looking at things not as obstacles, right.

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Or difficulties or challenges, but

looking at them as a puzzle or an

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opportunity to grow or to get better.

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It's a lesson.

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We can look at things in life.

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Like what is this moment in my life

trying to teach me, what can I take

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away from this so that I can get

better in life because remember.

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Things don't get easier.

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We just get better at doing those things.

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And then last but not least

number three is just going to

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be not everything is forever.

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So if you're in.

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A time that is difficult in your life.

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Just remember.

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It's not forever.

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It's going to pass.

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And eventually things are

going to get much better.

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And when things are really good,

remember to stay humble and to

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remember that life is cyclical.

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You know, there are ups and downs

and, um, yeah, just, uh, just

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stay humble in the good times and

remember that if it's a bad time.

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Things will get better.

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So hopefully this brought

you some peace of mind.

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Hopefully there is some tools that

you can apply to your life as well.

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Um, even if you're not going through

a difficult time in your life, still

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keep these in your back pocket.

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Because it can really come in handy.

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Uh, when you need them.

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They've definitely helped

me out so, so much.

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Uh, last year in, yeah.

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In so many ways that I, yeah, I

can't even can't even mention them.

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Um, or I guess I'm not ready to

mention them yet, but nonetheless, they

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were super beneficial and, uh, yeah.

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So anyways, I hope you guys

really enjoy today's episode.

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Um, as always, if you're not

already subscribed on whatever

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platform you're listening to this

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It really helps people to find

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And if you haven't already left

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So I do read all of the reviews

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Uh, so we can help spread this message.

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And if you know anyone who could benefit

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go ahead and send this over to them.

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Super easy to do it in all of the

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do it like right from the page

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And last but not least.

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If you haven't already checked out

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please go ahead and check out

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There's some really, really

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And of course, internally grateful

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have a beautiful rest of your day.

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Um, and I will see you on next Wednesday.

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Till then I hope you.

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Yeah.

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Use these tools and find

some benefit from them.

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Um, find some clarity and

lean into the discomfort.

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And of course, as always do

everything with good intentions

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and connect to your elements.

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RDL much love, have a beautiful one.

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Peace.

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