In this episode of Your Ultimate Life, guest Wendy Feldman shares her inspiring journey of resilience and self-discovery after facing near-death experiences and personal hardships, including a divorce. She emphasizes the importance of embracing discomfort as a pathway to growth and authenticity. Through her experiences, Wendy has learned that true fulfillment comes from being one’s authentic self, regardless of the judgment of others. She encourages listeners to recognize their unique gifts and to share them with the world, asserting that everyone has something valuable to contribute. This conversation is a powerful reminder that facing challenges can lead to profound personal transformation and a deeper connection with ourselves and others.

Wendy Feldman’s powerful story of resilience and self-discovery takes center stage in a thought-provoking podcast episode that challenges listeners to confront their fears and embrace their authentic selves. Kellen and Wendy engage in a heartfelt discussion about the significance of authenticity in today’s world, especially in the face of societal expectations. Wendy’s personal experiences, including her life-threatening accidents and subsequent recovery, serve as a backdrop for her insights into the fragility of life and the importance of prioritizing what truly matters. She articulates how her near-death experiences have imparted a profound understanding of the transient nature of life, urging listeners to shed their fears and live fully.

Wendy candidly discusses the transformative journey following her divorce, illustrating how adversity can catalyze profound change. She emphasizes the necessity of setting boundaries and the liberation from distancing oneself from toxic relationships. Kellen and Wendy advocate for self-love and self-validation, reinforcing that true happiness stems from within. This podcast segment is particularly resonant for individuals who struggle with people-pleasing tendencies, as Wendy shares her mantra of saying no to others when it means saying yes to oneself. The duo underscores the importance of recognizing and nurturing relationships that foster growth, encouraging listeners to seek out connections that uplift and inspire them.

Towards the conclusion, Wendy’s enthusiasm for helping others shines through as she discusses her work in wellness coaching. She shares her vision of creating a supportive community where individuals can explore their gifts and overcome their fears. Kellen reinforces this message, urging listeners to reflect on their unique contributions to the world. The episode wraps up with an empowering call to action, inspiring everyone to recognize their inherent worth and the impact they can have by simply being their true selves. This episode is a compelling reminder that we can all create lives filled with purpose and joy through authenticity, resilience, and self-love.

Takeaways:

• Embracing discomfort is essential for growth, enabling you to push through challenges and transform your life.
• It's crucial to stop seeking validation from others and instead find it within yourself.
• Living authentically means letting go of fears regarding what others think about you.
• Building resilience comes from experiences that teach you to be comfortable with discomfort.
• The journey of self-discovery often involves removing toxic people from your life.
• You can face everything and rise, overcoming fear rather than running from it.

Links referenced in this episode:

• wendyfeldmanwellness.com
• wendyfeldman_underscore_wellness
• linkedin.com/in/wendyfeldman
• tiktok.com/@wendyfeldman

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Hello, and welcome to this episode of youf Ultimate Life, the podcast committed to helping you create a life of purpose, prosperity and joy.

And I'm stoked today to have a fabulous guest, Wendy Feldman.

Wendy, welcome to the show.

Ah, thank you, thank you.

I'm super excited to be here with you today.

Kellen, you are so welcome.

And I'm grateful that I'm grateful for who you're being and the work you're doing and how you're creating things in the world.

So I'm not going to give an introduction.

I'm going to allow people to get to know your beauty, your grace, your passion as we go along.

And the first thing I want to ask you is without being any holding anything back or trying to be modest or anything, I want people to know and I want to know how is Wendy adding good to the world?

Thank you.

Oh, gosh, that is kind of a loaded.

That's.

Here we go.

Do you have.

How much time do you have?

We've got a half an hour.

Do we have all day?

Because, you know.

No, no, no.

You know, I love that I've been through as you.

I have died.

And that's how you and I started talking.

You know, I've died three times.

Well, come close to death, let's say.

I don't want to say I've died because I'm right here today, but I have come close to death three times in the.

Over the period of the last eight years, or let's say 10 years now.

And through all of that, I so realized.

I so realized what was really important in life and what really mattered.

And I've had to go through a lot of hurt, a lot of pain, physical, emotional.

Through that came.

There was a divorce in the middle of that.

And a lot of different things happened.

And through every little bit that I went through, I realized it doesn't matter about the small stuff.

And you and I have talked about this before, about what other people think, and your WITOT theory comes into play big time.

You know what I think others think, and I really resonate with that because I used to live my life so worried about what are people going to think?

What if?

What if.

And that held me back from so.

From doing so many things and from being my true authentic self.

So I Guess to answer your question, what I'm doing to bring good into the world is to let other people know that you can be your true, authentic self and it's okay.

And what other people think, it doesn't matter.

And the people that love you and the people.

People that support you will always be there and you.

Like attracts like.

So I want to share that message because for so many years of my Life, for almost 50 years of my life, I don't think I felt that way.

And I was afraid to be my authentic self and for what I thought people were going to think about my authentic self.

And that wasn't a.

Did not feel good to live that way.

Didn't feel good.

You know, you said the people that love you will always be there when you choose or someone chooses to be their authentic self and, you know, be different than they've been being.

Is it possible that the people that you thought loved you or ought to love you would run screaming for the hills and want nothing to do with you?

And if that happens, like, what do you do?

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

It's people that we think.

Because, of course, there were people in my world that when I got divorced, I thought they were close to me and they weren't there.

And that's.

And I.

And you've talked about this in POD in some of your fear podcasts, which I'm really loving the series, is that we can blame.

I can say, okay, well, I could blame them and say, well, they weren't there for me, but I have to take ownership, right?

I take ownership of myself.

So what how other people respond, that's on.

That's on them.

I can only control what I can control.

Right?

So how people act, it's how we react to that, Right.

How we react to their actions.

We can't control other people, what they think about this, what they're going to say about us, we can't control that people will do what they're going to do.

We can control how we respond and how we let it affect us.

And that was a big thing that I learned is I have the control over that.

I can spiral out of control or I can just move on my own way.

And so I guess I say, when I.

The people that love you will support you.

It's the people that you connect with that believe in you, that believe in you, who you are, that love you for your authentic self.

Those were the people that I'm referring to.

Is that.

Did I make.

That makes perfect sense.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So let's talk a little Bit about that.

You're right, I can't.

You can't.

We don't have anything to do.

Like other people feel whatever they feel and they feel that and it makes perfect sense to them because they're wherever they are on their journey of life and so they then hate you or me or whoever or avoid, you know, change because that's the lens that they look through.

And so then they're, they're out of your life.

And then you attract new relationships, people, conditions into your life.

I have a question that just popped in my mind as you said that.

So if people that you thought should love you, family, friends, whatever, and then they distance themselves or get scarce or openly become hostile as you, as you choose the path to live on and how you express yourself in the world, is it possible that can hurt?

Is it possible in your mind to get to a place where you just love them anyway and let them be where they are after the fact that they hurt you?

Like what.

What happens then?

Yeah.

Yes, that's a really, really great question.

I do believe that.

I do believe that.

Now, obviously there's different levels of hurt, okay, so we, you know, people are.

Everyone's gonna.

Every situation is going to be different for every human on the planet and it depends on their own level of what and what hur to them.

But I do believe, yes, I do believe that we accept we can learn because we learn in life, we learn to adapt.

And that's one of the big things that I work on as being a health and wellness coach that I work with my clients is some things we can't change.

And people don't really change, you know, they really don't.

But we adapt.

We learn to adapt.

And so when people, when we have, let's say, whether it's family, friends, da da da, that maybe have hurt us or that maybe we've hurt them, I mean, you know, it goes both ways, right?

That maybe we.

And da da da.

So we have to then adapt and we hope that other people.

I hope that other people will adapt as well, that know that.

And it becomes, I think, one of the things that bubbles up when I, as I say this to you, it's about judgment and about, you know, people are fear of being judged.

There's a lot of judgment going on.

People judge all the time.

And that's one, one of my.

That's a big trigger for me because I used to, I was very judgmental and I'm so not now.

And so I let people do their thing and if they're going to be.

Go do it.

Have at it.

Like, that's fine.

That's good.

Because it's on them.

If it, you know, I can, I can either remove myself.

I can either say, that doesn't work for me anymore.

I set those boundaries.

It's all about.

And I never could do that, Kellen.

I never knew how to do that.

I'm such a people pleaser.

I was so afraid to disappoint people, and I didn't want to say no.

And that was not healthy.

It was not good.

You know, that was not good.

If you, if you get.

And I know you're talking to a lot of people right now that are listening.

If you who are a people pleaser, meaning you got your energy and value and validation from seeing that what you did or said made somebody else happy.

And so we're pleasing people.

When you stop doing that and begin setting boundaries, then you no longer meet their expectations, so you no longer have that source of personal validation.

So there's two questions in here.

One is, how do you deal with the reaction of others who you now no longer people please because you set boundaries?

And the second is, where do you then get your validation or feeling of worth that you used to get from making people happy?

So what do you do with their how dare you reaction if that happens?

And then where do you go get the truth of your own value in the new.

In a new way?

That is two great questions.

So.

And I.

And I'll tell you my.

I'll tell you my take on it.

And I'd love to know your take on it as well, too.

Well, you're.

You're.

This is you.

Your take is all there.

I mean, yes, I'll share, but so please.

I really feel like.

Because when you're so conditioned to.

From growing up, from being a little kid, to always looking for approval, to looking for approval, to getting people to say yes to da, da, da, to not wanting to say no, to not wanting to disappoint to people, please.

You're so conditioned to that.

It becomes.

It's just part of you, right?

It was part of me.

It's like.

But when I.

So I started writing this, I started this little mantra and I wrote down this thing on a piece of paper one day, and I decorated it and I colored it, made it look really pretty.

And it was eight years ago, seven years ago that I did this.

And it's still sitting.

I have it sitting in my bathroom and I look at it every day.

And it's basically a mantra.

That means that I said I'm going to stop saying yes to others when it means saying no to myself, and that I will be okay if I say no and it may disappoint someone, quote, and I say disappoint, I will be okay with that.

And it will not stop me from doing what I want to do because I'm afraid of disappointing.

And I wrote that out in.

In, you know, in my own little words.

And like I said, I kind of colored it and made it just, you know, and it was this very therapeutic.

It was a very therapeutic exercise I did because I look, it's there every day as a reminder.

And so when you ask me now, so that was one big step I took by saying no, I'm going to.

If it.

If it means saying no to myself, I'm not going to say yes to others.

And so that was tough.

That was a big.

So that was number one.

But the second part, when you ask the question as, where do you get that validation?

I have to.

I get.

Give it to myself.

I give it to myself whether it's outside.

When I, you know, I was a huge road cyclist.

I think we talked about this and two of my near deaths were on my.

On my road bike.

So I gave that up.

And that was very challenging for me because that was where I got a lot of my own validation because I was very.

I was very good on the bike, very good cyclist, very fast, successful, and I was fearless.

And that was the one place in my world where I could be me.

I could be me.

And I rode for miles and ever and loved it.

And that had.

It was taken away from me from.

Because of the two accidents that I had and, you know, two traumatic brain injuries.

And that was.

That was it.

That was it.

The doctor said, no more your head again.

And that's it.

And my kids and said, mom, please.

And so I did.

I saw.

I was like, no more bike.

So I'm off.

But I got a peloton and I became a spin instructor.

And so I kind of flip that into, you know, how can I.

How can I use it?

And when I get on and that.

And I give myself the validation, it's we.

You find it in yourself, Colin.

You find it because we all have it.

We all have our own special gift.

Everyone has it and it's being.

How to tap into that which is really challenging when you can tap into your own gift and realize you have a gift and she has a gift and he has a gift and they have a gift.

Everyone has Their own gift, then I'm not threatened by that anymore.

I'm not threatened by other people's.

I have my own.

And if you want to love me for that and you like my gift and you want to hear about my gifts and you want to find your own, great, awesome, talk to me, work with me.

And if not, that's okay too.

That's okay too.

So I just absolutely love that and I want to just agree in specifics for the listeners benefit.

Here you listening.

You have a gift and you may be hearing it and look at her, look at me or somebody else, you know, and think, oh, I wish I was like them.

No, you don't.

What, what you do is you wish you could find your gifts and your own validation in yourself, just like she said, because it's there.

And your willingness to explore and to accept and to truly begin to love yourself.

I love the fact that that's in the bathroom.

One of the things I just did an episode on that'll be out in a while by myself was I, it was like a question, what's on your mirror?

And I talked about writing phrases on your mirror and I use like a dry erase marker, right.

And write them there to see, to live into and to sort of chew on every day that have to do with self love and validation and accepting those gifts.

And so my take is you're exactly right.

Every single person has gifts and to the extent you're willing to accept them, to value them yourself and then to share them, you do create that validation and you realize that between your, the gifts you were given by your creator, like you have them.

And our happiest time is when we're in love and service using those things that we were given.

So that's fabulous.

Absolutely.

And sharing it.

And, and I think when you talk about gifts, you know, one of the things that one of my, one of my careers because after, after I got divorced eight, nine years ago, I had to recreate myself.

And at age 51 years old, it was like 52 years old.

I'm 61 now.

It was how I never thought I'd be in this position.

You know, I'm like Now I've got three kids, my three amazing children who are in their 20s now.

How am I going to do this?

You know, I was pretty much a stay at home mom and I volunteered and did a lot of little things and I had little projects.

But now how am I going to recreate myself?

And that was when I needed to really dig deep.

And it was not always Easy.

And I made mistakes along the way.

So, you know, no, no, there is no perfect.

And it's the mistakes.

It's how we deal.

We learn from them.

Not beat ourselves up.

We not beat our.

You know, I would beat myself up.

Like, why did I do that?

Why do you do that?

I was so dumb.

And no, no, because we try.

You're trying.

Just making the effort.

Honestly, I feel like making an effort sometimes that is good enough.

Like, you're trying.

We're out there.

It's better than doing nothing.

And I say that again with clients when they're talking about things they want to change.

Make.

Just make the attempt.

Because often just that attempt to get over that break, that break that little, you know, that barrier, get over that little hump to make that attempt.

Then you get yourself going.

You're like, I can do it, I can do it.

It's baby steps, one step at a time.

So it's like your goals, you know, making.

We make goals that are too big.

It's hard to achieve.

Make small steps, little steps, little steps.

And celebrate the win, celebrate the accomplishments.

Like, hey, I did that.

I did that one little thing.

You're like, okay, did it.

I feel good.

And then.

And then you start to.

And you build that confidence about it.

I love that.

And I would agree with you 100% in the attempt.

You have already won, so you made the attempt and that's it.

I don't care if you had a thought in your mind, I'm going to make this attempt and suddenly I'll be on top of Mount Everest.

And then you find yourself flat in your face at the bottom.

Okay, you still made the attempt, and that by itself is a win.

The loss would be.

And therefore I'm not going to try again.

If the next step is, well, I better get ready and figure out what made me trip here, down here, and I am eating snow.

Let's start over.

What else can I do?

You're already a winner.

Every single person breathing air does that.

So when you recreated yourself, like, okay, you recreated yourself and you said, and it's funny, you said you had this.

All these difficulties and the divorce was in the middle of them.

And there it is, an example of a relationship that maybe you thought you could depend on.

Crashed and burned for whatever reason, and then you find yourself with another mess to clean up.

You have to recreate yourself and figuring out lots of stuff.

So what happened?

Where did you find the resilience, the creativity and the power to do that in the midst of, you know, Those kinds of struggles.

So how I found that and where I found that was a lot in what I learned from when I had my bike crashes, when I had my first crash.

And you've been through these things that are traumatic.

I was in the hospital for seven days, and I was on a morphine drip for five days, and da, da, da.

And when you've got a rehab from that, broken bones and traumatic, severe traumatic brain injury where you can't be in a room with light or sound or anything for weeks, right.

You have to train your body to get comfortable being uncomfortable.

And I learned that actually when I was cycling with someone.

One time we used to cycle this mountain that was 4, 000ft.

And we would do it a couple times a week.

And it was tough.

I mean, it was hard, that one part.

And I remember someone saying, this is when you got to learn to be.

You get comfortable being uncomfortable.

And I've taken that with me.

That has stuck with me.

And I.

And I'm also a fitness instructor, so I teach bar classes.

I've been teaching for 15 years.

I love that.

I love helping people.

I love teaching, love educating, love having fun.

But that's one thing I say to my clients all the time.

When it's.

When you're in that part, it's like, embrace the discomfort.

And when I was lying in a hospital bed a few years ago from another fall, another.

Not a bike fall, but another mishap, surgical mishap, and had two lung surgeries and they thought I was going to die then.

It was painful.

Painful.

I couldn't breathe.

For 10 days, I could not breathe.

I was on a ventilator.

It was.

It was horrible.

But I remember the times I was awake when I was not on the medic.

You know, I was waking up.

It was like, embrace this discomfort because it's not going to last forever.

I can get through this.

It was the same.

And you.

I can take that pain.

Whether it's.

Whether you're in a hospital bed or whether you're in a.

In a.

You're.

You're at a.

In an event where you don't know anybody and you walk in and you're like, I don't know anyone here.

And it's uncomfortable.

Embrace the discomfort.

Because when you can get comfortable being uncomfortable in any situation, you're on a stage, if you're, da, da, da, whatever, you're in a.

You're in a meeting, you're.

And you're starting to feel uncomfortable, breathe into it.

And that's what I Had to do.

And when I was uncomfortable with friend, with people not being included into parties, that we used to go to social events, and I knew people were having events.

And you get divorced all of a sudden, you know, maybe you're not included in things, and there's.

It's uncomfortable.

It's uncomfortable.

And you embrace it, and you find other.

You adapt.

You find other things to get you through.

And whether it's lying in a hospital bed trying to think about things or soothe my mind or soothe my brain, or listening to meditative tapes, whatever it is, you find ways to embrace discomfort.

And it's a huge message for me is that because when you can, and I know you like a cold plunge or da, da, da, I started doing that.

Kellen, I don't do the cold plunge.

I'm not.

I'm not there yet.

I'm like.

That is like, you are my hero.

There is no way but what I have started doing.

Maybe you'll appreciate this.

At the very end of my shower every morning, I turn that thing down so it's cold.

And I stand there because I also know it's very good for your skin, it's very good for your body to do the cold.

And I embrace the discomfort.

And that kicks off my day because it's like, you can get through this.

You tell you.

And it's hard you get through, but you can get through the discomfort.

And that has been huge for me.

That's been huge.

So I hope that answered your question.

It does.

And I want to just underline it, agree with it, and emphasize it.

If you, as a listener, whether you are trying to write a book, you're trying to deal with a crappy boss, you're having trouble in your relationship, whether you've got a physical thing, whether you want to lose weight and you've tried 47 times and you can't, whether you're thinking about starting a business, whether you're having trouble with a kid or something, it doesn't matter.

Because when you're.

When something happens to you outside of your control, somebody or something happens, we have two choices.

We can be resigned and say, ugh, I'm defeated.

Or we can say, this hurts.

I'm going to figure out what to do with it and do exactly what she said, which is accept Wendy's teaching.

Embrace it.

This is what.

Is.

What awesomeness can I create out of this mess?

And if the awesomeness is just relax for a minute and get through it.

That's enough awesomeness.

And maybe the next time is get through it a little bit better or a little bit faster.

And then you can start with the creative thought, what actually can I create out of this mess?

So you've had these near death experiences and life threatening things, you've had a divorce, you've had to recreate yourself and you've got comfortable being uncomfortable and you have then created something out of that perceived mess.

So tell us about what you're doing now.

What are you creating and have you created about yourself with yourself in terms of how you express yourself, that authenticity, what you teach, what you share?

Tell us.

Yeah, yeah.

So it's, I'm embracing discomfort here because one of the things I am doing is I'm putting myself out there doing more, more reels.

So, you know, doing the videos and doing those and add and giving my little bit, having it's content, right?

I'm doing more content creation.

And that is uncomfortable for me because that is not natural.

Even though I can go teach a class and have, you know, anywhere from 10 to 23 people in a class and I've been doing it and it's like I can just do it and I love it.

And the minute I can do it in the back of my head, you could put any playlist on and I'm going to teach a class.

So comfortable when it comes to filming myself or you know, even for 90 seconds and then having to put it out there to the world.

Because now I'm putting it out there into the universe and putting it up on social media.

So it's going out.

The Internet is forever, right?

Forever.

And it's like, what do we say?

I think maybe we talked when I talked to you about this before.

I think it's like it's opening that kimono.

I'm saying I'm leaving myself vulnerable to what people may say.

You leave yourself vulnerable to.

Are they going to laugh at it?

Are they going to say that?

Maybe they will, maybe they will, maybe they'll say, oh my God.

But that's okay because at the same time that's happening, I have other people reaching out to me and saying, I love what you're doing, I love your content.

And I go like, really?

You know, and they like, I love it.

And they're like so much that I have someone who I think might want to work with you.

And that it's.

If I get a few of those great.

Because that if I can change one person's life, that's what I feel.

And I feel that and I know I've done that with my in my teaching, in my classes, because I know how people feel when they tell me after.

And.

And I don't.

I don't look like, oh, look at me, look at me.

Because that's not it, Kellen.

I'm very.

That's not it at all.

But I've had to come through a lot, and I know a lot of people have gone through way, way harder things than me and way worse things than me.

So I'm not putting.

Saying I'm.

I've gone through this and, wow, I'm like the.

You know, no, we all have our own struggles.

But it's like you said, how do you deal with it?

So what I'm doing now is I'm doing more and more to put myself out there, to get out of obscurity, to.

If one person hears it and it's.

And it helps them and saves them from really spiraling into a hole, then I've done my job.

And then I want it to keep going.

So I want to do more of those.

I love being on podcast, so thank you so much for having me on your podcast.

I want to do more.

I'd love to be able to speak.

I am doing workshops, so I do different types of things, and it's little steps, you know, right now, that's where I'm at.

And so I'm hoping that each thing will.

It will.

You know, it'll snowball.

So I'm going to give you a phrase, and you might use it when you help your clients, too.

When people talk about that obscurity and wanting to do more and be more, and people have a natural fear.

I've owned a recording studio for 40 years, and vocalists always say when they hear themselves sing for the first time, I don't sound like that.

And it's.

They do.

And the reason we don't think we do is because when we hear ourselves, half the sound is through our own bone conduction, and other people hear us through the air.

And so when you hear yourself on a recording, that's actually what you sound like, and the rest of it is not.

But anyway, here's the message.

We have to insert a message in the marketplace.

So just save that phrase.

I'm inserting a message in the marketplace.

Here you are.

You're inserting a message in the marketplace that all my podcast listeners and YouTube channel and yours and everybody is going to hear.

And when you teach your clients something, you're teaching it for them.

And then if it changes their life, even in a small way, their life, inserts that message into the marketplace.

It's not just about when you're selling, it's who you're being and who I'm being and you're being every single minute.

We're inserting a message in the world.

But I always say in the marketplace, because when you're thinking about business and growing and coaching and everything else, you really are.

Excuse me, you're inserting a message in the marketplace.

So that's all.

And when you get ready to do a reel or whatever, just say, what message do I want to insert in the marketplace?

What is it?

That.

Yeah.

And then insert the message in the marketplace.

I love it.

I've got the Kellen going in my brain.

All your energy is like, I love it.

It's just you do.

You bounce off.

You bounce off the screen, you know, and.

And I wanna.

If.

If I can.

Can I go back to one thing you.

You asked a little earlier as you were saying, insert the mark, insert the message.

You talked about, like, kind of talking about jealousy.

You're, you know, wanting.

Wanting to be like others or saying, oh, I want to do that.

And there was a time when I have to say, when I.

I felt like that, like, you want that or you envy or blah, blah, blah.

And a few years ago, my.

One of my daughters.

I have three kids.

I have two sons and a daughter.

And one of my kids and I, we were out on a hike, and one of them asked me, they said, are you jealous of anyone?

And I said, no, you know, I'm really not.

And it wasn't like I just flat off, I just said, no.

I just thought, no, I'm really not.

So come on, mom, there's.

I said, no, actually, I have to tell you, I said, life has really changed for me.

I said, because I Look at me now and I know what I have gone through, and I know what I came through.

And nobody knows like you, unless you've been through it.

When you've had to lie in a hospital bed for two weeks and not.

And lying there when no one's in the room and the pain and the nurse won't come in and you're pushing the button and you're in such pain and you're crying and you don't have anyone there with you, no one knows that fear, that pain.

And when you can get through that and realize how strong you need to be to get through that and how resilient to get through that.

After all that, I'm like, I know what I'm worth.

I know what I've got in me and I, I have downsized my life.

I have removed not just physical things out of my life, but I've removed certain, you know, there's, there's people that we move and we move out of our lives and we have to take that out because that has been freeing to me.

And if, if it was someone, let's say, oh, yeah, I was envious or maybe then that's.

Then I don't think that's a healthy relationship.

So then maybe I need to remove or whatever that is.

And I'm just saying in general terms, I'm very happy with who I am right now.

I am very secure and I love what I can then offer other people.

And I just want.

There's so many people in the world that I want to be able to have feel that same way because I know that people have been in my shoes.

I, I know that.

We know that.

And I would love to be able to help people to realize you, yourself, as we said, we all have.

Every humanist planet is a divine being and has a gift to share.

It's there.

It is, it is.

And I agree with you completely.

And you know, when you make a change and you might remove someone from your life, everything is just for now.

Like right now in this circumstance with what's going on, I got to do this thing.

And they can get pissed off or do whatever they're going to do, that's fine, or they can talk bad about you and what other people think of you is none of your business.

Our goal is to develop everything that we have and can be and then insert it in the marketplace.

Whether it's just for love or for money or for both.

I want to give you right now the chance to tell everybody exactly where to find you, where to follow you.

Where can we see these reels of the messages you're inserting in the marketplace, your website, how to find out what you do so that they can hear more of you and find out, you know, what's going on.

Yes, absolutely.

And on that last little note too, everything is for a short term.

Just because things get removed doesn't mean that it can't come back too.

And that's the life is that we all adapt and change.

So if it doesn't work at the time, that's fine.

And it could be a food item, it could be.

It's.

You're for your body.

You're taking something out because you're, you're not feeling good.

But maybe it comes back and that's okay.

Too.

So where you can find me, you can find me on social media if you want, if you're an Instagram follower.

I'm at Wendy Feldman Underscore Wellness, and my website is Wendy Feldman wellness dot com.

And you can find me at really either of those places.

I'm on LinkedIn as Wendy Feldman.

But yeah, I, I'm just, I'm out there.

I'm putting myself out there.

And I'm on TikTok as well.

Just starting on TikTok as I know that younger generation has told me, you gotta be out on TikTok.

So I'm putting myself on TikTok, Kellen.

I'm getting myself out there.

I love it.

And I want to emphasize to the listeners, you know, I bring people on here that I think have something that I know have something, a gift, an energy, a smile, a story.

And Wendy has all of those things.

And so I would encourage you to take a minute, take 10 minutes, go find some stuff, see what she's done and see how she's adding good to the world.

And then ask yourself, how am I adding good to the world?

Wendy, here's your chance to say anything you forgot or leave us with a final piece of encouragement or message or anything.

I don't think I forgot anything.

But what I will say is again, about the gift and again about fear, because fear can hold us back.

And I have been watching your.

If you haven't watched Kellen's eight part podcast section set on fear, it's amazing.

And Kellen, I haven't finished it, but I do want to say to the, to your, to your listeners and to the world, and I don't know if this is in one of your podcasts, but there's an acronym that I have for fear, and maybe you've already put it in there and it's that you can.

Fear means two things.

You can face everything and run, or you could face everything and arise.

And I have chosen to face everything and rise.

And you can too.

And as you have, and so can your listeners, and so can the world.

And we can all make this a very peaceful place to live and exist.

Wendy, thank you for sharing your energy, your love, your heart, your gifts, and your courage with us today.

Thank you for having me.

Thank you.

It's been a total pleasure, my dear.

My dear listeners, I want you to take this seriously.

Listen to it again.

Remember that acronym, Fear is an imaginary thing.

It's, it's just some neurochemistry.

You can't bring me a cup of fear so she's right on all counts.

I can make you a promise.

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