You ever have one of those moments where ChatGPT says something back to you and you think… wait, that’s exactly it?

Like it just named something you’ve been circling for weeks?

I have. My clients have. Sometimes I even give them a transcript of our coaching session and suggest they paste it in to see what themes GPT reflects back.

And it can be incredibly helpful. But here’s the thing:

ChatGPT can give you insight. It can’t give you integration.

And if we’re not careful, it can become another tool that mimics transformation without actually moving anything inside us.

In this episode you'll learn what it's great at, how to use it creatively, and what to leave for a coach or therapist.

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  📍 You ever have one of those moments where chat, TPT says something back to you, you're like, oh, that is it. You totally understood it. Oh my God. Yes, I have. I have two. I have two my clients have, and sometimes I even give them a transcript of our coaching session and suggest that they paste it in to see what themes their chatt BT reflects back and how it can help them stay on track between our sessions.

Super, super helpful. But here's the thing, Chatt BT can give you insight, but it cannot give you integration, and sometimes it's gonna make you actually feel worse. And if we're not careful, it becomes another tool that mimics transformation or kind of tries to, without actually changing anything inside of us.

Meaning that we end up working harder, uh, for longer, we use more of our energy and that's just not a smart way to be living. So let's look at what we can do today, uh, and watch HTBT ca. So in today's episode, we're going to go over what RT BT can do for your personal growth and what I as a somatic trauma therapist and coach.

📍 Would suggest that you use it for as well as what it is not going to help you with and where it might actually be possibly creating more harm than good. I'm gonna give you some very specific scenario, 16 specific scenarios of how of do's and don'ts of how to use Jet GBT and how not to, let's do it.

📍 Okay, so let's just begin with what AI is doing right and what chat GPT can do for your personal growth. You skillfully chat, GPT can help you name things that you are not seeing. Um, the client that I was referring to earlier, it's helping her name where she is. People pleasing her clients, right? Because she's not totally seeing it quite yet.

We're still working on it. So church t can name that sometimes church T is also really good for kind of reflecting themes of your own words. If you give it, uh, kind of like, okay, like this is what I'm thinking, this is my thought process around it. Like what themes do you see that have come up? I'll tell you how to really leverage this in a little while, that it's really good at that.

Um, kind of. Seeing those patterns, it's, it's kind of, its job. Uh, it can also help you summarize and organize your scattered thought. So you could say, oh, like, this is what I've got going on. Can you help me organize this into themes or dot points or just summary, summarize what, what you see, and also give you language to things that you haven't been able to articulate yet.

And then that can actually be really helpful in our relationships as well as, as much as. Uh, with a coach or a therapist. So this is super, super helpful if you have a big mind, if you are a deep thinker, if you are highly sensitive, if you like to get clear and process things, um, particularly if you're neurodivergent and you really wanna feel like you get how your brain is working and you wanna help other people understand that and it's like, it's very helpful for that.

So. I actually recommend that sometimes you brain dump everything that's filling off in your current work rhythm and then ask Chat BT to kind of cluster your responses into themes such as energy leaked, clarity blocks, or tension or friction points. And then you take that to your coach and you say, here are the clusters that are coming up.

Can you help me uncover the root causes? Uh, can you help me identify if these are patterns that are driven by habit of dysregulation of trauma, um, unspoken needs. And then with your coach, maybe me. Design really supportive micro rituals or role edits that address the deeper underlying cause. Not just the what, because chat GBT is so good at being like, do you want me to like phrase that as an email for you and do you want me to like help you with that next step?

Which is helpful in productivity sometimes, but if your body is still carrying that underlying pattern, you're gonna spend so much time and energy and. Lose productivity long term if productivity is your goal. This is nuanced. We get that right? I'm just using productivity as an example, lose productivity and energy long term because you're not addressing the deeper reason why you're actually having that experience.

If we can address that deeper reason, which is why you would use a combination of like chat, GBT and your coach, then you no longer need the surface level fix. Because we know this, but I'm just gonna say it real loud for all the parts of us that are kind of hoping that maybe it won't be true, um, Chad GT cannot replace a therapist or a coach or a healing relationship.

It cannot. It. It reflects some things. It doesn't reveal the way that you see the world. It can only work with what you give it, which means it's limited by your own biases. It's your beliefs. It organizes information. It does not notice what is missing. Your blind spots also become its blind spots. For example, I have a client, she.

What? She came to me, she was like, I'm afraid of, I don't want a niche down. I'm really scared of niching down. I've had all of these ideas, and she comes and she's got this like table and she's, I've, I've worked them through chat, GPT, and I've got some pros and cons. Cool. She's kind of given them all back to me and I'm like, okay, wonderful.

This is beautiful. Love this. I actually totally into this, but wait a second. Wait a second. Let's go deeper. Is this about messaging and pros and cons with the market? Um, or is this, because every time that you think about people seeing what you do and the people around you actually knowing what you believe about a certain topic, you get a flurry of sensation all the way up your body that feels very uncomfortable, makes it very hard for you to sit down and actually do some work.

And you would rather sit on your phone and speak with Cha Chi PT while eating a peanut butter sandwich.

For her, it was the latter, and then we addressed that somatic experience and then niching. She still used it like she just went to strategy BT later and helped her her refine it. But it was more, it was more refining and less kind of in that overwhelmed busy head space. Then we've got number. GBT confirms your beliefs more than it challenges them, even when you ask it to challenge you.

So AI is literally trained to be helpful. It's not meant to be disruptive, it's not supposed to challenge you. It if you ask, how can I be more productive? It's gonna give you tools. It's not gonna question about whether that productivity is coming from fear of failure, because you're worried that people, if you don't ask, if you stop.

Being super productive at work, then people are gonna think you're weak. And that's coming from some patterns that have been stemming since you were seven years old. It's not gonna know that we actually need to address that. The trauma of what happened in your past relationship around productivity. So you can use chatt BT for your schedule design.

If you want to be productive. You can use it to have, um, templates or like think about how productivity relates to your values. So if you say, Chatt BT hey, I really want my, one of my biggest values is spaciousness. How can I be productive and achieve these things and include spaciousness. Or how can you help me break this down into small action items so that it's easier for me to get started?

Or how can you help me block, block my, I don't know, people say it's really good for time blocking. I haven't. I don't know. I can't imagine why it would be good at that, but you know, maybe it really is. Um, that's, you can do that, but then you wanna be making sure that you're working with a coach to actually sense whether what it is giving you and what you're receiving are actually going to replenish and regenerate you.

If they're a part of what we would call kind of regenerative leadership, regenerative work, where what you do actually. Fulfills you and feeds back into you and gives you more of that energy. Or if it is just a beautifully polished version of burnout, ask your coach how to feel the push or the pull beneath the plan and the structure, because that's what I help my clients is like, what does that, what does that feel like?

How do you know? Because then. You can use any system and any strategy at any phase of your life and feel confident that you are less likely to deplete yourself, like incredibly less likely. I don't really love saying, oh, like you'll just forever be free of burnout because that feels like you are free of, I don't know.

I think that we all have tendencies. It's just that you catch those tendencies before they do you harm, essentially. Um. The third point that I wanna make is that chat BT cannot co-regulate with you. I'm sorry. You might feel really good when you are. You might feel like a bit of, of relief maybe when you, you kind of figure something out with it.

Um, you feel good when you have an insight, but it doesn't actually hold your nervous system while you are experiencing difficult things. It cannot help your you stay in your body when big emotions surface. And what we're actually doing when we're engaging with that phone is we're, we're coming out of our body a little bit.

And I'm not saying that that's completely bad. I'm not totally like 100% against it, but we do need to recognize that from a neuroscience perspective, co-regulation is a biological process with another being that has a nervous system. There's a difference between chat two, BT saying, yeah, I get that.

Totally. That makes sense. And somebody who you respect and love look at you in the eyes holding your hand and be like, honey, like. I, I, I get it. That, that really makes a lot of sense, and you're completely right for feeling that way. When we are in the presence of another regulated nervous system, especially one that is attuned, empathetic, and grounded, such as a coach, a good one, or a good therapist, our own system begins to mirror that safety.

And this happens through mechanisms like the vagus nerve and mirror neurons. It's not something that we do consciously. It's not something that AI can have. It doesn't have a nervous system. It's something your body experiences. On that note, I wanna take a little pause and ask, can you do me a favor? Can you go down to the show notes?

Click on either my Instagram or my LinkedIn and say, Hey, hey Sheridan. Because before I was doing this podcast, I'll be really honest with you. I was like, uh, I see the numbers. I see that you guys are listening, but I don't feel. Super connected to you. 'cause it's been a like a couple of weeks since somebody said to me, Hey, I listened to this podcast and it was really good.

Um, I don't know why that is, but I would really appreciate hearing that you are listening. I can see that you are on my, on my analytics. Like I wanna feel you just come and say, Hey, hey, I listened to that thing and, and send me like a little sparkle emoji. I would appreciate that. Thank you. Um. Because like text and all that stuff, it can mimic a tumor.

Like it gives you words, it gives you numbers, but it doesn't have a body. It's not a human and it can't read your micro expressions. It can't adjust your its tone in real time based on your breath and the tension in your shoulders. It can't offer this calming presence that helps your amygdala deactivate in your prefrontal cortex, come back online and change the way that you're thinking.

It can offer insight, but it can't restore regulation and without regulation. Insight is just more cognitive processing, more information in your mind, something you can know, but something that you can't live and you would've felt that, you would've felt that, like there's a lot of mind stuff going on.

You ever get overwhelmed? That's that's, that's that feeling a lot of the time. The fall thing is that. One of the roles of coaching or therapy is to lovingly call you out when you are acting from fear, not from truth or love, or presence or alignment and chat. GBT does not do a very good job at noticing when you very subtly outsource your power, even if you ask it.

It struggles to interrupt your survival patterns. And from a neuroscience lens, these survival patterns are, are wired through subcortical regions of the brain, meaning that they're deep inside of our brain, they're deep in our amygdala, the one that senses fear. They're in our brain stem, these parts of our body that create reflexive.

So in, in like, um, instinctual reactions that are not. Access through logic or language or thinking or talking. That's why we have to create safety, create presence, feel things in our body and, and get really attuned to ourselves and others. When you're acting from even just a subtle state of fight, I wanna wanna fix this, or flight, I wanna get away from this or freezes too much, or Fawn, let me just, uh, uh Yeah, that's fine.

Don't worry about it. Um, you're just running a whole different program and Chad, JBT will help you maybe like organize those thoughts or create an action plan, but it can't change the fact that you're running in fear and so much wonderful, beautiful science. And you know this, when we are running in fear, we create more fear in our life.

Things don't go as well. There's drama. Have you seen that? The Addiction to drama book? There's a really, Scott Lyons has a wonderful book called, I think it's like Addiction to Drama. Um, just making a note to put that in the show notes and you know, then we've got Karma. What you do, we'll come back to you

and. When you work with a skilled practitioner, and this is what I see so much half of the work with my clients, it's just they'll come and I'll say, okay, and here's, here's the pause and here's the dysregulation, and let's now re-pattern that into something that can change and something that is new into something that feels safe, so that you have more energy, you make better decisions.

The fifth point. That I wanna make and give you a place where to use charge GPT when not to is that there's no messy middle in charge GPT. They want it wants to like package these things up and put it on a pretty bow on it. Real transformation. It includes regression, it is non-linear. It includes being disoriented, it includes emotional waves, and it's just healing.

And cha BT, like they just, they're different worlds. One is organic cha, BT wants to be ordered and fast and correct. And from a brain perspective, it's actually important to re rewire those neural pathways through repetitive emotionally. Uh. Significant experiences that contradict the part of you that wants everything to be cleaned fast and ordered.

And this is really important, important with hustle, culture, and work and money. Really, really, really, really, really important because what I'm trying to support you do is to return back to the organic, wild rooted version of yourself and stop engaging in hustle or perfectionist culture. That is incredibly important, so we actually need you to feel comfortable with some of the chaos and not try to package it up.

But GPT is trying to package it up when you come into coaching with me or, or a therapeutic space that is good. We have space. For the unknown. We have space for not knowing. We have space for sadness, we have space for regret, we have space for safety, and we have space to repeat these things and follow these organic paths that spiral on top of each other.

My last point here is that Chad, GBT is a predictive model, not a perceptive one. This matters a lot. So Chad, GBT is made to predict what is correct to say. What should come next based on what has been said? I. It doesn't understand you, it doesn't see your soul, it sees the way that you structure your sentences.

So when you ask a question and it responds to what is most statistically likely to sound helpful, not the depth of your unique experience, of your nervous system, of your timing, of your history. So it's helpful if you wanna say, Hey, how many other people have experienced this thing? And, and it might have data about that, but it's not.

Presence and I, there's just a limitation to how deep that can go when you feel it. That's why things feel awful a lot of the time. That's why you want to be in public places. That's why you want to be with your friends. That's why you look for a community. You want that connection. In summary, and I'll give you your 16 things here now, Chachi PT is a brilliant copilot for productivity.

But it cannot lead you through the underworld of transformation. It can help name patterns, perhaps, maybe a little bit, but it can't sit with you while you create a new work life balance. It can't really, truly help you. It's good at brainstorming. I'll have people brainstorm like types of roles that they might be able to do.

We'll think about different industries. It's good sometimes helping us position when we ask it the right questions, but it's not. The depth and it's not go, it's not, unless it is also paired with a skilled practitioner, coach, therapist, it's not going to create lasting change. It's just going to create more for your mind to metabolize.

And I do want you to use it in a way that is helpful because we gotta, you know, live our life in the world and we're here and it's, it can be really helpful, but. Let yourself use it, but then ask, who is helping you metabolize this? Where in my body does this land? And what support would let this shift from concept into change?

I've spoken for 20 minutes now, so I'm gonna break this one up and I'm gonna start a new podcast. And then in the next podcast we're gonna go through the 16 do's and don'ts for Chachi PT to create a life. Role and schedule that aligns with your nervous system and makes you some money. Bye.