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Life Needs to Participate with Malika Clinkscales (Episode 71)
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This week on the show Shaunna and Lisa are joined by special guest Malika Clinkscales. Malika is the founder and CEO of Dream Chaser Solutions, an executive coaching company that equips its clients with the essential tools to chase personal dreams and achieve their goals. 

An endurance athlete herself, Malika understands how the demands of life can affect your training schedule. She is passionate about helping athletes optimize their time so that their life can accommodate all of the demands of training, and allow them to lean into who they want to become, both in and out of sport. 

As we all try to find ourselves again as endurance athletes, an executive coach like Malika can help us build tactical next steps to set ourselves up for success, and achieve our athletic and personal goals.  To optimize our time, Malika believes in creating tangible action steps for her clients, and that “all you need is a plan” in order to take the steps to start working toward who you want to become. 


To contact Malika and learn about her coaching services: 

https://dreamchasersolutions.com

malika@dreamchasersolutions.com

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Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

All right. So Lisa, not long ago, we

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

dropped a podcast that talked about the history of New Year's

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

resolutions, and not saying necessarily agree with new

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

year's resolutions. But we dug up the data dug up the

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

information. And we found that most people don't hold on to

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

those resolutions beyond the first or second week of

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

February. And here we are in the first week of February. So, you

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

know, I think we need to kind of revisit the topic.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Yeah. And I'm also wondering, the kinds of

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

whether there's a pattern around the kinds of resolutions that

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

people don't keep, right. And if there were opportunities for

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

maybe with athletes who were looking to do X, Y, and Z in New

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Year, if there's more holistic coaching or something right with

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

that increase the likelihood that someone would maintain that

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

goal that they've created for the new year? Yeah,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

absolutely. I agree. Yeah. It kind of

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

reminds me of our, our other lives in hiring. You have this

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

wraparound service. Yeah, yeah, you know, people need more than

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

just Alright, you've told me in my Training Peaks what I need to

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

do, but I need more than that. So yeah, where are we going from

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

here? So we have a fantastic guest that's gonna try to help

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

move us on wagon because some of us fell off two years ago. We

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

just tried to find a wagon. We don't know what a wagon is. I

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

think our great guests will help us to find the wagon. So let's

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

dive in.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

I'm Dr. Shaunna Payne gold and I go by she her her pronouns.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

And I'm Dr. Lisa Ingarfield. And I go by she

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

her hers.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Welcome to unfazed a podcast to disrupt

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

your normal and challenge your brain to go the distance.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

So Lisa, I realized that we now have a common friend, Where I

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

know what happened for life. And you know, the other half of her

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

life, right? Yeah. So we have Malika cClinkscales with us

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

today as a guest on the podcast. And I feel strange Malika even

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

saying guest because you're not like a guest anywhere else in my

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

world, right. So that's why I'm like, What is this? But really

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

excited to have Malika on the podcast with us? Because, Lisa,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

I know you probably remember because you are such the data

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

person. But during our resolutions podcast, we talked

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

about how 40% of people in the US set a new year's resolution,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

about 22% of those are specifically around their own

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

self improvement. But 80% of them break that resolution by

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

the first week of February. And this is what really got me the

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

last point around only eight percent of folks that said a

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

resolution are successful at all at any time in that year. So I'm

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

thinking to myself, Okay, for those of us who are in endurance

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

sports, it sounds like we need much more help, then somebody,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

you know, rapid tapping on their phone to put some plans into the

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Training Peaks. Like we need more. I'm trying to figure out

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

what that more is. But we need more.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Yeah, I think that like we talked about

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

in the intro, some kind of holistic wraparound service. I

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

mean, I can't even like maintain a goal from the night before to

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

the next morning, you know, it's like, I am definitely going to

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

get up and go swimming. And then I get up and I'm like, Yeah, I

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

don't know.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Exactly. Well, this is where Malika

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Clinkscales steps into the mix for us. Because Malik and I, we

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

met at the now defunct nations try here in DC, right? It's not

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

even existing me what, how many times is that swim been

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

canceled, right? But yes, so we met there. And Malika is now the

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

founder and CEO of Dream Chaser solutions. And, you know, I'm so

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proud that the word solution is in the actual name, because

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

that's what we're looking for. Here. We are, how many years I

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

hate to say that, how many years into a pandemic. And I think as

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

endurance sport athletes, we are trying to find ourselves again,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

especially in this backdrop of whatever normal is. And so

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Malika has all this incredible background, especially when it

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

comes to facilitation, training, strategic planning, but what

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

we're really going to focus on today is that executive coaching

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

piece, not just what you put in the Training Peaks, but how are

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

you really organizing or reorganizing your life. Lisa,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

when it comes to, you know, how do I organize my life in a way

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

that okay, there's other habits I have that are regular, but

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

what happens when I try to create new habits or revive old

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

habits around these goals? I think Malika can help us out in

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

this area, at least because yes, it does need some help. I'm

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

raising both hands.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Yes, I'm raising both hands and my feet

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

too. I think this would be this feels a little bit like you're

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

going to come over to my house and tell me that I don't need

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

that 700 race T-shirts and To make room for this particular

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

set of clothes, they have to go. That's what it feels like.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Yes, yes, exactly. So Malika we are

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

so happy to have you on the podcast. I've been talking about

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

it forever. And glad we could have you on with us. How you

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

doing?

Malika Clinkscales:

Doing great. Thank you so much and just

Malika Clinkscales:

honored and happy to be here. And looking forward to this

Malika Clinkscales:

conversation and discussion. Obviously, one of my favorite

Malika Clinkscales:

topics. A big part of my life is devoted to this topic. But thank

Malika Clinkscales:

you, thank you for being having me here.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Absolutely. Well, now I know that you have a

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

bunch of a bunch of papers on the wall. Let's put it that way.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

You got that Bachelors of Science from Howard, The Masters

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

of Arts in women's health and Sociology from Suffolk

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

University Masters of Science and Management. Look, all these

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

degrees. Oh, I can't forget me, Michigan State all of those.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Look, you got all these degrees, you are the key to getting me

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

and Lisa, help us get our life together, please. How does this

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

type of coaching fit within endurance sport lifestyle,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

because you are a triathlete yourself? You know what it means

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to set a goal. And even when you don't necessarily meet that

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

goal, when you have to kind of recalibrate and get back on the

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

horse, that type of thing? Can you just share with us a little

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

bit about your experience as a triathlete and how you set those

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

goals? What would you even be saying to yourself in regards to

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

a coaching process here because I think we need more, we need

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

more.

Malika Clinkscales:

Absolutely, I'm happy to do that I fell in

Malika Clinkscales:

love with triathlon, the idea of triathlon in 2014, coming off of

Malika Clinkscales:

years of running and many, many, many half marathons and decided

Malika Clinkscales:

that I was ready for, you know, a very, let me put it this way.

Malika Clinkscales:

Very flippantly, you know, knew that, well, I'm already running

Malika Clinkscales:

and I've swam since I was a child. And certainly I've read

Malika Clinkscales:

or know how to ride a bike. So you know, how, how difficult

Malika Clinkscales:

could it be? And so haha, right, but that's what got me into the

Malika Clinkscales:

space of wanting to do triathlon, so set out on that

Malika Clinkscales:

journey. Quite frankly, even my own story tells me that there is

Malika Clinkscales:

a need for something more, because it's in 2015, my journey

Malika Clinkscales:

began with printing a plan, you know, offline, I did all the

Malika Clinkscales:

things I you know, got it printed, I got me a binder.

Malika Clinkscales:

Shaunna knows that I have this affinity for binders and put it

Malika Clinkscales:

you know, triathalon, you know, 2015, you know, let's do this.

Malika Clinkscales:

And that binder sat right on my desk for an entire year. So I

Malika Clinkscales:

then learned that I needed you know, I needed connection, I

Malika Clinkscales:

needed a coach and was able to hire a coach to help me begin

Malika Clinkscales:

getting really into the sport to organize things. However, it's

Malika Clinkscales:

once I became a triathlete that I realized that that really only

Malika Clinkscales:

covers one part of the picture. And the fact is, you can have a

Malika Clinkscales:

plan to execute for the training. But navigating, I'm

Malika Clinkscales:

not I'm not anyone's biological mom, I have lots of play kids in

Malika Clinkscales:

my life and step mom and auntie and godmother, but I always make

Malika Clinkscales:

the analogy that triathlon is like, juggling three children,

Malika Clinkscales:

right? And I say that not being a mom and not knowing what

Malika Clinkscales:

that's like, but it's kind of like that old. So now I'm dating

Malika Clinkscales:

myself, my three sons, right? How do you spend enough time

Malika Clinkscales:

with each one, to be proficient enough to put the whole group

Malika Clinkscales:

together, and we're just talking about, you know, and finish

Malika Clinkscales:

obviously, people have certain types of goals in terms of, you

Malika Clinkscales:

know, PRs, and what they want for their athletic, you know,

Malika Clinkscales:

but just to finish the race every month, it demands that you

Malika Clinkscales:

master three sports. So with that, it's how does your life

Malika Clinkscales:

then acquiesce or accommodate all of the demands of training,

Malika Clinkscales:

and what just because you set a goal, it doesn't mean that the

Malika Clinkscales:

path is clear for you to go out and do the running the biking in

Malika Clinkscales:

the swimming, no matter how important you know, a triathlon

Malika Clinkscales:

is no matter and many triathletes they identify it for

Malika Clinkscales:

some reason, it's usually some other thing that's going on with

Malika Clinkscales:

them. It's not usually not just that they're just, you know,

Malika Clinkscales:

sport minded, right? That they're usually some type of

Malika Clinkscales:

type A, they're after some thing and so they're going to

Malika Clinkscales:

challenge or channel all their energy into this Ironman goal,

Malika Clinkscales:

right? That then gives them some type of affirmation about

Malika Clinkscales:

themselves for whatever reason, and all that's well and good and

Malika Clinkscales:

healthy in some cases. But the reality is, in order to execute,

Malika Clinkscales:

then life needs to kind of participate. And what we find

Malika Clinkscales:

out is that life doesn't care like life does what life does,

Malika Clinkscales:

and it's really up to the athlete, the individual to

Malika Clinkscales:

figure out how to manage those other components in a way that

Malika Clinkscales:

allows you to be productive and that's quite frankly, easier

Malika Clinkscales:

said than done. And so I find it's taking the time to delve

Malika Clinkscales:

into those other areas and getting I won't even say a

Malika Clinkscales:

handle completely but a leash a somewhat some awareness of

Malika Clinkscales:

what's getting in the way and then dealing with it I think

Malika Clinkscales:

often the run the swim the bike is to suppress the other thing.

Malika Clinkscales:

And yet if this other thing could be dealt with, it would

Malika Clinkscales:

just free up the space for the run the bike in this one things

Malika Clinkscales:

in life. But I'm using that analogy, obviously, because of

Malika Clinkscales:

our love of endurance sports. So I'll pause there because I don't

Malika Clinkscales:

want to just keep rambling. But that makes sense resonate.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Yeah, that's fantastic. You know,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

although I do want to kind of backtrack a little bit and be

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

like, on your first triathlon, you created a binder for your

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

training. I'm like, who are you? This is amazing.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

I bet you it had tabs, it had posted

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

notes in it. I normally, I'm sure it did.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Oh, my gosh.

Malika Clinkscales:

Who am I that that gives you any insight

Malika Clinkscales:

into how I like to organize and approach things. I remember, at

Malika Clinkscales:

one season in my life, I was kind of at a crossroads. And at

Malika Clinkscales:

the time, I went to go meet with a minister, my pastor at the

Malika Clinkscales:

time, and I came in with this folder. And inside this folder,

Malika Clinkscales:

I created a flowchart. And the flowchart has, like, if I make

Malika Clinkscales:

this decision, and there's an arrow, then this is the outcome.

Malika Clinkscales:

And if I make this decision, then this is the outcome. And

Malika Clinkscales:

they were color coded. And so there were about three paths.

Malika Clinkscales:

And I'm, you know, thinking that this is normal, this is how my

Malika Clinkscales:

brain works. I come in, and I said, I'd like to talk to you

Malika Clinkscales:

about this. And I handed him this color coded flowchart. And

Malika Clinkscales:

I said, I'm just not sure which arrow and he was like, kind of

Malika Clinkscales:

like you did Lisa, like, can we just pause for a minute? Because

Malika Clinkscales:

nobody, none of my perishoners none of my members come to me

Malika Clinkscales:

and talk to me like this. So yes, that is my love for

Malika Clinkscales:

organization and mapping things out. That's that that's kind of

Malika Clinkscales:

the way life makes sense to me.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

That's just so fantastic. I mean, I used to

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

think that I was organized, I feel like, as I age, that just

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

gets less and less. My reality is not that anymore. But I do

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

have what's the word I'm looking for? I do covet your binder, and

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

your color coded coded flowcharts. I am very excited

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

about that. So, um, I guess I My question is like, how many

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

athletes do you think, Oh, do you think athletes really even

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

understand that maybe they need this kind of wraparound service,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

in addition to their, like, very structured training plans?

Malika Clinkscales:

I don't think so. I think part of it,

Malika Clinkscales:

quite frankly, is the adrenaline and the rush of trying to figure

Malika Clinkscales:

out how to get it done. That, that that adrenaline rush of

Malika Clinkscales:

like, I've got this huge feat that I'm trying to take under

Malika Clinkscales:

and take over. And I'm gonna figure it all out, like the the

Malika Clinkscales:

execution of training plans is actually probably connected to

Malika Clinkscales:

the larger goal. And therefore, I also think, you know, those

Malika Clinkscales:

athletes come on for, to be able to master three sports to act to

Malika Clinkscales:

challenge to be challenged and have this goal, you have to have

Malika Clinkscales:

your act together in a certain way. And that means you're a

Malika Clinkscales:

type A, you're used to being in charge, you're used to having

Malika Clinkscales:

goals, you're used to achieving goals, and that that same

Malika Clinkscales:

culture says I don't need help. And so why would I think that I

Malika Clinkscales:

need to endorse or pay attention to some type of wraparound

Malika Clinkscales:

service that might be supplemental to helping me reach

Malika Clinkscales:

my goals, but at the end of the day, says I need help. And we

Malika Clinkscales:

have an issue with thinking we need help. And so And yet, you

Malika Clinkscales:

know, I often tell people, when I'm speaking that, you know,

Malika Clinkscales:

LeBron James, Serena Williams, they all have coaches, right.

Malika Clinkscales:

And these are world class, top of, you know, Hall of Fame type,

Malika Clinkscales:

people that will be in in the books for years and years to

Malika Clinkscales:

come. So whether they have a coach, they have a coach to

Malika Clinkscales:

elevate themselves to elevate their performance to take

Malika Clinkscales:

whoever they are to the next level. And so I think it's

Malika Clinkscales:

important to see this type of life coaching, executive

Malika Clinkscales:

coaching, as the same thing, that it doesn't mean that you're

Malika Clinkscales:

dysfunctional, it doesn't mean that you don't have your act

Malika Clinkscales:

together, it means that you understand the ability to

Malika Clinkscales:

optimize your time and who you are, and therefore have someone

Malika Clinkscales:

else kind of see some things that you may not. I would also

Malika Clinkscales:

add that it's not really about me providing or someone telling

Malika Clinkscales:

you what to do. I'm very actually very little interest in

Malika Clinkscales:

that. It's more about seeing the opportunities, seeing the gaps.

Malika Clinkscales:

My favorite thing is seeing the, it's the caveat is that that

Malika Clinkscales:

little chasm between where someone is and where they want

Malika Clinkscales:

to be, and kind of being able to help facilitate those next

Malika Clinkscales:

steps. But all said and done fully engaged by the person

Malika Clinkscales:

prescriptive plans, you should do this to do list, no interest

Malika Clinkscales:

in that. I don't think that's effective coaching. I think it

Malika Clinkscales:

comes from people understanding, this is where I am, this is

Malika Clinkscales:

where I want to be. Let's talk about what's in the middle.

Malika Clinkscales:

Let's talk about why you think why the resolution hasn't

Malika Clinkscales:

happened. Let's talk about the issues that are getting in the

Malika Clinkscales:

way that are pretty evasive. And if they have space to be dealt

Malika Clinkscales:

with, they can be dealt with. And often we're too busy for

Malika Clinkscales:

that. We're busy racing to the to-dos and the demands of life.

Malika Clinkscales:

But take 45-50 minutes aside to actually reflect pause process

Malika Clinkscales:

and strategize is something we don't talk to you and so we don't.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

you know, Molly, could you reminded

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

me because I know Your your logo for your business is kind of

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

that Kasam, if you will, that person kind of leaping from one

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

place to the next. And it kind of reminds me of something I saw

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

a couple of weeks ago, in fact, where it was actually referring

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to Dr. King, when you don't see the whole staircase, you know,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

take the next step. And so And given that that's kind of what

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

I'm feeling as far as this coaching vibe, is that, okay?

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

You know, where you are, hopefully, you know you are

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

where you want to be as far as your goal, and how to lay down

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

each step that you need one at a time in order to get to that

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

place. I think that's doable and possible. And let me give the

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

both and, and I also think that looks differently now that we

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

are, what how many years into a pandemic. So the way I would

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

have absorbed, wraparound coaching, such as what you

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

provide would be completely different pre pandemic than it

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

is right now. Now, I enjoy my peace. Now, no, I don't feel

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

like impressing anybody being on my workout at 5am If I feel like

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

doing it at 5pm. And I'm just grateful to the good Lord, I got

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

it done. And that's where I am in my life right now. And so I'm

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

just wondering, you know, what do you think about how executive

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

coaching is defined? Now that we have this pandemic and our lived

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

experience as endurance sport athletes, what does that look

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

like?

Malika Clinkscales:

There's no way to not address the, you

Malika Clinkscales:

know, the way that the pandemic has changed many fact many, many

Malika Clinkscales:

phases of life. I think it gives you permission, though, as

Malika Clinkscales:

opposed to digging your heels and insisting that it be you

Malika Clinkscales:

know, we keep trying to say like, before pandemic, right, we

Malika Clinkscales:

keep, we keep wishing for the days, when life goes back to

Malika Clinkscales:

normal, I think we finally accepted or in many areas that

Malika Clinkscales:

there's a new normal, but at the same time, I think that's the

Malika Clinkscales:

way that coaching has to acquiesce and change. So it has

Malika Clinkscales:

to adapt to where you are, I think you can still be a

Malika Clinkscales:

triathlete, I still think you can have the same goals. But I

Malika Clinkscales:

think now you can accept that none of my swims have to be you

Malika Clinkscales:

know, trying to at 4am, like they work they can be at, you

Malika Clinkscales:

know, 6pm, or they can be at whatever makes sense. I think

Malika Clinkscales:

the key to it is that you have to be in order for coaching to

Malika Clinkscales:

work, you have to be honest with yourself about where you truly

Malika Clinkscales:

are and what you truly desire. And are you willing to take the

Malika Clinkscales:

steps to get to that to that place. Some of those things

Malika Clinkscales:

require adjustments of yourself. Some of those things require

Malika Clinkscales:

adjustments of people in your life. But it gives you the space

Malika Clinkscales:

to have an honest, honest reflection. So people deciding

Malika Clinkscales:

to change careers or that, you know, there's a whole, you know,

Malika Clinkscales:

the whole notion of the great resignation of people saying the

Malika Clinkscales:

pandemic has given me the time to say like, I don't really want

Malika Clinkscales:

to do life like this anymore. And this particular job or this,

Malika Clinkscales:

this particular way of earning money is no longer valuable. And

Malika Clinkscales:

so it's, it's leaning into, who do I really want to be in this

Malika Clinkscales:

season of my life. And I actually think that makes it

Malika Clinkscales:

prime for executive coaching, right, it allows you the, the

Malika Clinkscales:

pandemic might be the impetus, it might be the irritant right,

Malika Clinkscales:

the the the god awful, unending irritant, but it gets you to a

Malika Clinkscales:

new a new reality, or at least able to see something different.

Malika Clinkscales:

And so, you know, I'm a firm believer of like, why can't I

Malika Clinkscales:

have both? Why can't I have all aspects of life and in some

Malika Clinkscales:

ways, you can in some ways, you can't, but you have to have a

Malika Clinkscales:

process that allows you to intentionally reflect about it,

Malika Clinkscales:

and come up with a plan. So my slogan for my business is all

Malika Clinkscales:

you need is a plan. And I fundamentally believe that

Malika Clinkscales:

that's really all you need to do anything. People struggle with

Malika Clinkscales:

the plan, and it took, I would say, years of people talking to

Malika Clinkscales:

me and wanting to run something by me or getting my thoughts,

Malika Clinkscales:

but you just don't. And I've had talks about, can I pick your

Malika Clinkscales:

brain on something, and it took me a minute to realize that

Malika Clinkscales:

that's actually a business that you're operating without

Malika Clinkscales:

structure, that you have a lot of ideas and plans that you're

Malika Clinkscales:

giving people that if you organize it in a way, you know,

Malika Clinkscales:

and I get a lot of, you know, excitement and joy out of it.

Malika Clinkscales:

And so that really became it took me a while to understand

Malika Clinkscales:

that it's a skill that everybody doesn't have. And I'm like, oh,

Malika Clinkscales:

like the whole, the binder making and the color coding and

Malika Clinkscales:

the that's not everybody's default, right? It's it's its

Malika Clinkscales:

baseline for me, and not for others. And so for me helping

Malika Clinkscales:

people have that, that go to roadmap, leave all the details

Malika Clinkscales:

and the processing, leave that to somebody else. And you know,

Malika Clinkscales:

for what it's worth, that's my sweet spot, and that's what I

Malika Clinkscales:

enjoy.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

So do you work, with your business, do you

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

work in partnership with athletic coaches like is your

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

goal that it would be that you would communicate with the

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

athletic coach?

Malika Clinkscales:

That is a goal of mine, I mean, looking at

Malika Clinkscales:

that for 2022 I think many triathletes would benefit with

Malika Clinkscales:

the opportunity to work with a life coach and executive coach

Malika Clinkscales:

in tandem as a part of an athlete you know an athletic

Malika Clinkscales:

coach. So I've even talked to my own athletic coach about that.

Malika Clinkscales:

Because I think what we see is there is the plan, there is the

Malika Clinkscales:

goal, and then life gets in the way. And I don't think a lot of

Malika Clinkscales:

athletic coaches are interested or have the capacity to delve

Malika Clinkscales:

into the issues that show up as red in training peaks, right.

Malika Clinkscales:

And sometimes that's I had to work till it, you know, I had to

Malika Clinkscales:

work late and so those ones are not, um, you know, that those

Malika Clinkscales:

are, those aren't problematic. But there are other issues that

Malika Clinkscales:

are recurring, that they just need, I don't know how to

Malika Clinkscales:

describe it other than my way of saying it, they need time and

Malika Clinkscales:

space to be dealt with, that could then reduce the red and

Malika Clinkscales:

for the person up to really do the execution. So I think

Malika Clinkscales:

athletes really, coaches, athletic coaches that would

Malika Clinkscales:

partner with life coaches, I think that's a tremendous way to

Malika Clinkscales:

see a greater return on investment for triathletes,

Malika Clinkscales:

because now they're able to have a plan physically, but now you

Malika Clinkscales:

have something that allows you to process where you are

Malika Clinkscales:

mentally emotionally. And and I'm not even talking about like

Malika Clinkscales:

therapies, I want to be clear about that. Like, that's a whole

Malika Clinkscales:

nother industry and business. And it's also necessary, right,

Malika Clinkscales:

there's also certain myths, I'm not talking about me being able

Malika Clinkscales:

or coaches being able to handle certain health, mental health

Malika Clinkscales:

concerns or mental health issues, because that is a

Malika Clinkscales:

separate space, and it needs its own time. And but you could have

Malika Clinkscales:

an athletic coach, a life coach and a therapist, right. But the

Malika Clinkscales:

life coach, if they're worth their salt, they're interested

Malika Clinkscales:

in helping the person deal with those other issues while they're

Malika Clinkscales:

training. And I think if you connect them, then you can say,

Malika Clinkscales:

hey, I'm making advancement, I'm progressing on my athletic goal,

Malika Clinkscales:

and I'm also progressing in these life goals. And then a

Malika Clinkscales:

person can feel more complete, more satisfied, that they're

Malika Clinkscales:

reaching their goals, instead of being really frustrated and

Malika Clinkscales:

pissed off, that they didn't get that right out, man are really

Malika Clinkscales:

frustrated and pissed off that they've missed their swim three

Malika Clinkscales:

times this week, because it's this other thing, right, and so,

Malika Clinkscales:

you get to that space, and the coaches are gonna see it,

Malika Clinkscales:

they're just gonna see the red mark, they're not going to see

Malika Clinkscales:

all the factors, even if you know why you're not getting to

Malika Clinkscales:

the pool, besides who wants to get in the pool and the winner.

Malika Clinkscales:

Besides that, there's some other other issues that are popping

Malika Clinkscales:

up, that can be dealt with, but you have to give them the

Malika Clinkscales:

platform, as I say, to to acknowledge it. And then to

Malika Clinkscales:

execute, come up with a strategy, get some next steps

Malika Clinkscales:

and accountability partner and move on. I mean that is the

Malika Clinkscales:

greatest hmm, I used to tell my mom that, you know, when I was

Malika Clinkscales:

deciding upon my career, I was really interested in psychology.

Malika Clinkscales:

And for what it's worth, the part that's that frightened me

Malika Clinkscales:

was talking with people about certain issues over and over and

Malika Clinkscales:

over and over and over and over and over. I was like, what if

Malika Clinkscales:

they don't ever, like I would at some point be like, What are you

Malika Clinkscales:

just gonna, and that's not your job as a, you know, as a

Malika Clinkscales:

therapist you're not supposed to. So I think coaching allows

Malika Clinkscales:

me to provide the structure for those actionable next steps that

Malika Clinkscales:

that are hopefully attainable and not connected to some

Malika Clinkscales:

larger, right, larger therapeutic, or larger mental

Malika Clinkscales:

health challenges. So my point is, I'm, I'm an active believer,

Malika Clinkscales:

a found believer in action steps and handling things. So you can

Malika Clinkscales:

go on and enjoy yourself. And so I have different ways in which I

Malika Clinkscales:

do that. But coaching, I don't believe coaching is just having

Malika Clinkscales:

nice healthy conversations. I think there are they are to

Malika Clinkscales:

unroot certain things to execute, make some decisions,

Malika Clinkscales:

and then come up with a plan to move on. And if we're not in

Malika Clinkscales:

that perpetual jump, right, like you're supposed to land. And so

Malika Clinkscales:

I want to help folks land and then runoff.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

See, I'm caught in the jump. I'm midair.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Like I've been midair for like two years now. When am I

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

landing? No, but you're you're bringing up a great point,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

though, because, you know, as you were kind of sharing about,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

you know, coming hopefully to through and beyond a pandemic.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

That is really the frustrating challenge. And I think a lot of

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

people are dealing with either they're in denial that oh, we

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

can just get back to the old normal, or folks are really

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

struggling with, okay, who am I as an athlete in this new

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

normal? And what does that look like? And for me, it's kind of

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

like we were sharing right before we started recording how

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

many years ago I was training for my 70.3 and I was in really

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

great shape and I had to go out to Denver, were near Lisa to go

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to a conference, a professional conference and I was out there

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

thinking oh, I'll just do my quick six mile run and I'll be

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

done. Well, obviously, doing the same thing, the same plan in a

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

different context, a different environment, a different

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

atmosphere doesn't always work. That was the slowest, most

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

painful six miles ever that I ran, even though I was in great

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

shape for it for an East Coast person now for a Colorado

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

person, that's different. But my point around that is, I think

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

what's happening right now as we come to through and hopefully

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

beyond the pandemic is exactly what I tried to do in Denver,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

where people had their pre pandemic plan that worked for

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

them. And now they're in a new context. And that plan that used

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to work doesn't work anymore. It doesn't work. I mean, they

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

gasping for air, like I was ready to call 911, who's gonna

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

help me? And so, you know, I guess my question for you

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Malika, is that given that, for a lot of people, the old plan

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

doesn't work in a new environment? What's your unique

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

approach to coaching? How would coaching with you be quite

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

different for people that are used to athletic coaching? You

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

know, some people are like, I've had an athletic coach, since I

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

started in endurance sports. So how would this be different?

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Because it is quite different? What would be different so that

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

we can help people to deal with this new context?

Malika Clinkscales:

Yes, absolutely. So let me be clear,

Malika Clinkscales:

I have an athletic coach, and I am not the one to help you with

Malika Clinkscales:

your athletic, you know, goals, that that that's not my, my

Malika Clinkscales:

sweet spot, my sweet spot in terms of executing like, what's

Malika Clinkscales:

your paces, and you know, how many days a week you should be

Malika Clinkscales:

run biking and swimming. But what I would do is, I would, I

Malika Clinkscales:

would try to get an understanding from you, from the

Malika Clinkscales:

individual, you know, what, what is the thing outside of

Malika Clinkscales:

triathlon that you feel is getting in the way of you being

Malika Clinkscales:

successful in triathlon, that might be family related, it

Malika Clinkscales:

might be career related, it might be, you know, a project,

Malika Clinkscales:

it might be, I keep in my being feeling guilty, but it could be

Malika Clinkscales:

a number of things time management, family

Malika Clinkscales:

responsibility, career responsibilities, you name it,

Malika Clinkscales:

there's a list. So it'd be more of a life assessment, or a

Malika Clinkscales:

person understanding exactly what it is, and not knowing what

Malika Clinkscales:

to do about it right. From there, my goal is to make sure

Malika Clinkscales:

that every coaching session ends with a actual physical plan. So

Malika Clinkscales:

you have an idea, there's assessment that I do, they're

Malika Clinkscales:

things that I use that are my secret sauce, but the product

Malika Clinkscales:

that you walk away with is a plan. So it's not just a great

Malika Clinkscales:

endorphin feeling of like, Yes, I, I articulated some things,

Malika Clinkscales:

and I feel better, and now I'm going to do something different.

Malika Clinkscales:

It is a very detailed plan that we will have constructed

Malika Clinkscales:

together in our coaching conversation. And then there's

Malika Clinkscales:

also a recap of that conversation. So there's some

Malika Clinkscales:

things that, you know, everyone's loaded down with

Malika Clinkscales:

emails and PDFs. So I also understand that that may not be

Malika Clinkscales:

the best modality for people, but they will also receive kind

Malika Clinkscales:

of a summarized recap of the plan that we talked about. And

Malika Clinkscales:

then of course, the opportunity based on whatever coaching plan,

Malika Clinkscales:

they purchased the opportunity for us to either reconnect on

Malika Clinkscales:

it, or for me to reach out and say, How's it going, what

Malika Clinkscales:

happened to hold them accountable. And so I think, a

Malika Clinkscales:

lot of times, people are kind of just left to figure it out,

Malika Clinkscales:

right? Even if they have an idea, if the outcome of a

Malika Clinkscales:

coaching meeting is, I'm going to go back to school, like I've

Malika Clinkscales:

decided, that's what I'm going to do with my life, I'm decided

Malika Clinkscales:

I'm leaving that job, I've decided that, you know, I

Malika Clinkscales:

deserve more, or, you know, whatever that is real estate

Malika Clinkscales:

with that analogy, for instance, that's just a decision. Now, the

Malika Clinkscales:

the whole host of steps that need to happen behind that

Malika Clinkscales:

decision. That's a whole nother story. And so what I find unique

Malika Clinkscales:

is the ability for people to have their own tangible concrete

Malika Clinkscales:

executed, documented, agreed upon plan as a product of the

Malika Clinkscales:

coaching session, so you don't walk away with the inspiration.

Malika Clinkscales:

But you walk away with inspiration. And then tactical

Malika Clinkscales:

next steps, um, that to me is is is a differentiator. And from

Malika Clinkscales:

my, my mode of working at absolute requirement, like I

Malika Clinkscales:

would anything sort of that, to me, is just us hanging out. And

Malika Clinkscales:

so, you know, I'm not charging people to hang out, I have

Malika Clinkscales:

friends, my goal is to make sure that you have a plan and that

Malika Clinkscales:

you have what you need to move, and the length of time, whether

Malika Clinkscales:

that's one session or seven sessions, like the length of

Malika Clinkscales:

time that we decide that we need to do that to get to the next

Malika Clinkscales:

place that's on the individual. Hmm,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

you know, that piece, you just sat around

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

inspiration without a plan. I think that is basically the root

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

of New Year's resolutions, right? It's that I'm inspired to

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

do this because there's a whole cultural narrative that happens

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

around when that year changes over at least in order to be us

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Christian centric calendar that things have to change, right?

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

And it's really no, it's really arbitrary when you think about

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

it, right? Like that December 31, to January 1, versus like,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

you know, may 14 to May 15. But it's, there's a lot of weight

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

and I think that's exactly it. When I think back about the

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

number of resolutions I've made in my life, whether they're

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

athletic or not, and I just make it right but I don't actually

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

have any plan. It's just like, I'm going to literally brute

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

force willpower this right? And it doesn't work.

Malika Clinkscales:

Absolutely. And if you could, if it was just

Malika Clinkscales:

the willpower issue, you would have done it before. Right? You

Malika Clinkscales:

would have decided to do it in May, instead of December to

Malika Clinkscales:

January. You want to capitalize on the time of change the, the,

Malika Clinkscales:

the notion of the, you know, of the old turning and going away,

Malika Clinkscales:

right, to be inspired by the newness of January, the newness

Malika Clinkscales:

of a new month, a new day, a new year, right? But using the same

Malika Clinkscales:

old strategies and things that kept them from being productive.

Malika Clinkscales:

And so I think life coaching executive coaching kind of

Malika Clinkscales:

marries the space of make the decision be have the resolve for

Malika Clinkscales:

the decision to change and equip yourself with the resources and

Malika Clinkscales:

strategies right, so we get there and that's the To me

Malika Clinkscales:

that's that's the sweet spot.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

So how can folks find you? They listen to

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

this and they're like, Oh, my, this is what I need.

Malika Clinkscales:

I need Yes, yes. The best way to find me

Malika Clinkscales:

through my website which is dreamchasersolutions.com you can

Malika Clinkscales:

email me at malika@dreamchasersolutions.com

Malika Clinkscales:

or through my website, there's also a Contact Me form for

Malika Clinkscales:

people to fill out and I can get in touch. I'm looking to even

Malika Clinkscales:

have a scheduling component to my website that will allow

Malika Clinkscales:

people to meet with me but right for the three ways website,

Malika Clinkscales:

email, and we can get moving.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Fabulous. We'll include all that in the

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

show notes too. But I've really enjoyed this conversation and

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

we're running out of time and I do want to squeeze in our Hell

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

yeah, hell nah. discussion today because it involves where Malika

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

is. So I will hand this over to Shawna to introduce it.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Yes, absolutely. So Melissa, how

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

close is Kingsport, Tennessee to you?

Malika Clinkscales:

Yes, Kingsport's about four hours

Malika Clinkscales:

away? So I'm in Nashville, Tennessee and Kingsport,

Malika Clinkscales:

Tennessee. Just before you get to Virginia, and I actually have

Malika Clinkscales:

very dear friends that are from Kingsport, Tennessee.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Yeah, mm. Well, you know, I've read

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

about this story back in December. And I've been wanting

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to have a conversation about it. And then it just happened to be

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

all of this worked out. So serendipity here when it comes

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to this. But there is a gentleman who was a teacher, his

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

name is Matthew Hahn. And unfortunately, I feel like Lisa,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

this needs to be both a hell yeah. And a hell not at the same

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

time, right? Because he was doing something really noble,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

from our perspective, yet was fired for it. So last year, he

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

was fired for teaching about white privilege at a high

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

school. And so for two months, he was doing all the things, you

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

know, how you have a appeal process, three day hearing all

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

of that. And, you know, engaging in this debate over how not only

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

if race and racism and all that and history should be discussed,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

but also how it should be discussed. And there to this

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

date, based on the Washington Post. There hasn't been anything

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

that's come of it. No announcements about his appeal,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

no messages from the attorney, no text, no, nothing. And so I'm

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

just like, wow, this is still happening in our country, y'all

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

were, there is a very direct and violent effort to continue

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

teaching in complete history. And it kind of reminds me of,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

you know, there, there was a meme that I saw specifically

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

where, you know, yeah, integration of schools was not

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

that long ago. My mother was part of that first class in

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Prince Edward County, where she was one of the first classes to

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

integrate. And so for her senior year in high school, which

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

should be one of the most fun and most pivotal in your K

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

through 12 experience, she was, unfortunately, from her

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

perspective, integrated into white schools, and so treated

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

like second third class citizens. Yes, you can come to

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

our school, but no, you can't participate in after school

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

activities. Yes, we're being forced to do this, but we don't

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

have to like it, that type of thing. And it kind of reminds me

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

of that meme where it talks about, you know, you really want

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to tell people about how it was a travesty that Ruby Bridges had

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to be escorted to school at the age of six, but you don't want

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

to tell your grandchildren that you were part of the problem

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

that kept her from being able to go to those schools right. And

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

so for me, it's just once again another frustrating piece. So me

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

personally, I'm thinking Hell yeah, to Matthew Han for doing

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

the right thing and being an ally to so many communities but

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

shame on you for the school system that has not spoken of

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

any of this and clearly has decided to throw cold water on

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

this topic by ignoring it silencing it. These are

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

strategies we're not. We're not unfamiliar with when it comes to

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

a voice being heard. Right. So Lisa, Malika, what do y'all

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

think about this?

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Oh, well, little red face emoji with

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

expletive across the mouth, I suppose. Probably one place I

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

would start. I just think it is again, so exemplary. Is that the

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

right word? It's an example of the ways in which, yeah, history

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

is whitewashed. And that that is considered normal. And so you

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

add in something else to get the full picture, like you said,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Shaunna, and therefore it becomes biased and problematic,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

right? Like the status quo is, by definition neutral. And any

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

variation from that becomes un-neutral. And it's just such a

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

warped way of thinking about it. So I don't know, I think there

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

was I guess there was also some talk around there was expletives

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

in one of the movies he played, which he apparently tried to

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

mute or something like that. And so I don't know, I'm sure that

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

was just covered for firing him because of the white privilege

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

stuff. I don't know. Malika, you're in Tennessee. What are

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

your what is it indicative of the environment? Or is it a one

Malika Clinkscales:

No. Sadly, I wish I wasn't really Oh, no,

Malika Clinkscales:

off?

Malika Clinkscales:

it's not really what I will say I find it fascinating that

Malika Clinkscales:

today's conversation with you all involves three major states

Malika Clinkscales:

of my life, right being born in Denver, where or Lisa is grew up

Malika Clinkscales:

in suburban Maryland, where we're Sean is, and now right

Malika Clinkscales:

smack dab in Tennessee when I lived in Tennessee for 20 years.

Malika Clinkscales:

And so what I'll say about the red state that I live in, is

Malika Clinkscales:

that the Nashville proper, Davidson County, Memphis, those

Malika Clinkscales:

two cities really represent where it is blue, and everywhere

Malika Clinkscales:

else is not. And so it can be misleading for people and it can

Malika Clinkscales:

be shocking for people. But for those of us, it can be downright

Malika Clinkscales:

disheartening on election night, because you feel like all of the

Malika Clinkscales:

push, and all of the strides and things that have happened at a

Malika Clinkscales:

grassroots level on a national or state level are not showing

Malika Clinkscales:

up. So no, I'm not surprised at all that that this is the

Malika Clinkscales:

reality that's happening in Kingsport, which I saw the

Malika Clinkscales:

Washington Post cited as a as a rural community, smaller town,

Malika Clinkscales:

but not necessarily, you know, farm town or anything of that

Malika Clinkscales:

nature. But I think people have a problem with, and I've seen

Malika Clinkscales:

this in this work. And in this area of identifying or being

Malika Clinkscales:

honest about certain dynamics, right? If it's embarrassing, or

Malika Clinkscales:

if I'm made to be the bad guy or enemy, it's rather, it's better

Malika Clinkscales:

to just suppress it all, and not hear it or deal with it, as

Malika Clinkscales:

opposed to leaning into the discomfort of the reality. And

Malika Clinkscales:

the reality is that it is a reality for many people, you

Malika Clinkscales:

know, for the for the way that they live for what and so this

Malika Clinkscales:

educator trying to explain that so that when they get to a place

Malika Clinkscales:

where they're in college and high end and in their career,

Malika Clinkscales:

right, we're in a place where I'm employed a couple years ago,

Malika Clinkscales:

when we have a whole dei session and the term white privilege is

Malika Clinkscales:

his position that people are not just blown away. And and angry,

Malika Clinkscales:

because there's actually been some some seeds and deposits

Malika Clinkscales:

some roots for these conversations and concepts. And

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people are not open to that. And so instead of rather dealing

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with the awkwardness of it, they'd rather shut it down and

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silence and remove the person that and that's just that's just

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in the larger message. Right? That is to make an example out

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of him. And so I wish I would say I wish I could say that,

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that it's surprising and a one off. But I think it's par for

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the course for what we're seeing across the country, but

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certainly unhappily representative of things in the

Malika Clinkscales:

South.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Well, and you know, when when I looked

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at multiple articles about his firing in his class, he, you

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know, obviously use some content that I can see extremely

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conservative viewpoints, saying no, I'm not interested in that.

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So anything Ta-Nahisi Coates rights period, and he's using it

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in his class now we know that Ta-Nihisi Coates is now one of

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the newest professors at one of Malika's alma mater's at Howard

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University. Ah, you and so he's a brand new bison teaching

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alongside Nicole Hannah Jones on these particular topics. And he

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Mr. Hahn, the teacher assigned this essay The First White

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President which of course you know, people are going to be

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upset about and then let's be clear, it's like once again,

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lighting a lighting a match at a gas station because he's doing

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this against the backdrop of critical race theory arguments

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all over the country. For those that are Not really well versed

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in critical race theory, definitely do your homework on

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this. But it's primarily taught in law schools, not in K through

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12. This is the irony, this really made me chuckle. So the

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teacher, Matthew Han, was accused of teaching Critical

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Race Theory. And he said he had never heard of it. If you've

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never heard, and so I appreciate his worldliness and

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understanding of how white privilege plays out in the

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world, but also his humility and saying, I don't know everything,

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but I'm gonna teach you what I do know, I've never heard of

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critical race theory. So you can't accuse me of teaching what

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I don't know. Right. So I would love to get an update on Mr.

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Han. And I'm hoping and praying that he's teaching somewhere

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else, because obviously, you know, the good teachers are

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usually challenged. There, they're challenged in some way

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shape or form. But yeah, this this is an interesting one.

Malika Clinkscales:

Absolutely. And I feel like I have some long

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time connections to to Kingsport, so I'm gonna see if I

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can find out what the what the, my mom would say the scuttlebutt

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is on the ground, what's, what's the word on the street, let's

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get the, we get into the tea and see if I can give you ladies an

Malika Clinkscales:

update and a little bit here.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

That would be fantastic. And I think this

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

is just such a great example of what we've talked about before

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on this podcast on around the normalization of whiteness,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

right? And the way that history is told is one aspect of that,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

and I think I would encourage our listeners to think about the

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history of endurance sport, broadly and then running,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

swimming, biking, and other you know, sports because they are

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likely whitewashed also. And athletes of color have been

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systematically erased. Right. And, you know, we start to raise

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that and then we become biased, I think is a really interesting

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response. It's a predictable response. But I just want to

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throw in here another hell nah I know that's going to tip us into

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to hell nozzle one hell yeah. But Mitch McConnell, who folks

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probably know, have heard of Senate Senate Minority Leader

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made it was asked a question related to voting rights, and

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what would he say to communities of color who feel like their

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voting rights are being stripped away? This happened a couple of

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days ago. And he responded, basically gaslighted them and

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said, No, that's not what's happening. And that African

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Americans vote at the same rate as Americans. So watch the video

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here. The responses like eyes open wide. Yeah. And so, you

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

know, that seems like a throwaway comment. But what it

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really is embedded in that is that Americans are white, right?

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

And African Americans are not Americans, because they're not

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white. And so he tried to make up for it and said, That's not

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

what I'm in bla bla bla bla bla, but it's exactly what he meant,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

right? And so when we think about the conceptualization of

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nationality, and who that refers to, you have to be critical. And

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

so, you know, we still are seeing this pervasiveness and

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unnamed whiteness and everything we do. So it's in that teaching

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example. It's in this it's in sport. It's even in coaching,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

right, Malika like the way that we some executive coaches will

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

normalize particular behaviors and not others. So

Malika Clinkscales:

Absolutely, yeah. It is disappointing to

Malika Clinkscales:

hear right up the road in Kentucky that Mr. McConnell has,

Malika Clinkscales:

I mean, immediately when I heard that statement, I immediately

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felt like I like I'm not here like I like I don't matter. Like

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we spent the beginning of our conversation. I'm really talking

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about where I was born. I was born in Denver, Colorado. And

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that's a whole conversation for many white people within itself.

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Or Denver as a geographic location. Yes, black people were

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born in Denver. But the idea that from his statement, I was

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like, Oh, I'm not, I'm not a part. I'm not an American, by

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your definition. And even if it was just a slip, even if it was

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a unconscious slip, it's so telling. If you know, like, of

Malika Clinkscales:

course, it's not what you meant. It's what you said so casually,

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without even thinking about it. And that is the danger and the

Malika Clinkscales:

greater injury to people of color.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

You know, something funny, I want to add,

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

I listened to a podcast with Maria Hinojosa, it's called ITT

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

Sound Off. It's through her Futuro Media. And I guess one of

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their journalists was there that day, and had an hour previously

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had run into Mitch McConnell in a hallway and had asked him the

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question, and he said, you can ask me that at the press

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conference. So then they're laughing like he had a whole 60

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

minutes to figure out what his answer was going to be for that

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

and he still effed it up you know, yeah. So he meant it. He

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

meant it meant it meant.

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Exactly, exactly. Well, you know, look,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

Malik I know. As you probably know, after having listened to

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

this podcast before, we are a cussing podcast, and so we have

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

no problem using certain words in order to express how we feel

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here. What made it really funny for me, Lisa, after starting to

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

follow the Mitch McConnell story, the newest trending

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

hashtag after that is it I guess instead of Bitch, please,

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

"Mitch, please." That's the new hashtag right now. So I was

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

gonna stop right there. That's my new favorite podcast, my new

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

favorite hashtag, because it's clear that people know that he

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

he knew exactly what he was saying. And he believed it. And

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

he got called for it. So Mitch, please. That's where I am with

Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold:

all of it, Mitch, please.

Dr. Lisa Ingarfield:

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