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Meet three of the women, Erika, Jenn, and Therese, who are sharing their self-love stories this summer. They open up about what their Human Design revealed, what self-love actually looks like on an ordinary day, and what they're still working through.
This episode is Erica reading the companion Substack article for this week, part of the Summer of Self-Love series exploring women's complicated relationships with self-love and self-criticism through the lens of Human Design.
Read the Substack Article: Unfiltered: Jen, Helena, and Csilla on Self-Love in Midlife
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Transcripts
Welcome to "The Unfolding Podcast," a space where we explore what
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:it looks like to really trust yourself,
say no without guilt, and live your
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:life like it actually belongs to you.
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:I am Erica Voell, a decision mentor
and inner trust guide, and I help
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:women in midlife untangle from the life
patterns of shape-shifting and keeping
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:everyone else happy, claim how they are
uniquely designed to make decisions,
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:and understand their unique strengths.
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:Using human design as a lens, we clear the
noise of conditioning so their no feels
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:powerful and their yes feels true, and
they can move forward without self-doubt,
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:guilt, and the pressure to prove anything.
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:On this show, we have honest conversations
about self-trust, boundaries, energy,
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:and identity, especially for women in
midlife who are so done living by the
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:shoulds and second-guessing themselves.
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:If you've taken every personality test,
followed the recommended path, and still
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:can't shake the feeling that you have
been spending your whole life trying to
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:fit in when what you really wanted was
to belong, you're in the right place.
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:You'll hear stories, insights,
and tools rooted in human
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:design, coaching, and real life.
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:Not to tell you what to do like
another self-help book, but to help you
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:really hear yourself so you can stop
overthinking and start making decisions
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:that feel grounded, clear, and true.
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:We're in the middle of the Summer of
Self-Love, and this is another episode
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:that I'm highlighting three women that are
participating and sharing their stories.
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:We're talking about
Jen, Helena, and Csilla
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:Speaker 8: And so I want you to get to
know them better, so this episode is
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:actually in the form of me reading the
Substack article that was posted, and
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:you can find the link in the show notes
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:This summer of self-love started
very randomly from one comment on
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:a masterclass, and you can read
the full story in the article.
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:After that, I knew this summer was
going to be all about exploring
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:women's complicated relationships with
self-love and self-criticism, which
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:I have had most of my adult life.
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:No one has it all figured out, and each
of them is on a path to a deeper, more
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:loving relationship with themselves.
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:Each woman I interviewed for the
series shares an authentic version of
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:herself, and not just the inspirational
one that we've been sold for years.
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:They share what self-love actually
looks like on the hard days, what
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:human design changed for them, and
what they are still working on.
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:Over the next few weeks, I am
highlighting a few of them at a time so
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:that you can get to know them better.
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:Their deeper stories will be woven
through future articles this summer.
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:Everyone has their own unique human
design that makes their story unique,
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:and what ties so many of us together is
that that loving yourself is a journey.
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:We're on different continents
and still the threads connect us.
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:This article is part two,
profiling three women who said yes.
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:I'm introducing you to Jenn Ormon,
who writes Next Act Navigator,
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:Helena Marchetti
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:, Speaker 8: who writes Her Inner
Compass, and Chela Gurgeh, who writes
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:Feminine Energy for Midlife Women.
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:Jenn Ormon.
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:One, tell us a little about yourself
and where you are in life right now.
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:I am sixty-one years young, empty nest of
three amazing humans doing cool things.
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:Married thirty-three years,
former physical therapist turned
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:entrepreneur over many decades.
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:Been coaching in my own
business for a few years.
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:Currently doing one-on-one, but
wanting to get back to group coaching
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:and more small group workshops.
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:I had been doing a lot of that
several years ago, but had a health
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:issue that really flipped me out
and sent me into some dark times.
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:I'm finally feeling like I'm out
of that, and I'm learning new
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:things about business building that
I have struggled with for years.
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:Super excited about that and getting
my confident feet back underneath me.
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:I have been fortunate to have very
loyal one-on-one clients who I have been
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:coaching for two, three, or four years.
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:I love them and the work we do
together, and it's time for me to
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:stop staying in my comfy zone and
shine a bit brighter by connecting
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:and collaborating with new souls.
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:Other people's audience is the way.
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:I love collaborating and supporting
fellow women on their journeys, so
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:this is a beautiful opportunity, and
I am grateful to you for creating it.
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:Two, what's one thing about your human
design that changed how you see yourself?
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:My 3/5 Manifesting Generator has validated
that I am a trial and error girl.
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:I must fall down and get up,
learn, and to lead authentically.
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:I do like to move fast when I love what
I am doing, and I crash when I don't.
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:It so validated my
struggle with marketing.
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:I've done it all, and
most never resonated.
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:I literally have been building
my business against my design.
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:Instead of trying to force the square
peg in the round hole, I now have freedom
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:to live my design and build my business
trusting in my natural way – no forced
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:structure, allowing my methods to organize
through me, and I trust myself more
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:than ever because of these learnings
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:Speaker 10: Jen's Substack
publication, Next Act Navigator.
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:Helena Marchetti
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:Speaker 8: One, tell us a
little about yourself and where
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:you are in life right now.
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:I'm a forty-two-year-old
mother of two middle schoolers.
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:. I have a kind and supportive
husband who deserves a medal for
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:handling my perimenopause moods.
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:I'm a pharmacist, fiction author,
and budding medical writer.
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:I just left my job of sixteen
years after a nervous breakdown
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:that brought me to my knees.
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:I found Julie Ciardi by chance.
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:Middle of the night insomnia-induced
Substack scrolling, and it
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:felt like divine timing.
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:I have dreams and goals
that make me feel alive.
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:I have no idea how I will make
things work, but I have never
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:felt this hopeful in my life.
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:After being frozen for years, my
creative brain is finally thawing.
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:Two, what's one thing about your human
design that changed how you see yourself?
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:Learning that I'm not meant to perform,
chase, or hustle culture my way
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:through life was incredibly validating.
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:It was a relief to learn I'm not
lazy or unambitious for not having
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:the energy for constant visibility.
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:On the flip side, human design
also made me aware of how easily
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:I lean into my shadow frequencies.
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:I'm very content being a hermit,
but I've allowed my fear of
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:visibility and comfort in solitude
to hold me back from opportunities.
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:Three, what does self-love actually
look like in your daily life?
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:Not the aspirational version,
but what you actually do.
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:Oof.
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:Self-love is new for me.
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:I'm getting better at allowing
myself to be unproductive.
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:I used to get restless and feel guilty
for not accomplishing everything.
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:So much so I never truly felt relaxed.
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:I'm giving myself permission to skip
tasks on my never-ending to-do list.
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:Not everything is as urgent as
my brain likes to make it seem.
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:Four, what are you still working on
when it comes to loving yourself?
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:I'm working on several things.
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:For one, I'm allowing my
intuition more control.
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:Instead of always listening to my
brain's logic, I'm going with my gut.
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:If it's not a hell yes, it's a no.
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:I'm trying to tell my
inner critic to S-T-F-U.
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:I'm also battling perfectionism.
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:I haven't posted on Substack yet.
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:Why?
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:Because I keep waiting to feel ready.
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:I'm scared of being visible.
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:Helena's Substack publication,
Her Inner Compass.
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:Csilla . One, tell us a little
about yourself and where
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:you are in life right now.
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:I'm 47, mother of two daughters.
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:They are 17 and 19.
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:I'm from Hungary, and I live in Spain.
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:My husband is Spanish.
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:I worked in corporate finance
for 20 years, finally burnt out,
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:and had an opportunity and left.
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:It was a very masculine goal and
productivity-oriented environment.
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:Since leaving three and a half
years ago, I have reconnected to my
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:feminine energy, slowed down through
masterminds, courses, and mentorship.
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:I learned about different
feminine archetypes, the divine
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:feminine, and loved it all.
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:Reconnecting to my feminine
has changed my life.
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:At 46, I started pole dancing.
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:I sing in the choir of my village
and I started taking huge steps on
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:my soul path, which is to help other
women with my life experiences to
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:love themselves, their body, their
age, and to feel like a woman again.
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:I write on Substack, do videos, Substack
Lives, share what is important to me,
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:being vulnerable, true, and being me.
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:I'm creating a business led by
my soul, my joy, bringing women
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:together and celebrating them.
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:Two, what's one thing about your human
design that changed how you see yourself?
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:I don't know much about human design.
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:I know I'm a manifesting
generator, but not more details.
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:I am very spontaneous.
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:I start many things,
and I don't finish them.
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:Not finishing them I always
thought was a bad thing, but
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:there are many things I do finish.
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:I have so many interests and so many
ideas that I can't implement them all.
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:Three, what does self-love actually
look like in your daily life?
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:Not the aspirational version,
but what you actually do.
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:Every day, I dedicate
time to do things I love.
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:I pole dance and sing in the local choir.
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:I rest.
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:I do siesta, nap in Spain.
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:I go slow.
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:I don't rush anymore.
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:I wear colorful dresses.
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:I am not skinny.
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:I have an Aphrodite body type,
and I dare to show my curves.
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:I smile at myself when I look
in the mirror, and I find myself
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:more and more beautiful every day.
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:Four, what are you still working on
when it comes to loving yourself?
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:Sometimes I feel that I'm behind on my
soul path, that I should already have
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:a successful coaching business with all
the work and content that I have done.
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:But I know I'm on the right path and
I'm walking, taking big steps every day,
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:expressing myself, sharing my voice,
being an inspiration for the women
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:who need it, and to my daughters, for
whom I'm the role model as a woman.
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:Sheila's Substack publication,
Feminine Energy for Midlife Women
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:Speaker 8: What's coming this summer?
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:This entire summer, we're exploring
self-love from many different angles
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:through women's real-life experiences,
because our inner voice is just as
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:important as our outer voice, and when we
feel good inside, it always shows up in
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:how we show up in so many different ways.
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:So some of what's coming: shame and
self-love, the shoulds and self-love,
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:where self-love shows up in the
human design chart, and learning to
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:love yourself using your own design.
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:I'll also be sharing my own
experiences along the way.
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:This summer is personal for me, too.
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:The second half of my life is about
learning to love myself and helping
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:others do the same, not just embodying
it, but helping other women see
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:how they can love themselves, too.
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:And I've started to see it play out
in real life, in starting to use human
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:design as a way to love ourselves rather
than as another reason to fix ourselves.
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:Look for more conversations
with these women and future
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:profiles throughout the summer.
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:These conversations are
just getting started.
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:I'm so glad you're here for them.
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:If this episode resonated with you,
I would be so grateful if you'd
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:click the plus sign to subscribe
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:You can also find me on Substack, where
I publish articles, host workshops, and
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:share more about human design and midlife.
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:Thanks for joining me.
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:Be well
