Shownotes
In today's episode, I'm talking about the hidden wounds behind the Four Horsemen of Communication. I really want to peel back the layers further and look at the wounds beneath the behaviors.
Stonewalling (my personal default + the one for many of you as well) is often the body's cry for safety. Our nervous system is overwhelmed and shutting down because we just can't take any more.
These patterns once helped you survive, but they don't have to run the show anymore. When you're ready to explore what healing looks like in your life, I'd love to walk with you through it!
In this episode, I cover:
- Why the four horsemen often stem from deeper emotional wounds
- How criticism seeks safety through control or perfection when love once felt performance-based
- How contempt masks deep hurt or shame
- Why defensiveness is a fear response rooted in not feeling safe to be wrong or misunderstood
- Why stonewalling is the body’s “shutdown” mode when emotions or conflict feel unsafe
- Realizing that these patterns once protected you, but won’t allow you to truly heal
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Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/hidden-wounds
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