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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request. If any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Again, let's get into it.
What's wrong with me? Ask yourself that question or a similar question. As one of my recent guests, Lisa Warner said, it's not a very useful question. And it's not going to give you a useful response from your mind. From your unconscious mind. When I was stuck, so the five years after my dad passed away, I started to ask questions. I started to get some answers. But those answers weren't giving me what I needed. So I asked different questions, I asked different people. So instead of asking what's wrong with you set an intention of what it is that you want in your life, who it is that you want to be in your life, then you'll start finding answers. Not only will your unconscious mind, start trying to solve that for you, because you've given a clear direction, but the entire universe will conspire to help make you happen. That is the magic of this world that we live in. So get clear, as you can have this point on what it is you want, who it is you want to be how you want to leave. And when those questions start to get answered, pay attention. And if the questions you're asking, aren't giving you the answers, ask better questions. Because better questions will give you better solutions. And better solutions will give you better outcomes. And better outcomes will allow you to bring in more of the joy and fulfillment into your life that you truly want. Beyond all the other things that you're chasing, that you think you want, that you think's going to make you happy. And connecting to those moments. There's experiences that life's truly about those moments where you connect with someone, and have the most amazing conversation where you just have so much fun because you're fully present in the moment. And moments when you see something from your child or your partner or someone that you're helping. And you see them overcome something because you've given them some advice or some guidance, it's helped them. Those moments, those moments that give your full body experience of joy, have goosebumps tingles, just beaming with happiness with relief, whatever it is. So when you catch yourself, asking what's wrong with me, that negative voice in your head in your head that starts saying oh man, like, seriously? What did you do that for? Or what on earth happened to me? When I was younger, that's caused me to be like this. That's not helpful. It's going to take you into a deeper spiral to a lower place. Instead, ask positive questions directed towards who you want to be. What you want to do and what you want to have this is not oversimplifying it. And yes, there are going to be more steps and I won't mental won't make it won't mean that it's easy, but it is simple. Changes simple, simple and easy a different. It is simple. If you follow the steps, you have the structure you have someone there guiding you if you needed to take the action. You shift the old beliefs you hear whatever needs to be healed. You make peace with your past. Both things are simple. If you're prepared to back yourself, if you're prepared to ask good questions if you're prepared to do what needs to be done. But no one ever said it was easy. It's we need to find the courage to take this on. So you can keep staying there in your comfort zone. Happy with the same old questions you're asking and then blaming all of the external circumstances for you not getting where you want. We can ask better questions, have the presence of mind to just be looking at your day to day and go, oh, that didn't work? What can I do differently and adjust and not getting caught too much in your current circumstances. Because ultimately, whatever you're going through will pass. Part of the problem is that you get stuck in this concept of permanency. Like, ah, this, this feels awful on this part of your brain that is convincing you that it's going to be forever, but it's not it will pass. Just breathing. Getting through the moment, having the support to know that you're on the right path. This is how we change to start asking better questions. And when the answers come and when the solutions come, you have to act on it reminds me of of a moment where I was watching a press conference from one of the football teams and the color scheme of one of the hoodies they were wearing. I was like, ah, that looks fantastic. But I would never wear that Club's colors. And then I'm in the shopping center. Only a few days later, and I see one that's nearly identical on my art that looks so good. I looked at the price. And that's ridiculous not getting that. And I walked about 20 steps and I went, what are you doing? You've asked for something. It's been shown to you, and you're not going to accept it. So I turned around there and got what it was I wanted it's not always about money, but is about taking the action was presented to you. Even if they may be infinite reasons of why you shouldn't he could convince yourself of anything. But when you've asked a good question and the answer has been given to you, the solution has been giving given to all like in my case, pretty much exactly what I wanted to be given to me. Then accepting it will tell your brain that you want more of that and it will tell the entire universe that you are ready to accept more you are ready to receive will ask better questions. Allow yourself to receive act on that change your life.
I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat email me at info at E and Hawkins coaching.com. You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins coaching.com forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform
