Welcome to The Art of Attention, where we focus on what matters most in your business with your host, Tina K Davis, a multi-business owner who knows the struggle of ADHD firsthand. 

Navigate the maze of distractions with real tips, real talk, and real success.

Ready to dive in? Let's get to work!

In this episode I look back at the last year. My second divorce after 19 years together, a layoff after 17 years with the company. Feeling like I lost my identity, I had a one year pity party which is now over.

Where do I go from here?

Listen in for how I'm planning on tackling this mess and move forward with a blank canvas.

Facebook Group: Ditching Distraction: Finding Focus & Financial Freedom

Email - clientcare@tkdbrandmindset.com

Instagram

Opportunities to work directly with the host - Join the Brand Mindset Academy

4. FREE Download

A fast and FREE way to get to work and move past mental clutter is to download the Anti Distraction Planner and start taking action today!!  Click here and get your planner TODAY!

Microphone (Yeti Stereo Microphone)-1:

Hello.

2

I am Tina K Davis.

3

I'm multiple business owner with ADHD

who is starting over again at 47 after my

4

second divorce and second major layoff.

5

It is time to figure out who

I am now after a one-year

6

pity party that I gave myself.

7

And get back to work.

8

So hopefully you'll follow

along and see where I end up.

9

Today is the actual one year

anniversary of being laid off from

10

a company I was with 17 years.

11

Now that was in its, you know, on its own.

12

It wasn't a big life change.

13

that had become my

identity over that time.

14

I literally started there.

15

in, you know, a call center

environment and move my way up

16

over the time I worked for them.

17

Only to be surplussed with a

large number of other employees.

18

It wasn't just myself.

19

but it was hard to accept because.

20

I gave everything.

21

And that was my, I felt like

it was my whole identity.

22

I'm learning more as I get you.

23

You know, through this process,

but it, it was a hard blow.

24

Now that was the second time in

my adult life that I had been laid

25

off from a career that I thought I

was going to basically retire from.

26

Two months to the day after that

my husband asked for a divorce,

27

we had been together 19 years.

28

17 of that.

29

I was at the company.

30

And so I was already warning

the loss of my career identity.

31

And now I'm trying to figure out who I am.

32

Being single again, or at that

point, we're going through

33

the process, but here I am.

34

Several months after, cause it's now

October, it's been a year from the layoff.

35

And I have had my one-year time off.

36

To kind of regroup and

figure out who I am and.

37

Now it's time to put the pieces together.

38

So.

39

I guess the story I want to tell is how

the first year really went and I don't

40

want to drag out too much because I can

go over this over multiple episodes.

41

But the first year is broken

down into kind of sections.

42

The first couple of months were just.

43

Surviving, just trying to understand

what has just happened because

44

it wasn't just happening to me.

45

It was my entire team, the

folks that I reported to.

46

It was tough.

47

It was like our entire wing.

48

Not literally, but just imagine an entire

wing, just being cut off of a building

49

and you guys are now just off on your own.

50

We had become like a little family.

51

And it was tough because you want

to, you have to take care of yourself

52

and figure out what you're going to

do, but you want to help the ones.

53

That are going through it with you

because you, you survived a lot with

54

those folks you know, we had gone through.

55

Babies being born and job changes

and divorces and marriages.

56

some of them I had started at the company

with I had been in different departments

57

with them and just gone through life.

58

You know, I was there.

59

For 17 years.

60

So some of the people had been

in my life the whole time.

61

And, it's kind of one of those

things where it's out of sight out of

62

mind, once you are no longer in that

environment, you start to lose touch.

63

And so you're, you're

mourning the loss of the job.

64

And the career path, but also the folks

that you had made such a family with.

65

So that that's part one.

66

Part two is the breakup of a marriage.

67

I'm not going to say there

weren't any red flags for either.

68

I mean, the company was

struggling in the areas that I

69

was in and that it was visible.

70

It wasn't a shock.

71

It was just hard to accept.

72

the relationship had not been strong for

a while, but it was still something that,

73

you know, I didn't really plan on the end.

74

it wasn't something that kind of

struck me off guard, but it, it did.

75

It did.

76

It did hurt.

77

I mean, I don't, there's

not a way to say this whole.

78

This whole thing sucked, you know?

79

I didn't know if I was more upset

over one thing or the other, but

80

what I did know is I didn't know who

I was, what was my purpose anymore?

81

I still, at this point, Cause it's

it's a year ago today I had the

82

animal sanctuary for the wildlife.

83

I was in no way as big as it is today.

84

Because during that year off, I did.

85

Put a lot of my effort into

growing and building up the

86

nonprofit and the sanctuary itself.

87

Since I did have the time and I

did not have the mental energy.

88

Or focus to really build a.

89

business.

90

from the ground up, I wanted to work on

something that I had my hands on already.

91

during the time of this rebuilding

of the sanctuary, I did open up a

92

boutique the coffee company, I did

have already an and I had the ability

93

to spend some more time in it, but the

boutique is something I had applied for

94

when I had started the coffee company.

95

So it was just coincidental that

it came up during that time.

96

And I.

97

You know, use some of the,

the summer to set that up.

98

Both of those companies

support the nonprofit.

99

So they went hand in hand, but

at this point in time, I no

100

longer have a corporate job.

101

Right.

102

I'm no longer in a relationship.

103

I'm navigating this on my own.

104

Which is fine.

105

I run my businesses on my own

as it is, but I'm running the

106

sanctuary, the primary rehabber.

107

The coffee company and starting

the new online boutique.

108

And I'm using all the same

tools that my brain used.

109

To do all of those things.

110

Minus the boutique while I

was working in corporate.

111

This is kind of rambling.

112

I know, but the point is.

113

Even though I was in a pity

party, I was getting things done.

114

If you were to ask me if I were

doing enough, I would have said

115

now during this last year, I

felt like I wasn't doing enough.

116

I am.

117

Burning myself, out, I literally

wake up in the morning, more exhausted

118

than what I went to bed because

my brain is just beating me up.

119

And so that's where we're

going to go with this.

120

I have a blank white canvas in

front of me, and I'm going to

121

create who I'm going to be now.

122

I am essentially starting completely over.

123

And I'm not starting from the

bottom because I have a foundation.

124

I have a home, I have, a network around

me, but I am going to start over at

125

47 with a new mindset and a new focus.

126

And finally put into place the things that

I can do very simply for other people.

127

And I'm gonna do it for myself.

128

And I hope you come along with me.

129

This pity party is over.

130

That doesn't mean I'm not going

to have days where I'm going to.

131

Uh, relapse into this

patheticness, but I do feel like.

132

Because of my, the way my brain

works, I needed definitive.

133

Calendar like timeline.

134

And so today is that day.

135

So as of October 10th, 2024.

136

I am a new me.

137

I have a new mindset.

138

And I'm not going to worry or give

as much value to what I perceive

139

other people believing my imposter

monster or imposter syndrome.

140

avatar.

141

Dallas is her name.

142

She's not going to get as big

of a hold on me as she's had,

143

um, the famous last words.

144

Right.

145

But that's what I'm focusing on.

146

But new mindset.

147

New focus, new me.

148

Who am I now?

149

Well, let's find out.